r/nerdcore • u/eyelinerqueen83 • 1d ago
Me and mc last tour: story time
Me and mc last tour: story time
Today, I am speaking about Chris Ward and his invasion into my DMs, how that impacted my life. If any of you read his posts about each tour, you may have seen one from last July where he talked about a girl he met and how pretty and good at talking she was. How he wanted to "ravage her in the shadows" but didn't try to get her information because she was married and he is not that person. How she was unattainable and how on stage, he kept looking her in the eyes. How he would not be able to speak to her again until the text tour.
I am her. And he did speak to me again. After that post, I commented. He used that to find me and was in my DMs not two days after saying he would not try to find me. He said he was hoping I would comment so we could talk more.
This interaction became one of the most regrettable of my life. I am not proud of how fast I became attached to the attention and how that impacted my marriage. (I had a lot of accountability to make to my husband and did so. He has forgiven me and we laugh about it now.)
Anyway, Chris said it was not a good idea for us to talk, and I agreed. But then he didn't stop. The next two months he did the following:
\- love bombed me with high compliments
\- described how he cycles through a woman each tour, discarding by Christmas after they become unattractive
\- had multiple crises in which he felt guilty and wanted to stop talking which I respected. Only to have him break that boundary.
\- took out his anger about having a bad birthday on me
\-began using the same words he used to downgrade the last girl he talked to on tour
\- lied about the reason he was doing that by accusing me of doing something he himself had done over and over
\- confused me further by alternating between nice and accusatory
\- admitted to using me to stave of boredom while he was at a con.
\- called me mentally ill when I got upset at all of this treatment and compared me to Alex.
\- said several cruel and downright disgusting things to me followed by 3 days of ignoring me while I let him know about himself and how he made me feel. I could see him online, actively watching me instead of just telling me to fuck off.
\- waited until I reached a critical mass of messages to respond saying he "needed space" and felt "triggered". It was obvious that he needed to manufacture that situation to make me look unstable instead of responding normally to the hurt and disrespect he inflicted.
\-after all of these mind games, he said " I'm sorry you're upset."
I blocked him.
Women, do not talk Chris Ward at his shows. He is a mess who needs constant reassurance and when he is done with you he will ragebait in hopes that he can questions your mental health as an excuse to leave.
He does not care if you are married. He will pretend to care. If he did, he would not have tried to find me.
When you don't put out sex or leave your husband, the nice sensitive man he pretends to be will be gone and he will call you immature and accuse you of manipulation.
Everyone else, enjoy his music and little shows. But remember of you have a special lady and he wants her, he will not care.
I recently found out he is once again flirting with a woman who has a boyfriend this tour. This is what he does. Someone needs to call him out.