Hi everyone, I’m quite new to this subreddit and was wondering how realistic it could be becoming self sufficient and living off grid in the future. I’m asking this because it’s one of my biggest if not my biggest goals and I want to know how feasible it could be and how long it could take.

I still haven’t finished school and have barely thought of working and I always strive to try and build up to getting away- from all the mess and all the negativity and depression from society, and I just love nature too, so I’ve always fantasized about finally having some kind of blissful peaceful solitude in the woods withought having any big worries or burdens except for those that concern me and more simple things - no taxes or money to worry about, only building your cabin or harvesting your own crops.

I really just want to know how soon I can reach this and if I need a big reality check, I know all this sound weird and I’m yapping a stupid ton, sorry.

Just left an abusive rrlationship and bills are past due.. struggling with my mental state after the abuse but bills don't stop.. what to do

simple mathematical formula to reduce life burden:

Life burden = (needs + responsibilities + desires + conflicts) − (health + skills + relationships + acceptance)

Reduce unnecessary desires and conflicts. Increase health, useful skills, meaningful relationships, and acceptance.

I realize that you cannot make any good decisions when you are in a bad emotional or physical state. Most of the time, you will just regret those decisions.

The same person, facing the same problem, makes completely different decisions depending on their state. Tired of me picking fights and making "big pivots." Rested me solves the same problem in an hour. Took me embarrassingly long to see that pattern.

So a few years ago, I stopped asking "what should I do now?" and started asking: "given my current state, what is the best next action?" Over time, that turned into a system I actually use daily. Sharing the whole thing here — poke holes in it.

Live without inspection, on your own piece of earth you’ve found to set-up your life’s dream. 

I live in Yorkshire in the UK and rent, I have a stony garden. I have purchased a few grow bags, compost and have started my own compost bin and worm bin. What foods should I start growing and what else can I do to become as self sufficient as possible? I have a lot of space to work with. And I have a good Woodland access, which has allowed me to forage a few things like nettles for nettle tea.

Does anyone know of anywhere in the U.S. where I could find cheap land to start off on but be close enough to walk to a nearby walkable city or at least one with public transport that can get me back and fourth? Everywhere I’ve seen is either cheap or walkable, not both.

Am I doing something wrong, or is making friends online actually this hard?

This has been bothering me for months, so I wanted to get other people’s opinions.

I’ve always been an ambivert. I enjoy talking to people and making connections, but after college started ending, job hunting took over my life, and I slowly lost touch with that social side of myself.

Around that time, I got really active on Discord.

The idea of having friends from different countries genuinely fascinated me. I joined study servers, friendship servers, and even a few dating servers. Not because I was desperately looking for a relationship, but because I liked the idea of meeting interesting people online and maybe, if things ever got serious, meeting in real life someday.

Here’s what’s confusing me:

Whenever people posted introductions about themselves in servers, I’d message them. Not randomly only people who seemed open to talking.

Out of every 10 people I’d message, maybe 2 or 3 would reply.

Then even those conversations would usually last a few days or a couple of weeks before one of three things happened:

The conversation slowly died
They became increasingly uninterested
They just ghosted completely

And this wasn’t a one time thing.

It’s happened over and over again since last October.

I always try to be respectful. I ask questions, show interest, and try to keep the conversation engaging. The weird thing is that people often seem happy to talk about themselves, but the moment it’s my turn to share things about myself, the energy completely disappears.

After a while I got frustrated and quit Discord around February.

Instead, I focused on things I could control: gym, running, job applications, and finishing my CS degree.

Thankfully, things worked out. I graduated and even landed a job, which I’m incredibly
grateful for considering how rough the job market feels right now.

The problem is that I’m the youngest person in my office by a large margin. Most of my coworkers are older, married, and in completely different stages of life.

So recently I ended up back on Discord, hoping things might be different this time.

But honestly? I’m starting to feel the same disappointment all over again.

What confuses me is that I constantly see people on Reddit talking about how they met their best friends, long term partners, or entire friend groups through Discord, Reddit, gaming communities, etc.

So now I’m wondering:

Is this just the normal online experience and people only talk about the success stories?

Or am I genuinely doing something wrong?

Have any of you actually made real, long term friendships or relationships online?

If so, how did it happen, and what advice would you give someone who's struggling with this?

A lot of people talk about self-sufficiency theoretically, but the reality is a brutal physical fight against the elements. We just got hit by massive storms and hail in the mountains, but the 6x3x2 tunnel greenhouse held up perfectly.
We are growing tomatoes, cucumbers, potatoes, pumpkins, and beets—all integrated with a gravity-fed drip irrigation system that requires zero electricity. No smart pumps, no grid reliance.
This isn't just gardening; it's building a thermodynamic baseline. When you decouple your caloric intake from the corporate supply chain, you achieve a level of sovereignty that cannot be taxed or inflated away.
I just released a short documentary showing this exact physical architecture and how it ties into ultimate financial self-custody.
You can watch the full setup here:

https://youtu.be/4bgiXa6on88?is=dRwadQvmnoerGnvj

hi, EU 22yo with a master in stem (without liking what i studied, IT) and uninterested (various seasons) in living in society, no job (no will/energy to do useless ones but only something that can help someone but struggling to find anything because of autism) and some k on savings

so, i am constantly thinking of moving to the countryside and living in a cave/randomly building a pseudohouse close to a river in a mediterranean country and the minimal technology

but i have zero survival skill knowledge: how to cultivate anything? where to buy a cheap place to live or to grow veggie? etc

So, where can i learn such skills (blog, video, subs, etc)? and does my general thought make sense?

is this the right subreddit? if not which one shall i post on?

What do you think was the reason?