I love tarot and I love helping people gain insight into their situations.

However, there is a huge downside to this here (and elsewhere) wherein the recipient just doesn’t appreciate it, tries to take advantage (despite set boundaries), or is just plain ungrateful or disrespectful about it.

It’s disheartening, but I don’t want to stop doing them. What is the best way to go about this? Other readers I know say DON’T do this at all (which is understandable considering the bad interactions they’ve had) and that I should charge. However, I don’t feel right charging just yet, and considering how prolific tarot scammers are on here and Etsy, I imagine customers would be extremely wary of me.

Would love to hear everyone’s thoughts!

Context: I asked if my tarot cards gave me the right answer when I asked them a question or do they try to trick me. Everytime I try to do a tarot rrading on myself, the messages are hard for me to interpret.

INTERPRETATION:

7 of cups:

When I do tarot readings on myself, the answer is right infront of me ( red aura cup). However, with the clouds surrounding the cups, I always get confuse on the meanings of the cards or I put different interpretation to satisfy what I want to see in reality. ( what I'm trying to say is that something I prefer to interpret the cards in how I want my reality to be rather than what the cards are really saying despite it being right in front of my face). Especially since the red cup is the only one which is glowing and the rest is in confusion (cloudy).

8 of wands: with the mountains in the background, i should be more grounded with my interpretation but also since the 8 of wands deals with movement, as time goes by, I will gain more understanding over time.

Also with the river going straight and flowy in the background, I should not let my emotions confuse and consume me but be neutral in my readings.

9 of wands:

To be honest I'm lost here.

I believe it saying that with the eight of wands behind and the man being stuck on this one particular wand. It means that I always reshuffle my cards to try to gain the answer I want to hear rather that I need to hear. Especially since behind the 8 of wands, there are mountains which symbolize I need to be grounded when I do my readings and not stucked on what I want to hear.

Also the 8 of wands behind the man behind straight and with the mountain, this means by being grounded in my readings, I will realise that the answer are straightforward. Compare to the wand that the man is holding, it is curvy (not straight unlike the rest), this means that I try to adjust the readings to my reality when everything is straightforward.

Bottom of deck: 10 of wands:

This one is also tricky to interpret.

The man hiding his face in the wands tells me that searching for a specific answer in the cards start to become a burden itself.

Color blue symbolism:

The messages should be interpret when intution, patience and emotional awareness rather than being too emotional. Especially since in the 8 of wands, the river flowing is calm and straight.

Answer to my question:

Yes they give me the right answer but I should focus on trusting my intuition, focused on being grounded and take the messages of what they are giving me rather than reshuffling to get the answers that I want to hear.

I also really like how the numbers in all four cards follow: 7,8,9,10 but also how three wands came out with the number following the previous one.

Tarot deck: classic tarot by rider smith

Spreads: no in particular.

The book that comes with the deck doesn't specify what the symbol means and Google didnt get me anywhere

Hi everyone. I’d really love some fresh perspectives on a spread I did tonight. I’m still learning tarot, and I’m not asking anyone to tell me what choice to make, I’m more interested in how others might read these cards together.

I’ve been going through a difficult time in my marriage and sitting with the question of whether leaving is the right path for me. For this reading, I wasn’t asking “stay or go.” I wanted guidance around myself, especially around healing, intuition, and clarity. I feel that my decision is made to leave when I feel safe, but there is still something indescribable that holds me back.

I worked with Selene, Brigid, and Freyja, each with their own candle.

For Selene, I asked what truth I’m ready to trust, and while I was shuffling, The Hierophant flipped over on its own.

For Brigid, I asked what I should nurture within myself, and Strength did the same, it turned over while shuffling.

For Freyja, I asked where I’m being asked to reclaim my power, and this was the only card I intentionally pulled: the Nine of Wands.

For my final message, I asked what I should carry forward from the ritual. I meant to pull from the top of the deck, but a card at the bottom was slightly out of place and I felt drawn to it. That card was The High Priestess. Afterward, I checked the top card just to see what it would have been, and it was the Four of Cups reversed.

I ended the spread by asking what I need to understand about myself as I make this choice, and I got the Four of Wands upright.

The Four of Wands really hit me. My first feeling wasn’t about marriage at all, it felt like freedom, joy, authenticity, and a sense of home that comes from being fully myself, things that feel lacking in my marriage currently.

The themes I’m noticing feel pretty meaningful to me:

The Hierophant feels like looking at my beliefs and commitments and figuring out what still fits. Strength feels like compassion toward myself and courage to tend to my inner fire.

The Nine of Wands feels like honoring what I’ve been through, protecting my energy, and pacing myself so I don’t burn out.

The High Priestess feels like trusting my intuition, especially when doubt creeps in.

The Four of Cups reversed feels like being open to new possibilities and choosing happiness.

And the Four of Wands feels like moving toward a foundation where I can feel peaceful, authentic, and at home.

My own reflections are that I’m building my own spiritual path, learning from tradition without giving away my authority, nurturing myself gently, honoring my resilience, and trusting my inner voice.

I’m also really curious about the way the cards came out. Two cards flipped over on their own, one card at the bottom caught my eye, and only one was intentionally pulled. I went with what felt right in the moment, and I thanked each deity afterward for their guidance, but I sometimes wonder how other readers handle this.

Do you usually take jumpers as part of the message, or do you prefer sticking to intentional pulls? And when a bottom card feels like it’s calling to you, do you take it? I also shuffled between questions because it felt natural at the time, but I’m curious whether others do the same or keep the deck untouched until the whole spread is finished.

I’m not second-guessing the reading, it felt meaningful and I’m grateful for this spread, but I’m genuinely interested in how different readers balance intuition and structure in spreads like this.

Would appreciate any help and other opinions on this.

For anyone that has found out of a 3rd party involvement from the cards.

What questions would you ask the tarot to gain more insight and clarity?

Did it you already suspect something before the cards highlighted it? Do the cards pick up and reflect your energy of suspicion rather than what’s actually happening? How long did it take for things to come to light after the cards showed you?

If the cards tell you something that’s going on, which you can’t yet see in the 3d, but your intuition tells you there is, despite seeing no other evidence and your partner telling you there isn’t, how much faith would you have in tarot? Enough to make you even more suspicious?

i hope this question makes sense……tarot is a really grounding practice for me but recently, i’ve been turning to it to help me sort out my emotional landscape, and i keep pulling pentacles and wands. the messages i get are loud and clear but i feel like i’ve lost some emotional connection with my deck and i don’t know how to best encourage it to come back.

has anyone encountered something like this before? or how do you read pentacles and wands from an emotional perspective? do i just need to shuffle really well or cleanse my deck in a big way?

i’m not even quite sure how to phrase this. i believe what it tells me is what it wants to hear and i don’t push the same questions on my deck or endlessly pull cards, typically, but i just have lost some touch.