PHOTO 1: New Palette

PHOTO 2: Old Palette

PHOTOS 3-5: New Floral Inspo for Reference

Hi! I’m in the bride who sought feedback on my previous wedding color palette and got roasted for (1) putting my bridesmaids in colors a lot of people don’t like wearing and (2) throwing spring colors onto a September redwoods wedding.

I did some thinking, realized I didn’t really like most blue flowers anyway and wanted much more organic looking florals.

While I am sticking with the yellows and greens just slightly more muted (because I confirmed the bridesmaids who I thought like those shades on themselves actually do and had some other surprise excitement for the shades!), I did mix up the rest of the palette to account for my cool-toned bridesmaids.

**Big disclaimer since there was a ton of confusion about this: we will NOT be asking guests to wear attire according to the color palette. I wouldn’t do that. JUST the wedding party**

Florals would also be more creams and greens with the mauve, yellow, and espresso shades as accent colors.

While I am slightly scared to ask, I would love to know everyone’s thoughts and if this color palette is more fitting for our venue (redwoods and botanical gardens in September)! Thanks so much!!

We are planning a less than 50 person wedding, as wanted something pretty intimate. In doing so we are not doing plus ones for practically anyone and their "plus one" would be someone who would be invited regardless. Specially as everyone knows and can hang out with at least a few people. There is one exception to this. I have a friend who does not know anyone, would travel out of state, and is also pretty introverted. As of this we sent her an invite for her and a plus one. She has now responded how even though she cannot attend her plus one who we made accommodations for will be there. What do i do?

Could also end stars and butterflies at 0:46 (would just be kind of a quick walk) and then lead into 1:30 of Dawn

I’m just struggling a bit to find a good flow

they’re all from pride and prejudice!!!

Stars and Buttferflies:
https://open.spotify.com/track/7cpVPjdyGplWZLlg66KuWQ?si=udcD3_fKQzKYfkPwGUSEqQ&utm_source=copy-link&rowId=868953356416e636

Dawn:
https://open.spotify.com/track/2k2MprlqkmDMKKOOWGREzW?si=T0-bB_ntT9OSXstit5CVgA&utm_source=copy-link&rowId=1d52bdf1738aaa6c

Liz on Top of the World:
https://open.spotify.com/track/1nd0AX0VYGQb2pF442YqGj?si=k86n_SaEQ6qRfiCZCC4AXw&utm_source=copy-link

I have my first draft of a schedule from my photographer and my HMUA.

The photographer sent me her timeline first. Which I then sent to my HMUA who sent me hers. Something is not right with the two meshing but I'm not 100% sure what needs to change. I've never been in or been to a big wedding before, so this is all new territory for me.

The getting ready timeline is so much earlier than I would prefer (I'm a night person and wanna sleep in lol) but I know getting ready for this sort of thing takes time. I think I should ask the photog to arrive earlier for getting ready photos? My hair and makeup time slot are already done and over by the time the photog arrives and I'd like some cute getting ready photos of me and my friends.

Any suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated as I am lost

Like, I see posts like "wedding plans under 10k", and internet posts like "Our wedding budget is 20k", but when I actually go on the street, the average couples in their 20s and 30s are struggling just to pay their bills and put food on the table. They'd be lucky to have 5 grand to spare for emergencies, let alone on a frivolous expense like a wedding.

I am getting married in 2 months, and it is a small wedding (30-40 people). One of my very good friends is in a new relationship, (<1 month) and she is head over heels for this new guy. She has clearly made a concerted effort for myself and my partner to spend time with them together, we think in part because she wants us to extend the wedding invitation to her new boyfriend.

She is a bit of the type of person who loves hard and fast, and it’s hard to gauge the seriousness of the new relationship, though she has frequently said over the past weeks she thinks they’re going to get married etc etc. I think part of me feels annoyed because it feels like she’s forcing her new relationship onto me and my partner so she gets the invite, it’s also kind of annoying how she is talking about their potential wedding when they just met and my wedding is literally in less then 2 months. I dont know why it just kind of rubs me wrong way and makes me less want to invite him

Until know she has refrained from asking explicitly for a plus one, but today she asked my partner if he could talk to me about inviting her new boyfriend, saying she didn’t want to ask me explicitly and to not say she asked him. My partner obviously relayed all of this to me.

We have given plus ones to people whom we are friends with both parties, or if they are a long term partner/married/engaged.

The guy himself is fine, we don’t feel strongly about him but we have left some people close to us off the list in interest of keeping the wedding very small and don’t really see why I’d invite this relatively random person over other people

What do I do? Do I extend the plus one? Do I talk directly to my friend?

Looking for some songs for the wedding new or old song s

So my wedding is next weekend. I am done with all the wedding planning. How did you guys tell your coordinator how you wanted things to be set up/ decorated? I had my final meeting with her and told her everything I bought for my wedding. She told me to drop off all my stuff the day before at rehersal. Do i print out images and put it in a folder of how I want things to look? Do i just not show anything and let her just handle it? How did you guys do it?

My close friends are getting married this fall and I've been tasked to plan the welcome party! They're renting out a B&B in a Virginia mountain town for the weekend for ~50 guests, so overall a small/intimate vibe for the wedding festivities. The couple will be doing the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner with just their parents and siblings on Friday evening, with the welcome party planned at a nearby brewing later that night for all guests to attend.

We have a private event room at the brewery booked, and the trivia host from the trivia nights the couple and I attend regularly has agreed to travel and put on some special trivia during the welcome party, plus we plan to keep the mic open after trivia for anyone wanting to make a toast/speech.

What I would love your help on, dear Redditors, is brainstorming activities I could have set up at side tables that are a bit more passive and optional! One idea was having a jar and a bunch of popsicle sticks for people to give them date night ideas, many longtime couples will be there so I was thinking a place to give them advice for a long/happy marriage, a map to recommend their next vacation destination, things like that! I'm also thinking of putting together a mini "museum" of their love, with their Hinge profiles printed out, and different items that represent significant milestones or memories they have together.

The goal is to have something people can look at/do if they're feeling a little awkward or introverted, and that people can chose to participate in if they feel so compelled! Any cute ideas that would fit the general vibe are very much appreciated!

I have always enjoyed reading these kinds of posts so now, 3 weeks after my wedding, I decided to write down what went wrong and what went right with my wedding (in my pov). Warning: this is a LONG post lol

WRONGS:

- My veil fell off my head as soon as I greeted my husband down the aisle, and then again when we were finishing walking out. One of my bridesmaids was my hair and make up artist, so she immediately picked it up and put it back on my head. We still don't understand why it would not stay, since she put a bunch of pins lol

- I don't know if I'd say this went WRONG, but I had my grandma make my fake florals right before the wedding (she lives back in my home country and only arrived in town a few days before the wedding), and she didn't have time to make the aisle chair markers I was planning to have.

- My bustle turned out HORRENDOUS lol Not sure if my bridesmaids just didn't know what they were doing with it, but I didn't notice how bad it looked until I saw the pictures.

- We had fans to give out to people for the outdoor ceremony, since it was a summer wedding in California. But the day of the wedding was the coldest and cloudiest summer day you could imagine and from 90 guests, probably only 20 really grabbed the fans. I spent days cutting out tags and tiyng them to the little fan baggies :( BUT, we were dancing so much during the reception that my sister asked the coordinator to bring the fans to the dance floor and a lot of people used them then.

- We had street tacos as our late night snack. Even though the DJ announced it a couple times, everyone was having so much fun at the dance floor that barely anyone had our late night snacks (sadly, because I did and they were AMAZING!)

- I forgot to buy a cute hanger for my dress, so the pictures the photographer took of my dress before I put it on had an ugly plastic hanger in them lol

That's honestly all I can think about going "wrong", but none of those things really mattered in the grand scheme of things. To me, the day was absolutely PERFECT. We felt so loved and we had so so much fun.

Now what, in my opinion, went right and I would absolutely recommend to future brides:

- We went with an all inclusive venue (Redwood Canyon by Wedgewood Weddings) and I cannot stress enough how helpful this was! It took out SO much stress from our backs having multiple planners and coordinators working on our wedding, recommended vendors, a whole team of people answering questions, meetings planned since the very day that we booked the venue. As a type A person, this all helped A TON. I literally told the team after the wedding that I don't know how people actually have weddings without an all inclusive venue lol

- We had a wedding party, but we did not put a bunch of crazy pressure on them at all. We didn't have bachelor/bachelorette trips or parties, we didn't have a bridal shower or any other events other than the rehearsal dinner and the wedding itself. My bridesmaids all live in my home country so they were only in town for the wedding, which contributed to this. I also didn't tell them a specific dress they should wear. I just told them to pick a light pink dress that they like. My husband had one of his guys pick up baked goods from Costco for the desert table the day of the wedding, I had my MOH call the photographer and videographer the morning of to confirm their time of arrival to ease my anxiety, and that was it.

- I booked an Airbnb because the wedding venue was 35 minutes from our place, and we stayed there from the day of the rehearsal dinner (day before the wedding) until 2 days after the wedding. I had my mother and my girls come over the morning of the wedding so we could all hang out and get ready together while my husband hang out with his guys at their hotel, and then my father picked me up and took me to the venue. Best decision!

- We did not do a first look! I was very firm on the idea that I wanted my husband to see me for the first time as I walked down the aisle, and it was perfect! Would not have changed that for anything.

- Bought my fake florals from Shein and they looked amazing! We bought a couple pieces from a florist and they blended so well with the fake ones we diyed.

- For our dance floor, we gave the DJ a playlist that we carefully made together, blending songs that we love to dance to, to classic dance floor songs that we thought our guests would love. We also told the DJ to play 90% from our playlist and to feel out the crowd to add a few songs he would think would be a success based on it. He ROCKED it! Everyone said our wedding was so much fun because the music selection was great and because they saw how much fun me and my husband were having!

- We had a bilingual ceremony. I am Brazilian and my husband is American, and our wedding happened in the US. However, most of my guests from Brazil do not speak English, so we had my aunt translate the whole ceremony and the speeches. My aunt was fortunately friends with our officiant, and they worked wonderfully together to craft a short ceremony so that it wouldn't be to tiring for our guests. It was incredible and I'm so glad my family was able to understand everything that was being said. That was very important to us.

- I wore a $30 pair of low heels from Amazon. They were SUPER simple. I did not want to spend money on shoes that no one would see anyway because it would be hidden under the dress the whole time. My shoes were so comfortable that I wore them all night and didn't feel any pain at all!

- Instead of a cardboard welcome sign, we got a beautiful wooden sign from Etsy that said "Welcome to our forever", with our names and the wedding date. After the ceremony, we laid the sign on our welcome table for guests to sign on them. It turned out SO beautiful and we plan on hanging it somewhere in our house now!

- I had a father and daughter dance and also, a mother and daughter dance. I feel like the mother of the bride doesn't get a moment like that in the wedding, so I wanted to make sure that my mother felt loved and appreciated as well!

- I have some graphic design knowledge (more of an interest as a hobby than a knowledge lol), so I subscribed for Canva Pro for the months leading up to the wedding. It was a great idea! I got to design some of the signage such as the signature drinks, favors, QR code for guests to upload pictures, digital invitation for the rehearsal dinner, table numbers with pictures of us, tags for favors etc. 100% recommend!

- Our coordinator was incredible and fed us the whole time! She brought us apps from our cocktail hour and our signature drinks when we were in the bridal suite waiting for our grand entrance, she made huge dinner plates for me and my husband, cake after the cake cutting and would always bring our signature drinks for us. Before I walked down the aisle, I joked about needing a shot to calm my nerves and she immediately went "vodka or tequila?" and brought it to me. All of this made SUCH a difference for us during the night. We felt spoiled and pampered lol

- We decided to do table touches after calmly eating our dinner and it was a very good experience. We got to talk to and take a picture with each table and thank them for being there.

And that's all I can remember for now! I have diagnosed anxiety, so wedding planning was VERY hard for me. I had so much anxiety in the last couple months before the wedding that I couldn't sleep, I got sick multiple times, I had tendonitis from the nerves and doing diy projects for the wedding, and I even got laid off right after we booked our venue. So to anyone going through wedding planning and struggling, I can tell you it is ALL worth it! I am so relieved we had the best day ever, but now I kinda wish I could go back haha

If you have any questions, feel free to message me too and I'll be happy to help :)

Groomsmen would be in the warm navy, 9 bridesmaids would be in a mix of all the colors. 3 bridesmaids are our sisters, who would be wearing some kind of floral pattern, while the other bridesmaids would wear non-patterned dresses.

Would love to know thoughts on this color palette overall for our September redwoods wedding but also for the wedding party specifically! Thank you!!

As someone in the midst of planning a Bachelorette party- Is this typically more stressful than fun? Because I feel like people act like this is supposed to be fun to be in charge of but its been stressful and overwhelming. I usually like leading things and love a group hang- especially all ladies! But this has felt like a lot of pressure and coordinating with people who aren't "your people" and walking budget lines when you have some people saying basically no money feels impossible.. I would love to know other people's experience with this..

Hi, I'm about 45 days out (eek!) and keep circling back to first dance song options.. as a couple who doesn't really have "a song" but really likes music, this is quite difficult. We made a list, narrowed it down a bit, danced around in the living room ... and still kind of like them all.

I figured I'd ask for any thoughts or feedback that come to mind - kind or unkind lol

Quick context: historic venue, likely this dance opens up the dancing portion of the reception after dinner, weather-dependent dancing will be on a rooftop, we're hoping to not just sway (not that there's anything wrong with that) but probably won't manage more than a loose box step with a few turns

1. Spandau Ballet - True
2. Yazoo - Only You
3. OMD - Souvenir
4. Cocteau Twins - Cherry-coloured Funk
5. Crowded House - Don't Dream It's Over

If any of these makes you smile or gives you major ick, please say - obviously one of these may cross the line into "wedding meme" territory but idk .. and the longer one will definitely be cut/used as an opportunity to invite other couples/guests to join

I know I can do whatever I want, and I will; I'm just curious what other people think of these songs who haven't been listening to them on repeat for weeks and aren't worried about hurting my feelings

I so so SO appreciate ANY input here

X-O-X-O,
Burned-out bride-to-be

My wife and I are going to be in a destination wedding. It’s going to be like $5k total but I’m fine with that aspect.

What I find ridiculous is also expecting a big bachelorette that includes $1.2k+ in travel and likely another $500+ in activities/expenses. I’m looking at shelling out $10k+ (wedding plus activities there plus both parties), which just feels insane.

I don’t want to fracture the relationship and say no. We could afford it and they know it, but is it reasonable to expect this degree of financial commitment?

For context, everyone is late 20s upper middle income ($150k-$220k HHI).

My fiancé and I are newly engaged. We are both 23 and will start our last semester of college in August. He is planning on becoming a Game Warden and if anyone knows about that it’s a sort of lengthy process with getting accepted, academy etc. Right now he has a landscaping business that we both are involved in. Anyway his Game Warden stuff kind of puts a wrench in planning. He will apply in December and won’t even know for a few months. We were wanting to get married in Fall 2027 or Spring 2027 however if he does get accepted to the academy he will be gone for 8 months. He would have to travel back home the wedding weekend, get married, and go straight back. We don’t want to do this. So we then thought about 2028 but don’t really want to wait that long either. If we choose 2027 we should start planning pretty soon though so it’s not like we can just wait around. Wondering if anyone has ideas on this maybe we haven’t thought about or has been in a similar situation?

Also just thinking about wedding planning has me overwhelmed loll. We are going to have a small wedding 50-100 guests max. We don’t want to go into an enormous amount of debt so we want it very affordable. So a wedding planner is out of the question. I don’t even know everything you need to plan for. Not sure how to or where to start. These are the things I have on my list. If anyone has any tips or ideas plllleaaseee leave them below!!

First
☐ Decide on Spring? or Fall?
☐ Set a budget
☐ Make a rough guest list
☐ Tour & book venue

Vendors
☐ Caterer (if needed)
☐ DJ or playlist
☐ Officiant

Attire
☐ Dress & shoes
☐ Suit
☐ Wedding ring (fiancé’s )

Details
☐ Wedding party?
☐ Florist
☐ Cake/desert
☐ Hair
☐ Makeup
☐ Invitations
☐ Save the dates (optional) (travel?)
☐ Favors? (optional)

Last
☐ Marriage license
☐ Final guest list & RSVPs
☐ Seating chart ??? (optional)
☐ Day-of timeline
☐ Final vendor payments
☐ Confirm vendors week of wedding

Alright so I made a post a week ago about the eloping feeling and today it’s 100% become more intense.
So we are getting married at a registry office and then going to a food market for the reception, however the food market now is costing us a lot more in food and drink so 3 months out we are scrambling to find a cheaper alternative that has food and drink included.
We found a beautiful venue that has both ceremony and reception for under 10k. ( current is costing us 15 for reception only. ) the catch is, they don’t have our date available, but the day before or 2 days after. So I scrapped that originally, I enquired for a few other places and shared it with my mum who knocked back every. Single. One. Because they were “too expensive” but then would send me options that are double if not triple the price of the ones I sent for just reception only.
I am waiting to hear back from one more reception only option before we decide on what to do, however note, the few family flying in are flying in early to mid morning on the 29th for the original wedding on the 30th.

Here is where I am being labelled a bridezilla. I showed mum the quote for the ceremony and reception option and she saw it was for the 29th and not the 30th she started going on a tangent about how I am being so unreasonable for moving the wedding forward by a day. That I need to think about everyone else who is attending my wedding. So I turned around and said to her that I was sick of listening to everyone else about our wedding, I’m sick of making everyone else happy apart from us. She said that it’s not fair that I am saying that I’m making everyone else happy when they’re travelling to come to my wedding, I then asked my cousin what date and time they are coming in, she informed me that they hadn’t even booked flights yet and asked why, I said that we are potentially moving it forward but not sure yet because of the venue, just waiting to confirm what we are doing. Apparently she told everyone that we are moving it forward and then everyone called my mum
To confirm to which she then ripped into me saying that I am selfish for only telling one side of the family and not the family that’s close to us, that I have created such a huge problem and need to stop throwing a hissy fit.

We gave up our proper wedding dream because we got backlash on it, so we opted for the registry office and a food market to “save costs on a stupid wedding” - family’s words.

I ended up having my first breakdown over this wedding from build up anger, not being listened too, continuous guilt for actually wanting something for our day. We just wanted our wedding to feel like a wedding you know, so far it’s just feeling like it doesn’t matter to anyone else but us.

I probably am the bridezilla, just today I hit my limits, my bachelorette party isn’t even for me, it’s for everyone else. - I’m not a big drinker but the whole bachelorette is about drinking. I said I want to cancel it and asked to just do a dinner, was completely ignored.

The wedding, we had a beautiful venue that was all inclusive and was meant for 2027 but my mum didn’t like that or liked how far away it was and kept sending me other options, we gave in and booked a registry office wedding. We then said we’ll do the big wedding a year later, and then was talked out of that by everyone so we booked a reception at the food markets.

My wedding dress, I wanted a black wedding dress, my mum and MOH literally plotted to just pull white ones, when I tried on coloured options it was all about my skin tone, that I am too pale for it, that black doesn’t suit me ( didn’t get to try black because they were in the smaller sample sizes but held them Up against me )dwindled down my entire confidence and I just settled for a white one, they both high fived and giggled like they succeeded. I cried to the consultant who said that I do not need to get a dress that day, but I was 4 months out from the wedding and needed one.

I finally snapped today, the stress has gotten to me so bad now that we are contemplating just cancelling all together and doing something with just him, myself and our daughter no family on either side.

I can’t decide if I just want to have a baby straight away or will I feel fomo for not having a wedding. I really am having extreme baby fever and just want something to give love to however I’m not sure if I want a wedding. I can’t decide.

Hey peeps:)

My wedding is soon approaching!🥳 I feel like I’m SWAMPED in all sorts of questions and deadlines. I don’t want to miss the details of the day.

For context: I’ve pretty much planned my whole wedding with my mom and sister. I decided to last minute get in contact with an actual wedding planner/day of coordinator. I’m meeting with her this week and I want to go ahead and have things lined up to discuss. I have all of my vendors except hair and makeup. I’m really looking to tie everything together now in a schedule/timeline.

What are some details I can discuss with my planner or be thinking about myself? Things like- Where will the flower girls be once they walk down the aisle? Etc, etc, etc. Small things most people probably wouldn’t notice, but make the day run smooth and feel put together!

TYIA!!🩷

I’m planning to get ready in a cabin with 3 friends & my mom (no bridal party).

Fiancés parents are divorced & aren’t the biggest fans of each other. MIL asked to get ready at cabin with us.

Step MIL has been highly involved in wedding planning & MIL has not. Therefore, it wouldn’t be fair to invite only MIL to get ready with me & not step MIL too. In my opinion.

I don’t really want tension, though. They can coexist but there’s definitely some backhanded comments, etc.

Should I invite both of them…or neither? Alternative is both MIL + step MIL help fiancé get ready. Either way, they’d have to coexist. Just depends if I feel like being a part of it, and I’m not sure.

WWYD?

Edit for context: my mom has already invited MIL to get ready with us without asking me. So she would need to be disinvited.

UPDATE: MIL will be getting ready with groom, SMIL will be getting ready with me.

I posted in here a few months back how I am nervous to give a speech and will need a beta blocker.
I took into consideration everyone’s advice and finally made my rough draft.
I am the maid of honor for my little sisters wedding.
I would appreciate feedback and maybe some help with the ending.
Thank you!!

When Bride asked me to be her maid of honor, She said you only have to give a speech if you want to. Well, I didn’t want to. In fact, I can’t think of a single time in my life when I have wanted to give a speech. But then I quickly realized, if there’s one person in this world that I want to give a speech for, it’s Bride, my baby sister, one of the greatest gifts I’ve been given in life.
There are 4 chambers of the heart. Most people do not learn this for a number of years, but I was born knowing. The fact that my heart would be divided into 4 pieces was as much a part of me as it was my biology.
The three of you( look at all three of my sisters)- make me human.
You make me alive. Your beat- constant, rhythmic, unfailing, sometimes racing, broken, bursting- I’ll spend the rest of my time on this earth thanking God that I landed in your little orbit.
And now, Groom gets to be apart of this orbit.

Groom- the only man who is worthy of loving my sister the same way I do. (***don’t love this line so could use help ***)
It’s not because he spends 90% of his vacation days with my family, or because he so lovingly took on the title of uncle potato to my kids. Although those things are great.
It’s because Groom is kind, loving, gentle, genuine, funny, and encouraging.

Bride, you were one of the first people I ever loved, and I am so grateful you found someone who loves you the way you deserve. (*** also need help with this part***)

I’m going to be the maid of honor at my friend’s wedding next year and have started trying to work on the speech. My friend and I live in different cities, so I’ve only met her partner once and didn’t get a very good sense of them. I could easily make a speech about my friend and everything I love about her, but I don’t really have anything to say about her partner or their relationship. I haven’t been to any weddings in my adult life so I’m not really sure if speeches are absolutely always about the relationship, or if I would be able to make a speech almost entirely about my friend and why I think she would be a good wife and how I’ve seen her develop especially as it comes to relationships, or if that would be seen as rude to her partner. Also probably important to note that this is a gay wedding and will be fairly small and not super traditional.

It is a long story. I have been putting hours and hours, like 300+ hours, and hundreds of dollars worth of things into MOH things and surprises for her, and today she decided to blow up at me. It was incredibly unprovoked, like actually. She said some truly terrible things to me. Among them, what hurt the most, is that she screamed that she has to go to therapy because of how awful I was as a 10 year old child, and I never changed. My parents think I should just get over it, because they have always picked her side in everything, because she has always been the favorite child. Her bridal shower that I flew in for is tomorrow. She has made herself abundantly clear how much she loathes and resents me. My mom told her to apologize to me, because I told my mom I am going to stop all the things I have been working on for her, which is a lot. I wasn’t interested in her fake apology. It was a very bad blow up, and like truly unprovoked. I don’t want to be her MOH, I don’t want to go to her shower, I don’t want to go to her wedding that is in less than two months. What do I do?

My boyfriend’s brother is getting married at the end of August. He’s the best man, so I’ll be getting ready by myself.

I’m not a bridesmaid, but naturally the bride and I have gotten somewhat close since my boyfriend and I started dating. She mentioned a few months ago that I may be able to get my hair and makeup done with her bridal party if the artists have time.

I’m totally fine if I can’t get ready with them. But, how do I ask if I can? I’m not good at doing my hair so I was going to book a hair appointment, and I need to book that in advance.

Thank you!

How many brides still stick to this tradition?

I’m working on an art project (bridal specific) and was trying to figure out if the ‘something blue’ I had planned is redundant.

Thoughts?

THANK YOU! I can’t respond to everyone but absolutely love reading what you planned for your own wedding. Some of them are so incredibly sweet. ☺️

Mom went off and did drugs, my sister was my mother figure growing up and my best friend. Getting married in October, any suggestions.