A few weeks ago, I posted here asking about what is the dark humor culture in Finland. And I would like to thank everyone for clarifying and helping me realize what my co-worker is actually doing - bullying and racial slur masked as "whatever they want to call it." Far from what dark humor really is.
Update: There is a new supervisor. She talked to me in private because apparently somebody told her that I am being quiet these past few weeks and not as "sunshine" as before. I admit that I am a bit distant and just focusing on work because I've been thinking a lot and just wanted to get through the day. But don't worry, I practiced everything you've taught me in case I needed to punch back words with the bully.
So I told her what happened, and what she told me caught me by surprise. She said this is not the first time this has happened and they have already received the same complaint from various people in the past. She also said that name-calling is not really a "culture" and what happened was disrespectful. She plans on talking with this bully and at the same time teach us how to tell the bully when the jokes are getting overboard.
Honestly, I really don't know if I should get my hopes up or just expect the worse. Yes I feel heard but I am looking for solutions, not empty promises.
Subsequently, another co-worker approached me. He told me that he too experienced bullying from that same person and was even hurt physically! Then was told "You know I'm just joking!"
So this bully was capable of not only hurting you verbally but physically too! My co-worker had to take sick leave because it affected his mental health. He told the old supervisor about it but got the same reply. He was told that just be patient with the bully, and there's no need to get the HR involved as it's just a minor joke thing.
And so, the plot thickens I guess. I just wanted to do my job well, get paid, then go home. But I think I'm gonna need to sharpen up my skills.
Again, I want to thank everyone here. You really helped me a lot. I appreciate all of your comments.