18F | India | Looking for something real 🌿

Hey! I'm Sherin, 18, currently studying a tech course at university. I'm the type of person who can spend hours talking about books (especially dark romance), music, random late-night thoughts, and anything that makes life feel a little less ordinary.

I'm here because I'm looking for a genuine, long-term relationship. I believe in old-school love—the kind where people communicate, stay loyal, and choose each other every day. I'm not interested in games, ghosting, or casual flings.

A little about me:

- 📚 Loves reading

- 💻 Tech student

- 💬 Will absolutely yap if I'm comfortable with you

- 🌍 Open to long-distance

- ❤️ I'd love to meet someone from a different culture, but that's not a requirement

I'm hoping to meet someone who is:

- Between 19–25

- Loyal, honest, and emotionally mature

- A good communicator

- Kind, patient, and genuinely looking for something meaningful

If you're only here for temporary fun or can't communicate, we're probably not a good match.

If this sounds like you, send me a message and tell me something interesting about yourself(age,name, location and so on )instead of just saying "hi." :)

So first and foremost, I'm not sure if I'm demisexual or not: right now I'm thinking demi, gray, or ageosexual, or maybe fluctuating? But at any rate, I at least need to get to know you before I consider sex.

Looking for ages 24-40, please. Willing to go a little older if we really connect, but not younger.

I'm located in the "thumb" of the lower peninsula of Michigan. Kind of close to Saginaw and Vassar.

I consider myself chapstick/femme and most commonly find myself attracted to other chapsticks or femmes. Cis, 5'6", plus size, white, wavy brown hair, green eyes, glasses, and generally dress comfortable but cutesy. I love a lot of traditionally "girly" things like lace, pearls, sparkles, rainbows, pastels, ruffles, and the color pink. 🩷

Some more about me: Monogamous, childfree, agnostic/atheist, disabled, leftist, non-smoker/drinker, omnivore (it's complicated), cat person, and introverted but social.

Willing to do LDR within the United States, so long as you understand that I am very reluctant to leave Michigan/the Midwest.

32 AFAB They/Them looking to meet people who are comfortable with themselves and the depth of being human. Open to both internet and irl friendships. I’m located in the Mid Atlantic region of the US.

Friendship is very important to me and I take pride in having a chosen family. I can be a bit intense in the “super introspective, very self aware” kinda way. Looking to meet people who are similar in that regard. Not a real fan of small talk I prefer to get to know the real you.

I spend a lot of time listening to audiobooks, camping and gardening. Rarely at the same time. Hopeless romantic at heart. Deeply connected with nature. Obsessed with my small dog.

I love to work out, in a “I want to be an active person as I age” kinda way not in a gym rat way. Love to cook good food, keep two feet on the ground, and tell a lot of jokes.

Seeking friendships with people who think they’d vibe with someone like me. I love a person who has very well researched opinions and isn’t afraid to info dump. Someone who doesn’t take life too seriously but takes themselves seriously.

Hello! I've been using this sub for a while and met a few lovely people but I have not found exactly what I am looking for yet.

Some details about me and what I am searching for.

I'm AMAB and still very masculine looking, which is something I enjoy and don't want to change.

I am both Demisexual and romantic, which has made modern dating very difficult, people dont want to spent the time I need getting to know someone unless they are certain and I can't give that to them.

I live in the UK and am pretty comfortable with where I am both home and work wise. Im fairly introverted, and have a limited social battery that means I much prefer life at home than adventure. Politically I am left leaning, often disappointed with the options in the UK.

Ideally I would like a life partner who has similar interests to mine (will list below) who doesn't want kids and is fairly close to me as very long distance is not appealing. I'm not religous at all and not really interested in marriage as a concept, I'd only do it if it was a requirement for legal and not for religious reasons. There was not an easy way to put it in the title but I find a lot of forms attractive, but do not find masculine forms attractive.

My Hobbies and Interests are mostly centered around gaming, I have a few consoles but mainly play on PC, a good mixture of games not really sticking to one type. I play ttrpgs often, and will probably end up playing more often in the future. I like to cook on occasion, and enjoy peaceful walks around my local area. I'm not very keen on travelling, but have found I appreciate it as long as I have time to myself, and that its not somewhere my pasty self will die from heat.

Age Range: 24-40

Location: UK prefered, Europe okay

For: Chatting and friends online, hopefully meeting irl if we are compatible.

Hey there! 😊 I'm a trans woman hoping to find a man who is 25+ to potentially date!

I’m hoping to build something really sweet with someone that feels full of love, affection, and genuine care for each other! I’m someone who gets really excited about my person, and I will happily run to the door to give you the biggest hug when you come home and tell you how much I’ve missed you! I love feeling close to someone I care about, whether that’s giving you tons of hugs, cuddling the night away together, or holding hands just because we can. It all just feels so special to me, and I’ll always be really happy to be by your side and show you how much you mean to me. 🥰

I would really love to care for you in ways that brighten your day and make life feel more special. I’ve always been someone who has loved the idea of being a homemaker for my partner, and creating a warm, cozy home, so things like learning your favorite recipes just so I can surprise you with them, making your favorite dinners, or packing you lunches with cute notes hidden inside to make you smile make me so happy! I love being someone you can lean on and feel cared for by, and I’ll always be cheering you on in life and wanting to make your days easier and more comforting where I can. It truly means so much to me knowing I can do things that make you feel loved and appreciated. 😊

Personality-wise, I’m introverted, a little shy, fun-sized, and very much a cozy homebody. I love anime (especially One Piece and Fairy Tail), and I have such a soft spot for Studio Ghibli movies! 💛

I’m super nerdy and artsy! I like watercoloring, playing video games, learning new languages (currently learning Japanese!), and just getting really excited about finding new things that catch my attention. I honestly love that feeling of discovering something new, and I would love to share that with someone! 🤗

Most days you’ll find me curled up with a blanket and tea, going on nature walks, doing yoga, or trying out a new recipe I got excited about. It would be so fun to find someone who gets just as excited for new anime seasons as I do, or who would want to curl up and watch Ghibli movies together! 💛

I really love cuddly guys with that protective kind of energy that makes me feel safe and like I can just relax and be myself. I love that feeling of being wrapped up in someone’s arms and just completely melting into them. I really value closeness, and I would ideally like to find someone who enjoys spending a lot of quality time together, or just enjoys each other’s presence as we do our own things!

Distance isn’t a big deal to me, and I’d be open to relocating for the right person if it feels right for us! 🥰 My lifestyle doesn’t include drinking or smoking (vaping, marijuana, etc) so I’m hoping to meet someone who feels the same way.

I’ll always be your cheerleader, someone who’s in your corner, supports you, and makes sure you feel loved every day! 🩷

If that sounds like you, tell me about you! What are you into lately, what kind of relationship are you hoping to find here, or what made you feel like we might click? 🥰

Hi! I'm 27, from around Montreal, honestly pretty bad at these kind of introduction so i'll try my best.

I'm 5'7, Caucasian, a little overweight but working on it, brown hair, pretty generic white dude physically. Also very much demi but not demi romantic, and also asperger (i work on a lot of flaw that come with this but sometime they appear or sometime they are quirk not worth changing.

For the personality side, INTP, I call or go see my family at least once a week (long distance), play mtg. I read a lot of different book, if it was written it is worth reading, like to cook, to walk, to hike etc. I also play video game, and got a very lovely cat.

I think it is more important to align on value and life goal then on hobby or activity, even if we still need some in common or an openness to try new one.

I also love learning new thing, currently i'm trying to learn chinese main dialect (mandarin) for example.

• desired age range: 23-29
• relationship type: any
• and the area in which they are willing to consider potential matches: Canada, ideally closer to Montreal city, i'm willing to travel and chat online but it's easier when we are closer.

I've realised over time that I feel most fulfilled in a relationship when I'm taking the lead and looking after my partner, using my experience and confidence to provide protection, reassurance, and guidance, helping her to feel safe and secure. It's a dynamic where we have different but complementary roles - traditional in many respects, but not all. If this sounds appealing, please read on.

About Me

I’m single with no kids, and I’ve never been married. You won't be surprised to hear that I've had relationships before, but I've also spent long periods single, partly because I’ve been focused on other things in life, partly because I realised a long time ago that I'm much happier single than in the wrong relationship, and partly because it’s pretty rare that I meet someone I feel the right connection with. But I still dream of meeting the right person for the long term, and over the years I've developed a much better understanding of who I am and what I'm looking for. I find dating apps awful, and so I figured Reddit was worth a shot.

I’m 6 ft (1.84 m) tall, around 170 lbs (78 kg), slim, and in good shape, with blue eyes and dark brown hair. I’d like to think that I'm intelligent, well-educated, and kind. I’m honest and genuine, and I value integrity and a sense of right and wrong. I have a good job and live alone in a house that I own, and I have a great group of friends. I think physical attraction is a factor for most people, but it's also entirely subjective, so I'm happy to swap photos fairly early on so you can judge for yourself.

Fitness is important to me and I love running and spending time outdoors walking in the hills and camping. I don’t smoke, I very rarely drink, and I'm generally in bed by 10pm. I'll happily spend weekends wandering around old castles or exploring National Trust properties. I also love quiet nights in with a book or a film, board games (including chess), and occasional trips to the theatre, live music, or comedy. I’m someone who tends to have a small number of close friends rather than being part of large groups.

As I said above, I really enjoy taking the lead in a relationship - but this is leadership as a responsibility. I tend to work well with someone who can be anxious or over-think at times, because I enjoy making decisions and guiding someone, and because I understand the importance of patience and trust. When we reach the point where you trust me to look after you and to take some of your worries off your shoulders, it can allow the hyper-vigilant part of your mind to switch off, letting you truly relax and feel safe. Being trusted by my partner to play that role in her life is enormously rewarding for me.

I'm not religious, but I don't mind if you are, as long as our values match. I'm not looking to have children (it's a long story, which I'm happy to explain). I don't really fit a political category, because my views vary on different topics. But if you're very extreme in any direction, we're probably not a good match.

Who I’m Looking For

I’m looking for a woman who is single, never married, with no kids. Someone who is intelligent, articulate, caring, sweet, genuine, and loving. I tend to find shyness and introversion attractive, partly because I love the sensitivity that goes with it. In terms of age, around 25-45 is ideal, but if you’re outside that and think we’d be a good fit, feel free to message. What matters more than any specific age is the connection we have, our shared values and interests, and the dynamic we both want.

I want to meet someone I can talk to about everything and anything, and who dreams of looking after her partner in her own devoted way. Someone who loves books and values education and intellectual curiosity. Someone who feels completely unsuited to modern swipe culture and the disposable attitude to dating. Perhaps you dream of living in a Jane Austen novel, or you just want to meet a man with old-fashioned values, with whom you can take time to feel truly comfortable and be your whole self, without feeling pressured to rush things.

I'm looking for someone who enjoys a mix of time outdoors or with other people and quiet time at home with a book, a series, or a film. I'd like my partner to share my active lifestyle and for us both to keep ourselves in decent shape (but that doesn't mean you need to be a gym nut).

I’m looking for someone who takes dating and relationships seriously and who has never been into casual encounters - hopefully on this sub this won’t be an issue! I don't mind if you’re inexperienced or if you’re not sure what you’re looking for - I'm happy to gently take the lead and guide you as we slowly get to know each other.

I’m happy to hear from people outside the UK, but it needs to be realistic for us to see each other regularly and I'm not in a position to travel much at the moment, so you’d need to be comfortable visiting me regularly and relocating here in due course.

Say Hello

I'm happy to chat with anyone who's curious - there'll never be any pressure from me. But if we want to move beyond friendship, I’ll want to exchange SFW photos, then voice/video call, and then meet - I'm not looking for an online relationship. I will never send or ask for NSFW photos. I need an emotional and intellectual connection with someone before we move beyond friendship. I really hope you're the same.

If you think we might get on, message me with your age and location. There's no need to comment first - just DM me.

Hi! I'm 23 and from London. I recently came across this community and realised I relate to a lot of people's experiences and the way many people here approach connection. I'm not sure I'd describe myself as demisexual, but I've always found that I enjoy dating far more when there's a genuine emotional connection first. I'd much rather get to know one person properly over time than rush into a relationship.

Modern dating has never really felt like a good fit for me. Swiping through profiles and trying to make instant judgments isn't how I naturally connect with people. I much prefer taking the time to build trust, get to know someone's personality, and see where things go naturally.

A little about me:
• Black, 5'10, slim athletic build
• Autistic, which means I really value honesty, consistency, and direct communication
• Music is one of my biggest hobbies. I listen to a lot of rock, metal, and a bit of DnB, and you'll usually find me at a gig whenever there's one worth going to.
• I enjoy gaming (Persona, Doom, Gran Turismo, and plenty more), going to the cinema, playing football, visiting theme parks, and generally finding reasons to get out of the house.
• I'm fairly introverted, but once I'm comfortable with someone I enjoy long conversations about almost anything.

I'd describe myself as thoughtful, dependable, and pretty easy-going. I'm independent and enjoy my own company, but I think life's much better when you've got someone to share it with. Whether that's discovering new music, planning a day out, or simply spending a quiet evening together.

I'm looking for:
• Someone aged around 19-26
• Ideally based in London or close enough that we can meet regularly
• Interested in building a genuine long-term relationship
• Also sure they don't want children

More than anything, I'm looking for someone who's kind, emotionally mature, and communicates openly. Nobody gets everything right all the time, but I really appreciate people who are honest about how they're feeling and willing to work through things together. I don't expect us to have everything in common, because I think shared values matter far more than having identical hobbies.

I'm happy to exchange photos fairly early on because I think mutual attraction matters. While I like taking things slowly and building an emotional connection first, I do see physical intimacy as an important part of a long-term relationship once that trust and connection are there.

If any of this resonates with you, I'd like to hear from you. Tell me a little about yourself, your age, where you're from, and what you're looking for.

Thanks for reading 🙂

Hello! My name is Anthony. I’m a 35-year-old man (US, ET time zone) who thrives on introspection, curiosity, and passionate drives.

I seek people who seek meaningful connection that plays out in several different ways, from daily casual chats to shared passions and endeavors. I appreciate the sudden whim of adventure and adore abstract minds and vibrant souls.

Rumination and contemplation are lifelong pursuits of mine. I’m an autodidact who’s been passionate about a variety of persuasions since I’ve been young.

Creativity and artistry are important to me. Personally, I write: about my observations, thoughts, and lived experiences. I also dabble in photography.

I love coffee, both simple and bitter and excessively frilly concoctions, burning incense, because I've always thought the smoke is cool, archiving and organizing, collecting (written texts, oddities and cool things), and time pieces. Watching movies with people is great, too. I used to be very into film.

If my signal created resonating vibes within you, send me message about yourself and what you're looking for. Leave your hesitations and take the chance.

r/dateademi requirements:

• desired age range: 18+
• relationship type: any
• and the area in which they are willing to consider potential matches: any

Hi! I'm Mohamed, 23 years old, from Egypt, and 180 cm (5'11").

I'm here because I'm looking for something genuine. I'm not interested in casual dating or talking for a few days and disappearing. I'd love to find someone who wants a real long-term relationship where we become each other's favorite person and build a happy future together.

A little about me...

I'm passionate about cybersecurity and technology, and I enjoy learning new things every day. I believe that improving yourself never stops.

I used to go to the gym regularly and really enjoyed it. Right now I'm taking a break because I'll be starting my mandatory military service soon, which will last about a year. After that, I plan to get back to the gym and continue working on both my career and my health.

Outside of that, I enjoy movies, music, gaming, cafés, learning, and especially winter. I absolutely love cold weather, quiet nights, and long walks when everything feels peaceful.

I'd describe myself as calm, loyal, caring, protective, and a good listener. It usually takes me some time to fully trust people, but once I do, I become deeply attached and always try to be there for the people I love.

One thing that's very important to me is affection. I love when someone remembers the little details about me, checks on me, asks how my day was, or simply makes me feel loved. I try to give the same energy back.

Sometimes I get overwhelmed and become quiet for a while. It doesn't mean I'm upset with you—I just need a little time to clear my mind before I come back to being myself.

Loyalty means everything to me. I don't forgive cheating in any form. When I truly love someone, I become very attached because I love deeply. I like relationships where both people naturally make each other their priority.

I know not everyone will agree with this, but I personally don't believe in close friendships with the opposite sex while being in a committed relationship. It's simply one of my values. I'd rather be my partner's best friend, someone she can talk to about everything, laugh with, and rely on.

What I'm looking for...

Ideally, I'm looking for someone between 20 and 24 years old. Age isn't everything, though. What matters most to me is maturity, compatibility, and sharing the same relationship goals.

Someone who is kind, honest, loyal, affectionate, emotionally mature, and looking for something serious. Someone who enjoys good communication, quality time, and isn't afraid to show love.

If you enjoy movies, games, music, reading, cafés, quiet evenings, or winter walks, we'll probably get along really well.

Distance isn't a deal breaker if the connection is real. I'm happy to exchange photos once we're both comfortable.

One last thing... My English isn't perfect yet, but I'm doing my best to improve every day, so thank you for being patient with me.

If you've read this far, thank you. I'd love to hear about you, your hobbies, your goals, and what you're looking for.

Maybe this message finds the right person. 🤍

Hello all you amazing people!

With the warmer weather in full effect, it makes me think to get outside more and enjoy what life has to offer, but what better way to do that than with a partner by my side!

Who you are:
\\- Looking for their person to grow old with

\\- Kind, compassionate and looking to eventually have a family (adoption is on the table, and honestly preferred)

\\-22-36 (not a hard requirement, just more common where I find people with the same mindset/long term goals as me)

\\-Nerdy about anything they are passionate about, tell me about all the bugs you love, or the rocks you collect, bonus if you are TV/Movie nerdy but not necessary

\\-Within driving distance (4-6 hours, but also not a hard requirement, long distance open for the right person)

\\-Passionate about human rights

What I bring to the table:
\\-Strong values, emotionally available, and proper communication skills

\\-Nerdy/Silly personality, will always do my best to keep a smile on your face

\\-Will play games with you, both tabletop and virtual

\\-Will not be the most competitive with said games (unless you enjoy a little competition)

\\-Will provide the food (I like to cook for others, and teaching myself to bake slowly)

\\-Can provide cuddles and hugs 24/7/365

\\-Can be the extroverted one when your social battery is drained

If any of this appeals to you, don’t hesitate to send out a DM, I’m happy to chat with everyone! I also find that a small bit of encouragement to those that see themselves as more introverted can help boost their confidence to reach out and message first so don’t be shy, take a risk!

As always, a pleasure!

I’ve decided to give the dating world another shot.. you never know!

First of all, even first of my name, you need to know that I am Asexual (sex-repulsed). This means I repudiate any kind of sexual interaction. You also need to know that I'm Demiromantic. This means, I only experience romantic attraction after forming a deep emotional connection.

If we're going to match, this needs to be something you are genuinely comfortable with in the long run!

Hi! My name is Valeria, I'm 19 (turning 20 in August) and I live in Northern Italy. I'm a woman attracted to people regardless of gender, though I have a preference for feminine men and masculine women. And I am an ambivert, which means that depending on the context and the people around me I'm more or less open.

- About me: I consider myself a frank and sincere person, and I try to be the person I would like to meet... A person who makes it clear what they want, what they like, and what they want to do, without hurting others.

I admit I'm a bit obtuse, sometimes you need to tell me things very directly or I just won't get the hint! And sometimes really lazy (I'm working on it!).

- General physical characteristics: I am white, 166 cm tall, blonde with blue eyes. I have Italian and Russian roots.

- Education/Job: I graduated with a diploma in woodworking in 2025, and currently, I work in a bakery selling all kinds of delicious baked goods :)

-What I'm looking for: Someone with whom I can form a very deep bond, a partner, a person who will remain close to me in life.

I'm also looking for deep friendships in general. I'm open to a QPR relationship, even though I've never been part of one. - But above all, people with a keen sense of humor!! (very important) (´▽\`人) -

- What I look for IN a person: I would like to find someone in touch with their feelings and their inner child.

Sweet and capable of seeing things from different perspectives and recognizing and respecting how others view and approach things, while setting one's own boundaries and asserting oneself.

Very open to learning and broadening one's perspectives and knowledge.

- My preferences (looks): I like men with long hair (by long hair I mean longer than mine, which is like 70cm\~), so ye, practically metalheads.

I know it’s a stereotype that all metalheads drink or smoke, but if you're a sober metalhead, please manifest yourself! I promise we can headbang just as hard with fruit juice!

Also, I like tall/black women and blond men.

These are just preferences of course, they are not 100% decisive.

- BIG NO:

\- Smoking/Vaping, Drug use (non-medical), Gambling

\- ANY alcohol consumption (I'm strictly sober/alcohol-free)

\- Anyone aged 24 or older

\- Polyamorous relationships (I'm looking for a monogamous bond).

\- If you want children or to get married

\- Living outside Europe (Unless you already speak Italian fluently!)

\- Dry responders

- Religion: I'm cool if you want to study religion, but I’m not looking for a religious person (even though I follow rules considered to be in the religious sphere, such as not drinking alcohol).

And you also must like cats! (=\^ェ\^=)

- English: Just to let you know, English is not my first language, so for written conversations I use the translator. My speaking isn't perfect either, but I'm always trying to improve. (I'm B1/2).

So, NOW THE MOST IMPORTANT PART:

- My future travel plans: One plan of mine in the near future (5 years) is to buy a van and travel around Europe for six months or more. I don't think I'll be able to do it with the current geopolitical situation tho. :/

At least I'll try to work for (X) time so I can have enough time and money saved up to travel somewhere (by bike, van/motorcycle or boat).

Also, I plan to apply to work in Antarctica in the future. And I plan to work and volunteer around the world. I don't know if it'll be feasible, but I'll try.

- What I look for in a person who wants to share this lifestyle with me:

\- ​Willingness to learn my native language (Italian).

\- Open to traveling to see each other at least once a month after we've known each other for a year or two (LDR is fine at first, but physical connection matters!).

\- After a relationship of years, I hope to share this exact lifestyle -> (travel and work in extreme places of the world and live in a van for at least 3 months a year)

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If you're still reading, then you might be interested in knowing a bit about what I like and my interests:

One of my interests is marine life. I love watching documentaries about marine animals and the ocean ecosystem! - I don't know all the names and categories of marine species, I'm simply fascinated by this underwater world :)

Films and the details of cinema, and especially animation, are another good part of my interests!

I live, love, and breathe animated films. - I don't have a favorite type of animation, my preference depends on how much a film moves me (\^\^; - A good portion of my attention goes to the soundtracks. I love them, I listen to them practically every day (\^-\^;

I also hope you're a fan of cosplay, manga, webtoons and animated series, then we'd have something to start talking about!

Hi!

Looking for someone loving and kind. I'm fairly introverted. Im 36 and 5'8" with dark brown hair.

I have a bachelors degree, but I don't work in my field. I live on my own with a couple of roommates. I enjoy playing Tennis, Pickleball and Dancing. I love Ballroom, but recently made the decision to focus on Contra.

I find a woman who knits/sews for a hobby extremely attractive. I also find a woman who reads science fiction or fantasy attractive.

Im fairly active in life style and while I don't require this in a partner it would be nice.

I know how to cook, keep clean and provide for myself. I don't need someone to do these things for me, but with me would be nice. I would love to cook dinner or bake a cake with you.

I work with children... Im good with them, and would like children of my own. It's a dream of mine to have two girls. But if my partner can't or doesn't want children then I will love my partner regardless and live this life childless.

I make a decent wage that's close to the living wage of the area, and I work full time. I have my own car that is reliable.

Politically, im a Left-leaning progressive. No MAGA for me.

Religiously Im Agnostic, but willing to date anyone who's accepting be they religious or not. I believe if you want it to work, we can make it work.

If this sounds like something that interests you, DM me. Let's get to know each other. Worse case scenario I make a new friend.

Age range 28 - 42

I've realised over time that I feel most fulfilled in a relationship when I'm taking the lead and looking after my partner, using my experience and confidence to provide protection, reassurance, and guidance, helping her to feel safe and secure. It's a dynamic where we have different but complementary roles - traditional in many respects, but not all. If this sounds appealing, please read on.

About Me

I’m single with no kids, and I’ve never been married. You won't be surprised to hear that I've had relationships before, but I've also spent long periods single, partly because I’ve been focused on other things in life, partly because I realised a long time ago that I'm much happier single than in the wrong relationship, and partly because it’s pretty rare that I meet someone I feel the right connection with. But I still dream of meeting the right person for the long term, and over the years I've developed a much better understanding of who I am and what I'm looking for. I find dating apps awful, and so I figured Reddit was worth a shot.

I’m 6 ft (1.84 m) tall, around 170 lbs (78 kg), slim, and in good shape, with blue eyes and dark brown hair. I’d like to think that I'm intelligent, well-educated, and kind. I’m honest and genuine, and I value integrity and a sense of right and wrong. I have a good job and live alone in a house that I own, and I have a great group of friends. I think physical attraction is a factor for most people, but it's also entirely subjective, so I'm happy to swap photos fairly early on so you can judge for yourself.

Fitness is important to me and I love running and spending time outdoors walking in the hills and camping. I don’t smoke, I very rarely drink, and I'm generally in bed by 10pm. I'll happily spend weekends wandering around old castles or exploring National Trust properties. I also love quiet nights in with a book or a film, board games (including chess), and occasional trips to the theatre, live music, or comedy. I’m someone who tends to have a small number of close friends rather than being part of large groups.

As I said above, I really enjoy taking the lead in a relationship - but this is leadership as a responsibility. I tend to work well with someone who can be anxious or over-think at times, because I enjoy making decisions and guiding someone, and because I understand the importance of patience and trust. When we reach the point where you trust me to look after you and to take some of your worries off your shoulders, it can allow the hyper-vigilant part of your mind to switch off, letting you truly relax and feel safe. Being trusted by my partner to play that role in her life is enormously rewarding for me.

I'm not religious, but I don't mind if you are, as long as our values match. I'm not looking to have children (it's a long story, which I'm happy to explain). I don't really fit a political category, because my views vary on different topics. But if you're very extreme in any direction, we're probably not a good match.

Who I’m Looking For

I’m looking for a woman who is single, never married, with no kids. Someone who is intelligent, articulate, caring, sweet, genuine, and loving. I tend to find shyness and introversion attractive, partly because I love the sensitivity that goes with it. In terms of age, around 25-45 is ideal, but if you’re outside that and think we’d be a good fit, feel free to message. What matters more than any specific age is the connection we have, our shared values and interests, and the dynamic we both want.

I want to meet someone I can talk to about everything and anything, and who dreams of looking after her partner in her own devoted way. Someone who loves books and values education and intellectual curiosity. Someone who feels completely unsuited to modern swipe culture and the disposable attitude to dating. Perhaps you dream of living in a Jane Austen novel, or you just want to meet a man with old-fashioned values, with whom you can take time to feel truly comfortable and be your whole self, without feeling pressured to rush things.

I'm looking for someone who enjoys a mix of time outdoors or with other people and quiet time at home with a book, a series, or a film. I'd like my partner to share my active lifestyle and for us both to keep ourselves in decent shape (but that doesn't mean you need to be a gym nut).

I’m looking for someone who takes dating and relationships seriously and who has never been into casual encounters - hopefully on this sub this won’t be an issue! I don't mind if you’re inexperienced or if you’re not sure what you’re looking for - I'm happy to gently take the lead and guide you as we slowly get to know each other.

I’m happy to hear from people outside the UK, but it needs to be realistic for us to see each other regularly and I'm not in a position to travel much at the moment, so you’d need to be comfortable visiting me regularly and relocating here in due course.

Say Hello

I'm happy to chat with anyone who's curious - there'll never be any pressure from me. But if we want to move beyond friendship, I’ll want to exchange SFW photos, then voice/video call, and then meet - I'm not looking for an online relationship. I will never send or ask for NSFW photos. I need an emotional and intellectual connection with someone before we move beyond friendship. I really hope you're the same.

If you think we might get on, message me with your age and location. There's no need to comment first - just DM me.

Hi!

I'm looking for someone who enjoys getting to know people beyond the usual small talk. I don't just like knowing facts about someone—I like understanding how they think, what excites them, what they've experienced, and why they see the world the way they do.

I tend to open up slowly, but once I feel comfortable with someone, I really enjoy honest conversations where neither of us feels like we have to pretend to be someone else.

A bit about me:

I'm usually pretty quiet. I have two modes: either I'm making terrible puns and joking around, or I'm having a serious conversation about something I genuinely care about. There isn't much in between.

I'm a medical physicist, which basically means I spend my days working with radiation in cancer treatments. Outside of work, I'm just naturally curious. Science, psychology, philosophy, astronomy... if something helps me understand the world or people a little better, I'll probably end up reading about it.

I also tend to notice little details that other people miss, and I like taking the time to understand different perspectives before making up my mind.

When I'm not working, I enjoy emotional or imaginative anime, story-driven or co-op games, music that gives you goosebumps, and snowboarding during the winter. I also just like sharing experiences with someone, whether that's watching a show together, playing a game, or spending an evening talking about whatever rabbit hole we ended up in.

What I'm looking for is actually pretty simple.

I'd like to meet someone who's kind, curious, and comfortable being themselves. Someone who values honest communication and doesn't mind conversations that go a little deeper than "how was your day?" I love when people let themselves be a little weird instead of trying to fit into who they think they're supposed to be.

Relationship-wise, I'm looking for something that grows naturally. I don't expect instant chemistry. I'd rather build trust first and let everything else happen at its own pace.

I'm demisexual and demiromantic, so emotional connection comes first for me. I'm completely happy taking things slowly, but I'm looking for someone who isn't sex-repulsed. Once I feel safe with someone, I'm actually a pretty affectionate person. I also generally prefer a more submissive role physically, so I'd like to be with someone who's comfortable taking the lead in that area. It's not the most important part of a relationship, but it is something I'd rather be upfront about.

I'm from the French-speaking part of Canada. I have a stable career here, but I'm open to relocating if life eventually takes me somewhere else.

I'm looking for someone between 21 and 35. I don't have many physical preferences. I'd much rather connect with someone's personality than chase a specific look. As long as you're able to enjoy the occasional outdoor activity with me, that's plenty.

Physically, I'm 5'10", have a dad bod, very long black hair, a moustache, and a small pointed beard.

If you think we'd get along, I'd love to hear from you.

Hello!

My name is Ali. 

Ideally looking for a strong, loyal, one-to-one partnership that can stand the ages. I know, I’m being a little dramatic but it's true. I can be deeply devoted and sentimental with the right person and would love to find somebody who can match that energy. For instance writing letters, finding neat trinkets that remind us of each other or blabbering about our hyper-fixations are very endearing to me.

To be blunt (You will notice this in my writing), I am both Demisexual/Romantic. I have attempted dating apps in the past only to find they led to very shallow connections to fill a void. I am not swayed or particularly motivated by looks and most of my real in depth relationships have been through a shared experience, work.. getting to know one another with no pressure or expectation. So trying this method is taking a chance! 

Basic desc;

25 F from the PNW rainy wonderland (WA). 5’3, bit curvy but athletic. Brown midlength wavy hair, hazel eyes. Interested in Men (AMAB and identifying). Strictly monogamous. Intentionality means a lot to me, really just looking for an amazing and passionate relationship where we can constantly try new things and challenge one another to grow.. dismantle all the bs life throws at us.

Communication is key. LDR isn’t ideal, but I am open to trying if it seems plausible. Children are a possibility I'm open for, but not anytime soon.

 Ideal age range would be [24-32].

I am a 9w1 and INTP I suppose. 

I overthink a lot and can be a bit sensitive, working on it. I greatly enjoy my alone time and am generally not the most touchy kind of person. I’m always up for trying something new but I'm not an adrenaline junkie! I do not smoke cigarettes, weed occasionally. Love trying various types of alcohol but an absolute lightweight. I am sipping chardonnay as I type this.

I find solace in Buddhist teachings, concepts of animism and general spirituality. I try to practice empathy and compassion for everyone and understand fear is a driving force of a lot of pain today. I do what I can each day to help, even small, to make a difference and see everyone deserving of a basic level of respect.. Do no harm yet take no shit.

I can be a bit of a crunchy almondy, hippie sorta gal. I think herbal medicine/uses are very interesting and believe in an interest in alternative medicine and western intervention.

Dealbreakers are any forms of Bigotry, lack of empathy, Racist remarks or undertones, Overt messiness, Intolerance, Anti-LGBT+ sentiments. 

Fun things worth knowing;

I’m a big fan of more Vintage fashion (60’s/70’s/90’s) and love to find some pieces that reflect that. Most of my music taste is also from those eras and I usually dislike most modern music (lacking soul) although there are a few bops. Enigma, The Beatles, Various OSTs, Zero 7 and most angry alt women’s anthems from the 90’s are a few notable favs.

I am a HUGE animal lover and will be soon returning to work as a veterinary assistant. I find all animals fascinating and could tell you the most random facts about some interesting animals.  My favorites are Flying Foxes! I also have a cat that is my other half, I love her to bits.

I make art in many forms and prefer traditional, although I am learning how to do digital. I also can (laughably) play various instruments, although I do prefer acoustic guitar.

I’m a nerd about Elder Scrolls, RDR(2), LOTR, TF2, D&D (I would read the 2e monster manual religiously). I find a lot of comfort in Renn Faire medieval fantasy stuff in general, actually. Lots of my favorite movies/shows are a little older or less popular, so definitely worth chatting more about!

I am not a huge fan of social media and keep it to be connected with close loved ones, but that’s about it. I yearn for the days of analog and will hopefully be getting a basic yet modernized flip-phone eventually.  Not much of a gamer or into anime, but I have friends that are. In fact I’m totally clueless and out of the loop about a lot of things socially and don’t have much of a drive to be up to date, so if you relate.. Yeah.

I find hiking, camping, survivalist things and being adept at self defense very interesting and am currently working towards being proficient and educated. Must be ok with guns and hold gun safety in high regard.

Serious things worth knowing;

I was raised in a mixed environment between households and spent a lot of time with the older folk in my life. I generally get along better with older people and have a harder time relating to my peers. That being said, even though I do hold some old fashioned values of respect, manners and mending/making things last as long as possible, I hold some very progressive ideals within reason. I would say Independent with left leaning sentiments; Trans couples should be able to own firearms is a great way to sum it up and let people live their damn lives authentically if it isn't harming anyone.

Most people in my family are neurodivergent and it usually puts people off, so fair warning. I have anxiety and mild depression as well as suspected undiagnosed ADHD, I manage them all well. I am actively in therapy to work though things and ultimately have a drive to be as healthy as I can.

Even if I am a bit more “traditional”, this does not mean looking for the submissive or harmful expected stereotype of “femininity”.  I have a mean independence streak and would appreciate a partner that respects my time and autonomy- if you are looking for someone to “tame” I am not your person. If you like someone a bit fiery but sweet, hooray!

Because of said independence streak, I need to make a long term goal of mine clear. One of my biggest dreams I am currently working towards is saving up to live on the road a while. I’d love to visit each national park and do some tempt work, visit each state for the experience and interview/learn stories about various strangers. I understand If this isn’t compatible or comfortable to most people! I plan to remain living in the PNW for a while and would someday love to relocate somewhere much warmer.

Sex and Intimacy are both crucial to me, but so is mutual respect, a strong connection and friendship. It somewhat ties into spirituality for me and finding a connection with such depth would be ideal. A relationship in my opinion should always be on the basis of “I don’t need you in my life, but want you to be”. 

On a more personal note and for full sexual disclosure; I am into CNC, Primal Play, being Dominated, Bratty and good old vanilla, loving sex. There I said it. That’s uh. yeah.

Anyways, feel free to reach out if any of that interests you- friendship wise or relationship wise. I have been out of practice and just talking to people in general would be lovely.

Thanks!

Hi all! I'm a 23F. I'm 5'3", African American, fairly fit, have dark eyes and moderately long black hair. I'm not interested in anything flirty right off the bat, only if we really get along! I just wanna chat with someone cool and interesting who I can vibe with, have fun convos with, and just generally dote over platonically (and maybe eventually romantically? Sexually? 👀)

A bit about me: I'm quiet around most people, but I'm bubbly and love to yap with anyone I like. I've been creative all my life, always been into art (feel free to ask for pics), and am a designer by trade! I just graduated college and am working on my career. I loooove animals and volunteered with them a lot in the past, since I used to want to be a wildlife biologist. I'm a fan of anything fantasy or sci-fi related - even though I don't indulge in enough entertainment, if it has dragons or the like, it's probably on my must watch/read/play list.

On a more personal note, I'm left-leaning and am spiritual but not religious. I'm quite open-minded and do best with agnostics, "hippie" or witchy types, and philosophical people who aren't convinced there is one perfectly right answer to everything. I'm not sure whether or not I want to have kids, but am generally leaning against it. I'm also definitely into unconventional stuff sexually speaking, so like, be prepared for some extra flavor if you ever wanna discuss it lol.

I'm most drawn to femmes who balance badassery with mom friend energy - Strong Female Characters™ who protecc and atacc for the ones they love, and who are role models that make me want to be a better person. If you value education and career, work out, and care about health, wellness, and personal growth as a whole, I'd love to talk and just hype each other up. I adore being inspired by my friends. And uhh, anyone taller to the front please, I'd love to be your little spoon 💕

If things do get more romantic, I'd love to discuss feelings and expectations early on. I don't tend to get crushes but if I like you and want to get closer, I need to make sure that we can both reasonably make time for each other, be consistent, and agree on where we're going. I'm very AuDHD, so awkward as hell and will probably only play that game if you start flirting first 😅

I'm looking for women 23-27 (a bit below that range is okay too if you just wanna stay friends). Please be willing to trade SFW pics relatively soon if we get along, just for verifying and to get a better idea of who we're talking to. I live in Alabama but am interested in chatting with people from anywhere! (I actually prefer meeting people with different backgrounds, as I'd hope to leave my current state within a decade or so.)

Thanks so much for reading all this if you made it through, and I hope to hear from some of you! :)

Hi there! I'm 25M from Texas, and I'm looking to meet some cool people to chat and hopefully develop a connection with.

For a quick description about me, I'm 6'2, decently fit (been lifting for around 2 years now), and south asian. Also just to get it out of the way I am demi and sex positive, and I'd prefer my partners to be open to it.

I'm looking for someone in the 22-30 age range who shares some interests with me. Here are some of my interests:

* Watching movies (especially horror but pretty much any genre as long as it's not starring the Rock lol)

* Pokemon

* Anime (I watch all kinds of shows but lately I've been obsessed with hunter x hunter, kuroko, and jjk)

* Chess (my attention span's cooked so I'm just playing 1 minute or 3 minutes)

* Dinosaurs (spinosaurus gang all day)

* D&D

* Basketball (I'm still not over the Luka trade 😔)

If this seems interesting, feel free to drop a message!

Hi there, it's been a while since I've been in a relationship and found someone to be close to. I figured I'd try to make a post here and see what happens. I'm a 25 M from the East Coast US. I'm looking for someone who's between 20 and 30 years old. An important thing to note is that I have a physical disability that requires me to use a wheelchair. I would consider myself demisexual, and I value emotional intimacy a lot more than anything else. I am open to and enjoy some amount of physical affection, but it is not a priority to me, especially since my condition limits my ability to provide that. Finding someone to date has been.. difficult to say the least. Dating apps have been far from successful, and to be honest, I don't really see myself finding someone on there that I can truly connect with.

Some of my interests are gaming (I've been playing Final Fantasy 14 lately and would love to find someone who plays it too), chess, math, science, deep discussions, and finding random videos on YouTube. I have a bachelor's degree in psychology. I'm very big on voice calls and am open to eventually doing video calls. Consistent communication is a must for me, so I would like someone who has a good amount of availability.

A few more things are that I don't smoke or take drugs, and would prefer my partner to be the same; I am left-leaning as well as agnostic. I do not want to have any children. I am open to a long-distance relationship (US-only) as long as there are plans to close the gap in some way. I'm only looking for monogamy. I'm an introvert and tend to be more of a listener (INFJ). Although it doesn't need to be right away, I would prefer exchanging photos sooner rather than later in order to ensure that we are okay with each other's appearances. Please reach out if you are looking for something similar!

Hi! I'm a 20-year-old student in the United States currently pursuing degrees in both mathematics and physics. Most of my free time is spent enjoying things like hiking, animation, soft rock music, and various other nerdy interests.

When it comes to relationships, I strongly value exclusivity and trust. I'm interested in finding a monogamous relationship where both people are equally invested in each other. Since I'm still focused on college, I don't have a strong opinion about children yet and would rather figure that out later in life.

One thing that's important to me is having a relationship built on mutual respect and communication. I'm not naturally a very assertive person, and I tend to be more comfortable discussing things openly rather than trying to take charge of every situation.

As for what I'm looking for, kindness and patience mean far more to me than appearance. I'm autistic, so I sometimes miss social cues, and I genuinely appreciate people who are willing to communicate directly and help me understand when I've misunderstood something (largely I dont know what I did wrong until its too late unfortunately as people don't tell me). I always try to learn from those situations and become a better person. And would appreciate being called out a lot more often, helps me learn.

It would be great to meet someone who doesn't mind hearing about physics, science, or whatever academic project I'm currently excited about (given it being a part of who I am). You don't need to be an expert yourself—just someone who enjoys sharing interests and learning about each other's worlds.

I'm generally looking for someone around 19–23, though I'm open to talking if you're slightly outside that range and we connect well.

I'm also open to long-distance relationships. With school in South Dakota and home in Minnesota, distance is simply part of my life right now. If we decide to pursue something together, I'd want it to be an exclusive relationship built on trust and honesty.

Finally, I value people who can respect differences in opinion. We don't have to like all the same things to get along, and I think healthy relationships are stronger when both people can appreciate different perspectives without turning every disagreement into a conflict. Because being honest, being practically the same person is boring and doesn't fascinate me

Hey folks,

Just to let you know, there has been a rash of reddit automod removals of posts and comments from this sub (and others). This isn't something your mods are doing, though I have to accept the changes to clear my queue. So what's going on? Frankly, I'm mostly guessing, but it seems like they've tightened the spam filters again and there's very little I can do about that even if it does take down some legitimate posts. But there are things that we know get flagged, these include, but aren't necessarily limited to:

1. Rapid posting - the fast or frequent posting of the same content into multiple subreddits. This is a common issues for the r4rs. If you're posting into numerous subreddits for dates, you may want to tone it down. Also how frequently matters. We have a one week rule enforced here that helps you, but honestly, it does help to stagger your posts.
2. New accounts - these get flagged at a higher rate. Many users prefer an anon new account when posting for dates, and we get it, so we've allowed them, but know that Reddit is less forgiving of new accounts suddenly getting very posty.
3. External links - external links can be flagged based on the website, that includes a lot of photo websites. We have a ban on them in this subreddit, and this is part of the reason why.
4. Content copy and paste - Repeated comments or posts that have the same content are far more likely to be flagged as SPAM. This is a good argument for why you should vary your posts over time in the r4r (redditor for redditor) communities. Not only does it give you a fresh look, it keeps your posts up so people can see them.

So, my advice? Stagger the timing of your posts among communities if you intend to post in more than a couple dating communities, and make sure to update the content of your posts a now and again.

P.S. Delete your old posts before posting a new one. If I constantly have to remove duplicate posts because you didn't it increases the chance you're flagged by the reddit auto-moderators. We request this because otherwise the forum gets cluttered by the same handful of weekly posters and that's frustrating for other users.