Sometimes they cry their eyes out cause they didn't expect you to fight back.

A little over a year ago I was 210lb at 6ft.

I didn’t do a dramatic cut or a big bulk. I did a recomp, losing fat and building muscle at the same time. For anyone skinny-fat reading this: this is the path. The scale barely moved for me (210lb → 195lb), which is exactly why recomp is so demoralizing early on and why most guys quit. You have to learn to trust the mirror over the scale.

What I actually did:

Training - 4 days a week, progressive overload on the basics. Nothing exotic. Compound lifts first, tracked every session, added weight or reps whenever I could. Consistency over intensity. I never missed two weeks in a row the entire year, and that’s the whole secret.

Nutrition - I ate slightly under maintenance and hit 0.8g-1g per lb bodyweight of clean protein daily. Recomp lives and dies on protein and on being patient with a small deficit.

Sleep and stress - underrated. When I fixed my sleep, everything else accelerated.

What I didn’t expect was how much it bled into the rest of my life. Walking into rooms differently. Holding eye contact. The discipline of showing up to the gym when I didn’t feel like it rewired how I handle everything else - work, difficult conversations, all of it. The body was almost a side effect of becoming someone who keeps promises to himself.

If you’re skinny-fat and stuck: pick a program, hit your protein, stay consistent, and give it a full year before you judge it. One year is not a long time. You’ll blink and it’ll be gone whether you train or not.

Happy to answer any fitness questions if it helps anyone.

Hi everyone, I’m looking to meet up and network (make some new friends). Im located in the San Jose area and I’m interested to see how local the people are in this sub. I think its good to start a club since we pretty much already share similar mindsets.

I’m Asian American myself. I notice a lot of times, Asians are extremely non confrontational. In the video you can clearly see the guy’s body language as very nervous-like. He glances to the side and does not make strong eye contact when making these rebuttals.

When his friend tells him to stop, he listens immediately instead of arguing back. Yes this is the smart move as to not escalate the situation, but there are times where PRIDE is on the line. Then he starts covering his mouth while chewing.. I’ve literally only seen girls do that.

Nervously poking the food and not making eye contact when the racist guy goes on a rant.

I’ve been in this situation before so I know what it’s like. I’m sure many of you have grown up being the asian minority and facing racist bullies. Only once have I ever acted nervously like the guy in the video. On that day, I promised myself to never be a jokey pushover again.

Some of these asians don’t seem to break out of their shell. They stay submissive and choose peace over conflict. I have several not-so-close friends exactly like the guy in the video. I think everyone knows this type.

- excessive matcha/boba consumption
- tattoo to compensate for lack of perceived toughness
- almost feminine like mannerisms
- embracing gay/repulsive jokes
- earrings
- heavily into fashion

There is nothing wrong with doing any of these things. My problem is that many young asian dudes nowadays don’t know how to separate comfort from conflict. I’m talking about the comfort of being with groups of other asians, gaming all day, being in their safe environment like schools or casual asian hangout spots. When conflict does arise, they brush it off as humor to cope with the fact that real a-holes are entering their domain of comfort. It’s all they know.

It certainly has gotten better over time with the rise of social media. Asians have adamkyu and joseph shin, two fitness influencers that have pushed the image of asian masculinity into mainstream feeds. There is also a rise of anti-stereotypical asians as well. More asians are wearing stussy and dark street wear clothing. Many of my friends have gained

Let me know what y’all think.

HK movies have set a standard that's influenced even Hollywood themselves, and the future is bright with some more upcoming greatness:

>Twilight of the Warriors: Walled In is a massive commercial and critical triumph, becoming the highest-grossing local Chinese-language film in Hong Kong history and dominating the 43rd Hong Kong Film Awards with nine wins, including Best Film and Best Director.

Girls fawned over Terrence Lau

If you haven't already, please go watch it. They are making a sequel and did some recent filming in HK. Dunno about you, but I can't wait.

Another film that's finished filming in HK is a spin off, John Wick: Caine

If you're a fan of Donnie Yen, mixed martial arts and action, this is another film to look out for.

Other notable mentions and must watch:

The original Infernal Affairs: received international acclaim and was packed with awesome actors, portrayed strong AM leads, both good and bad characters.

Did you know, it was mistaken as a Japanese film?

> The 2002 thriller Infernal Affairs is a Hong Kong crime drama directed by Andrew Lau and Alan Mak. However, the film is frequently and accidentally mistaken as Japanese—most famously when an awards announcer at the 79th Academy Awards mistakenly identified the Hong Kong production as Japanese while introducing it as the inspiration for Martin Scorsese's The Departed.

It had inspired "The Departed", however it is not comparable. Infernal affairs will always be the top one.

All these films will have positive rep of AM.

I've been reading about travelers experiences from partying, to meeting new people, and yes to the sex, etc. in hostels mainly in the EU/SE Asia and from reading various posts, the hostel culture seems "tribal" to a degree. I am curious (maybe even taking a trip in the near future) if AM are "accepted" in a way and in the same way when they do join those same hostels as other western folks. Is racism an issue? Are people inclusive towards AM? Are AM "accepted" or excluded?

Hi guys,

I have been using Hinge for awhile and I change to many dating locations for experimenting and so far England is been the most successful for me. I live in Northern Europe and dating is super hard. Until I tried England, now I know it's not all about me.

I have seen a lot of you complain about England, like strong Hollywood influence against Asian, but now I don't know. France so far is the most difficult for me

So the people over at AMAZN put on the 1st ever Asian Football Retreat. Much respect to them. 3 of the mentors below are all heritage Asians aka not full blood. Majority of the kids that came are all heritage Asians as well.

I know football is the most physical sport one can play and most Asian parents don't really encourage this sport but the question has to be asked regarding the racial make up of this event.

And please correct me if I am wrong I don't think there was 1 kid participating that came from 2 Asian Parent Household.

THE AWAKENING

Nikko Remigio - current Kansas City Chiefs wide receiver ( his dad is Filipino and mom is black/white )

Norm Chow - Former Tennessee Titans offensive coordinator , various collegiate coaching positions ( He's Hawaiian and has Chinese and Portuguese lineage)

Roman Gabriel III son of the only Asian-heritage NFL MVP ( his dad is Filipino/white mom is white )

I’ve been working on my anger management issues with a psychiatrist for the past year, the question that constantly get thrown back at me is always lead back to “why do you care?”. In regard to my work stress it really helped me tackle work with a more zen attitude, my performance stayed the same but my mental health improved a lot.

However when it comes with dealing with my parents, it feels like these gweilos are totally unsuitable for us.

My parents have been in Australia for 30 years plus now, they have made no effort to learn not just English but basic adult responsibilities. I’ve been taking care of all their bills and paperwork since I was a child, calling up customer service when things go wrong. Last year I told them they need to take ownership of their own stuff.

Well it’s blowing back on me My dad got into a car collision. Me, with my mental health in a much better state now, helped them called up, just to find out that they haven’t paid for their insurance in over a year now and there’s no way for them to be covered (this is also the second time this has happened). Now I will have to pay for the damages because my parents are terrible with money. I got pretty upset and started lashing out calling them useless, difficult, irresponsible and other horrible things they used to call me when I was a child.

When I tell my shrink about my outburst, her advice was “just ignore it”, “they will find a solution on their own”. Well their solution will be to tell my uncles and aunts how much of a terrible son I am, with leads to my cousins “reaching out for a chat” to persuade me to help. And the shrinks response? “Why do you care?”

I think it’s time for me to find alternative treatment. Thanks for listening to my rant

Looking for honest advice from some older and wiser folks on here.

Lately, I've been trying for a while to get a close friend of mine to come to the gym with me, but he keeps refusing or making excuses not to go.

I don't want to body shame him, but I can't help but feel like he's perpetuating the negative stereotype of AM being physically weak. Like, the dude has the physique of a 12-year-old as a grown man.

There's another AM at my school who is pretty popular and has thousands of followers on social media. However, he is gay and looks like the Asian version of James Charles. All his friends in his posts are conventionally attractive girls of all races. Again, I can't help but feel resentful that he's reinforcing the negative stereotypes of AM being gay and feminine.

What's worse is that those girls he is friends with might start associating AM in general with him, because there's a good chance he is the only Asian guy they're friends with or know. Thus, they'll subconsciously stop seeing all AM as romantic prospects. It doesn't help that there aren't too many Asian people where I live so the stereotyping effect will be much more prevalent as opposed to somewhere like NY or CA.

I understand it's a free country, and everyone is free to make their own choices. There's nothing wrong with being gay, weak, feminine or all of the above. These aren't negative traits in a broad sense.

However, these traits are not something that I, a straight cis AM, want to be associated with. I don't think I need to explain why. These stereotypes have been used to attack and undermine the masculinity of AM for decades.

The real question is, how do we combat undesirable stereotypes against us without alienating or resenting those in our community who perpetuate them? I feel like no matter how many cool, masculine, confident AMs there are, all it takes is one AM who resembles negative stereotypes to drag us back to square one.

Am I overthinking this and being too judgmental? Is this a valid feeling I have, or am I just being insecure? What are your guys' thoughts?

Ok here are my stats
Nyc local
Early 20s
5’8
124lbs
Hinge matches (I only started using on April)
1 match every 2.5 weeks
As for my personalty it really depends on the day tbh, but I try my best to better that.
The last two pics are my current gym progress. I do notice that my arms are on the skinnier side.
Should I improve my prompts get more group pics.
Interested to hear your takes.
Gym advice also appreciated.
Thanks

EDIT:
Does anyones got any good
forearm exercise suggestions

I see a lot of people even in the aznidentity sub arguing about this Naruto Live Action that officially just got confirmed for casting and looking for team 7. A lot of people even fellow Asians are talking about how Naruto should be yt, how Asians do not have blonde hair and blue eyes. Here is my take on it. I'll probably get down voted but it is what it is.

Can we not just have one thing where we are not bottlenecked with stereotypes? Can we have one moment in Hollywood where we can have some representation. Also my defense is this, Naruto, just like any other movie or show is not real life. It is fiction and based off an animation. The fact that yt people really wanna infiltrate this just makes me wonder when they'll ever be satisfied, when they take control over everything? Can we not have just one thing that is OUR thing in the west? Yes Naruto looks "white" but he has powers, really none of them are normal humans, so to use the argument that typical full blooded Asians don't have colored hair or eyes is ridiculous. It's just an excuse to delete more representation for Asians, particularly Asian men.

I was an OG turned good Nammer that became a computer engineer. I got mind fucked by comrade China wife. I didn’t realize how emasculated i became dealing with a bitching wife weekly who is a broke ass without an education and nothing was ever enough. I got into an accident and became a handicapped. my ex wife abused me then divorced me after 3 months. I crawled to take care of myself. My hair grew long and my upper body became built. One day I focus with all my might and finally regain movement in my legs. I cried for the first time in a long time. Telling you all to protect yourself. Pay attention to the liberal red flag. I reconnected with my Jennifer Nguyen and it’s been amazing. She had my love language and I have hers.

Fuck bro, I'm such a pussy. My bro asked me to go help him and his friend fight someone because they were beefing. They were outnumbered (2v3) so they asked me for help. I was at home, and I fucking froze up. I don't know why. He was already an experienced fighter so I thought they had no problem, but he kept asking me since he thought they weren't going to actually fight one on one. Turns out they actually fight one on one so it wasn't a problem, but man I sounded like a bitch. I don't why I froze up and I actually want to get over it and actually help my bros out in case of trouble.

For context, I posted Cha Eunwoo who is well known for his looks in Korea and East Asia to a looksmaxxing sub asking what looksmaxxers think of him. I let them know he’s considered really attractive in Korea. However, it seems like looksmaxxers have a strict criteria of objective beauty for males like a strong cheekbones/ jawline/ hollow cheeks which Eunwoo lacks. Thus, people were calling him around average looking to even ugly. Just want to prove that Looksmaxxing culture is baised through a Western beauty standard even if they claim its objective. My fellow Asian bros, avoid.

Hi guys. Lotus Rising back again. We’re trying to be consistent and hope people can make it. We’re gonna continue to have conversations around mental health in the AAPI community.

If you’re curious and wanna learn more go ahead and check out our insta and just to support also.
Thanks!

https://www.instagram.com/lotusrisingofficial_?igsh=dXlpdXR6b2VwcWR6&utm_source=qr

For starters there are ugly and attractive people in every race, the idea of one race being less appealing than the other beyond some personal preferences is an utter b.s.

That being said a man's social status being linked to his attractiveness level is a real thing. Women compared to men often tend to put status above physical appearance for their dating prospects.

So how does it work in real life? Imagine a girl growing up in a western country, odds are that almost all of depiction of Asian men in media have been some racist & emasculating depictions. She may have met some Asian guys whom she found physically attractive, but due to lack of any positive reinforcement in her mind, rather racist and excluding culture she grew up in she likely never developed any interest in pursuing her liking. She might have scrolled through social media to see some positive examples but all she could see was only the racist remarks like Asian men being less attractive, masculine, sexist and what not. So even without realizing builds up a preference that does not involve Asians.

But then after a decade or so she sees all of a sudden women are into Asian men. With rise of Kpop and Kdrama all of a sudden the Asian men are seen as attractive. Its not that all of a sudden Asian men developed different physical attributes, no its because we started having some sort of social approval in the eyes of women. Now any girl growing up in a racist western country has some sort of social liberty to date a man she finds attractive.

And mind you its not just Kpop Idol look alikes either. Mid chopped Asian dudes can still date and get into a good relationships. Cause said guys were never more chopped than any other guy of different race similar to them in the physical attributes to begin with.

This is why its so important to push back at any social media or real life racist remarks that disregard any of your physical attributes or masculinity. Its a pure racist propaganda that has been build by yt supermacists.

Not referring to pickup. Just general Asian events to meet many Asians. Where to find them in NYC?

video showing Steven O’Bryant beating a 28 year old. I hope the police captured the perp. The victim didn't respond. Most likely to due shock. I read he pepper sprayed the perp 3x and perp got mad.

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?ref=saved&v=1574660810683929

https://np.reddit.com/r/sgv/comments/1uwrzjs/does_anyone_know_this_man/

learn boxing, learn judo,

carry gun and use it

The perp is a MMA fighter. https://www.instagram.com/p/Da1hFNAh5xK/

Update: There was an Instagram comment supposedly made by the perpetrator. The comment claimed that the victim pepper sprayed the perpetrator three times, causing the perpetrator to become angry. However, I have read that the account was fake. Additionally, the victim never agreed not to press charges.

do u guys think i should grow it out a bit more or go for trim. growing up, my hair always is cut extremely short so my head kinda look like a egg sometimes. so imma need some hairstyling recommendations haha

The dreaded thin Asian hair, mid-length curse lol. If you wash it too much it gets too dry (or too hydrated, who even knows at this point what the issue is) and it rounds out, creating the dreaded "helmet head hair" look. Mushroom looking.

You get out the shower, dry it however you do it, wait a bit and it looks good.. For a solid 6 minutes. Then back to flat/round city..

..You always exclusively ask for texturizing after every haircut. They blow dry or brush up after every cut and it looks great. Sitting in your chair contemplating how you can replicate the process.. But never successful at home no matter what appliance you buy or routines you try to copy 🥲

So lol. Anyone out there who knows a pretty solid solution? I'm looking into the usual Sea Salt and etc. recommended.

**PRO TIP**- If you're going for a LONGER 2-block style cut, ALWAYs try to get your sides and back buzzcut to some extent. The biggest issue with the bowl looking problem is how our hair grows out like grass on a lawn, straight upwards and out, which adds unwanted lift/volume that creates a mushroom shape lol. How short you buzz the sides/back is relative to how long your top is so always take note of what style and look your aiming for specifically.

Hoping to get some casual advice from like minded fellow Asian guys.

I'm out here trying to make Asian friends and I got this circle of people who are all Asians, the circle is not that tight, but when I get invited, I always see 4 or 5 people consistently and there will always be others. This one guy who is always there (let's call him Bob) likes to bring up my age every time. I'm less than 4 years older than him, there are people in the circle even older than me. He is in his late 20s and I'm in my early 30s.

situation 1: there was a larger gathering of more than our friend group. Everyone has already introduced themselves to all the unfamiliar faces. Bob is talking to a group of people he just met and I don't know, I hear him say "...[my name] is old...". I went up and told him I heard my name, he says he's just telling these people who old everyone is.

situation 2: a friend outside the group (but mutual with me and another person inside the group) had a bbq and invited a bunch of their school friends. The host asked us to invite our friends so Bob got included. the host is around the same age as Bob so all their friends (met during high school or college) are around the same age. He started asking people whom he just met to guess my age, I wasn't even in the conversation initially.

situation 3+: this has happened many times in many variations. We would be just regularly hanging out and he would say, you are [insert number that is greater than my age] right? I would correct him and say no I am [my age]. Then the topic moves on and age is not relevant to anything.

I have never had an issue with him but I'm noticing a pattern with this almost constant attempts to bring up my age. I have known female friends who are obsessed with being the baby of their friend group, but not guys. No it's not serious but I'm curious what people think is going on.