Hi! (Sorry long post, my nails are not done and diamond needs cleaning) I wanted to get some advice or hear from anyone who’s gone through something similar.
I got engaged a couple of weeks ago, and I am so excited! ❤️ But I’ve been going back and forth on how I feel about my engagement ring, and it’s honestly been messing with my head.
For some context, my fiancé and I designed it together. One thing I was very clear about was that I wasn’t a big fan of a split shank. We were told it would be closed as much as possible, but “as much as possible” ended up being more open than I expected. Some days I absolutely love it, and other days I catch myself thinking something feels a little off.
The other thing that sent me into a spiral was a comment from a friend. She mentioned the diamond looked so big, but the way she said it felt…off. Maybe I’m completely internalizing it or reading too much into it, but ever since then I’ve been questioning whether I chose a diamond that’s too big. Before that comment, I genuinely loved it.
Now I find myself wondering if the diamond suits my finger, if it’s the split shank that’s throwing me off, or if I’m just overthinking everything. I also keep wondering how a wedding band will look with it. Then there are plenty of moments where I look down at it and think it’s absolutely beautiful. It’s like I’m constantly bouncing between loving it and second-guessing it.
Has anyone else experienced this after getting engaged? Is it normal to have these kinds of feelings at first? Did you eventually stop overanalyzing your ring? I’d really love to hear your experiences because I feel like I’m in my own head right now.
For reference, it’s a 4 ct lab-grown elongated cushion

Hi everyone!

I'm Brazilian and my fiancé is American, so our engagement has been a mix of two cultures.

In Brazil, engagement rings aren't as traditional as they are in the US. Many couples simply exchange wedding bands when they get engaged, so I didn't really grow up with expectations about what an engagement ring should look like.
Instead of buying a ready-made ring, we spent almost a year working with a Brazilian goldsmith to design one together. We wanted something delicate and timeless, using ethically sourced Brazilian gemstones.

The center stone is a natural Brazilian Paraíba tourmaline, and the ring was handmade in 18k yellow gold with natural diamonds. We chose the Paraíba because we fell in love with it, and I also liked that it came from Brazil.

I absolutely love my ring, but I'm curious about the cultural perspective in the US.

If you saw someone wearing this ring without any context, would you recognize it as an engagement ring? Or would you assume it was just a regular ring? Also, do you think most Americans would see it as elegant and minimalist, or simply too small for an engagement ring?

Thank you!

That is the question.

I’m drawn to the pave but worried it looks cheap. 2ct radiant, cathedral, platinum. I liked the idea of smaller stones but have heard horror stories or loose stones. I’m an architect for my day job, so I work with my hands a bit.

If I don’t go pave I will probably go with a thicker plain band (2.5mm).

Cheers for your thoughts!

Finally got my engagement ring and wedding band!!!

I have an elongated hexagon engagement ring that I’m ABSOLUTELY inlove with; however I’m having a really hard time deciding on what type of wedding band would look good with it.

I’ve looked into the V-Shaped bands & open V but am starting to wonder if I should stick to a timeless very simple band (but a bit thicker of a band than my engagement ring)? Thoughts?

We made 7 years and are upgrading my original solitaire diamond! I got a try on at home through with clarity and I am wondering if this is too large though? Is it too much? Should I go with a different shape? These are my current wedding bands and I don’t want to change them, so I’m looking to find something that works. I currently have a smaller size of this same style engagement ring, so I figured getting a larger round diamond wouldn’t be an issue. But now I’m wonder if it works? Help!

Had this ring custom made and now I’m not sure whether the diamonds will be secure enough for everyday wear on my girlfriend?

Willing to go custom if needed. This will be arriving tomorrow and I just realized I never thought to think about what band pairs well with this.

Thank you.

Hello! I have been working on my ring design but I am not quite getting to a point that I’m happy with it and I could use some help. I have a 3ct square old mine cushion cut diamond. This is where is am at right now with my jeweler but it isn’t really giving me the same vibe as my inspiration photo ( I know the stone in the inspo photo is much spreadier). I’ll also include the 3d printed model I got.

I’m not sure if maybe I should go for closed sides? I don’t love the little squares. Maybe a thicker band as well?

I appreciate any suggestions and advice! Thank you

hi, so i just got my engagement ring awhile ago but i’m not satisfied with the how it’s sitting. shouldn’t the stone be in the basket more? not looking like it’s floating? i don’t like that it looks like it’s floating and not “fully in” the basket setting. when i asked about dropping it but they said if i drop it lower it would have to be sitting flush and i’d have to change the setting. i didn’t want to do that since i like the hidden halo and the wedding band i want is not curved. any advice? it is a 3ct LGD for reference.

Is my ring too large?

Received this CAD from my jeweler, they are local to me. The centre stone will be a 1.5ct Marquise. I gave feedback that I don’t love the curve going on under the pavé (slide 3) and would like to soften it to follow the natural line coming from the angle of the stone.

I also felt the bezel ‘walls’ are looking super high in the CAD but jeweler said that CADs have extra metal that will be shaved down in the production so it won’t have such high walls. I’m nervous the bezel will surround the diamond too much so I wanted to explore claw prongs as well and they sent me a rough mockup of what that could look like (slide 4). I was thrown off by the addition of the branched band which they said was for extra support.

Now I’m unsure which direction to take. I have attached my inspiration board on the final slide and I’m conflicted about this half bezel vs the prongs. Even sort of regretting the pavé. My fav design I’ve seen online was this one from Holden, but I wanted the angle of the diamond to be NW-SE instead of the angle Holden has it at.

Was also thinking if we went the claw direction, V tips would look a bit nicer than the claws on the tips? Idk.

How does the initial CAD look? Would the centre stone still have some exposure after the final ‘shaved down’ produced version?

I'm getting proposed to soon and me and my partner have been looking at rings together.

The engagement ring is not as important as the wedding rings to me, so we've been looking for some alternative options. Both arrived and I can't really decide!

Option 1: 14k Gold with Moissanite center stone

Option 2: 14k Gold with Lab Grown Diamond.

Picture 3 is both next to each other.

I do love the big Moissanite Ring, but I prefer the clarity of option 2. So I am very torn between those two (but leaning more towards 1)

Looking forward to honest opinions

I live in northern alberta canada, and am rather limited on jewelry stores. My girlfriend is in love with a specific style and cut that is very hard to find if not custom made. We both agreed i would save some money on the ring and put it into our mortgage. Is there any stores or online that would have anything close? This is her absolute favourite so far.