r/parentsofmultiples 9d ago

NEW - Parenting Discord Server

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We’re excited to announce the launch of a new Discord server! Several of the mod teams of various parenting related subreddit have come together to create a space for chatting, just for parents.

Whether you’re looking for advice, want to chat with other parents in real time, share milestones, vent after a long day, or just connect with people who understand the ups and downs of parenting, our Discord is the perfect place.

What you’ll find:

- Parenting discussions for every stage
- Real-time advice and support
- Family-friendly community events
- Dedicated channels for different topics
- A welcoming, respectful environment

Everyone is welcome, whether you’re expecting your first child, raising teenagers, or simply enjoy helping other parents.

Join us here: https://discord.gg/6GZDqbQ6SW

We can’t wait to meet you there!


r/parentsofmultiples Sep 16 '22

Official! PLEASE DO NOT SUBMIT MEDICAL QUESTIONS, INCLUDING REQUESTS FOR USERS TO INTERPRET YOUR ULTRASOUND

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We have seen a big uptick in posts from new users seeking medical advice, and users posting their ultrasounds asking other users for opinions.

This is a violation of rule #3 - No medical questions. Any such posts will be removed.

This rule is in place for everyone's safety. The rationale is that we a small mod team, we're not medical professionals, and as such we can't properly vet the information that is being provided. Putting aside for the moment the very real risk of trolls deliberately misleading people, it's far too easy for even well intentioned misinformation to slip through. This poses a risk not only to the user who asks the question, but also to people in the future who might find these posts after searching for information on the same topic.

A safe and healthy pregnancy is far too precious a thing to risk by allowing unfiltered medical opinions to potentially impact the decisions of expectant parents - these questions need to be addressed by a qualified health care professional.

To be clear - posts and comments discussing your medical experiences are perfectly acceptable. As a rule of thumb, as long as the threshold from "here's what I experienced/here's what I did" to "here's what you should be doing" isn't crossed, the sharing of your experiences is more than welcomed.

Also, please keep posting pics of your (professionally confirmed) multiple pregnancy ultrasounds. We do enjoy those!


r/parentsofmultiples 5h ago

advice needed Just found out - 7w4d

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Hi everyone! My husband and I are experiencing our first pregnancy and just found out we are having twins at our viability and dating ultrasound, twins do not run in either of our families.

My next appointment is already scheduled and it isn’t for 3 weeks. Is there like anything that I need to know about a pregnancy of multiples that differs from a single baby pregnancy??


r/parentsofmultiples 9h ago

good vibes, smiles, & giggles To everyone who also feels more tired than they even thought was possible, you’re doin great champ

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r/parentsofmultiples 41m ago

advice needed 5wk Twins!

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We just had an early ultrasound at 5w3-4d and found 2 gestational sacs! I have a very strong family history of fraternal twins, so it wasn’t completely unexpected but I’m still shocked! I have PCOS and other health complications that warranted an early scan, but we were thinking I’d be closer to 6.5wks.

As of right now, baby B looked great and measured well, while Baby A we could only see the yolk sac. The tech did mention that they could measure a few days off and everything could be fine next week, or we could lose baby A. Has anyone else had an early scan were you could see one baby well and not the other?


r/parentsofmultiples 3h ago

advice needed Toddler + twins: please share your “no support system” successful experiences

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Hello everyone,

We have a 2.5 year old and are expecting modi twins (10 weeks today). We don’t have a support system besides daycare for the 2.5 year old, and possibly daycare for the twins when they’re 6/7 months old.

Me and my husband work full time. I work from home and have a pretty understanding manager. My husband has a more demanding (time wise) job.

We will be together on parental leave the first month, then I’ll be doing 4 months by myself, then he will do the last month by himself (so 6 months total split parental leave).

I’m in need of hearing positive stories about being capable of handling everything as a couple. I’m thinking about finding someone for the first 6 months to support in the afternoons at home, until my husband comes from work.

Our experience with our first was a breeze. We had a normal baby (not super easy, not super hard). We just adapted really well to 0-1. I know this is going to be a very different experience. I guess I just need to know it’s possible / doable / hard but you got this type of thing.

Thanks!


r/parentsofmultiples 1h ago

advice needed Carrying twins 39 weeks?

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Currently 30 weeks with Di/Di twin boys. We’re beyond lucky and grateful to be having the healthiest pregnancy. Both babies are doing great and no maternal complications as of now. Twin A is 84th percentile and Twin B is 82nd percentile.

Because of how well things are going, OB wants me to carry them 39 weeks, however said 38 is ok too if I choose to evict them early.

I’m having a scheduled C section as twin A is breach and twin B is transverse. Plus they’re big babies.

C section is booked for 38w1d but I’m having guilt over choosing 38 weeks for my sake and feel like I should let them cook as long as possible for their sake.

But I feel like everything I’ve ever read and heard says carrying twins past 38 weeks isn’t safe and increases the risk of problems and stillbirth so I’m a bit surprised by this advice to go 39 weeks.

Anyone else advised to carry their twins as far as 39w?


r/parentsofmultiples 4h ago

ranting & venting I'm sad.

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I'll leave out all the details because no one wants to read my novel, but I'm leaving my twins father. He pushed my 13 year old (not his child) during an altercation and it blew up our lives and has a protective order against hkm. This is my second go around with twins. My first set are 12. I knew how hard twins were and knew there was a chance I'd have a second set when we started trying but I did it anyway because we wanted children together. More like he wanted me there to gestate. And then he abandoned me emotionally. He stopped parenting. He'd only "help" when asked. My 4 older children offer more help with their baby siblings than he ever did. He never washed bottles unless I asked and even then he did it so half passed that they'd come out with residue still on them and I'd have to do it over again. Or he acted like a petulant child when asked. I thought i had a partner. Now I'm a single mom to 6 and I am just so sad.


r/parentsofmultiples 5h ago

experience/advice to give Just found out we are having triplets yesterday! Need advice pls!

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Hey guys, my wife and I are having triplets as we found out yesterday. She's 6 weeks in and the babies are safe and healthy so is my wife. As a husband yes im really happy and concerned that we are having triplets because it is HIGH RISK Also we've been trying for 3yrs, did 3 IUIs and 1 IVF, And im extremely concerned about her well-being. Like...how high are the chances that after delivery she might not make it? I really cannot imagine this life without her...If any mothers out there had triplets pls share your personal exp thank you...


r/parentsofmultiples 1h ago

advice needed How to tell my wife I don’t want anymore kids

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Hi all, been lurking here for awhile.

Unsure if this is the right place to be looking for advice on this but it is the only “parenting” sub I am a part of.

Father of 23 month old twins. It’s been a hell of a year and a half, but I must say it has been the best time of my life. I love my kids, I feel like my wife and I have a pretty good grove going in terms of our parenting styles aligning and are doing alright.

The one thing is, she is absolutely gung-ho about having another. I am very much on the fence about this and leaning towards a hard no for a multitude of reasons, both logistical and personal.

I truly do not know how to approach this conversation because when it has come up in the past I have either ignored it or strung her along and said yes. I know that this was wrong and I want to nip this in the bud before it gets too close to when she would like to start trying(next summer).

That being said, I know she really wants this and I feel like an absolute piece of shit just flat out saying no.

Any advice on how I can approach this would be appreciated.


r/parentsofmultiples 45m ago

support needed Pregnancy: how are all you twin/triplet/quad(?) mamas doing?!

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Twin pregnancy mama check in. How are we doing? I’m 30 weeks and a day with didi boy girl twins. Yesterday I slightly overdone it a little. Two appointments, laundry, vacuuming, mopping floors, hanging clothes up in the closet. I also didn’t drink enough water. = baby boys head pushing = Braxton hicks to the extreme. I ended up chugging lots of water and it eased a bunch! Today I haven’t moved from the recliner and feel guilty! I need to know how yall are doing! Doctor has me set for tentative c section date in mid September but doesn’t think I’ll make it to then. Beginning of September is more likely. I’m a teacher so I’m planning on going back to work soon for a few weeks to try and work as much as a I can before taking off. ✨america ✨* *


r/parentsofmultiples 1h ago

advice needed Twin (girl/boy)1st graders… keep them together or split them for school?

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r/parentsofmultiples 3h ago

advice needed Mom advise

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Wanted other mom’s opinions to see if I’m overreacting or my feelings are valid. 30 weeks pregnant with didi girls!

On the day of my gender reveal/ public announcement, my friend had other plans and couldn’t come. Not a big deal. But then posted photos about her pregnancy a few hours after mine. Weird. Hurt my feelings but I didn’t say anything or feel like it needed addressed.

Now my friend gave birth to her baby 2 weeks ago and on the day of my baby shower, she posted her birth announcement. She had 2 weeks to post it but chose on the day of the shower, which she knew because she was invited to it. I can’t help but feel like it’s not a coincidence as she doesn’t make posts often. How would other moms interpret this??


r/parentsofmultiples 2h ago

advice needed FMU referral for twin B size

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I went for a 22 week growth scan today. Baby girl has always measured about a week behind since week 15 but her and baby boy have about an 18% size difference now. They have their own sac and placentas.

I have been referred to the fetal medicine unit and basically trying not to spiral with my thoughts. Has anyone else been through this and what was the outcome?

My panic is that will she just stop growing? They didn’t give me much information other than referring me.


r/parentsofmultiples 2h ago

support needed Pregnant with twins in a bicornuate uterus

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Hi there! Looking for support and positive stories. I’m 9 weeks along now and had my first ultrasound at 7 weeks, where I found out I was not only carrying twins but that my uterus is heart shaped. The babies are on either side of the heart in their very own “apartment” lol. Both of these things were a huge shock to us (and the staff)

Though it’s considered high risk, I’m feeling mostly positive about this! At the 7 week appt, each baby measured right on track and they each had a strong heartbeat. The nurse said the babies having their own apartments could help them in the long run, though my case is very rare and I’ll be monitored quite a bit. I’m comforted by all the crappy symptoms I’m experiencing, cos it tells me my body is doing what it needs to to support my little ones.

When I look this up, I see barely any stories similar to mine. Google AI tells me it’s “less than one in 100 million worldwide” Seeing things like this really freaks me out. I’ve seen a few articles of a mother with my situation delivering healthy babies, which of course helps me feel better, but damn.

Anybody else have crazy rare circumstances in their pregnancy? Have you heard of someone with this type of uterus carrying multiples?


r/parentsofmultiples 4h ago

advice needed How did you transition from 2 to 1 nap?

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Curious if you all found just going cold turkey to 1 nap was fine or did you do the strategy of making the first nap pretty short and then pushing up the second nap and letting them sleep as long as they want? Those are the 2 options I’ve seen but I’m also open to others!

For context, my twins love their naps so I’ve been putting off the transition. They are 13.5 months and have been showing possible signs for the last month related to being less tired at night time. Our nights have slowly gotten worse and last night was the first time in a while that they both got up twice! Over the weekend we had one night where they were up for about 3 hours so I do feel they’re ready for 1 nap. However, they wake up at about 7:30 and then nap at 10:30 and 2:30/3ish. I cap both naps at 1 hour and have been for probably 2 months. BUT, they love both naps, don’t put up much fight, and seem pretty tired by 10am so I haven’t known how to push it back an hour. I haven’t tried so I’m thinking of just giving it a try but is it a bad idea to go cold turkey? Consider it laziness but I just don’t want to deal with the back and forth of having a small micro nap and then waiting until they’re fussy to decide it’s time for the big nap, but obviously if that’s best I will!

Any and all advice welcome! Thank you!


r/parentsofmultiples 5h ago

advice needed Mono mono hospitalization

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Hi ! Long story short I had my 2nd son in December 2025 at 33 weeks due to the HELLP syndrome. We found out was pregnant again late April. Yesterday we got the news I have to be hospitalized at 23-24 weeks till 32 weeks due to having mono/mono twins and my previous complications... any advice...


r/parentsofmultiples 8h ago

support needed Terrible…. ones???

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Barely 13 m/o twins and one of them has suddenly started having massive tantrums. I close the pantry door after putting something away? He throws himself on the floor screaming because he wanted to go in there. Repeat for any mild inconvenience.

Yesterday I tried some new food from Little Spoon for dinner. He loved it and was happily putting it in his mouth from the little plate it came in while I was holding the plate. However when I transferred the food from the plate to his mat (since he has a tendency to chuck plates on the floor), he LOST IT. He full on scream cried for the next entire hour until we put him to bed. Did not eat another bite or stop crying. I tried other foods, water, holding him, toys, etc.

I am spoiled because they have both always been easily consoled but I am WORRIED that this is toddlerhood… can he possibly be this volatile for the next several years??

ANY and all advice welcome… whether it’s to ignore him, coddle him, whatever it is, I’d love to hear what worked for you to help with the (one year old?!) toddler tantrums.


r/parentsofmultiples 1d ago

support needed Twins born 01. july still at NICU. Slowly dragging me down

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Hello everybody

My twin girls were born on the 1. july. Doctors said it was week35 so when my wife went into labor they said all good. Now they said they were probably 33 weeks that‘s why they‘re having so much issues.

They warned us that they might spend a few nights at NICU. Few nights turned into 3 weeks tomorrow.
We have a 3.5 yo at home. During the day I take care of her and around dinner my wife comes home and I go to the hospital for 4-6hrs for feeding.

Everytime I leave I feel like an absolute piece of shit for going home and not staying there. I know it doesn‘t bring anything staying there all night. I usually cry on the car ride home.

I don‘t even know where i‘m going with this, I just had to get it off my chest I guess. I‘m really trying to be strong and supportive of my wife but I feel like everyday is chipping away some of our energy/motivation idk how to describe it. Sorry english isn‘t my first language!

They don‘t know when our girls might get to go home.

I just want them to be home!


r/parentsofmultiples 7h ago

advice needed Wake windows

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Hey! I have 2 months old twins (10 weeks today) and I am just starting to be alone with them since my husband had to go back to work. I have a hard time entertaining the twins their whole wake window (which sometimes already go up to 2h and more, my babies stated that sleep was for the weak).

I usually do a bit of play gym with them, do contrast flashcards and tummy time and settle them in their swing when they get tired of all this so I can pick up the house quickly, eat and do some laundry. But I just feel so bad when I see them staring into nothingness while I do the chores… I put on music, stop a couple of times to talk to them and sometimes pick up one of them to babywear if they’re fussy (and then feel guilty for the baby still in his swing).

The guilt never stop 🥲 and then I convince myself that my babies will have a flat head if I leave them in their swing too, so add that to the anxiety.

What are you guys realistically doing during their wake windows? Seeing ppl on social media doing a full routine makes me feel like I’m not doing enough.


r/parentsofmultiples 10h ago

advice needed Modi twins

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Hi everyone,
I’m looking to hear from parents who have had a similar experience.
I recently had twin boys, and both were diagnosed with mild hypospadias. We are waiting to see a pediatric urologist and would really appreciate hearing from other parents who have gone through this.
A few questions:
Did both of your twins have hypospadias, or just one?
Did your children need surgery, or was monitoring enough?
If they had surgery, how was the recovery and the long-term outcome?

I know every child is different, but hearing other families’ experiences would really help.
Thank you!


r/parentsofmultiples 1d ago

support needed One of our twins has a heart defect. Has anyone gone through this?

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We just found out at 20 weeks that one of our identical twins has 3 different heart defects. I’m just wondering if anyone else has experienced this or something similar and if you have any advice for me and my little family.


r/parentsofmultiples 7h ago

advice needed Temperament changes

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i don’t know what to do. twin A is ALWAYS whining. they’re both 20 months and obviously have their own personalities but idk what’s wrong with him. they both have their canines coming in, could that be it? it started out of nowhere. he whines for seemingly no reason it seems like. he’s fed, changed. we are in the room together for example playing and he just out of nowhere looks at me and is whining so much. sometimes his stuffed animal helps, sometimes a snack helps, sometimes a cuddle helps but ultimately he just starts again and it’s making me go crazy. then he’ll randomly stop and start again. idk what to do. it seems like the only time he doesn’t act like this is when he’s in his crib laying down. he also is becoming more aggressive, pushing his brother. throwing things. is this normal? any advice?


r/parentsofmultiples 21h ago

advice needed Witching Hour Survival

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First time mom here! I have ten week old fraternal twins and the witching hour is only getting worse! Any tips or tricks for surviving it? It seems they take turns on who is awake and crying and my husband and I are in our survival mode.


r/parentsofmultiples 17h ago

experience/advice to give I have a set in stone date!!

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I had an appointment with my MFM on monday and she said she definitely doesn’t want to wait any longer than 37 weeks because she doesn’t see any benefit for my little girl (FGR for a while, slowly declining and currently at at 3.5% percentile) so my due date is 08/06!!

I’m super excited but at the same time really nervous, i’m a FTM and me and my husband are quite young (I’m 21, and he’s 19) and I’m not 100% mentally prepared 😳 I know the basic care for having a newborn and I have a lot of notes written down but I still don’t feel ready.

I also still can’t decide on what kind of double stroller would be good and they all seem to be online/shipping only and that bums me out a little since I’d like to see them in person. If anyone has any advice id be so grateful and appreciative 💜