24M. Recently, I’ve been experiencing a lot of resentment toward traditional christians because they always talk about the LGBTQ community as they are the sole problem in this world. I’ve always believed in God but I’ve always felt subconscious anxiety about my sexuality so these things always drove me away. I was talking about my gratitude for everything and asking god to show me whether or not he approves of my bisexuality on my morning walk today. this little rainbow made a guest appearance in my room after I came home just now. 🌈

I accessed adult content and masturbated; I feel more relieved and relaxed regarding sexual thoughts, but I sinned after four days of abstinence. I’ve managed to go a month before, but lately, I can't seem to go without it no matter how hard I try. Does God condemn someone for masturbating and watching porn? The tough part is that I don't even like church; I try to like it, but I find it boring and exhausting. What I enjoy is staying home, reading the Bible, watching YouTube videos about it, and praying before bed—not the hours-long prayers you see in prayer campaigns. I like helping out when I can. I’m not really into social gatherings or parties—I’m antisocial—but I end up going to church because I can't stand the talk and pressure from my family, and partly out of guilt for not going and drifting further away from God.

Are here any orthodox queer people? Especially sapphics and women. I’d like to make friends and talk about basically everything, lol.

It feels super lonely going to this journey. Coming out. Not hearing anything or anyone talk about this in the church.
I feel like I can’t give up my faith, but I also don’t want to sacrifice so important part of myself.

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Hi y'all, happy to be part of this group! 🤍

This is my first time really typing out this part of my story, but I thought I'd give it a go.

I'm a gay Christian guy who was raised in and still am part of highly conservative Christian culture.

One of my guy friends (who I've known quite well for 5 years) and I started hanging out more about a year and a half ago, and found out we quite clicked and ended up doing stuff on our own quite regularly. Pretty much from the beginning, I felt like there was something between us, and I realized all too soon I had feelings for him. But I knew nothing that he was gay so I tried not to let it go anywhere and just enjoy hanging out with him as a friend. Needless to say, that didn't last very long and it became increasingly clear to me that there was a spark between us.

After a few months a mutual friend of ours playfully teased us about being a "cute couple" and I noticed a line in the sand from my "friend" from that point on and he was really standoff-ish and tried to keep his distance from me emotionally. I was really hurt but saw what was going on and was ultimately confused because if he's straight and we're just friends, why the big deal, right?

Anyhow as time went on and I gave him some space, we slowly started hanging out again and we were so back. And then we went through a really tough thing together and it only drew us closer because we trusted each other with our troubles and grief. We were on a two week road trip with 2 other friends in March and clicked perfectly the whole time. And ever since it's felt like we were meant for each other.

All of this has made thinking about coming out so much more complicated, part of me just wanted to let him go to make everything else easier but I also loved him too much for that and I'm not just tossing a good slow burn.

I was nearing the port of coming out to him and now just recently he told me about this girl he's really into and it just blew me away. I'm not upset at him because we never vocally committed anything to each other, it was all unspoken and I apparently misinterpreted it all along.

I feel so perfectly at peace with it even though it's excruciatingly hard but I know it's the right thing and takes a tremendous weight off my shoulders but simultaneously leaves a gaping hole in my heart.

However to get to the point of this post, this has helped me rethink the gay Christian debate a little bit.

For one thing, I was afraid my being in love with him was distracting me from being honest about theology, cuz I had very high faith dreams of marrying him one day if I felt right doing so. But plot twist, it's not been that way. Now that I feel more free relationally, I'm even more convinced of side A theology.

And for another thing, possibly greater yet. This "breakup" scenario has reminded me of that beautiful place of being given up to God and being perfectly at peace with his will, even though it's so unbelievably tough. And it has exposed that that is NOT AT ALL how I feel about taking a Side B stance. Not even remotely the same experience.

Honestly it feels like God allowed me to be attached to him while I was figuring this out so that I keep a very human honest approach to the theological crisis then take it away as a way to go forward and talk to others about it without the risk of getting blamed for wanting to adopt Side A theology so I could marry him.

For anyone who actually made it this far, you have a longer attention span than me, and I so so deeply appreciate your time in reading this and please leave your thoughts in the comments. Don't be scared of being unrefined, I've seen the good the bad the ugly.

Hello! So I’m sure this question has been asked a lot, but how have you guys come over the fear? Being scared that being LGBTQ+ will lead to you going to hell?
I get scared because I don’t want to be in the fiery pits of hell burning for eternity nor would I want anyone else to because they are simply LGBTQ+. I know some of this will have to be with me praying to god about it, but I would love to hear other stories or what finally gave them the “confirmation” if that makes sense?
Any resources would be greatly appreciated!

Christianity is getting a bad name because of all the homophobes in it . like in r/teenagers , christianity is the ONLY religion they hate , and it's all because of those homophobic "christians" who are spreading hate instead of love , leading to a bad reputation in our religion . I wish more people knew LGTBQ isnt a sin . love you all .

"If you asked me 'Could you ever envision a homosexual crime of any nature being visited with the death penalty?' Yes, I could."

That's Doug Wilson, Pastor at Christchurch in Moscow, Idaho. Wilson spoke at the Pentagon as part of Pete Hegseth's monthly Christian worship service.

Wilson's views are as controversial as they come: He believes the United States should become a Christian theocracy, that married women should not have the right to vote and that gay sex should be illegal. He estimates that 10 to 20 people in the top levels of government are aligned with his radical ideology. He explains that he thinks trans people are “sad,” certain elements of his idea of “homosexual behavior” should be punished by execution and in certain cases of marital rape, both parties should be disciplined.

I’m a 25-year-old gay European guy, and I think I’m starting to lose my faith. I was raised believing in God, and up until now, I’ve held onto that belief. But I’m beginning to have doubts. As I grew up, I realized I was attracted to men, but—sadly—I haven't met many people in my community who were willing to accept me for who I am. I distinguish between God and believers, but over time, I’ve realized that even my political values ​​no longer align with those of other believers. I’m starting to think that if people can be so wrong about sexuality, how could they possibly be right about the origins of our existence on Earth? Why does God appeal so much to people who are so closed-minded? Anyway, I’m starting to lose my faith. Please give me some advice.

It’s so hard to deal with this sensation in my genitals; this libido is intense. It feels like a wave washing over my body, and it’s sad having to suppress my sexual urges. I know God doesn't want me engaging in masturbation or pornography, but it’s really tough—I find myself missing visiting those sites so much, and it makes me feel sad.

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Hey!! I'm a 21-year-old lesbian woman who's currently in the process of deconstruction/trying to do the work to gain a deeper understanding of things.

I'm not the most organized person ever haha (kinda type B at times), and I'm wondering if anyone else who's in the process of deconstruction has any particular way of highlighting their Bible?

(I'm also very happy to hear how anyone here highlights, though. Even if not "deconstructing" per se)

Bonus question: Does anyone have any Christian book recommendations for deconstruction or by queer authors? Would also love to hear those!

Thanks!!!!

My relationship ended because my partner chose to follow her faith, the Bible, and God. I respect her decision, but it has left me heartbroken and trying to figure out how to move forward. If you've experienced something similar, how did you move forward without becoming bitter? How did you process the grief while respecting their decision?

I'm not looking to debate religion or sexuality. I'm simply looking for advice from people who have experienced something similar. What helped you heal?

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Does anybody know of Christian movies with gay content, or gay movies with Christian content, that could help to inspire those of us who are gay Christians to be better Christians in the world that we live in ?

I’m sorry this isn’t really lgbtq related but I feel like this would be the best place to ask this.

I was sitting outside this my mom and noticed she was watching a live stream it was a lady preaching the word, but then my mom says “she used the have autism and adhd” and I look at her like “you seriously believe that?” And she said “well nothing is to hard for god to remove” and I just felt really upset because I have autism? I’ve prayed and cried asking to be normal because I don’t fit the box of society’s standards and I’ve finally come to a place where I’m comfortable but the fact that she’s believing a NEUROLOGICAL CONDITION CAN JUST BE TAKEN AWAY? I don’t belive that’s possible and I trust god but if autism is something that is considered needing fixing does that not sound bogus? It just made me really mad that she believes that so am I in the wrong?

Courtesy of the LGBTQ+ Support Group user D.Draper

Ok guys I hope this doesn’t sound bad or homophobic, please read me carefully, at school, I had a gay friend who is a loving Christian and values chastity a lot. He is conservative like me so we both believe the homosexual acts are sinful, even though he’s queer, but he always talks to me over how God helped him to overcome same sex attraction and not to act on it, and how he says he feels like Jesus is guiding him away from the acts of it, and he also believes the bible’s the word of God and such and such.

Now, I know this is a queer community so I’m 99% sure you guys would be more leftist or like progressive in topics like this and I’m not looking forward to debate or argue on it despite being conservative personally and following my church (I’m Coptic orthodox).

But what do you think about this person, are his actions of avoiding homosexual acts with prayers and so and how he feels like God helps him, is it a good thing in your opinion?

Another disclaimer I am not trying to troll or “ragebait” I just got quite curious over how queer believers think about a situation like this.

Thank you guys and God bless.

I am struggling in my spiritual journey and could really use someone to speak to about this. I am a teacher, I make little money and I'm saddled with two toxic parents I have spent 36 years trying to get away from. I write and that is my great joy in life.

Others I know make more money than me, got away from their families easier than me, have successes I don't. It just makes me feel small.

I'm rereading Roses Among Thorns by St. Francis de Sales. In the tenth chapter Francis writes about Accepting God's Will. Specifically "consider this will in your own person, in all that befalls you for good or for ill, and in all that can happen to you, except sin. Then accept, praise and bless all this, and declare your intention always to honor, cherish and adore the sovereign will".

I struggle with this in part because I struggle to look beyond the world. I want to do better but I need help. I reach out to people and they all promise to make time, but then don't.

Hey guys, I need some encouragement.

Maybe a week ago, I made a post about being anxious to tell my parents I was dating someone (of the same Bio sex). Well, tonight it happened.

This afternoon I was about to get off work with my sister (who works at the same place) and we started talking. I told her, and she was very excited and happy for me. I love her so much.

Then, later in the evening, I was talking with my dad about my faith, which we do fairly often, and I felt God nudging that this was the moment. Mom had asked him to bring her some batteries for something upstairs that had gone dead, and so both me and him went upstairs. I told them, and the initial conversation went okay. Better than my anxiety said it would. They said theres nothing I could do that would make them stop loving me, and that she is welcome here whenever she felt ready. It was clear, though, that they didn't really know how to react. They think homosexuality is a sin, and know i don't. I think it helped that both her and I are on the ace spectrum, and will not be having sex, but they got uncomfortable with me calling her my girlfriend because they said that "their generation and the rest of the world sees that as inherently a sexual relationship." Neither of my sisters assumed that. Parents also asked if we would be kissing or anything, and I answered truthfully that we hadn't talked about it, but I wouldn't be opposed, and we're both pretty big cuddlers. (Important context: my sister and her boyfriend are also big cuddlers, and they have no issue with that.)

Anyways. I thought it went as well as it could have.

Then at like midnight before I was about to go to bed my dad knocked for a surprise follow-up. He spoke for both of them, saying how the gospel is about "Grace but also Truth." He said they see me "embracing disobedience" and reminded me that following Jesus means "denying yourself, picking up your cross, and following him." They said that earlier too, but also said that it's up to the Holy Spirit to point me to what sinful parts of myself I have to deny (which, I have already done and am working with God to remedy and grow in, but it's not what they want me to deny). Now he specifically said "and it (the things I have to deny) may be more than you think." He said they would not be comfortable with any PDA between us, since that implies a more intimate relationship (again, sister's boyfriend is fine).

They also mentioned how "going through a door always closes others" in relation to the extended family (whom I am very close to, but whose reactions I can't even begin to guess. I told one cousin already, but I kind of regret it, since I didn't think it through very well and I don't want to cause issues with their mom (whom I have no idea how she'd react) and dad (a pastor, whom I love, but also have no idea where he stands on this). They are also a minor, so I regret potentially driving a wedge between them and their parents. I love their parents, and dont want them to feel I'm trying to go behind their back, but I also want my cousin to feel supported, and nobody updates me on what the situation over there is so I am working with no information. I regret not waiting till I got more info, but now I gotta work with what I got and pray for forgiveness and wisdom for whatever comes next.

Anyways.

It's one in the morning. I'm tired, hurt, scared of losing my extended family, and over all just *tired* of going over this over and over with my parents. All of us know where we stand on these issues. I told them because I trusted them to trust God's work in me (and me!) But now I just feel betrayed. And hurt. And upset.

I've been listening to All Belong Here by The Many on repeat for a while now. I need some encouragement and advice if you have any.

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I am a lesbian and I don’t want to be lesbian because it’s all to much.

1. ⁠I’m constantly facing the stress of coming out again in my future it’s kinda because I have a single mom and she provided every single bit for and I’m about to go to university so I assumed I would just be gay and masculine there but I realized it’s may be harder than I thought as I have people whose parents are friend with my mom and me coming out and being gay would embarrass my mom as a child is a representation of their parent, mind you my family is Christian and African.
   2.I also don’t want to come out because I have come out previously and result was me being sent to a horrible school and basically being told to reset, meaning burning all clothes and making me wear only taught body showing dresses and short shorts, and no one caring if I was innapropriatly touched by a man, I was also bullied and told it was my fault for being gay by both the head mistress and my mother, I had extreme suicidal thoughts. 3.I’m scared of coming because im scared my mother will not pay my tuition anymore and also just the feeling of feeling bad for my mom because all she would is what did she do wrong and she would think she wasted all her money
   
2. ⁠My religious beliefs I grew up on God and the knowledge of him but ever since the year 2022 I’ve been distancing, the Bible and its people seem hateful especially towards gay people , making it seem as if gay people had a choice to choose the gender they like, people would use the Bible to bully me which would make me stray farther , I even went through an era where I would I cry almost everyday because I was gay and I was tried to pray it away. It occupied my mind and I suffer from anxiety already, i see people being able to stop being gay and wonder how, why can’t I just the person I’ve love, other msg say you haven’t met the right man, but I’m always open, I’m always open to taking away the comfortability of outfits I would rather wear to impress a boy, or willing to do give myself and see maybe if there’s a spark, my relationship with God has strayed, apart of me want to believe he isn’t real but there’s no way 500mil people are just praising no one and I do feel like he has done things for me in the past
   It has now led to my fear of God, I feel like I only try to believe in him because I fear going tk he’ll, the only reason I haven’t committed is because I would go to hell.
   If anyone can help or point me to a camp that could possibly convert me, I suffer from this everyday and sometimes feel like it’s too hard to continue life anymore.