Hi all,
My partner and I are renting in NSW and this is our first rental. Honestly, this whole situation has turned into an absolute cluster fuck and we genuinely don't feel safe in our own home anymore.
Our neighbour appears to have significant mental health issues and substance abuse problems (mainly alcohol from what we can tell). I obviously don't know the neighbour's diagnosis, but the behaviour has progressively escalated.
Incident 1 - October 2025
The neighbour became convinced I'd hacked their phone and bank account because they started acting up about two months after we moved in.
The neighbour spent hours aggressively talking to themself before coming to our door at 3am, asking what I did for work and threatening physical violence.
We called police. They spoke to the neighbour but never took a statement from us.
We notified the landlord and agent, who told us this was the neighbour's first strike.
The neighbour apologised about two months later.
Incident 2 - A few weeks ago
The neighbour now has a girlfriend who stays over occasionally.
For 5 consecutive nights, between roughly 10pm and 4am, they screamed, argued, threw things around, and we could hear the girlfriend crying.
My partner and I both work 9-5, so after trying to be understanding for several nights we eventually called police.
I recorded some of the screaming from inside our unit and sent it to the agent/landlord to demonstrate what we'd been dealing with.
Incident 3 - Last two nights
This has now escalated significantly.
Since receiving a breach notice, the neighbour has become fixated on the fact that we provided recordings.
The neighbour has repeatedly directed racist abuse at us because of our ethnicity, alongside repeated threats to kill us and seriously assault us.
This goes on from late at night into the early morning.
Sometimes the neighbour stays inside yelling, other times opens the front door and deliberately walks past our bedroom window while continuing the abuse.
I confronted the agent about why the neighbour knew it was us. They told me they had to provide the recordings to the third-party housing provider the neighbour rents through in order to issue the breach notice. I have no idea whether that's actually required or not, but the end result is the neighbour now knows it was us and the threats have escalated.
Apparently this is the neighbour's second breach notice, and they say a third means automatic eviction. Honestly, who TF is even counting at this point? I would've thought the 3am confrontation would've counted as one.
Police response (last night)
Police attended again and finally gave us an event number.
They told us the previous two attendances weren't even recorded as police events, so there's effectively no history. Honestly... pathetic.
They viewed some of our recordings and gave us a portal to upload the evidence.
They said they'd return later because the neighbour had gone to sleep while they were speaking with us.
They also said audio recordings alone may not be enough because the neighbour could argue they were talking to themself or on the phone, since we don't have video.
To make things even better, a couple of months ago we also received notice that the landlord wants to increase our rent by $50/week when our lease ends in September.
At this point:
We don't feel safe.
We can't sleep.
We're moving back to our parents' place this weekend, at least temporarily.
We'll be providing the latest recordings to both police and the real estate.
My questions are:
What can we actually do legally in NSW?
Can we terminate our lease without penalty? Also get some rent credited back due to the fact we have to move out
Is an ADVO realistic in these circumstances?
Is there anything else we should be doing to protect ourselves? Baseball bats or pepper spray (probably not this lol)
It honestly feels like we're the victims here, yet we're the ones having to leave our home. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
---TL;DR: My partner and I are renting in NSW and our neighbour has repeatedly threatened us with physical violence, yelled racial abuse, and kept us awake through multiple police-attended incidents over the past 10 months. The situation has escalated after the neighbour learned we provided recordings to the real estate, resulting in breach notices. We no longer feel safe, are temporarily moving out, and want to know what legal options we have, including whether we can terminate our lease without penalty, apply for an ADVO, or take any other action.