It’s midnight. Somewhere between their fifth and sixth
gin-and-tonic, two young men whisper into a DJ’s ear as the Isley
Brothers’ “Shout” roars around them. Grinning like teenagers about
to pull off a prank, they scurry to the long tables where, hours
before, a bride and groom enjoyed their first moments as spouses. As
they carry two chairs back toward the dance floor, the recognizable
first few notes of the Hebrew folk song “Hava Nagila” begin to pour
out of the speakers. While the rhythmic melody accelerates, the
jubilant crowd hoists the helpless couple in the chairs, laughing as
they grip their seats for dear life.
If you haven’t been graced with an invite this wedding season, ask
anyone who has, and there’s a decent chance they’ve seen the hora
performed—Jewish wedding or not. “I’m on the post-business-school
wedding circuit,” Phil, a New Yorker who is half Jewish, tells me.
“I’ve probably been to 20 weddings in the last year or two. From
Orthodox Jewish to Catholic weddings, I’ve seen horas performed.”
This includes Phil’s own wedding earlier this year, where he and his
wife, who is not Jewish, were lifted in chairs by friends and
relatives.
First choreographed in the 1920s by the Romanian-Israeli dancer
Baruch Agadati, the hora contains two distinct parts. First, the
wedding party holds hands and dances in a circle—sometimes read as a
representation of the cyclical nature of life and the
interconnectedness of community. Then comes the main event: the
bride and groom (and, often, parents, siblings, and immediate
relatives) are hoisted aloft on chairs, symbolizing the spiritual
elevation of the couple as they step into married life.
Clara Caro, a Jewish Venezuelan woman, says that, in Venezuela, the
hora is the centerpiece of every Jewish wedding. It typically
follows the father-daughter dance, and is what kick-starts the
dancing portion of the night. According to Caro, in Venezuela, the
hora can go on for more than half an hour. “The more loved you are,
the longer the hora,” says Caro, who recently had to warn her
Catholic boyfriend to stay back with the older guests at a family
wedding as the energetic dancing circle began.
Caro isn’t thrilled that the tradition is being borrowed outside
Jewish circles. “I think it’s a little bit like fraud,” she says.
“You don’t even know what this is, and you just think it’s cool.”
Some online critics share her unease. “I am Jewish and even though
the hora isn’t a part of the religion but the culture, I would find
it weird/borderline culturally appropriative if you did it,” one
Reddit user wrote on the thread r/weddingplanning. “Why people
persist in hating us while continually copying us boggles the mind,”
wrote another user on the thread r/Jewish.