All this time, I thought he really loved me. But after detaching for a few weeks, I realized that his words were just empty and lacked sincerity. I stopped replying to him for a while now. Before, whenever I read his messages, I could feel so much love in them. But now, I feel like it was all just a performance to manipulate me into believing him.

Long-story-short, hugely problematic on both sides. I've been on-and-off with no-contact, and am struggling to let go of feelings. They're determined to stay friends. We're stuck living together & going on a uni residential together next year.

When I mentioned I was struggling to move on, they hit me with "Why don't you care enough about me to just want to be my friend"

And when we fought, and I mentioned I didn't want to stay friends because I still had feelings, they shouted at me - saying things like "Oh princess can't get off her high horse and let go", "why don't you love me enough to just want me as i am" "why don't you care enough about me to let go of the relationship already" (keep in mind, it's been just over a month since we broke up).

Then, when we decided we were going no-contact again, they told me I wasn't allowed to block them, or unadd them anywhere, and when they contact me again in mid-august they expect me to be "ready to try to be friends" and to have "Moved on a little more".

It's been a couple days now, and I've been thinking. Am I being manipulated into being friends? guilt-tripped? It's all very confusing.

so i moved somewhere new recently and met this guy through some mutual stuff, we got close pretty fast. like day one he was already telling me the new place was horrible and the people there were bad news, before i’d even seen anything myself.

then someone new moved in where i live. i liked him, no issues at all. but my friend decided this guy was “controlling” and just would not shut up about how bad he was, kept pushing me to hate him too. eventually it worked and i started disliking someone who genuinely never did anything to me.

fast forward, me and my friend fell out over something else entirely. and now?? he’s buddies with the same guy he spent months trying to turn me against. also found out he’d been talking about me behind my back to someone who has actual influence over my living situation, painting me in a bad light, and i had no clue until recently.

thinking back there’s other relationships of mine he’s messed with too, not just this one. told a friend about it and they said it’s kind of my fault for trusting him that much in the first place lol. now i don’t even know what to think anymore.

am i actually the problem here or does this sound like manipulation