I can sense that I’m bi, I feel it and I know it, but at the same time I don’t want to be around other queers

I 20m, want to get Tinder just to see what’s out there but am afraid someone I know will see me on it or if I should just wait till I go back to school in the fall. I mostly am interested in guys and am just scared that people will know in my hometown if I’m swiping right on guys. This is probably all irrational but anyway some advice would be great!

As far as women are concerned, I am sexually attracted only to very muscular females. Am I still bisexual? Do you feel my sexual attraction toward very muscular women is just an extension of my sexual attraction toward muscular men?

I have begun exploring my sexuality. Im in my 40s and considered myself straight. However there have been times where I have been sexually attracted to very feminine men.

Ultimately I think my attraction is to femininity. What genitals they have sorta doesn't matter after that. In fact I think I would suck a dick just as happily as I would eat out pussy if it was attached to a beautiful feminine person.

So I don't know how this shakes out. Am in bi, straight, or is there some other term for this that I don't know.

As a bi guy, will bottoming affect my feelings on straight sex?

I'm bi, but romantically I'm far more into girls, and while I am attracted to some men, I've not had penetrative sex either way with a man (I have with women), but I have sucked dick and had my dick sucked (both genders feel equally good)

I have a FWB from my childhood who I used to experiment with, and now sometimes sext with. We usually just send each other our dicks but recently a couple times I've started sending him my ass and we've talked about him fucking me. Obviously a lot of it is just horny talk but there is some amount of interest in actually doing it.

Obviously I'm cautious about the thought of having a dick inside me, but because it's someone I know and trust I'd feel a little safer. But I'm wondering if bottoming changes the way you feel about straight sex. Maybe this is stupid, but if I'm having intense orgasms from anal, am I gonna want to go back to orgasms sex that are less intense? Also should I be doing it with someone where there isn't any sexual tension and it's just purely physical, or is it better to do it with someone I'm attracted to?

I don't come from somewhere where I'd have to be scared to come out or anything so if I was truly gay I'd be fine with that. But even when I go onto dating apps and what not I'm just not attracted to most of the men (whereas I am with the women) and I don't wanna feel like I enjoy sex with one gender more but I'm attracted to the other more. So part of me feels like I should not worry about that curiosity? Or is the best party always experimentation?

So basically I'm wondering how other bi guys who bottom feel about sex both ways.

So, I was just thinking abt this. I’m not sure abt my future but I think there’s a possibility that I’ll eventually end up with a woman, settle down and have a family. I think many bi guys can relate. In that case do you see yourselves telling your kids that you’re bi or do you think it’s not relevant and will mess with their heads? If yes, at what age is it appropriate for them to know? Ik my partner is gonna know for sure but I’m not sure abt sharing that with the kids lol.

I recently came out as bi to my wife (28F). She loves the idea and she’s been incredibly supportive. She’s actually excited for me to explore this side of myself, as long as we’re open and honest.

The thing is… I’ve never been with a guy before. Most of my experience has been fantasy, flirting, and sexting, but I’ve always known that I like big dick. And I think I have a pretty good ass for a bottom lol

My biggest challenge is discretion. I value my privacy, don’t want to risk my marriage or professional life, and have no idea how people actually meet other bi/gay guys safely and respectfully.

For those who’ve been in a similar situation, how did you take that first step? Any advice on navigating this while keeping things low-key, staying safe, and respecting my relationship?

got a bj from guy in a threesum and it was amazing but am i still straight

I’m calling a lot of you guys out because I feel the same way. Do you have a friendship or bromance with a guy you secretly or desperately have a crush/romantic feelings towards? Does he know or you’re keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself? Do you suspect he knows? Do you think he’ll give you a shot?

I always find myself in these situations with and I made the important discovery of understanding they’re not the ones and that’s ok. I still remain in contact with some and others I haven’t seen/heard from them in a while but it hurts knowing we can’t be a thing but at the same time I’m glad we had our friendship and I’ll always love you til the end of time but anyways what are your stories?

Hey guys,
I used to have regular experience with guys and loved every bit of it, but then life took a turn and I was in a long relationship. Now that it’s over, I’m finally easing my way back into the scene.
I’m 6'4", well-built, mostly bottom/flex vers, and just looking to take things slow, enjoy the fun, and vibe with respectful guys. No rush, no crazy expectations, just naturally enjoying it again.
For those of you who took a long break (or made the shift later on) — how was your experience getting back into it? Did it feel different the second time around?

so i’m a straight male - always been bi curious and done very little with guys before maybe 3-4 times giving and receiving head

about a year ago i discovered my love for wearing women’s lingerie and sucking a dildo and trying to use it on my ass
it’s crazy some of the best nuts of my life from just wearing lingerie and sucking a fake dick

but i keep throwing the stuff away - reordering and rinse and repeat to not get caught

what do i do - what am i - am i a weirdo
lmk

I’m in my late twenties and have an issue when I’m with a girl sexually sometimes “I hope” I get an erection before sex and rush to put it in before I go soft. I feel like sex with women I’m all in my head worried about things like size, hoping I don’t go soft, hoping I perform well but in the gym just looking at certain guys will turn me on. Has anybody experienced this, I’ve never been intimate with a guy but it gives me HOCD because it makes me feel like what if it’s not performance anxiety but maybe I’m not bi but really gay? Anybody experience this?

Hey bros - some background: I’m a 42 year old guy. Have been “straight” for most of my life. Started getting curious about men a year or two ago. Tried to ignore it. Didn’t work lol.

I’ve been thinking about booking a weekend trip to a gay clothing-optional resort in Palm Springs, just to see how I feel being in a predominantly gay space, maybe see how I like flirting with men, just as a way to lightly test the waters.

What do you think of this idea? Is it dumb? Have you been to any of these resorts? What’s the vibe like? Would a curious guy be welcome?

The impetus for this question is pure curiosity stemming kind of randomly from watching an old episode of Tales From The Closet on Dropout 24/7, where Grant Obrien was talking about being Bi, and it just made me wonder if Bi people tended to be equally attracted to men/women/enby/etc, or if they sometimes favor one gender over another, and how that correlates to typical hetero pairings.

My first thought was that it would seem that people obviously would have gender preferences just like how anyone as preferences in partner.

I try to relate by thinking about my preferences, and how my wife actually doesn't represent a lot of those preferences, but that I now appreciate those qualities in her because they are part of a whole that Iove entirely.

The other analog that came to mind (As a straight person just trying to relate) would be of hair color. I have preferences for hair color, but it's not something that would be exclusive, where I would just be not attracted to a blond person versus a redhead, but that I just find redhead MORE attractive. Like, hair color is a trait that can only be additive to attraction, but not subtractive, while someone being a man would make them inherently not sexually attractive to me.

So, I am very interested in feedback on this so I can better understand the experience. If you stuck with this self-indulgent blathering, I very much appreciate your time.

Disclaimer: Halfway through writing this question, I realized that I could just google the answer to this, so I did. Now please treat this as me just being interested to hear your personal experiences with this, rather than you answering a question about the (Obviously varied and not monolithic) Bi experience, because even though I got the answer from Google, I'm still really curious about what it's like for different individuals.

I am bicurious but would be a bottom, I was wondering what I could do if I'd try something with a man who's also a bottom.

Now let's say for this question that both bottoms are vers on blowjobs.

Would love to hear what you do or what you think would be nice to do.