So dates go pretty “good” at least when it comes to communication there’s laughing and teasing and no awkward moments. Like they go very well. But there’s never a second date.

I want to say I am “attractive” because I am getting dates and also I am good at communication but my dates never turn into anything serious.

When we are talking and our preferences and tattoos come in the conversation they always end up saying they like guys with tattoos and pretty much describe the bad boy with tattoos who is extroverted that you can find in clubs night life.

And they end up having tattoos themselves. I personally don’t like tattoos on my future partner but I like to say I am open minded and I can accept one or two tatoo and if it’s small and of course what it is but, the last girl I went out with she had a big tatoo underneath her chest. I didn’t know. I was like well whatever she seems alright and she’s cute. I texted her asking her out again and she left me on read.

I am not the bad boy type of men, but I also not the “nice guy” I am a nerd who I take care of my appearance and I am into fitness and sports (practicing sports) with friends, books and don’t like going out to clubs I am 28.

I think I should consider looking for a partner somewhere else like not on the dating apps or maybe consider dating older women

All my dates are 23/26 but that’s who I match with. I rarely match with women in their 30s In reality I’m looking to get married and have kids

I remember when I go back to DR the photos I use which are generally selfies I’m still able to do very well and speak to many women and go on multiple dates yet here in nyc where technically you can get a huge amount of likes I severely struggle to find a girl let alone her to show high interest in me leading to 0 dates and lots of ghosting like behavior. Like I wish I could wake up to a message in the morning saying “Yes King”, “good morning daddy” but Nhaa nothing so my confidence is in the negatives. I remember years ago when I first downloaded tinder for the first time I became severely depressed and couldn’t believe that no matter how hard I tried I would not get a like except for that one girl who said I look like niko avacado when he was fat 😭.

I'm a male and I'm feeling hopeless of my situation, and when I say the app isn't helping I'm actually blaming myself. I live in a small isolated town so the dating pool is extremely limited, the average profile is 150-300 km. Then again I'm the last of siblings to still live at home, I also don't drive and don't have a license either, I don't know how to talk or text so I'm the boring guy who doesn't know what to say due to fear of judgement and only having niche interests. I'm trying to go back to online school for a degree after failing the first time so I was set back years on debt so now that it's mostly paid off I can set my life back another 6 years of staying at home with no life other than work and hobbies.

Sure, I volunteer and play sports but when you're in a town of under 2k, can't drive out of town, everyones taken, and I have this overall assumption that I'm too juvenile, undesirable, or undeserving of a girlfriend due to my weird personality. I have friends but I'm introverted so I have few pictures actually taken of me so I have to rely on selfies for now.

I did shoot myself in the foot so I'm not blaming anyone but myself, what's the point of using this app when I don't have the resources to make something work. I dream of being in a relationship and feeling affection everyday and I'm afraid it's overtaking my personality and mood and because I missed out so much on life and I don't have the resources to make something happen I'm almost positive I never will.

How can I cope with the fact that I will probably never land a true relationship (I was in a relationship once for three months, but it was platonic and unrequited)

This is definitely not normal considering every person my age are in relationships, I'm the only one at my job who's still single, all my friends are taken, people younger than me are taken and living independently, and I've never been in a relationship, it's pretty embarrassing to be honest, something is definitely wrong with me, I know what it is but I can't fix it. When people leave relationships, they just pick one up like it's nothing, some even say "it's not hard." So yeah, pure skill issue

I'm not a bad guy, or bad looking, but I'm in poor circumstances, with very niche personalities and I can't start, or carry meaningful conversations, so that's purely a skill issue of mine

Context: I am a fairly average guy of turkish ethnicity living in Central Europe

I've been locked out of my account, and reached out to bumble support via the chat feature. I got a confirmation email in which the AI agent stated it would be forwarded to the appropriate department. That was THREE WEEKS AGO.

I also attempted to reach them via Facebook messenger two weeks ago. Absolutely no response.

Worst of all, I'm being charged a monthly subscription. This is absolutely unacceptable. WTF do I actually have to do to be able to reach someone at bumble support?

(EDIT: Alright, thanks for all the suggestions and thoughts. I’ll just delete my profile until I get a better hairstyle, glasses, and pics the. I’ll jump back in to the app later).

This isn’t the first time I’ve seen someone with a bio similar to this. I just wanna understand what you think is going to happen when you put your bitterness on full display on a dating app??

I don't understand what makes them think to do that.

I've been seeing a guy (long distance) for about two months. We've met six times, and we've stayed at each others place for a few days each visit.

A few weeks in, I asked if he'd delete Bumble, which he agreed to and said he'd delete it. I deleted mine too.

A few days ago, my friend saw his profile on Bumble while swiping. Since our chat disappeared from my Bumble, I'm guessing he unmatched me instead of deleting his account.

What bothers me is that he agreed to delete it and apparently didn't. If he'd told me he wanted to keep using Bumble, I could have decided if I was okay with that. Instead, I feel like he lied, and now I've lost trust.

Am I overreacting, or would this be a dealbreaker for you?

I am an ugly guy (5’3”) and I get no likes or matches.

It has genuinely affected me to see how women view me. It hurts and as a retaliation, I’m developing a distaste towards women.

How do I counter this?

It's been dry for months and I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong.

So it’s been about a year since a breakup and I told myself it’s time to try to put myself out there. So I made a Bumble account and honestly the most jarring thing was just the lack of people. Obviously I’m not surprised that there were a lot more when I was in my early to mid 20s but damn I didn’t expect it to be this bad. For context I’m just outside a smaller midwestern city but I had to expand my radius out to 60 miles just to see people and that’s not even a realistic distance if we’re being practical.

Just wondering if anyone else experiences this.

Just got my Bumble stats and it's not looking good. So I am wondering if I'm giving a weird vibe with my pictures.

EDIT: Thanks for all the tips guys. What I mostly get from you:

• Too many gym photos / Looks like the gym is my whole personality / Gives off "gym bro" vibes.
• Should use more pictures of other hobbies, travel, and everyday life.
• Should use fewer selfies and more candid photos.
• The pictures are more targeted towards the male instead of female gaze

Will update the pictures and see how it goes

Transparency I downloaded the stats but was not on the app for almost 9 months probably. This is roughly a year of data I would say.

I think I had like 5 dates? From Bumble. I am picky myself when it comes to dating because I only have an age and distance filter, prefer people who speak my native language and live in a big urban area.

(46f) Why does it seem like suddenly men (and I’m talking over 40) feel the need to have a shirtless photo on their profile? Do the women all have bikini photos and I’m just missing the memo? Personally I find it just weird… a nice fitted shirt gets the message across just fine.

In the Uber. Wore spanx under my romper body suit to smooth me, but it grabbed my thong and yanked it to the side. So now I'm sitting in the back with a cleft lip. He's already outside waiting for me 😂😂😭😭

I created my profile 2 days ago. I'm looking for something serious but the amount of guys that put the "long-term relationship" goal AND "casual" is astonishing.

Incoming yes rate of 0.54%. Born in Toronto. Lived in GTA all my life. I'm 5'5", fit build. Been on Bumble/Hinge for about 2 years after a long distance relationship ended with Italian women from United States after 10 months who we met on an online forum that's gone now. Only one Bumble match led to a date with an Indian women.
I've had better success on Hinge at actually going on dates even though my match rate is lower at 0.4% for Hinge. The past couple years on Hinge I've gone out with

Russian woman in mid 20s

Costa Rican in her 30s

3 dates with a Persian in early 30s a year ago

white woman in early 30s

last match on Hinge was back this year March with a tall almost 6' Persian in early 20s where we had a month relationship before she decided to end it. Took her to do quite a few things and places, getting physical and doing things like a couple.

Lots of Hinge matches had stopped messaging back or cancelled date on me day before. While it's possible to go on dates being below average height Asian guy in North America it can definitely take a long time with dating apps lol I haven't received a match since the last relationship ended in April. So lots of free time I've had so far this summer just hanging with friends, sports and gym lol

F 61, if that’s relevant. I do not have premium. Without premium, there’s a “see who liked you” tab that basically shows you some thumbnails of people who have swiped right on you which you can’t interact with unless you subscribe. The glitch here is that one of those thumbnails has a yellow heart on it with the “it’s a match” label and a button that says “send a message.” That button goes to a perpetual blank screen. But this person doesn’t appear in my actual matches/chat section. I know I swiped right on him, but if he swiped back there’s no way to chat. The “help” chatbot didn’t really help and only said my issue would be escalated as a bug report. I actually did like the guy and wonder 1) did he in fact swipe right on me? 2) is the match showing up on his end and I’m ghosting him without intending to because it’s a glitch for me?

EDIT: now the match that wasn’t is just gone. 🙁

Please excuse me if this question has already been answered elsewhere on this sub. It's been a while since I've used Bumble, but I've decided to give dating and the apps another go.

I recently matched with someone, messaged first because that's what's required of the ladies on Bumble, and the guy did not respond within the required 24 hour period. I paid for premium and intended to extend the match if he didn't respond within that 24 hours because, shit happens, I thought he was cute, and the worst that could happen was still no response. If that happened, oh well, I'd keep it moving.

I went to extend the match after it's expiration and saw the match disappeared altogether. When I last used the app years ago, I recollect that the expired matches would still show, they would just be greyed out as if they were expired and unavailable. Is this no longer the case or does the disappearance of the match mean that the guy unmatched me entirely?

Thanks in advance!

i mainly use bumble for casual fun and hookups , and never paid for it , always used the free tier and it’s been like a few months since i got the app i think , out of those 31 yes’s that i have received , i did end up meeting 16 of them and did have “fun” with all 16 , and i still have like 5 of them as regular contacts to meet up , what do you guys think? have i been successful using this app for my specific reasons? or should i strive to build my profile up even more to get more matches?