Hello all! Please bear with me as it’s one of my first times posting on reddit. 🙂
Long story short…I am in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend’s sleep/snoring/daytime tiredness is beyond concerning to me. I won’t go into his personal health details but I will say I’m confident he has sleep apnea. He has never addressed it or even seems interested in addressing it with a doctor. I feel as if he doesn’t understand the gravity of the situation and thinks it’s no big deal. It’s terrifying from my perspective considering this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
We’ve met up in person/spent nights together on three separate occasions. The first two times we slept in separate bedrooms as I have severe misophonia (a neurological disorder where specific/repetitive sounds trigger extreme emotional or physiological reactions) and snoring causes me extreme anger to the point of physical/emotional outbursts. Our third time of overnight visits occurred in a hotel room where I was unable to escape the snoring. If there would have been a tub in the bathroom I would have happily slept there. I also contemplated sleeping in my vehicle but I know my boyfriend would have been so incredibly angry. I didn’t want to make him upset so I just laid in bed all night long dying inside. I had my head by his feet as to not be next to his head, ear plugs in, my phone on full volume against the ear plug, and pushed a pillow overtop of that. While it helped a bit I could still hear the snoring and it is all I could focus on. I slept maybe an hour throughout the whole night.
Obviously this is not feasible or sustainable so…I’m reaching out for real world experiences, stories, and advice for him to read. I truly don’t think he understands the effects this has on his everyday life and on his future health. It’s so dangerous to not address this and I’m at a loss of what else to say/do to get him to take it seriously.
Please share all sides of your experience/knowlegde….the good and the bad. It’s really my last ditch effort and maybe hearing it from other people, not just myself, may make a difference for him. I love him so very much and need him around for a long long time.
I appreciate all of you in advance.