“ So I have adhd and have abandonment issues from childhood and I tend to talk a lot , I don’t just blabber to my wife but I have noticed I end up draining her energy when I speak about my mental health and the current family problems that are going on with me. She was always supportive and still is but in her own way . A lot of the times she just tends to shut down on me and gray rock me . II love her so deeply but I just want to understand her better . She never shows emotion towards me , sometimes I feel like I’m talking to a co worker or a robot I try my best to ask what’s wrong or if I did something but all I get in return is vague responses . One worded responses and such stuff like that . She never opens up and claims she had a good childhood but she was raised very sheltered and I just don’t understand why she can’t tell me what I did wrong or if I even did anything wrong in the first place . How can I get her to slowly start to open up to me ? Been married a year and a month . I know she needs space but it’s not fair to me cause all I do is try to make her happy but I guess my efforts aren’t enough “