r/madmen • u/Rough_Ad_8702 • 14h ago
Betty was trapped by the 'perfect' life. Trudy genuinely wanted it, which somehow makes her tragedy worse
galleryThe real tragedy about Trudy and her relationship with Pete is not that she had to put up with a petulant and moody man like him. Her greatest tragedy is that her life potential was wasted on living up to the image of a perfect housewife and mother. It was also sad to watch how she struggled on her own to make her “perfect” marriage seem flawless from the outside.
What made it even more heartbreaking is the fact that, unlike Betty Draper, who felt imprisoned in her marriage, Trudy actually desired this kind of relationship. She performed her role of a perfect mistress and wife so well, giving Pete the image of a successful man he craved. She ensured he had a beautiful house in the Cos Cob, a beautiful daughter, and she was always there to keep his image spotless. However, it was also heartbreaking to see how her attempts at satisfying her husband backfired when she realized that nothing could fill the emptiness in him.
Trudy knew very well that Pete was unfaithful to her. It is even evident that she struggled a lot mentally in making excuses for his behavior. Her primary tragedy was that her attempts at placating him by pretending that everything was okay were hurting her more than they should have. For instance, when she decided to allow him to rent an apartment in the city, she was simply giving him space to do the thing that he loved most, cheating on her. By doing that, she was allowing him to be the husband that he enjoyed being. In fact, it was through this that she slowly killed her own self respect and became unhappy in her own skin. All of this was brought upon by her attempts at making sure his reputation was not destroyed since he was a heavy drinker.