Hi folks, and how's it going.

If anyone in or around Yorkshire would like to chat, feel free to say hello. I'm in an ENM relationship and looking to meet open-minded people for friendship, dating, or genuine connections.

You can also find me on Feeld, FabSwingers and FetLife under the username: dynamicnature

I have a full bio and some tasteful pics on those apps if you wanted to get a feeling of what I can offer and what I'm looking for,😊💋

Hello all! I am a male who is 38 years old living near Pittsburgh. I am married and I am looking for a long term girlfriend with a strong connection. I am demisexual and demiromantic so please be patient with me. I cannot physically or emotionally open up to a person until I feel an amazing connection and safe. But when I do it is an intense connection. For me it never fades it only keeps getting better. I can open up about my kinks after I feel comfortable. Personality means the most to me. Honest communication is key. My long term goal is to practice kitchen table polyamory if it is possible but it is not required. I understand that it will take a long time to reach that goal.

I am looking for a person in the age range of 30-45. I also am looking for a person who also practices covid conscious behavior such as wearing a mask indoors in public. Personality means the most to me. You must also be 420 friendly. I am 6’1” tall and around 240 pounds. I dress casual mostly and like to be comfortable.

My cats are literally my babies and I am obsessed with them. I talk about them a lot. Must love cats! I enjoy music, history, video games, anime, food, and light hikes. I love to cook, bake, and travel. I like to discuss politics occasionally. Yes, I know politics may be a touchy subject, but I cannot date anyone who is right leaning at all. I am not trying to be mean, but we would simply never get along or work out.

I have traveled to Japan before and I would like to eventually go back. I also want to go to many EU countries. A good date to me is sitting for hours talking or snuggling. I am very big on cuddling. I am highly introverted and do not like concerts or large social events unless it's an anime convention or something similar.

Please let me know what you are looking for and feel free to chat.

Hiya!

I'm a 33 y/o black nerdy guy from the Caribbean, now living in Texas, looking for a friend first (at least 25 y/o, please) and then something more after (perhaps, I dare say best friends??).

I bet you're wondering about me. Well, I'm a programmer for a living. But don't let that fool you, I'm also pretty handy. I like taking apart and repairing old electronics and devices and have even been known to work on some engines here and there.

Physically, I'm 5' 7", and running a sleeper build dad bod but I'm working on changing that (I'm down 10lbs already!). Oh, I do speak with a slight (in my opinion) accent, drink socially (I'm not really that social anymore), and very 420 friendly (have you seen outside? A guy needs to unwind somehow), since these are problems for some people.

I am also a gamer, but it feels like I don't have any time for it anymore. Lately, (when I can find the chance) I've been playing some Civilization 6, or Stardew Valley (on Switch, since it's usually while I'm on a trip or something), or Apex Legends (with friends on PS5), and on the single-player front, I've been replaying FF7 Remake (so that I can play Intermission and Rebirth at some point). I do have a PC, but it's fairly old, so I don't really game on it so much.

I'm also an avid reader! I read almost everything and anything I can get my hands on, but since I love a good story, I usually am reading (or listening to) some kind of sci-fi or fantasy (or even the amazingly dreaded science-fantasy) book. I even read romance and romantasy if the plot is good enough (and sometimes when the "plot" is good enough, haha).

All of this being said, if you're interested reach out! And if you don't know what to say, tell me about a dream that you had that completely changed you or your perspective on life, love, or destiny (or the lack thereof).

Be seeing you!

I am a nerdy guy. Gamer and I love anime too. I'm looking to find some people to connect with and see how things go. I don't mind it it's just online. I would love to chat with some new people I can be myself with and find a spark. Please feel free to message me if you would like to talk :)

Happily partnered and exploring ENM for the first time. Looking for something real - emotional connection first, everything else follows naturally if it does at all.

I cook for people I care about. It’s genuinely my love language. I want to start a food truck someday so fair warning I will absolutely ask about your favorite foods within the first five minutes.

When I’m not cooking I’m watching cooking shows, rewatching The Office or Community for the hundredth time, or losing at board games and pretending I let it happen.

Ideally looking for someone local enough to eventually share a meal with but an online connection with the right person is just as valuable to me.

If any of this sounds like your kind of person just say hi. I’m easy to talk to and a genuinely good listener.

I'm Irvy. I'm from the UK and looking for a new connection. I identify as genderfluid non binary/agender and am polyamorous. Friends are ok if you're local but ideally looking for a poly connection.

Here a few of my interests:

- My Little Pony Friendship Is Magic

- Star Wars (Hello there...)

- LoTR

- Anime

- Pokemon

- Amateur baking

- Blahaj enjoyer

- PC gaming (FFXIV, Age of Empires, paradox, phasmo)

I'm also an avid language learner; ik spreek een beetje Nederlands et je parle français assez bien. I travel a lot to mainland Europe so happy with a long distance connection.

Thanks for reading. If you want an icebreaker tell me your favourite anime or pokemon. ❤️❤️

Hey I know this is A long shot but im going to try it anyways im looking for A Poly Partner something long term hopefully for life when I get attached I get attached! Not here for flings I want someone to enjoy life with or possibly help me build with if they are the right ones! About me im from VA lived here my whole life plan on staying here too im open to LDR but if you're near VA that's even better! I stand at 5,4 and im A bigger man im not huge but im not skinny either im A pretty laid back person im either laid back or energetic not in-between im A pretty simple man easy to get along with love to laugh and just enjoy life! Things I enjoy are Traveling, Basketball, weightlifting, movies; gaming, watching TV, listening to music, exploring new places and alot more if its fun ill give it A try so if interested let me know and we can see where it goes!

I’m a 48‑year‑old married man looking to build a sincere, emotionally grounded connection with a woman who appreciates garden‑party or kitchen‑table polyamory. I value transparency, stability, and relationships built on mutual respect. I’m not interested in secrecy or half‑truths — I’m looking for someone who wants to grow something real, steady, and intentional.

# 🌱 Who I Am

I’m **6'1", 205 lbs**, bald‑headed, with **gauge‑pierced ears** and a few tattoos — and I fully intend to add more. I lean toward the **nerdy** side of life and feel most at home in creative spaces.

A few defining parts of my life:

* **Disney pass holder** — I genuinely enjoy going, whether it’s a full day or a quiet evening walk through the parks.
* **Creative at heart** — I love **writing**, **photography**, and I’m a lifelong **movie lover**.
* **Love languages** — **Touch** and **quality time** are how I connect most deeply.
* **Emotionally open** — I’m an open book and welcome questions.
* **Supportive** — I’m always willing to listen when someone needs space to talk.
* **Intimacy matters** — Emotional and physical intimacy are both important to me, and I value partners who feel the same.
* **Values‑driven** — Consent, trust, and communication are the foundation of how I show up in relationships.

I live in the **Eastern Time Zone**, and I’m open to **long‑distance connections** that grow naturally, with the possibility of meeting in person when the time feels right.

# 🌼 What I’m Looking For

I’m seeking a woman who wants to **date**, **connect**, and build a relationship with depth. Someone who values honesty, emotional maturity, and the steady comfort of knowing where you stand with someone.

I’m drawn to:

* Women who appreciate **clear communication**
* Those who value **emotional presence and consistency**
* Someone who enjoys **shared experiences**, whether that’s a night out, a quiet evening in, or a conversation that lasts until the world feels still
* A partner who understands that polyamory is built on **respect**, not competition

I’m not looking to rush anything. I want something that grows with intention — a connection that feels both emotionally safe and deeply fulfilling.

# 🌙 What You Can Expect From Me

* Steady communication
* Emotional honesty
* Respect for your boundaries, your partners, and your autonomy
* A partner who shows up with clarity and intention
* Someone who values both emotional and physical intimacy
* A man who genuinely wants to **love**, **date**, and build something meaningful

# 🌟 If You’d Like to Talk

I’m open to thoughtful conversation and getting to know someone at a pace that feels right. If you’re looking for a grounded, affectionate, creative man who values connection and communication, I’d be glad to talk.

If you want to continue the conversation, you can ask about **my poly philosophy**, **my ideal connection**, or **what I’m hoping to build long‑term**.

(Even though I put 4A, don't message me if you're a cis guy. I'm attracted to cis guys, the problem is I have terrible experiences with you guys here on Reddit. You only message me because you think I'm a girl and a bit weird, and even when I tell you I have a masculine appearance, you get your hopes up that I'm a tomboy or something, and as soon as you see that I look just like a normal man, you block me. That hurts a lot. Please, if you're a cis guy, DON'T MESSAGE ME!)

Hi! I'm a 31-year-old non-binary person going through a somewhat complicated phase in my life. I'm recovering from a very severe Crohn's flare-up and have several limitations that prevent me from living my normal life for the next few months. I can't go out much or make many local friends, but during this time I've met a lot of people online, and Reddit has become "my refuge." I believe that connections are just as important whether they're online or in person, that there are no "online friendships," only "friendships," regardless of the communication method. On top of that, due to my physical limitations, I'm currently working remotely and spending a lot of time on the computer (in fact, I have a lot of work piled up from the four months I was hospitalized), so it would really help to find people who can brighten my days.

Just so you know: I'm a non-monogamous (polyamorous) person, and honestly, I find it hard to distinguish between the boundaries of "friendship" and "romantic love." In general, I like being able to care for someone without having to worry about overstepping the boundaries of friendship. Practically speaking, I prefer to meet people who are open to romance, or at least to experiencing friendship intensely. And also people for whom distance isn't a problem. I like to be consistent and talk every day, and I'd like to find people on the same wavelength.

I should also clarify that I'm a libidoist on the asexual spectrum, as contradictory as that may sound. That is to say: I have a very, very high libido, but I have no desire to have anything physical with anyone. This doesn't apply to online contact: if it's via chat, we can flirt or get wild without limits. Since I'm mainly looking for online connections, it shouldn't be a problem, especially since I'm not looking for anything exclusive.

I'm a philologist and I'm passionate about everything related to classical literature, history, and philosophy, but I also like fantasy and science fiction. My three favorite authors are Homer, Cervantes, and Mervyn Peake. I also love Nintendo (especially the Super Mario series, particularly Paper Mario 2), One Piece (I'm up to date with the manga), Iron Maiden (my favorite band since I was a teenager), and I've recently become hooked on WWE, which I watched as a kid, but since it's on Netflix, I haven't missed a single episode since the last Royal Rumble.

I'm also learning to play the kalimba and I'm obsessed with SBC consoles, handhelds that can run emulators, and I've also become obsessed with Pokémon Champions and Pokémon Unbound.

English isn't my native language, so please excuse me in advance if I sound a bit unnatural; I wrote this post in my language and ran it through Google Translate, although I can write shorter messages in English.

In general, I prefer people who are open to being affectionate or flirty from the start. It makes everything easier for me and motivates me to respond quickly, even if we get to know each other a bit later and see what kind of connection we might have.

After everything I've said, I want to make a few things clear.

I don't believe in horoscopes or MBTI; it's fine if you believe in them, but don't try to pigeonhole me or treat me according to labels I don't believe in.

I also don't believe in "attachment styles"; all that stuff about "avoidant attachment," "anxious attachment," and so on seems like nonsense to me, and it's currently being questioned by science if you do a quick search on Google Scholar. Therefore, don't put me in those kinds of boxes either; I hate it. It's fine if you believe in it, but don't try to force it on me.

I do believe in mental health diagnoses, of course, but I also believe that no one has the right to assign me any diagnosis whatsoever, so if you're in the habit of assigning diagnoses to others, don't write to me!

In general, don't write to me if you want to put me in boxes! The only boxes I'll let you put me in are in a BDSM context!

Three last important things (important: read before writing to me).

1. I want people who are completely clear when expressing their needs and boundaries. I understand that in the first conversations it's still too early to decide if we have a mutual interest, but once a certain level of trust has been established, I want communication to be completely direct and for us to be open to finding solutions if we have any problems. I don't want people who are quick to dismiss me at the slightest discomfort. This needs to be clear before you write to me.
2. Given my circumstances, what I can offer is a long-distance, polyamorous relationship. If you're not comfortable with that, I completely understand, but it would hurt me deeply if you used me just "to try it out" and then decided to discard me. Please, only contact me if you're absolutely certain you're comfortable with polyamory and long-distance relationships!
3. If you're going through a difficult time, if you don't have the energy to meet people, if you already have other partners and are polysaturated, if you have children and need to focus on them, if you have a lot of work and barely any time to respond, if you're depressed and never feel like picking up your phone, I completely understand! Not only do I understand, but you have my full support and I wish you all the best! But, if this is your situation, PLEASE DON'T WRITE TO ME! It hurts so much to start getting to know someone and then have them tell you they're unavailable after developing feelings! In my current situation, meeting people online is truly one of my few opportunities to socialize and meet new people, and it breaks my heart when someone tells me "no" due to lack of time or energy. It would save me a lot of suffering if, in those cases, they simply didn't write to me in the first place.

If you've read this, and to make sure you've read the whole post, open a chat with two things: 1. confirmation that you REALLY have the time, energy, and availability to start something new with me, and that polyamory and long distance are not a problem for you; 2. the name of your all-time favorite fictional character (or just a character you really like).

Hello one and all. I’ve had some experience with poly relationships in my past and still would love to learn more about it and different dynamics.
I am dominant so making sure you are taking care of yourself is a constant from me. So hopefully you may like that or into that.
I am mainly looking for ones that can roleplay.
Not really too into men and masc.
I do prefer you know fem presenting. So f/ MtF/ FtM within reason.
If you have any other questions or interest please message me. I’m pretty much an open book. Hopefully I can hear from some of you soon.
Please add your age to your message

Hey there! I live over in Rochester, NY and I'm pretty new to poly stuff. I've been in a relationship with my current partner for 2 years and shes currently married to her wife and dating another, im currently a metamour to both. We all date separately but we've all decided wed start dating with the goal of more nesting partners, were also attempting a kitchen table poly relationship, So were looking for serious and longeterm parnter(s) but theres no pressure to be in any relationship romantically or sexually with my partner or any others. And if the prospect of a being a nesting partners doesn't interest you thats okay as well and Id still be interested in keeping a relationship going if so! Also considering were all 25+ We'd only be comfortable with people 25 and up to be apart of our polycule especially if longeterm.

A bit about me! I'm a bigger guy (400ish) and I'm a pretty massive nerd (Gaming, manga, anime), my love languages are physical touch (Hand holding, shoulder squeezes, arm rubs, etc) with a bit of act of services and gift giving, im also AuADHD as well. I work security and I'm pretty busy most weeks but during my free time I try to play games with friends and just hang out with them online as much as I can but other than that I like to spend lots of time with my partner and our general household!

As for what im looking for, Im Bi with a heavy lean towards primarily fem and masc women currently as well as fem leaning Enbys! Im also more interested in dating singles but im open to couples as well.

Im also very 420 friendly. I'm a pretty avid weed smoker but I dont smoke cigarettes (Unless SUPER stressed or socially). I'm pretty homebody and typically prefer more simple dates at home but I do enjoy a resteraunt date or a walk through a park every now and agian.

I play alot of games but I currently have the World of Warcraft bug again and its all ive been playing on my down time! I also primarily play on PC.

Some bedroom stuff about me! Im pretty into any one with bodyhair (primarily pubes and pits) take that as you will. Im not involved in kink life really, Ive practiced some stuff with my partner but all in all I tend to be more generally rough than anything. You can inquire about any of this if youre curious. Just thought Id put it out there before hand. I am however a heavy dom leaning switch. Im also a generally sexual person, I do like there to be sexual intimacy involved in serious romantic relationships so if thats not youre thing im sorry but im not your guy.

Im primarily looking for localish people but Im also okay with long distance relationships as well as long as theres a chance in future for visits either me to you or vice versa. If any of this peaks your interest I'd love to get to know you and see if we click!

Hello! I (37M, Milwaukee) am starting to dip into an ENM lifestyle. My nesting partner of 10 years and I are dating separately, both looking to express parts of our personalities that have languished in our mono relationship. I think our communication is exceptional--that's sexy, right? 😉 I'm interested in someone I can nerd out with while flirting, and then... well, navigating the rest is half the fun, isn't it? Currently I have one online partner in addition to my NP.

* I am 5'10" with a bit of a dad bod since 2020 that I'm working on with sport climbing 🧗

* Bald with a red beard (which I've had for a long time but I'm not married to)

* Despite presenting very masc I'm starting to explore my genderfluid side... mostly he/him, but I have some "they" days

* I'm neurodivergent and proud; if you find dorky infodumping cute then I'm just the person for you! My current hyperfixations are Final Fantasy XIV and cryptic crosswords--I love games and puzzles!

* Rounding out my nerd persona is a respectable collection of board games, a lifetime of D&D experience dating back to before sexy actors openly played it, and a broad knowledge of anime circa, say, 1995-2010.

* I'm a multi-instrumentalist and singer. Rock music has always been a big part of my life, and I love going to shows (apart for the getting home at 1am bit). Tell me one or three of your favorite bands!

* I'm a cat person, in the sense that I love my kitties more than anything and will absolutely send pictures, and also in the sense that I purr if you pet me.

* I'm pretty familiar with BDSM although I wouldn't say it's a lifestyle choice for me, just an interest! There's a lot to explore in that space, and I don't expect one person to tick every box. But I am specifically looking for someone who would prefer to lean dominant in our dynamic. I find dominance more draining and submission more energizing, and it wouldn't be fair to promise a dynamic I can't realistically sustain!

If you're a naturally curious, open-minded person with good, open communication, then drop me a message--I'm excited to get to know you!

I'm an idea guy. I'm always working on something. I just released an app that I'm excited about. I'm writing a sci-fi book. I'm pretty proud of that's coming along, too.

Back in the day, I was in an obscure indie band. Don't worry, I won't play guitar at you. I do, however, like to think that I write songs and letters that don't stink.

I like traveling, cuddling, going on walks to get coffee. I love the silence of snow. I love being around water. I'm a big fan of the plum poem. I'll send it to you if you don't know it.

I'm into D/s where I take the lead.

I'm looking to develop something intimate, fun, and ongoing. I am not interested in ONS or anything like that.

Attraction is important so I'll want to swap pics when we start chatting. Hopefully, you will like my face.

Don't be shy. Say hi!

Heeey! I'm Abi (:

I'm cute and cuddly and fun, looking for someone to be cute and cuddly and fun with.

Living in Germany (though not German) and currently in a long-distance relationship, with a partner who's also nested and partnered.

I'm looking for deep connection, vulnerability, silliness, intimacy and, lots of hugs and snuggles. Looking for someone I can talk to about my day, send gifs and memes, share with when I'm having a hard day, take out to my fav restaurant or new cafe that opened up, support as they achieve their goals, and admire as they pursue their passions.

I live alone, and though I will 100% be all over you when I get the chance, I'll eventually need some time and space to recharge and be with myself. And while I'm not looking for a nesting partner, I'm most definitely looking for a committed relationship with someone preferably closeby.

I'm big ball of silly, giggly energy. I love to laugh, love to chill, take things slow and just enjoy the little things. Library dates, chilling in a cafe, picnics in the park, pyjama dance party, impromptu road trips, just existing and being happy, all my kinda vibe :)

Lemmie know if you wanna have some cute, cuddly fun with me ☺️

I (F30) am happily poly partnered in the medical field who believe the best connections start with honesty, good conversation, and mutual respect.
I’m exploring polyamory and would love to meet like-minded women or couples who value communication, trust, and genuine chemistry. Whether it starts as friendship, shared experiences, or grows into something more, we’re open to seeing where a real connection leads, without pressure or expectations.
Single men would be ignored as they usually message for short and quick, I want this candle to be a slow burn.
Outside of work, we’re very spiritual and love things like tarot readings, crystals, meaningful conversations, and exploring the deeper side of life.
Thanks everyone.

Prefer white or Latina but open. I'm fine with older or younger but older, more mature is preferred, someone who is patient, kind, open-minded, loving, wise. I'm introverted and not fond of outdoors. I've been told I'm kind, considerate, patient, smart, cute (but your mileage may vary depending on preference, of course). In the palmdale/lancaster/los angeles/antelope valley if anyone is interested. May take time to warm up to people since I'm kind of socially awkward. Let me know if you have any questions? I have a slender build and prefer someone similarly but as long as you're kind and loving, I'm open to it. Personality >>> appearance. Also, please be local because I haven't had good experiences with people who are out of state (they tend to flake or lose interest).

Hi! I’m a 35-year-old, tattooed hair coloring curvy white girl in Texas who’s ethically non-monogamous and looking to meet someone who enjoys good conversation, genuine connection, and a healthy amount of flirting.

I’m the type of person who gets way too excited about books, spends entirely too much money on LEGO and Pokémon, and somehow keeps collecting plants despite telling myself I have enough.

You’ll also find me gaming on my PC, or happily disappearing down whatever ADHD-fueled hyperfixation has my attention that week.

Personality-wise, I’m sarcastic, affectionate, a little chaotic, and I love playful banter. I appreciate people who communicate openly, are emotionally mature, and know how to laugh at themselves. Chemistry matters, but so does feeling safe enough to be your authentic self.

I’m not in a rush to force anything. I’d rather get to know someone naturally, flirt shamelessly if the vibe is there, and see where it leads. Whether it’s sharing memes throughout the day, late-night conversations, bookstore dates, or stealing your hoodie because I’m cold, I’m here for something that feels easy and mutual.

Tell me your favorite book, your latest hyperfixation, or what your ideal lazy Sunday looks like. If you make me laugh, you’re already ahead of the game.

I'm mainly looking for connection, conversation, and intimacy. Someone to chat with throughout the day, talk about how things are going, have long conversations, and really get to know each other. Since I'm recently divorced, I'm not looking to get jump into something super serious but won't write it off, but I do miss having a close connection with someone.

Some things I tend to like in a woman is someone smart, sweet, caring, empathetic, open-minded, and curious. Someone who likes exploring new things and having deeper conversations. I tend to connect well with women who enjoy reading romance/smut, have a high libido, and are comfortable talking openly about a variety of topics.

If I have to pick a "type" I would say more of the goth, emo, witchy vibe that kind that if you wear makeup it is the darker styles/colors. Also with tattoos or at least enjoys them, and maybe a nose ring lol. I also find I usually mesh best with bi women, and also I am such a huge sucker for a woman who likes to wear thongs. I don't know exactly why, but that's been my experience.

I'd love to meet someone who enjoys science, space, and learning about interesting things. I'm not religious, and I'm curious about learning about witch stuff.

It would be great if you're someone who likes texting often, sharing pictures, and staying connected throughout the day.

About me, I like to chill, play on my phone, cook, relax and just unwind, have some whiskey, to color naughty colorbook style pics on my phone, listen to smut, am a switch, (naughty Pic in profile, not a D Pic), I enjoy games and want to play more, and honestly I would love to have someone who likes to push me and can be a pain in my ass but in a way that is enjoyable (take that as you will lol).

But, I do coparent so that takes time and energy, so I'd like someone who understands the realities of parenting and what it means to be a good father first. So some nights will be harder as will some weekends. But I do have the good snacks too. Lol

If any of this sounds like you, I'd love to chat.

I'm dating myself here with that header aren't I? Before you know, you'll have me talking about the beautiful sound the modem made when it connected, how frustrating it was when your parent picked up the phone and disconnected the internet just as you were having fun with what you really, really, really wanted to believe was a hot cheerleader just a city away. All while walking to the internet in the snow for ten miles!

Anyways, a little about me- I find myself discovering and wanting to try out poly, while my wife is more mono. We have agreed to start with an online only relationship, as I think that hopefully avoids the potential perceived drama- though I gotta warn you, I am pretty charming and intoxicating.

I'm 40, no kids, live in the SW. Have a job I enjoy and believe it or not, I can be a bit, or a lot nerdy. I have way too many books I haven't read, lego sets to build, and anxiety to ignore.

I am chubby, about 260 pounds and continuing to work on improving myself so I can live longer and get revenge on all my enemies and anyone who ghosts me.

It sounds cliche, but while I know a physical attraction is important, for me a connection is just or more important. I'm looking for someone who can match or appreciate my humor, who enjoys receiving messages and memes and will send them right back. Best case scenario, we find in each other someone who makes the other smile and heart race slightly when a message comes up.

Hi, I'm a partnered poly woman looking for an online connection. I am a plus size lady with blue eyes and brown hair. I enjoy plenty of hobbies like gardening, crochet, canning, letter writing, decorating, and pottery. I'm hoping to connect with someone who wants to talk regularly. I love a good conversation. Tell me about what's going on in your world. Show me pictures. I'm hoping we can have a fantastic time together.

Hello!

You can call me Flower for now :)

Buckle up, this is a long one, sorry in advance!
(I like to be upfront and give as much info as possible!)

First, I will be listing my strong preferences for potential partner(s) as it tends to get lost and forgotten if I put it farther down:

~ Between the ages of 23 and 35 (I might consider up to 40, but the larger the age gap, the less likely I am to get along well with you)

~ Live in Metro Vancouver, BC, or can visit often (minimum a week or more per month).

~ All ethnicities, genders, and bodies welcome! I am attracted to personality and who someone is on the inside, not their appearance. I also am pansexual so I become attracted to people regardless of gender.

~ Be ok with or into me being a little/exploring littlespace. Its not required to be into it, I just need to know I'm safe to dress how I want, cuddle my stuffies, and color in my coloring book around you without judgement.

If all that fits you, that's awesome and I'd love for you to read about me below and DM me if you're interested!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE put effort into your message! I am expecting you will tell me about yourself, and in more than a few sentences! I do not expect a whole novel like I have below, but I expect at least 10 sentences or more. I will NOT respond to messages with just "hi how are you?" or all about spicy stuff. I want a loving relationship.

Now, here's info about me!

I'm 25, female (AFAB), pansexual, demisexual, and, of course, polyamorous. I have one nesting partner currently who I have been with for a bit over 6 years now. We have been polyamorous for almost the entire relationship and date separately, but we often meet the other's partners.
I'm a leftist, agnostic. I'm also on the autism spectrum.

I'm 5'2, 230lbs right now. While I am comfortable with my body, I am not wanting to be at this weight and am trying to get into a position where I can begin to lose weight for my health and wellbeing. I likely will stay on the fluffy side, but I'd ideally like to get back down to 180lbs at least (it was my weight back in 2020).

I have pretty green eyes, a thick full head of long curly colorful hair (its currently grown out a bit so my natural dark blonde/brown is showing, but the rest of it is dyed shades of pink, purple, and blue/turquoise!) and a goofy, loving, caring and awesome personality to go with it! :3

I would love a partner who can help me on my weight loss journey with encouragement, accountability, and assistance with motivation, but also understand that it will be a bumpy journey as I learn, and be patient with me and will love me for who I am in all my body sizes.

Its worth noting that I do have disabilities. I am mobile and independent, but am on medications and have bad days. I do need accommodations sometimes and patience. I try my best, but sometimes my body just doesn't cooperate. I am happy to tell you more about the disabilities and such in DMs.

For hobbies, I am definitely a homebody a lot of the time. While I appreciate nature and the outdoors, my disabilities can interfere with how much I can do outside depending on the weather. But, I would love to do some calm things with someone! Calm walks, bike rides, going to cafes and restaurants, going to the library or rec center, having cute dates, picnics, stargazing, etc!

For at home, I like watching shows and movies (I especially love disney movies!), playing cute video games (especially horse games), drawing, coloring, puzzles, board games, snuggling my cat (and maybe you?), cooking, baking, etc!

I also adore animals, and currently have a cat! His name is Osiris, and yes, I will send many cat pics!
Sarcasm, memes, and just having fun is my jam. I will send you random memes and funny things I find at 2 in the morning lol.

I also often go down random rabbit holes and would love someone I can share all about what I just learned with! I love learning new things, and yes, I want you to share random cool things with me too!

I mentioned littlespace in the beginning of the post. I am happy to tell you more about that part of me in DMs! I can be a bit shy about it.

When it comes to the spicy stuff, I am into lots and am happy to discuss it over DMs. It is important to know though that I am HSV2 positive. I take precautions though and the chance of me spreading it is extremely low. So far my nesting partner has not been infected with it from me from what we can tell. I am not out here trying to collect STIs/STDs so I use condoms, get tested, and expect you to also get tested.

It is however very important you're aware that I am demisexual. This means I do not develop any sexual attraction based on looks or first impressions. I only become sexually attracted to someone after I have gotten to know them and met them at least twice in person too. How long it takes can vary.

When it comes to my current polyamory dynamic:

I do not have/practice any hierarchy.

I currently have one nesting partner, we date separately. Any other partner I add would be given just as much love, care and time. My nesting partner and I are also very open to living with other partners together in the future if it comes up!

My nesting partner also travels at least 30% of the time for work for sometimes weeks at a time, so I have quite a bit of time on my hands that I would love to not spend alone.

Happy to discuss the spicy stuff over DMs.

Oh gosh there is so much about me but I have written a whole damn novel already so I will end it here xD

Please DM me with a detailed message about you and such if interested! <3

Hi! I’m a 45-year-old guy in Virginia who’s happily married and also has a long-term partner. Everyone involved is aware, supportive, and enthusiastically practices ethical non-monogamy. I’m not looking to replace anyone—I simply have room in my life for another meaningful connection.

By day (and often by night), I own a business in the gaming industry and coach Rocket League for a local high school esports team. Gaming has been a huge part of my life, but so have building relationships, supporting the people I care about, and never taking myself too seriously. I’ve been told I have a pretty great sense of humor, and I firmly believe laughter is one of the best ways to connect.

I’m looking for a woman, ideally between 30 and 55, who’s interested in building something genuine. Whether we start with good conversations, shared laughs, late-night voice chats, or eventually meet in person, I’m more interested in creating a real connection than rushing toward a destination.

A little about me:
45 years old
Happily married and partnered (ethical, consensual polyamory)
Dad of four amazing kids
Business owner in the gaming industry
Rocket League high school esports coach
Gamer, nerd, problem solver, and perpetual learner
Big believer in communication, kindness, and showing up for the people I care about

About you:
A woman between 30 and 55
Honest, communicative, and emotionally mature
Comfortable with ethical non-monogamy
Looking for consistency, genuine conversation, and seeing where chemistry takes us
If you’re looking for someone who can be supportive one moment, make you laugh the next, and is genuinely interested in getting to know the real you, I’d love to hear from you.

Bonus points if you’ll tell me:
What game you’ve lost an embarrassing number of hours to.
The hobby that makes you completely lose track of time.
Or the last thing that made you laugh so hard you had to stop what you were doing.

Let’s skip the small talk and start with something memorable.

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I'm tired of rushing, I think. Maybe that's a sentiment that better suits an old crony on a porch, but that's just who I tend to be. That and goofy for the sake of it. Before I forget, I'm married and we're dating separately, living in eastern PA but not looking for anything in person yet. There's a myriad of things to appreciate long before all that.

For me, the moments with the stars, or a morning coffee dancing with pine, or even just a stupid joke and a genuine good morning are the point. I asked my partner to walk the earth with me, and we do just that, but what I'm looking for now is to talk through it all. Not looking for an answer to anything, but just sharing those coffee's, moonbeams and stars by letting our worlds dance lazily around each other with our words.

Usually I'm the main obstacle keeping me from all this, but I think any more isolation or waiting would just be stalling. Live well everyone.

-Lith

P.S.- I'm a male and masc presenting agender, 6'2" (190cm), white, fit but not particularly muscular. We've got three cats, no intention of having kids. Kitchen table poly would be lovely but we'd rather it be natural. I spend almost all my time streaming these days, but in general I'm a huge nerd happily exploring just about everything. Fantasy above Scifi, Zoology above Physics, but it all has an irreplaceable home in my heart. More than anything, I'm interested in who's interested in this post, so regardless of the reason, don't stop yourself from checking in. I'd be happy to know you, even if only briefly.