Hey guys, I wanted to share some genuinely crazy news with this community: I’ve been nominated for Best Top at the Infinity X Awards in Torremolinos Spain.

For me, this nomination is about much more than an award.

Us Asian men have so often been desexualised, overlooked, or placed into stereotypical roles within Western gay culture and porn. As a 100% Chinese Asian guy, to be nominated in this category so traditionally associated with dominance, masculinity, confidence and desirability - it feels incredibly meaningful - and is such a huge deal to the cause of advancing Asian representation.

It feels like proof that the world is slowly changing—and I’m personally doing everything I can to be at the forefront of that change.

I make porn to be a positive role model to my 20 year old self - I want more Asian guys to see ourselves represented as powerful, wanted, masculine and completely real. Asian tops in western gay porn should not be an exception, but the norm.

You’re welcome to vote for me if you would like to support the campaign (ill put instructions in comments below). You’re also welcome to simply follow along and watch what happens. Either way, I’ll keep everyone here updated.

I also have some 100% FREE projects releasing in the next 4 weeks - which I will also share here in the coming weeks (with the blessing of the mods 😄).

Finally, a huge thank you to everyone who has supported me, encouraged me, watched my work, or believed in what I’m trying to do. This nomination marks the beginning of something new for all of us ❤️

Hey folks, I'm about to move to Sweden to take up a job offer, and I was wondering about what the queer scene there is like for gaysians.

Most of the accounts and descriptions I see online don't seem to be by Asians, and there's a lot that I read in (not queer) circles about how insular and racist Swedes can be despite the country's progressive image.

If you're a gaysian with an experience of living there, I'd love to hear from you about how welcoming you found the queer scene, whether you ran into issues in general society on account of your asian-ness, or if you're currently there and are just open to making new friends!

The city I'm moving to is Stockholm, if that matters!

A bit of a brain dump here.

I grew up in a Vietnamese-American household and some of my first crushes were some male Vietnamese singers from Paris by Night (iykyk). I also grew up in a predominantly Latino neighborhood and some of my crushes at school were my Latino classmates. I thought 1-2 white guys were cute here and there. But it wasn’t until I was 12-13 that I was exposed to so many white guys through porn. Idk if this repeated exposure through porn and Asian-White gay couples irl and the lack of non-white guys who reciprocate interest (at the level some white guys do) in me that has made me think I’m destined to be with a white guy. But I don’t want to be a stereotype either.

Anyway, I’m probably overthinking this as I do with most things in my life. Anyone else experiencing something similar?

I’m looking for some honest perspectives because I’m trying to figure out if I’m seeing this the wrong way.

I’ve recently started dating someone who’s genuinely kind, thoughtful, and treats me well. That’s honestly the part I value the most.

The thing I’m struggling with is our relationship with money and image.

His family (first generation north american) is very into displaying wealth, and he seems to have picked up some of that too. Lots of obvious designer brands, chasing the latest trendy photo spots, buying into whatever is currently “the thing.” There is nothing wrong with enjoying those things, but it feels much more important to him than it is to me.

For context, I’m not coming from a place of jealousy or not being able to afford it. I’m fortunate enough that I can travel comfortably for long haul flights because I value arriving well rested, and spend a month or two abroad, if I want to.

The disparity is where I choose to spend my money:
I’d rather stay in an Airbnb or extended stay apartment so I can cook healthy meals with local ingrediants than eat at the trendiest restaurants every night. I’d rather spend money on wellness, experiences, and getting enough sleep than partying until 1am. I don’t really care about luxury logos or looking wealthy to other people.

I’m at a stage in life where I’m thinking more about financial security and investing into the future than impressing strangers.

Has anyone successfully navigated this difference in values with someone they were dating?

Is this just a harmless difference in personality, or is it usually a sign of fundamentally different priorities?

And if you were going to bring it up, how would you say something like, “I love that you enjoy nice things, but I’d rather see us invest more into our future than keeping up appearances,” without sounding controlling or judgemental?

I genuinely would love to hear from people who’ve been on either side of this.

I’m not trying to change someone or take away what makes them happy. I just wonder how people find a balance when two people have very different ideas of what makes life enjoyable.

Went to Hans for the first time. I'm a Taiwanese American, I've been back a several times but never really got to see the gay scene here. I really enjoyed it. I read some reviews that said it was dingy but it seems pretty regular to me, I wasn't expecting a luxury bathhouse lol. It was a nice mixed crowd. Personally not a fan of only muscular bodies. Age range was mostly 30's and had some older folks (50+). I was only there for a couple hours but there were some cute guys and everyone was mostly respectful. I enjoyed the theater room where you could just chill out. It's really dark in the steam room and sauna. Met a sexy guy and we connected in the private rooms area. Overall I enjoyed it. I don't frequent these places much, we don't have gay bathhouses in New York

Anyone else been? What are your experiences?

Heading to Bangkok next month for a trip. Never visited the gay scenes there and I do not have any experiences. Please suggest me some places to go! (massages, saunas, bars, etc)

For reference, I’m just an average Southeast asian guy mostly into other asians, not super attractive either just so-so. So I’d hope to know places where I’d have better chances of meeting people.

Hey everyone! I’m going to Bangkok in October and I’m looking for a hostel for 2–3 nights.
I’ve already read a lot about MyBed and Togayther, so now I’m looking for other options.
I’m after a place that’s popular with gay travelers, has a social vibe where it’s easy to meet people, but still offers enough privacy and a good night’s sleep (capsules are totally fine).
What do you think about Tiang Capsule? Does it attract many gay guests? Is it easy to meet people there?