​Hey everyone!

​If you had the chance to ask every person on a dating app a single question before deciding whether to swipe right or left, what would you ask?

I have a habit that I'm not particularly proud of. If I find someone interesting on a dating app, I sometimes go down a rabbit hole trying to find their online presence. Usually it's just curiosity to see if they're a real person.

Recently, I came across a girl's profile that caught my attention. But unlike most people, I could barely find anything about her online besides professional profiles. She seemed like a genuinely decent, private person.

Out of curiosity, I kept digging and eventually managed to find what I believe is her WhatsApp number.

Now I'm in a dilemma.

The dating profile has some pretty revealing photos/videos, which feels a bit inconsistent with the very private, professional online presence I found. I'm wondering if the dating profile is actually hers or if someone else is using her photos.

Part of me wants to message her and simply ask whether the profile is really hers so I can let her know if it's fake. Another part of me feels like contacting someone after finding their WhatsApp through internet sleuthing would come across as invasive or creepy, regardless of my intentions.

Would you want to know if you were in her position? Or would receiving a message like that be an immediate red flag?

Looking for honest opinions, especially from women or anyone who's had someone find them outside a dating app.

After a long relationship, I’m planning to get back into dating and I’m trying to maximize my chances of getting matches.

Here’s my situation: I’m currently working in another state and will be here until the end of August. After that, I’ll return to my home city/state.

In both scenarios, I would be creating a completely new Tinder account with a new phone and a new phone number.

I’ve been reading about Tinder’s ELO / ranking system and I’m wondering what would actually improve my chances the most.

Option 1: Create the account now while I’m in this other state and intentionally swipe left on a large number of highly attractive women, because I’ve heard that being more selective might improve your ELO / ranking and increase future visibility once I’m back home.

Option 2: Wait until I’m back home and create the fresh account there, so the new-account boost is used in the location where I actually want to date long term.

I’m also curious about how long the new-account boost actually lasts in practice. Is it mainly the first 24–48 hours, the first week, or does Tinder continue giving a fresh account increased visibility for a longer period?

Given that I’ll be back home at the end of August, would it be better to “save” that boost for my home market, or is there any advantage in starting the account now and trying to build a stronger ranking before I return?

What would you recommend based on your experience with Tinder’s algorithm and match quality?

Thanks in advance for any advice!