Editing to add: ok so I’m reading this back a few hours later and I don’t think I realized how distressed I was when I was writing it lol. Ty so much to everyone who has taken the time to read this and respond!!
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I have two dogs who are reactive - Ace (Blue Heeler/German Shepherd mix) and Murphy (Golden Retriever/Irish Setter mix).
I've decided that I want to start muzzle training them and am feeling emotional about it.*
Neither of my dogs is aggressive in everyday life, but they are reactive at the vet and around unfamiliar people/dogs. Once they get to know someone/another dog, they LOVE them but first introductions/walks can be really stressful.
One reason I'm making this decision is because I recently moved in with my boyfriend. We haven't really been able to have his family/friends over because I'm on edge about how my dogs will react to someone new. I feel like we can’t even take them on walks without them being reactive towards people/animals. I’m also dreading an upcoming vet visit to a new vet. Ultimately can't continue on not addressing their overall reactivity.*
My hope is that muzzle training will allow me to relax a little more and hopefully help the people meeting them feel safer. I’m hoping starting with this and adding behavioral training will help them feel safer/confident and improve their quality of life.
I also see it as a way to protect my dogs. If they were ever to bite someone, the consequences would fall on them/me. The last thing I ever want is for them to be put in a situation where one protective reaction changes their lives/my life forever.
I'm insecure that people will see my dogs in muzzles and immediately think they're dangerous/that I've failed them.
Another thing that scares me is imagining them actually having a reactive moment WHILE wearing the muzzle. I can picture the whole scene in my head... them wearing the muzzle while they are activated and me having to hold them back. I worry people will assume my dogs are crazy/vicious or that I've somehow failed them/don't know how to handle my own dogs. Logically, I know the muzzle is there because I'm trying to be responsible, but it's hard not to imagine feeling judged in those moments.
Is the answer radical acceptance??? Maybe people will judge but I have to accept that. Whether people judge me or not, my dogs ARE reactive and continuing not to address it* COULD be dangerous. If muzzle training would truly be helpful and make my hopes reality, I can learn to deal with judgment.
I don't think this about anyone else's dogs. When I see a dog wearing a muzzle, my first thought is, "that owner is being responsible," and I KNOW that dog is loved and cared for. I don't judge them at all. But somehow I can't extend that same compassion to myself, and I don't really know why.
I have a few specific ?s:
- Has muzzle training ever made your dog more reactive, or did it not really affect their behavior one way or the other?
- Did having a muzzle actually help you feel less anxious during vet visits or introductions?
- How did you introduce the muzzle so your dog learned to not mind it so much?
- Any advice on what I can do in addition to introducing the muzzle to help them feel safe/reduce reactivity while wearing the muzzle?*
*I have contacted a behaviorist because I really want to get proper behavior training. I know this isn't a forum to replace that training... just looking for any tips while I am on the waitlist for a behaviorist.
I'd love any guidance on the ?s above, as well as favorite brands and success stories. I also need reassurance that I'm doing the right thing and maybe a realistic idea of what to expect.
I've been nervous to even post this. I have literally never posted on reddit before and don't even know if I am doing this right lol. I'm really just hoping to hear from people who have been in a similar position and are willing to offer compassion, guidance, or reassurance. I truly want to do right by my dogs!
If you made it this far, thank you for taking the time to read this. And thank you to anyone who takes the time to respond ❤️ I really appreciate you!!