Context: I have been married for almost six years at 34 years of age. Wife is not my first sexual partner, probably around seventh. I still love my wife though the good times and bad times we have experienced. We got married because we had a crazy strong bond, and, although the honeymoon phase is over, we still love each other.

Problem: I can't help but feel constant temptation and desire. Commuting, at the office, at the gym, grabbing lunch. I see attractive women everywhere and feel lustful. My wife and I don't have sex very often (coming out of a stressful few years with severe illness and house renovation which has strained our relationship). My wife also has difficulties in bed (finds things painful, awkward, doesn't like oral). But I knew that and I married her because I love her as an overall life companion and she is the most caring person I met.

Question: How do I handle temptations and attractions to other women? Thankfully I am not attracted to people I work with closely or personally know. But I feel ashamed to be checking out so many girls every day (wondering eyes) and my wife would never do the same. I already told my wife about this because I felt guilty. However I still feel temptations and they probably won't ever stop.I can't shake the feeling that I would like to experience being with more women. Just looking for some perspective and experience.

Someone you’re seeing / talking stage / interested in.

Hi I'm 30M, 1 last year I was "chasing" / contacting a woman I like (age 36), she was sending mixed signals and friendzoning me but sometimes spending decent time with me in social networks... finally things pushed forward, we met several times like late night talks outside etc.

Then we met at my apartment, I made her finish twice with different techniques but when it was time for penetration, anxiety started to kick in, I dont know why but I couldnt get erection...

It happened for the first time in my life but it's very hard to process/accept as I got very nervous and said a lot of silly things which ended in her ghosting me, telling to work on my nerves...

I have a normal sex life and one moment when it was the important I failed... Any similar experiences?

I’ve noticed a massive imbalance whenever I go out to events, social meetups, food festivals, or travel places. The crowds are almost always overwhelmingly female. It genuinely feels like women are out there packing their schedules, traveling the world, and experiencing life, while most guys are just missing out and staying home

I've always been curious about this.

When you're around other men (friends, coworkers, family, etc.) and your wife isn't there, how do you usually talk about her?

Do you mostly mention her in passing ("my wife and I..."), brag about her, vent about frustrations, avoid talking about her altogether, or something else?

I'm interested in hearing from married men of all ages and relationship lengths. Has the way you talk about your wife changed over the years? And what do you think influences that?

Genuinely curious to hear different perspectives.

That's it. That's the question. Just why?

You know, they say that you have a good quality to offer in order to attract a partner. What's yours? What can you offer?

Does your wife or girlfriend nag? Or is she simply to asking you to take out the trash for the 30th time?

Why do you think that’s nagging? If you would’ve done it the first time she asked, do you think she would repeat herself? So this nagging we hear from our women isn’t actually nagging it’s her begging us to be the man of the house and do our part.

What is your opinion?

Edit : I fear some of these men have accountability issues. If you say you’re gonna do something do it. If you’re busy, say so. If you can’t do it right now, but next month, Set that expectation. You can’t get mad at your wife for asking when you said you’d do it but didn’t give a time line.

If she asks me something and I’m actively doing something else. I say that. And if I can’t do it now, I say I’ll get it done by x time.

Also. Trash was one example I could think of. Yea she can take the trash out. But if either person is in the relationship is looking at a mess or a task that needs to be done. While you’re not doing anything else. You can simply just do the task.

I’m unsure why this made a few of you blow up and reply aggressively but that’s a different topic.

Context- I’ve been seeing a man for over a year and we’ve traveled together, see one another several times a week, and established exclusivity. I found out earlier this year that I’m pregnant (unplanned!) and he is saying he has never wanted to be a dad and doesn’t want the baby, however we are past the point of no return in terms of making a “decision” together. Has anyone experienced this from the man’s perspective and how did it turn out? If you walked away, did you end up returning or have any regrets in regards to that? If you stayed and are glad you did, what was the turning point?

I have a friend who was dating a girl and she ended up cheating on him big time, so he completely left his Instagram for good. But his bio was still her name with a heart. Do you guys tend to just not care about your profile anymore or update it after such big events?

EDIT: Thank you to the men that replied! Much appreciated and it helped me understand more on how guys think at times because I was confused why it didn't bother him that much since he started dating someone right now for about five months with a girl that isn't on Instagram.

I was excited about my new XM6 earbuds and have been talking about how good they were all week. My wife accidentally washed them in the laundry 3 days after I got them and they are broken now.

Yesterday when I came home, she had somehow, and I'm still kind of confused and mystified about how she pulled this off solo, completely and securely hogtied herself totally naked on the bed with leather restraints and chains and had blind folded and gagged herself and taped a new pair of headphones to her ankle cuffs with a note that said she was sorry.

I was worried when she didn't answer the phone or greet me at the door and I ran through the house looking for her and calling her name. I was met with quite the view when I opened the bedroom door.

just wondering about men's friendships in general.

If you're the kind of guy who doesn't usually talk much to women or tends to keep to yourself around them, but there's one woman you're comfortable bantering with, playfully calling her short, making jokes, roasting each other, what does that usually mean from your perspective?

Is that typically because you see her as a close friend and you're comfortable enough to joke around? Or is that the kind of dynamic that's more likely to happen when you're at least somewhat interested in her?

I'm just curious how you tend to behave and whether your reasons differ depending on whether she's just a friend, someone you're interested in, or simply someone you click with.

I'm 24 back in 2021 I met a girl through the internet and we liked each other and for a while we were supposed to date, but she suddenly decided to block me without an explanation, I tried to reach out for her multiple times but she didn't want to talk to me and my tryings have turned out so badly on me

Now almost 5 years I still think about her everyday, even though I tried dating multiple other girls I always compared between her and the other girls and the comparison went so far because the that fucked me over was so gorgeous and was very one of a kind beauty

So any way how did get over a very gorgeous girl you almost dated? And how do you even get over your first heart shatter?

I want to be far, but I don't want to live like cavemen anyway. I mean I don't have any problem with technology. I just want to live in a peaceful place without anxiety, financial challenges and things like these.

My body count is unusually high, but my friends keep trying to get the number out of me. I don't want to say it because I feel it's like asking a high earning friend what their salary is. I don't want to be judged or people to hate on me for it. I'm married with kids now, but my number is between 350-400. Even reddit threads that ask, people think I'm lying or downvote me so I don't say anything. I'm decent looking but never had much money or talent. I just invested all my time and money into dating, going on about 10 dates a month during the golden age of dating apps.

Any other high volume straight guys? Do you guys talk about it?

Myself and COUNTLESS others have toxic family members. I personally have cut off most of them but it took me getting sober to be able to actually put my foot down. Better late than never right? That was almost 5 years ago. Flash forward to today and i find out extremely disturbing details about my childhood and I can't deal with it. I feel anger, like extreme amounts of anger. My partner is more of a just vent but I don't have advice, which is very helpful at times but sometimes I just want a hug. How do you deal with your spouses toxic family members?