Throwaway because I (M18) don’t want to my peers to link this post to me but as the title says, fuck being a visibly obvious Wasian.

I’m in the Midwest with a White father and Korean mother. She followed him from South Korea and had me a little before actually tying the knot.

I’m 18 now and cannot wait to leave this fucked up racist ass household. I think I first learned to self-hate watching my dad make jokes about small dicks, nerdy, and weak Asian men. My mom would either laugh or just straight up ignore it.

Neither of them would look at me as if it didn’t seem to register that THEIR SON IS HALF KOREAN.

I don’t even know any Korean so my Korean relatives are quick to remind me I’m not really Korean. Likewise, I’ve always been belittled for looking a certain way by my white peers and same stupid jokes about being a nerd with a small dick. Even my white cousins give me the Ching Chong treatment and everyone seems to think it’s funny and that it isn’t that serious if I bring it up.

I’ve never dated because I always feel so ugly and disgusting. I’ve had dark thoughts and even hatred towards both of my parents. My mom being what I can only assume a product of Asian fetishization with zero introspective beyond whatever my idiot father brought to the table. We’re not even rich, wtf.

Sorry if this is out of pocket but I really don’t have any friends. I can’t afford therapy and I hate being dismissed by my family here. Fuck this, and fuck being Wasian.

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Has anyone ever noticed the huge disparity of war babies from East/Southeast Asia vs West Asia. The only definitive reason I can think of is Islam which shielded West Asia from this.

East/Southeast Asian aka the wars that took place in Japan, Korea, Vietnam and by proxy Philippines and Thailand hosting US bases.

West Asia aka Afghanistan, Iraq, Syria

I wasn’t sure if this was the appropriate subreddit to post this, so if there is another one that is more suitable for the subject, by all means please let me know!

For background, my grandmother was part Native Hawaiian, born on the island of Oahu to her Native Hawaiian mother and son-of-Irish-immigrants father (for background, he was born in Philadelphia, but was a mechanic who was stationed in Hawaii when he met my great grandmother). Shortly after Pearl Harbor, my great grandfather began experiencing health complications which prompted him to relocate his wife and five kids (four more would be born after this) back to Philadelphia so he could be closer to his doctor. As you can expect, there are next to no Native Hawaiians living in Pennsylvania, so naturally the Native blood began to decrease by generation since she married my grandfather who is the son of an Irish immigrant and a Bavarian-German immigrant.

Despite this, my grandmother always took great pride in her identity as a Kanaka Māori despite the drawbacks she faced during a time of racial discrimination and made sure to raise her children (one of which being my father) with the same pride. My great grandmother (Irene Kauaokanilehua) also had a big role in their lives, which added to my father’s and his siblings’ exposure her the culture and values. I am only a small amount of Native Hawaiian, but if you look on my page, I am very much a Caucasian woman, predominantly of German and Irish descent. Growing up, I denied being of Native Hawaiian descent because I felt I didn’t fit the phenotype and got teased for my fair complexion by fellow Caucasian classmates for some reason. It wasn’t until high school that my teacher told me to be proud and hold onto that aspect of my culture, especially since my grandmother worked so hard to preserve it.

Years later, I completed a family tree and discovered I am a lot more native Hawaiian than I originally thought: still a small amount, but it was certainly enlightening to learn about my background. I would never identify as Native Hawaiian to benefit from it on legal documents or other forms of identification, and I am obviously a white woman. However, if someone were to ask me what my ethnicity, I would say that I am German, Irish, and Native Hawaiian decent since those are the most prevalent in my ancestry. Is that insensitive since I do not look Hawaiian like my dad, grandmother, and great grandmother? I cannot stress this enough, I’d never use this as a means to benefit from, but I feel that I’d do my late grandmother a disservice by denying the culture she tried so hard to preserve.

All honesty is welcome and encouraged! Thank you!

This famous TV host had a huge controversy years ago when he implied Asian men were not attractive and would bully Asian male contestants on his show. He also always talks about how he knows looks matter and how unattractive men are screwed and are forced to be rich or submissive to women.

For a long time I had a lot of bitterness over how people treated me in real life (including some self hating Asians and half Asians) but then I just swallowed the truth that life is insanely hard to people and you only get one shot and if you're pretty (especially as a man) you basically never have to lift a finger in life.

A lot of self hating Asian men and women worship white people because they're not attractive and think that being with a white person will make them feel like "they made it," whereas a lot of cute / hot Asian / half-Asian guys have women chasing us around and have nothing to prove in life.

On top of that I feel like a lot of half Asians are screwed by genetics because their dads were not attractive and went for Asian women who were opportunists, or on the other hand chopped Asian men were rich and threw money at white women, whereas good looking Asian men have the pick of the litter and just get with cute Asian girls and create good looking Asians.

Basically life is extremely hard and if you're a cute / hot guy you'll know it when you're super young and you're basically gonna be targeted by everyone else in this free for all gladiator arena.

He's in the hall of fame and is considered to be one of the greatest middleweight boxers. He constantly identifies as 50% Korean, and all of media does the same (English, Russian, and Kazakh)

Only one source claimed his mother is half (instead of full) Korean, yet GGG himself literally say's he's 50% Korean blood in the same interview. There is no source, pics, or interview that says his maternal grandmother is not Korean or Asian. Anywhere that claims GGG is quarter Korean has no source, and likely referenced the Koream Journal interview.

Gennady Golovkin: KoreAm Journal 2015 Cover Shoot

His mother looks full Korean to me, and his twin brother look hapa.

https://www.vbetnews.com/uploads/2019/01/ggg-mother.jpg

https://www.vbetnews.com/uploads/2019/01/bro.jpg

Another possibility is that his maternal grandmother is Siberian or Kazakh, making him pretty much hapa. Regardless, he always identifies as "50%" Korean.

For starters there are ugly and attractive people in every race, the idea of one race being less appealing than the other beyond some personal preferences is an utter b.s.

That being said a man's social status being linked to his attractiveness level is a real thing. Women compared to men often tend to put status above physical appearance for their dating prospects.

So how does it work in real life? Imagine a girl growing up in a western country, odds are that almost all of depiction of Asian men in media have been some racist & emasculating depictions. She may have met some Asian guys whom she found physically attractive, but due to lack of any positive reinforcement in her mind, rather racist and excluding culture she grew up in she likely never developed any interest in pursuing her liking. She might have scrolled through social media to see some positive examples but all she could see was only the racist remarks like Asian men being less attractive, masculine, sexist and what not. So even without realizing builds up a preference that does not involve Asians.

But then after a decade or so she sees all of a sudden women are into Asian men. With rise of Kpop and Kdrama all of a sudden the Asian men are seen as attractive. Its not that all of a sudden Asian men developed different physical attributes, no its because we started having some sort of social approval in the eyes of women. Now any girl growing up in a racist western country has some sort of social liberty to date a man she finds attractive.

And mind you its not just Kpop Idol look alikes either. Mid chopped Asian dudes can still date and get into a good relationships. Cause said guys were never more chopped than any other guy of different race similar to them in the physical attributes to begin with.

This is why its so important to push back at any social media or real life racist remarks that disregard any of your physical attributes or masculinity. Its a pure racist propaganda that has been build by yt supermacists.

Hey all! I’m curious whether anyone here has a similar background and would be comfortable sharing their experience or photos.

I’m fully East Asian and chose a sperm donor who is 50% East Asian and 50% European. From his adult photo, though, he looks more like 80% East Asian-presenting, haha it does seem like Asian genes are quite strong from what I've read and seen so far.

My friends keep reminding me that genetics can be very unpredictable, so I’m curious what people with roughly a 75% East Asian and 25% European background could potentially look like.

I know there can obviously be a huge range, and I’m not expecting my future child to look any particular way- just genuinely curious!

Archive link: https://archive.is/xjAuV

Wikipedia article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nadine_Hwang

"Nelly & Nadine", a documentary about a relationship that she entered with a woman who she met at the concentration camp that lasted until the end of her life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=icPB5JpaP30

With the rise of Asia everyone is talking about "Chinese time in my life" and getting into Kpop but it's just this fairweather friend type behavior, 20 years ago these people would have been nowhere to be seen.

On top of that even talking from a genetic perspective, Asians in Asia never had these issues of self hatred or self loathing cause they have their own media and beauty standards, and the attractive people from those cultures are the ones being praised and celebrated over.

There's yet to be a half Asian male who is straight and has a tiny fraction of the appeal that guys like RM or BTS does. Half Asian guys still get pigeonholed by western media into roles like on Heated Rivalry or being on shows like Love Island where we're expected to be with black women (nothing wrong with that, my exes are mostly black).

It's just so weird seeing this rapid rise of bands like BTS where these guys come out of nowhere and have women salivating over them when nobody even did that for major half Asian movie stars like the Matrix guy.

I personally feel like being half Asian is just a result of self-hatred and white mediocrity and circumstance and I can actually sense that a lot of these self hating Asians still harbor animosity for the winners back in Asia and tried to push us as being a step up when we're just average people.

Hey! I have a school assignment and I am doing an investigation on how growing up in a mixed-cultural household shape one's sense of cultural identity. What better place to do it than here haha. It shouldn't take that long so if you have time please complete it

thank youuu

Hey yall, I'm hosting a mixed-asian meetup in DC at the Constitution Gardens on Sunday August 2nd! Everyone is welcome, you don't have to be mixed to attend!

Partiful link: https://partiful.com/e/CKnTPdyGvUnJxhir5dNZ?c=h5fsW7HV

Bring a picnic blanket, your favorite food, and an instrument to jam with if you can!

Note: This event has been renamed from a "half-asian" to a "mixed-asian" meetup to be more inclusive!

a.k.a. WMAF Wasian vs. AMWF Wasian

Social media handles of the source of each clip, in order of appearance:

IG: cate_weaver

IG: shameikalhsmith

TT: jermbarrett

TT: meilinmarie

IG: hanalarene

IG: c___oco

TT: momochavezz

2 separate gatherings occurred in Los Angeles: One hosted by @ hanalarene and the other co-hosted by @ jermbarrett. Hana explains her reasons for hosting her own gathering in this video: https://www.tiktok.com/@hanalarene/video/7638907458773110047

News article about the Houston gathering: https://archive.is/oTEY4

I know this channel can be confusing with some topics to some people. But, with some of my and other experiences. We can put together some helpful advice that might be great now and in the near future:

Wasians: You don't have to decide if you are Asian or White, you are just you. You might get the best of both worlds. And don't let comments like "Hafu" get to you.

Blasian: While you will experience worse treatment than your Wasian counterparts. Keep in mind, that you all are not black or Asian. Once again, you are just you, don't try so hard to fit in or outcast yourself because you're "different". Always be you, without question.

"Colourd's" Multi-gen people (black mixture, ex: Creolle's, South African folks): Guess we can throw "light-skin blacks" into this category. Now, Darker skinned folks will always try to Hold you back. And there will be plenty of self-hating counterparts to. Dark skin men benefit off colorism/racism in America, and Light-skin/MGM Women benefit off of it because of them. But still get dragged through the dirt by them. Now, for the men, you do better outside of America if anything. And go to a place that is safe for you, rather than fighting with the same people daily. And don't try to fit in with a bunch of people who hate your skin and bully you for it. And build yourself up, and better your image.

Mullato/Mullata (Black/White): People will be more jealous of you, because you have both genes of the conqueror and the conquered in America. You do better outside of America. And keep in mind, most famous celebrities are Mullato and Mullata. Drake, Mariah Carey, etc. And chances are, your group will make up the majority in the future.

Anglo-Latin: Now, you will have the least struggles. Considering that white skin is viewed higher in Latin cultures. Early in life you may have an identity crisis, but it won't be that bad as you get older.

Afro-Latin: You are not Black or Mexican, you are Afro-Latin. And just like Blasians, you will be treated worse than your Anglo-Latin counterparts. Now, surprisingly, your group has more handsome men and beautiful women without question. Look at Miguel Jontel Pimente and Tessa Thompson.

LatinX/Asian-Latin: You are not Asian or Latin, you are just your own person. Now, many people will confuse you for being another race. But, you don't have to play into their foolishness. You can tell them what you are mixed with, or just say "I'm human". Like I encourage everyone to do, because the concept of race is stupid anyway.

* At the end of the day we are all human. And don't listen or pay any attention to those prejudice people out there. Stay in your lane and live your life the way you intended it. At the beginning and the end of the day...it's your life.

#MixedRaceLivesMatter #MixedRaceDating #MixedRaceMonth #MixedRaceChildren

Curious to know if Vietnamese ever compare their situation with war babies to those of recent wars waged by the US. History shows war babies coming from Japan South Korea Vietnam and by proxy Philippines and Thailand maybe some from Laos and Cambodia too. These wars were fought about 90 years ago with the last one ending about about 51 years ago. Many war babies left behind and different policies to bring some back to the USA.

However you notice with recent wars as of 26 years ago Iraq, Syria , Afghanistan you do not hear about any war babies. Is it due to Islam, the men mate guarding, the women not easy to spread legs, lack of prostitution.

Why such the huge variance from East/Southeast Asia to West Asia in this regard?

I 18F hate that I look asian. My mom is white and my dad is chinese and I grew up in Europe. I look mostly asian and I hate that because I don’t feel connected to this side at all. Since my mom is european and I grew up in this culture, I feel mostly white but I don’t look white. People here they see me and perceive me as foreign which I hate. They associate me with asian culture etc, except that is not what I am. Even my dad mostly grew up in Europe. I have literally no bound with China, except that my family come from there. I can’t even talk properly with my asian side, which makes this connection to my asian side even more difficult.
I belong to here and I hate that people don’t see that. And in China I am also a foreign, so really I belong to nowhere. Because I don’t feel accepted in neither countries. I hate getting racial slurs. It’s so fcking annoying like cmon I belong to this country and I am probably more from this country than you are. But still they just see the asian and assume I am chinese or japanese and come up with some words. I legit feel so uncomfortable going out in my own country because I look asian and mostly guys always have something to say about it.
I hate the way I look, I hate my dark hair, my small eyes and everything. And I hate the people who make me feel like I don’t belong to Europe..

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