No mom, playing math blaster is not on par with actually getting to go to school.

These people y’all

I don’t really know how to articulate this question but what were you guy’s experience coming out to your parents like, if you have one? My dad doesn’t know bc he’s a complete POS but my mom knows that me and my fiancé are engaged (we’re both women/lesbians) and she pretends to be happy for me but you can tell she really hates that she’s not a man. When I first told her she tried to imply that she “failed as a homeschool mom” bc she tried to shelter me or whatever even though that’s bullshit. I’m just glad my gf then (fiancé now) helped me through the process of moving out bc i really don’t think i would have been able to escape otherwise and i think that’s part of why she hates her so much, I feel like my mom just wanted to keep me locked away from the world for the rest of my life bc she thought somehow that would stop me from becoming “woke” I guess (she also hates the way I dress and my pink hair).

mindless rant that i just want to get off my chest. overall, i try to keep my head high. i know that no magical solution is going to come save me, and that my life is what it is. i got dealt a shit hand, and now i need to figure out how the hell to fix it all by myself. i try really hard not to throw myself pity parties. but... it gets to be a lot sometimes.

i look at other people my age who are going to college and getting jobs. people who know how to interact with the world. people who know how to function in society, and i think "why not me??" everyone i know is moving up in the world, and i'm still stagnant. i want to be them so bad. i mean, i'm happy for them! i'm proud of where everyone is going. but it gets so aggravating, feeling stuck in the same spot i was years ago. watching people be able to DO things so easily when i feel like i'm fumbling through every minor interaction. i've always heard that life isn't fair, but come on. i'm THIS behind? THIS stuck? all because my parents decided school wasn't worth the effort?

i don't know. the feeling will fade, but i just wanted to get it out there instead of bottling it up

(Srry idk what to do for the title. It's kind of hard to explain) Ive been "homeschooled" since I was 8, and I'm turning 17 now. My parents didnt teach me anything, and I really struggle educationally. I want to graduate highschool, and go to university one day, but my parents won't enroll me, so I've been trying to do it myself the past month.

At this point I've probably talked to over 50-something people. I've talked to countless schools, and government people. I've had people laugh in my face, hang up on me, ignore me, blame me, and just straight up not listen to me at all. It's so draining, and incredibly frustrating.

The places that are there to help the less fortunate, the people/places who are supposed to be dedicated to education... don't care at all.

My own parents won't help me, no matter how many times I've begged them to let me go to school.

But the manager at the place I work explains different maths things I was never taght during quiet times, and helps me count/work out change. A woman at the bus stop, who saw me looking disappointed after another school regected me, came and asked what was wrong, and then offered to come sign the documents for me (she didn't, because we looked into the the rules about enrollment, and we both would have gotten in legal trouble lol.) But still the offer was still there. An older security guard found me crying one day (after being yelled at, hung up on, blamed, and laughed at, all in the same day, by differnt people) and he sat with me for a while, and asked if I was okay. He works at the mall i work in, and he comes past and checks in on me. Apparently he even comes by and asks how I am if im not working.

Like how?!?! Genuinely why?!??! I can not figure out why the people whos JOB it is, do not care. Like, I would really apreciate if anyone knows why this is because I have NO IDEA. Also, has anyone else experienced something similar?

(Sorry for how rambled this is, and im sure parts don't make sense, lol. I'm SO tired rn)

I'm 18 years old, and I've been homeschooled my whole life. My parents got me up to 3rd grade and then completely stopped schooling until I got into 8th grade at 14 through an online school. Because of that, I don't know a lot of basic math and English. The week I was enrolled in school, I found out I had some health issues and got very sick because of it. I ended up failing 8th and 9th grade because I kept struggling with my health. On top of that, my health issues caused a lot of anxiety, depression, and eating disorders, making it even more difficult to focus on school, and I also believe I have a learning disability. I managed to finish 10th grade and was supposed to finish 11th by now, but earlier this year, I was sexually assaulted and I completely gave up because it was just too difficult to focus. I decided I wanted to drop out and get my GED. I ended up speaking with my school, and they told me I wasn't as far behind as I thought, I mostly have electives to finish, and if I pushed through, I could graduate soon. I want to try to go back to school, but I'm really scared because of how little I know and how much I struggle. I've tried teaching myself the math I don't know but I have such a hard time understanding. What do I do? :((

Sorry if I don't explain well but I'm looking for a free, online math assessment that can determine what grade level you're in and essentially what eras you're good at and need work in. Kinda like the star test. I have looked it up however all the results I can find are either for a specific online school program, a test for a specific grade, or not free.

My purpose is that I want to teach myself the stuff I didn't get to learn when my mom "homeschooled" me. I feel stupid because there's so many things most everyone can do that I can't because I was never taught. Especially with math. So finally I'm doing somthing about it. So I'd like to see what math level I'm at, and what things I'm already good in VS what knowlage i lack, that way I can properly study.

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I was watching a 2003 BBC documentary by Louis Theroux, "Louis and the Nazis," and was so disgusted and sad to see a duo of 11-year-old girls who'd been groomed by their mother to front a neo-Nazi pop band, singing overtly white supremacist lyrics. This is clearly an absolutely disgusting case of grooming and child abuse. In the documentary, Louis Theroux even asked the mom if the girls understood the lyrics they were singing, and she said they did. She then asked the girls directly, and, of course, they had no idea how to answer and it was abundantly clear they didn't actually know what they were singing about. It was deeply disturbing. I had a strong suspicion they were homeschooled, and sure enough, later in the documentary Louis asks the girls where they go to school, and they say "homeschool." Yeah... of course they do.

After I finished the documentary, I looked up where Lamb and Lynx are today, hoping they'd been able to break away from their mother and live life on their own terms. I can't imagine how difficult that would be... Not only did they have to deal with the standard trauma of overcoming an abusive homeschooled childhood, with all the gaps in education and socialization that come with it, but they also had to overcome being publicly known as children in a Nazi band. I have no idea how anyone could be asked to overcome all of that.

It turns out that the story does have a happier ending though: Lamb and Lynx eventually went to public school and broke away from the racist indoctrination they suffered as children homeschooled by Nazis. From a 2011 ABC News article:

"I'm grown up now. I was a little kid back then and said a lot of things I don't believe in now," Lynx told ABC News. The girls credit moving to Montana — and attending public school there — for opening their eyes and giving them new perspectives on life.

'My sister and I were home-schooled. We were these country bumpkins... It makes me proud of humanity every day that we have so many different places and people.'

...The twins say they are new people, and that time, experience, and love have changed them for the better. 'We just want to come from a place of love and light… I think we're meant to do something more — we're healers. We just want to exert the most love and positivity we can,"' Lamb told the Daily Mail."

I think the Lamb and Lynx case is a perfect, albeit tragic, example of why there needs to be much stricter regulation in homeschooling. With no oversight of what children are or aren't being taught, parents are free to raise their kids into literal Nazi bands, indoctrinated with hateful ideology from a young age. Instilling any ideology in children before they can comprehend it is abusive (let alone one this hateful) and it saddles them with a lifetime of trauma to unravel. It is abusive, it is not fair, and it is morally reprehensible. Every child deserves an environment where they're able to grow into well-adjusted individuals capable of freely living according to their own dreams and desires. What Lamb and Lynx went through severely impacted their lives, and I can only imagine that they've carried that trauma well into adulthood, and likely forever, long after their parents are gone. If they'd been allowed to go to school sooner, or if there had been stricter regulations on homeschool curricula, they might have been spared some of that harm and had the chance at a freer, more fulfilling life.

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I'm 14 and on a second grade level

me, my raging acholic of a father, my sixty something grandma and my two younger sisters moved from new york to Pennsylvania it's been seven years since I was last in school but unlike most people on here they actually tried to use the computers that the school gave them for about 9 months before they decided it was too hard so instead of putting us back in school they did the opposite, they started homeschooling us without puting in any work instead my father who pulled a joe jakson and literally beat rhythm into me and even when he knew me nor my two sisters couldn't sing he kept going, making us sit at the dinner table all day while he talks about stuff I can't remember.

We barely went out unless he took us"grinding"aka going to the mall and begging people for money every single day.instead of getting a job the example he set was to shut up, never ask questions and of course he taught us how to beg random people for money and when he got locked up the first time we couldn't pay our Internet bill so for a whole year we had no Internet, no car, no friends, and after we got it back we had been "homeschooled" for 3 years.

And when he came back nothing changed (yes grandma let him back to the house knowing what happened last time)

3 years later he tries to steal a TV and goes back to jail, while he's in jail I finally realized how my life is actually going.

By now I'm 13 and I don't know what to do so I try to catch up and in the process I became super self conscious and I started asking my grandma why, why didn't you try to homeschool us ,why not keep the computers that's when she told me that they were too hard to use and every time I say anything about it she makes sure I know that I know I had 7 years to "study" but I think she forgot that for 5 of those years we were literally being abused.

Now she tells the very few people that we do have in our life that we're going back to school next month btw I'm 14 and trying to learn basic division on khan academy but it's pretty hard with no one to help me since she won't, I also have no study habits

I know it's nit-picky but my experience of homeschool goofing off was not educational. At least in public school said goofing off involved some social skills being practiced with friends.

it's been about a month since i started attending summer school at the new school i will be attending when the semester starts. slowly but surely I am coming out of my shell. i told the guy I liked that i had a mild crush on him and was respectfully rejected. it kinda sucks but i'm delusional and I still have feelings for him. i can't ever have him tho. i get painfully jealous when I see him interact with other females even though I know i don't stand a chance. i don't want to obsesse over him but I wish he felt the same way as I do. i think being homeschooled and isolated for too many years has fucked up my mind a lot but I hope to be better in my next update for this sub.

For context, I wasn't homeschooled in the traditional sense, but I did go to a fully online charter school since Kindergarten. I've never been in a real classroom in my life. I'm looking into possible career paths I'd wanna go down after getting my GED, and the idea of getting a degree in early childhood education and becoming a teacher is something I'm very interested in.

The issue is, I'm so so worried that the fact I never went to a proper school myself would hinder my ability to be a good teacher. Of course it's gonna have an impact in some ways. I won't understand the kids perspectives at all, because I don't know what it's like. All classroom games and activities and strategies are new to me. I won't have the experience to fully put myself in their shoes and I won't be able to take into account what did and didn't work for me. How do I know if I'm putting too much on them and overwhelming them, or giving them too little work and not guiding them enough?? I'm sure a lot of these things can come with time and also I'd learn from the college courses. But I'm just paranoid if this would even be a good option for me considering everything. Not to mention, would a school even want to hire someone who never went a physical school themself??

What are your thoughts?? And if I do end up becoming a teacher, what advice could you give for me to avoid my lack of experience getting in my way??

(I'm writing this very late at night, I'm sorry if this is hard to understand)

Where do I even start? How did I even get here? I'm so sick of working these entry-level jobs, but there's not much else when you don't know basic math or spelling. I feel so much shame and anxiety, like everyone knows and is laughing at me.

I wish I would have been able to educate myself when I was a teenager but I just got so caught up in work and life. I just got a GED prep book for the first time, I'm too scared to even open it. Too scared of the time it's going to take and dedication, too scared of the constant reminders of how much time I lost and how wronged I was. I moved out when I was 19 and moved back in 2 years ago, I'm unemployed and uneducated and I just don't know what to do.

But I'm going to open the book today

I have had so many mean spirited replies from people it’s so disheartening. I just want a safe space to discuss the trauma I have faced while being homeschooled, but someone always jumps in defending homeschooling. Idk it’s just exhausting.

Like the title states, My sister and I have been what our parents call 'unschooled' since I was 9, and she was 8. I'm 15 now and I'm pretty far behind in education.

It all started because of Covid-19 and progressed because of my father's religious beliefs.

Within the last 6 years I have been through a lot and have been extremely depressed, with infinite time on my hands to do virtually anything I want, I spend more time spectating how shitty my situation is rather than trying to change it.

Though ever since I've gotten pulled out of school I have begged my parents to let me and my sister go back, obviously it didn't work...up until the last few months.

I threatened my parents with calling CPS, because this is obviously educational neglect, and my dad apologized profusely and promised to get us help.

And he has, surprisingly.

He has gotten me & my sister a tutor and he called the school to see if I (my sister has severe social anxiety, so she's going to do online school, which I'm not the biggest fan of, but if it helps her get caught up I will be happy) can get in and get help.

And I am extremely grateful for him admitting his wrongs, taking accountability, and trying to fix his mistakes.

But regardless of all of this, I can't help but feel horrified when I think about the future and college.

I'm sure my views will change as I get properly educated but every time I think about anything past highschool I get a pit in my stomach and I feel rather scared, and I feel as if I will simply fail at everything, and maybe there's no point in trying. (Of course there is, but that fact doesn't change how I feel sometimes.)

I actually don't know exactly my point in posting this, I was just scrolling Reddit and decided 'hey, why not?', y'know?

I guess maybe I just wanted other people to know what has happened, maybe make someone feel less alone by knowing someone else is going through something similar, because a few years ago I thought I was completely alone, and no one could possibly relate to me, and believing something like that gives you probably one of the most lonely, hopeless feelings ever.

Anyways, I've never posted anything before so if I've done anything wrong somehow, let me know!

Also I'd be extremely grateful to anyone who'd share any resources, or give any advice.

Long story short: raised in Utah, Mormon, isolated, neglected, homeschooled my whole life and then fully unschooled by age 12. Very chaotic home, angry parents who hated each other, a dad who hated being a dad and a mom who wouldn’t let us out of her sight. I was stuck in the house with my siblings from ages 10-19 and it was hell, I never ever thought I’d escape it.

Now I’m almost 29, my mental health has improved SO much with the right meds and therapy, I work full time and share an apartment with my brother, I have my own car, I have a very happy and healthy cat, I’m out as a lesbian, and as of today I have my GED. 🥳

I’ve wanted this so badly since I was 16. My plan was to get my GED, go to community college for two years, transfer to a four year, and establish a career for myself. Years of untreated depression and PTSD stopped me from being able to keep my momentum going long enough to achieve any of those goals.

Now that I’m past the first hurdle, I’m gonna keep going and move forward with those dreams I had for myself as a kid.

Life has become so beautiful after a bad childhood. I’m so proud of myself for everything I’ve accomplished and everything I’m about to do next. :)

Well for starters, I’ve never gotten a shot before, never been vaccinated once for anything

I made my dad get me braces for my teeth, you’re supposed to get them tightened every MONTH but he drags his feet and takes me every YEAR slowing down the process for no reason, he wants to take them off at this point, but I know they aren’t straight enough. They took my wire off so he could set up a different appointment with a dentist bc I had cavities or something? He didn’t, so I’ve been walking around with only my brackets on for months.

I’m 17 and I get my period only 2 times a year, I told some friends and they said I should get that checked out. But my mom says it’s completely normal. But I really don’t think it is

I’ve never went to the doctor before, not even for simple check up’s or for a physical. Never went to the dentist ether, only the orthodontist

Am I being dramatic?

Im pretty resentful about it. I dont mind working but I absolutely hate my father for forcing me into such an isolating environment and then didnt give a single fuck about me surviving adulthood. Im grateful for my job and dont mind working but I still missed out on being a dumb teen. Now I work overtime to keep myself from focusing on my depressing thoughts and go to therapy. I resent my father and hate how things played out for me and no one gives a single fuck. I still feel 14 stuck at home, hating life and lonely. Now im 23 working like a dog, stuck with family, still lonely and still hating life. I wish I was alot smarter on setting myself up to be free and actually enjoy life. Now idk what to do. Just navigating around whatever life's throws at me and having little to no fun.

kinda random but does anyone know of any scientific studies on the effects of homeschooling (on children, effects that follow through into adulthood, etc) or literally anything else?

im interested specifically on homeschooling, but they can be on the effects of social isolation, having overly religious parents, overly paranoid parents, etc. too. im just horrible at finding academic studies (for the obvious reason that nobody taught me) but im SO curious now.

I wanted to post this here because I know many of you in here have shown to have experienced religious trauma.

I just wanted to say you are not alone, and this channel is really good at discussing these topics. With this being one of their more recent videos, Genetically Modified Skeptic (his main channel) I believe could be something some of you could find to be relatable and even healing in some ways.

Wish you all better paths forward and stay strong!

I turn 16 in 2 weeks and I’m about start applying to jobs, I’m wondering if it would help me feel less lonely and will I be able to make friends?

They have to verify it to make sure i'm qualified for graduation and it'll take a few days or weeks for my diploma to come in.

Ugh. What an absolutely miserable experience from beginning to end, one that I feel worse off for having gone through. I think it'll take me some time to gather my complete thoughts on it, maybe i'll make a whole post recounting the experience but I loathe it anyways.

ask me something about it if you want to

context

I'm 25f and have a 26m brother

we were homeschooled at around 10 and 11

we don't go outside ever, we dont have jobs

we are a family of five. mom50, dad 50, grandma 78

we also have a thing where we are expected to do everything together (i.e pet bathrooming, chores, most things thay require work) (there are some things we do alone, not saying we do everything together)

also we have a lot of pets

(all we didn't want except two cats)

a few years ago it was 5 dogs, 8 cats, 4 ferrets, 9 chickens)

right now its four cats and 5 dogs

the issue is me and him always fall short

pets are taken care of badly, hair every where, bowls not cleaned everyday, litter not done properly ect

this has been a long going issue

usually whay happenes is dad blows up and yells or doesn't talk to people for a while, we jump up and get our shit together for maybe a week or two but then we go back and fall into bad work

(mroe context, we also help grandma all day and are finishing our online bachelor degrees and do other chorse, which we also do badly)

my room is always a mess, I have a hard time putting laundry away, which is also a thing dad gets mad at

but i feel like I never had time to work on my things and then when I do its late and I just want to relax

i know im not perfect and even tho i feel like I do alot, when dad blows up, its pointed out thay we dont actually do alot

my usual routine is

7, wake up and bathroom dogs with brother and give them water, half the time he or O go back to bed for a little bit, or we stay up. Lately we stay up to make breakfast (also to be fair we jusy started making breakfast, because mom works week on week off, so now on her week on my brother and ai take turns making breakfast for everyone)

7:40ish-9 ish depending (it takes is a hot second spmetimes to finish with the dogs and then deal with the kast Tiny dog inside and do breakfast)

probably about 9-10 am, eat and tall woth grandma

if monday wensday, do school then and try to do a chirselater, otherwise

10am to 5pm do whay grandma wants and try to get a chore in, but usually whay grandma wanrs us to do is some chore, and I take aome breaks in between because grandma is overwhelming and hard to deal with, or to eat, or to take a break from work, any of those reasons (brother lately has been using school I think as an excuse to not help out, and I haven finished summer semester z so I am free)

note, O take the dogs out with brother to bathroom at 2pm and I feed all pets except for the tiny one inside,myself at 5pm

extra info: lately the neighbors have been letting their children come here for hours (without asking us if its ok bye) so we have to entertain the kids, which are 10 and 12 respectively for usually an hour or two, and the kids like being here so they try to squeeze out more time) lately this has been getting in the way of doing worl in the house because they take a good chunk of time out .

6 pm, either we still do chores or im free at this point and if free, then I am to tired to do more.. I'm probably lazy for this, so ai dont do anything in my room, or if I feel up to itz I try to do something in my room. its not often though and the times when my room gets done is usually if ai can do it while we are in the chore hour. If i dont do any else, then I get on to either work on commissions (which I will be honest, i am being slow and lazy with, I need to finish them) or I record songs or voice lines for whatever group im in

plus my boyfriend expects to hang out with me and he takes tome away from work (ues it is the same boyfriend from my last post, leaving it hard and now im on the fence again)

and if not that then I play or hang out with friends till 12am or sometimes 2am., I am usually hanging with my boyfriend though, as he wants to hang out all the time

its not exactly right but this is what a usual day will be like

some days are less worl ours, get free at 2, some days are more work hours, get free at like 8

(i help hrandma with Maki dinner half the time which takes time from free to go till like 6)

this has been the problem for most me and my brothers life

we do we fall back into a not taking care of the house and oets thing untill we get yelled at

whats wrong with us

and why am I so tired all the time and feel lile Indo a lot of stuff but i am told I dont, so I believe I dont

O know i might be missing things and you guess haven't been able to spectate nylife

so I'm not asking you to perfectly understand

I'm just shaken, writing this afterbthe lastest blow up because of , garage full of hair, cat food playe was dirty (other plates werent). Tools I was ask to kove to the garage and cover, were not covered because I forgot to cover them and dad was very mad about that. And my room is yet again a mess. and apparently has a small even though I tried taking care of it three days ago. (note, my room has dirty dishes and clean laundyin it, and stuff on the floor.) I am not saying i am proud of it. I am rather quire embarrassed but I dont aee the point in lying.

On my brothers side why my dad is mad, was a half finished job on dusting off the house fans, he only did half of them and then hasn't put up a mirror je got for his dresser.

on grandmas side of why dad is mad, is because she has too much crap and wont throw it away (years long issue with her)

on moms side on why dad is mas, is usually money related

i understand dad has reasons to be angry

but its so hard

i dont knwo whay to do