r/asexualdating Jan 29 '26

Mod applications

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The subreddit is looking for new moderators. Experience is not required, but having it would be great.

Responsibilities:

  • Check the mod queue at least daily
  • Approve posts from new users
  • Remove off-topic posts
  • Provide input into the direction of the subreddit

Please comment below about why you'd like to become a moderator.


r/asexualdating 6h ago

Relationship? 29 F4A Relationship, Friends (Europe / Anywhere)

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Greetings!

I am an androgynous-looking soul with a genderless brain. 172 cm tall, 46 kg light, short brown hair, dark-green eyes.

University-educated, self-employed. Mentally and emotionally stable.

I wear a pollution mask because I’m allergic to cigarette smoke. (And because it makes me look cool and mysterious 😌)

I like reading fiction and non-fiction, watching anime, indie films and Asian drama, singing gibberish in foreign languages, drawing with pastels, growing peppers and tomatoes on my windowsill.

A decent cook (I hope), as far as simple dishes go.

Ace. Sex-neutral, but would prefer to be in a non-sexual relationship.

Who I’m looking for: a kind, optimistic, and non-judgemental person to share this life, travel, get rich together and have a family with. Secure or earned secure attachment style.

Age range: 29 +/- 3 years ideally. 21-45 could work too if we have things in common.

Not interested in long-term LDR, poly or a 100% online relationship. Not interested in avoidant or emotionally unavailable people, and people who don’t know what they want.

Religion, politics: no, thanks.

Diet: omnivore.

Children: would like to have a child of my own in the next 5-10 years if I’m able to.

Personality / temperament tests: INFJ, 4w5, 461, sp/so, IEI, phlegmatic, if that means anything to you.

Re-location: willing to relocate, as long as you’re not in an authoritarian country. Friends can be located anywhere.

If you’ve made it this far and still interested, please introduce yourself. You can use my essay points for inspiration or tell me why you think we could be a match. Thank you 🙂


r/asexualdating 7h ago

Rant Dating as an asexual young adult is impossible 🫩

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Now yes im aware that its not "impossible" but as a T4T pret gay asexual man genuinely i have been given all bad cards. Cis guys dont understand either reason I dont want them and will often still see me as a woman or have f3tishized me being trans. Ive met trans man who still feminize me bacause im still pre-t and ive met trans men who aren't asexual who just expect me to make an acception. Ive ment people who are allegedly willing to give up their sex life for me and either break up with me or want to be poly or just have a FWB and I end up leaving. Ive met people who claim to be asexual and then they arent and turns out they just told me to get with me. Genuinely what is with young adults and sex I dont get it I have not once met another asexual person my age let alone dated them. Im tired of having to tell people "oh im asexual btw" when they ask me out cause it's AWKWARD. Maybe it gets better when you get older but i dont know 💔.

EDIT: this is not me saying that its easy to date as an asexual its just HARDER from the ages of 16-mid to early twenties (like end of college) because the libido of teens and young adults is SO HIGH these days and its genuinely difficult to get somone to understand the fact that im asexual and I happen be on the zero libido and sexual attraction side of the spectrum or having to educate people on it because instead of asking respectfully they assume or ignore me and say things anyways. Not only this but its also just harder as a trans man like genuinely dating when youre trans is hard enough but finding somone who doesnr just see me for whats in mh pants even in the trans community is INSANE I posted this to share my grievances about how hard it is to find people because of the way that teenagers now view sex ive heard asexual people having good relationships with non asexual people but its NEVER in my age range because of the thought that you have to loose your virginity at a certain time and among men you should have a high body count to be experienced or nobody will want to be with you its REDICULOUS


r/asexualdating 7h ago

Relationship? 39 [M4F] Hi from Brasília, the capital of Brazil

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Hey there!

I'm a bit of an introvert and demisexual. I enjoy reading, writing, hiking, music and cinema, and I'm open to long-distance relationships.

I'm politically left-wing (very much so) and agnostic. I'm Brazilian, and Portuguese is my first language. I also speak fluent English, conversational French and a little Spanish.

Last year, I published a sci-fi novel, and I'm currently working on my second book.

What I'm looking for

I'm hoping to meet a demisexual or gray-asexual woman who would be open to the possibility of eventually building a life together in Brazil. I live in Brasília, a city known for its unique modernist architecture, beautiful green areas and warm weather year-round.

Of course, there's no rush. I'd want us to get to know each other naturally, develop the relationship slowly and meet in person a few times before making any big decisions.


r/asexualdating 6h ago

Relationship? 32 [M4F] England/Anywhere - Alternative cat dad seeking someone cozy, kind, and a little weird. ૮ ˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶ ა ♡

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I've reached a point in my life where I've become painfully aware that I don't really have anyone I feel deeply connected to. I have roughly two souls I can always rely on... and they both happen to be cats. As wonderful as they are, they're terrible conversationalists. I'd love to find someone I can genuinely build a life with! Someone to talk to until 2am, share games and movies with, laugh at stupid memes with, cuddle the hell out of, and simply make ordinary days feel exciting.

I'm a 32 year old guy from the south coast of England! I don't work at the moment, so this means that my free time is almost boundless. I'd absolutely love to game, watch movies, listen to music together, just chat or whatever! I'm not the most social or extroverted person, I'll be the first to admit that I'm not a simple person. I have a bunch of quirks and I have my own difficulties such as an awful case of anxiety and OCD. But I'll always try my best to be good company and brighten your day!

I'm pale, I'm six foot tall with fairly long dark brown hair and hazel eyes. I'm pretty much always wearing glasses as my vision has decided to gradually give up on me and I prefer to keep to an alternative kind of aesthetic (I guess it could be described as a mix between gothic and anime streetwear). I also have a couple of piercings and may or may not decide on tattoos in the future. Probably something in a biomechanical style. Kinda like a robotic arm! You know, cyberpunk vibes.

I'm a laid back, mostly calm kind of guy and I'm always doing my best to remain optimistic. Life's tough, so it's nice to get away from all of that. I have quite an eccentric, cynical and at times quite a dark sense of humour. So I definitely get along best with others that aren't quick to take offense. And I'm usually pretty playful when I've grown comfy around someone. It does take me a bit to warm up, especially on voice calls.. But afterwards, I'm a very loyal person.

**─── ・ 。゚☆: *.☽ .* :☆゚. ───**

🇲​🇾​ 🇮​🇳​🇹​🇪​🇷​🇪​🇸​🇹​🇸​

• ᴠɪᴅᴇᴏ ɢᴀᴍᴇs 🎮

I'm a PC gamer and I don't have any consoles at the moment sadly. I play a lot of games and hopefully you do as well! I'd love to have somebody to play co-op with! I play a wide variety of genres but my favourites will always be RPG games such as Assassin's Creed, Borderlands, Persona, Dragon Age, The Witcher, Fallout and The Elder Scrolls. I also love survival and I've been interested in playing Once Human properly as well as Enshrouded! Or more casual things like Stardew Valley or Terraria or Golf It! I've also played many MMOs in my time and wouldn't rule them out!

• ᴀɴɪᴍᴇ 🎌

I love to binge watch anime although I don't really like doing so by myself! It's just not as much fun and I tend to get distracted too easily.. So, if you are into it, or are willing to try it, that's a bonus as well! I like a wide variety of it, though my favourites are Gintama, Beelzebub, Assassination Classroom, Death Parade, Re:Zero and Soul Eater.

• sʜᴏᴡs ᴀɴᴅ ᴍᴏᴠɪᴇs 🎥

Some shows that I like/have liked are It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia (my permanent number one pick), What We Do In The Shadows, Rick & Morty, Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Community, Arrested Development, Archer.. When it comes to movies.. I like comedies, thrillers, horrors, mysteries and especially anything psychological. Oh and lots of superhero stuff like The Boys or Invincible! Again, if we could watch stuff together, it'd be awesome.

• ᴍᴜsɪᴄ 🎶

EDM (Electronic Dance Music) and the many, many sub genres has always had my heart. With Porter Robinson being my favourite artist. Although I've been through many phases and some stuff has stuck with me including rock, metal or even just simple alt pop. In general, I'll give anything a go, no matter the genre and I'd love to share musical interests.

• ᴀɴɪᴍᴀʟs 🐈

I adore animals. Probably more than I like most human beings in all honesty. Especially felines or other fluffy bundles of joy. [Here's kitty tax](https://ibb.co/xqTQyh2z)

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• ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪ·ᴍ ʟᴏᴏᴋɪɴɢ ғᴏʀ

I'm not really the most picky person out there when it comes to a relationship. I don't mind how old you are, as long as you're over eighteen and.. I guess not TOO much older (let's say ten years older at most). I don't mind where you're from as long as you're interested in meeting up someday as I don't want to stay virtual forever. I don't have much preference about looks either. What's important is that we connect deeply on an emotional level. What I do however see as non-negotiable is that I'll only ever consider a completely dedicated, monogamous relationship.

As you'd expect from this subreddit, I'm not looking for something sexual however I'm very, very interested in physical affection like cuddles and kisses!

Communication would ideally be on Discord. And voice calls would be something I'd ideally want to do at least semi-often. I'm happy to start off messaging back and forth on Reddit though.

If you've somehow made it all the way down here without falling asleep, firstly I'm impressed. Secondly, I'd genuinely love to hear from you. Tell me about yourself, your favourite games, show me your pets (instant bonus points), or just tell me what you've been obsessed with lately. I'd rather receive one thoughtful message than several one line introductions.


r/asexualdating 2h ago

Relationship? Are there desi men out there who are ace and Christian or come from Christian families?

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The existence of a guy like that genuinely seems rare, but not impossible but I do wonder if Im wrong. If you fit this description I might have some questions I wanna ask out of curiosity.
1. If you’re an unmarried desi man who is also ace and Christian do your parents ever pressure you to get married?
2. Do you worry you’ll never find a romantic only partner and might deal with loneliness?
3. Do you consider doing a lavender marriage?
4. How comfortable do you feel about your asexuality and religion?
5. Is it different when you’re in India vs when you live/were raised abroad?
6. When were you finally able to come to terms with your asexuality?
7. Do you still have hope of finding a romantic relationship with another ace person?


r/asexualdating 15h ago

Relationship? 26M4F (San Antonio) - Heteroromantic Ace

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Active Duty Navy Sailor here on orders for the next year, joined in early 2024 to escape home situation. Looking for anyone local or within the Texas area to get to know.

I work in tech / radio field as the IT rate designation.

Sex neutral, unless it is wanted by the partner, or it's for like... Procreation. Don't care either way.

Agnostic, raised Christian, but non practicing.

Interests is music writing/performing/singing/production, gaming, baking, computer hardware and software, animation, collecting, and movies/TV/anime.

I do DnD with a group on Sundays and like doing board games at the local community shops with people.

Listen to Classic Rock mostly, but my interests in certain genres go everywhere except Country/Screamo/Religious music.


r/asexualdating 17h ago

Relationship? 29 M4F [NC / LDR] QPR? Looking to find my best partner!

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Good morning! Good afternoon! and good evening! I'm a 29 year old male living in North Carolina searching for a lifelong partner I can spend the rest of my days with. I'm looking for a partner who wants to see the joys in life. We can do fun things like go geocaching, travel to events going on in the area, stay at home and roast some bad movies and TV. A girl who isn't afraid to try new activities for better or worse. And whomever I end up speaking with, I hope you like corny and constant jokes. Sorry, I'm the type that likes puns and wordplay.

I can live a dull simple life one day and search for something exciting to do the next! I'm aiming to have a childfree life but I'm open to adopting fur-babies. I don't mind if you already have some too.

Here are some things about me

  • I currently live on my own in a townhome that has plenty of rooms. It's in a nice quiet neighborhood with a pool and parks not too far away. There's also some towns and cities within driving distance. I reside in NC and I don't plan to leave this state. I'm open to giving long distance relationships a shot.
  • I work in the game industry and have been there for over five years. You could say this is my dream job! This is the kind of job I wake up feeling excited for.
  • I like to bake and I've been trying my hand at cooking... to decent results. I'm not the best cook but I'm taking an interest in trying to cook foreign dishes. But if you like baked goods I love to bake cookies, muffins, and other types of pastries
  • I'm a really big gamer and lover of anime. I love to play games in my spare time and I hope we can play together if we wanna see how we get along. And I'm really into anime, trying to find the good ones worth watching and talking about.
  • I'm really into wooden kits and book nooks. My current goal is to construct a large number of book nooks and put them side by side on a bookcase so they resemble worlds inside books when lined up. I've got a ton of pictures of things I've put together over the years if you're interested.

I'm willing to chat with anyone to see how things go so don't be afraid to send me a DM if you're interested. I'd just like to say that if we end of chatting please don't take multiple days to respond back to me. I understand life gets busy at times but even a short message to let me know how you're doing or anything means a lot to me so I know I'm not being ghosted. I'll be sure to respond back as soon as I can.

If you've made it this far thanks for reading all the way to the end. If you send me a DM I'll be sure to respond to you as soon as I can.


r/asexualdating 1h ago

Relationship? 20 [F4A] looking for long term and consistent relationship

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Hi guys, I'm 20 years old with GMT+3, I've always known that I'm asexual but I do feel romantic things, I can do long distance where we date and talk. Play chess together or have a guessing game. Play a song together, do anything together! I like calling so I prefer someone who likes calling too...

If you're 20 to 25 years old and you're single, just DM me :)


r/asexualdating 3h ago

Relationship? 18[F4A] #UK- Looking for my forever ❤️

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Hello 👋🏾

I am 18f from the UK and I am looking for myyy soulmate :))

I need a partner with personality traits of being kind-hearted, communitcative and understanding.

I do not want someone who runs away when things get tough, we need good communication and commitment!!!🙂‍↕️

I would like for my partner to have some hobbies and intrest simmilar to mine and that would be anime, gaming, films, manga, hiking, going on walks and crystalsss.

I am currently very into electronic music and house buttt theres soo much more I love💚

I would describe myself to be someone who is kind of quirky and fun but mostly shy to begin with so I would need someone who could bring that out of me 😁

I am introverted, playful and creative, I dont know if I could have a boring partner lol.

I need someone who will always try their best as I am someone who is always trying my best and is very attentive.

I notice changes In my partners mood and always will support and I would really like to have the same.

Anyways I am looking for someone I can go through life with from this beggining till the end, and I want to give someone speacial my love ☺️

When it comes to my partners physical apparence I am not too fussy, I just want someone who is physically appealing average or better and someone with nice eyes that I can stare into 😄

I am 5'8 and I don't mind what your height may be as long as we feel love for one another that is all that matters ❤️

I forgot to mention I am not religious but I wouldn't mind having a partner who is religious just not too a super extreme level.

I am a demi-sexual girl which means im definately not looking for anything sexual right off the bat and will only engage in anything sexual when i have a strong emotional bond to a person I am definately not looking for someone who can't wait or wants to disrespect my sexual boundaries or any kind of boundary i may have.

Dealbreakers: wanting a polyamorous relationship, smoking, drinking too much, drugs, not being able to communicate emotions, lustful, uncommitical, not wanting a serious relationship, pretending to be emotionless and no liers🤥

(I am not looking for anyone who promises all of the above and can not commit to it)

As long as your a good person and what I've written alligns with what you beleive in, feel free to message me 🥰 tell me where your ideal first date would be!!

I am also open to friendshipsss.


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? 29m looking for qpr or friends ((:

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Yoooooo, my name is Abbe. I am 29 years old and from Stockholm.

I really like cycling, cooking food, raspberry pi projects and like exploring new music. It would be cool to meet other people and hear about their hobbies and what they like to do.

Ideally I am looking for a queerplatonic relationship, but friends in general would be really nice too — especially talking about experiences living as asexual. it’s a broad spectrum and we’re not all the same, but i think there are a lot of things that can be nice to share with each other.

I do not mind if you live outside Europe, it would be really fun to talk with people from farther away (:

my dreams are going on a loooooooong cycling trip but also building a camera. If you have dreams you want to pursue it would be really cool to hear about them and maybe accompany on that (if that is possible, maybe I would just be ruining the whole thing lol).

For music I do listen a lot to avalon emerson, lali puna, nico and local stuff from my city/country.

I have a archivist degree and work with data management, but I am being replaced by robots slowly. Have they come for you too??!!!! :O

English is my second language so I still do mistakes like then vs than etc.

Ooooo to the mods, I posted here only 3 months ago. But I did not get any message. Tell me If I am being annoying and spammy!!!


r/asexualdating 20h ago

Relationship? demisexual t-boy/nb looking for friends or more !

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hiiii, just looking for more people to talk to and see where that gooesss.
About meeee:
I’m from California 😎
I’m a baker looking to start my own queer cafe sometime down the line🧑🏻‍🍳
I have 4 cats whom I love very dearly 🐈‍⬛
I love being outside and started a local hiking group for queers⛰️
I started testosterone 3 months agooo 🧍🏻
I love horror and anything creepy or weird or supernatural, tell me all your ghost stories asap 👻
I’m an extreme hopeless/hopeful romantic at heart, it will be the end of me I fear 💔
Message to find out more about me and I’d love to get to know you ! 🤓


r/asexualdating 19h ago

Relationship? 31F Alberta Can looking for that feminine energy in my life

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Reading over this, I never really thought I would considered asexual but it does fit. I never really cared for “it” I just like the hugging and kissing and being close. So here I am
I am quite the nerd and spend most of time playing games either by myself or with friends. I do try and spend time in nature but only when it’s not extremely hot #alberta I play on my pc exclusively and I think I’m quite good at games either fps or strategy. I love board games too and hosting game night at my house in the past. I love to yap and I have 4 cats, 3 oh which are outside mousers. I’m native too idk if that terribly important.

I am looking for a nice sweet girl (like me lol) to share my life with. Someone to pour my days into. Femboys are welcome too hehe. My love language is quality time, nothing is more romantic than being chosen to spend what little time we have with each other.

I’m not sure what else to put here I am on the spectrum too so that’s a heads up for whoever dares to give me a message. A local is preferred but not mandatory

Feels like a ramble but gotta get info out there some how or at least try. I haven’t had much luck so trying is the best I can do lucks gotta turn around at some point.


r/asexualdating 13h ago

Relationship? 24 [M4F] #Harrisburg/Pennsylvania/Online - Trying to get off of here (Long post!)

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Hi there! My name is \\\\\\\[REDACTED\\\\\\\] for now but dw I’ll share my real name once we connect.

I'm a very kind, sweet, goofy, laid back guy who gets along with almost everybody and I'd like to think I'm pretty funny and easy to approach too. I'm all for having a nice time and making memories with those important to me, maybe you can be on that list. I'm not the most outwardly talkative person especially to strangers lol, but I wouldn't call myself an introvert. If it matters, I'm an Aquarius. I love meeting new people and learning about them too.

I wouldn't call myself a religious person at all and don't smoke whatsoever but I'd drink on a rare occasion if I'm having fun. I’m not really fond of people who smoke/drink excessively though.

I own my own car, pay for insurance, and my phone bill, so I'm definitely more on the independent side. I'd also love to drive us around if you're more of a passenger princess type lol.

I work in a warehouse but I’m not sure if that’s going to be my job forever. I love playing cozy video games like Stardew Valley terraria and Minecraft as well as open world ones like cyberpunk and fallout. I also love watching anime, youtube, trying to get more into reading, baking, working out, traveling when I can and writing.

I’m looking to just start out as friends and see where we go from there:) If we stay as good friends, become something more, or even just a platonic cuddle buddy I'll be happy to meet someone new in my life. In terms of where I fall on the spectrum, I loveee affection both verbally and physically (hugs, holding hands, kisses, cuddles) but am very indifferent about sex, and would prefer a connection before possibly reaching a comfort point like that.

I want someone who doesn’t want to play games (besides video games) with me. I’m looking for a girl who knows what she wants, can hold a conversation, has ambition, and shows effort in a friendship/relationship. Also, someone with a sense of humor but knows how to be serious when need be. If you’re a stick in the mud please don’t even message me.

That’s all I can think of:) sorry for the long post I just know what I want! Please please tell me some things about yourself if you do decide to message, thanks!:D


r/asexualdating 18h ago

Advice I feel odd around dating and sex is

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Howdy I’m a 24M going on 25 and have been feeling odd about dating at this juncture of my life. I’ve never had a girlfriend so far and have gone on some dates and such. Never ended with reciprocal feelings and such. I am not as anxious when it comes to dating as I used to be due to past negative experiences of rejection or being stood twice and have processed what I needed to process from it. Now I’m not paying any real mind to dating and just building towards what I want for my life and trying to move forward by taking better physical, mental and emotional care of myself as well as my friends/community and their needs.

Okay positive stuff is done: what I’ve noticed and observing in my thoughts is that Whenever my friends discuss partners or sex jokes or sex in general, I get really uncomfortable but push on. I’ve been aware of/made peace with myself being ace and all those things , Maybe it’s cause of my upbringing and negative experience pertaining to being involuntarily touched. What I’m getting at is at this current state in my life I feel very much like a robot when it comes to dating where im not really sure what’s going on half the time especially all the cues and all those things but trying to analyze it the best I can. Even after a lot of internal work, I still feel this need for a romantic connection and to experience it properly. After everything I try not to lose my heart and care for other folks on all levels of personhood but still feel this weird ache at times like I’m only good for what I do or I’m only a good friend and nothing more, Long story short: I’m trying to figure things out but not fully sure as to how to keep going towards what I want for my life with this nagging ache for romantic connection at times even though you don’t desire sex in that way? Again I’ve never had a girlfriend before so I’m not entirely sure I know what romance even means

Thanks for reading and spending the time to hear me speak and am grateful for you to have made it this far and Keep Pushing!


r/asexualdating 21h ago

Relationship? 38 [M4F]#Online/Illinois Should we date? Let's figure it out mathematically

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Ok. Being single can be really comfortable. Starting something new can be a hassle. But hopefully the hassle is worth it in the long run. So I'll be quick, and you can decide for yourself!

Pros:

  • zero drama, no mysterious exes sending “u up?” texts at 2 a.m.

  • mostly retired means I have plenty of time to engage in my crazy flavor of the month hobbies. like learning card tricks or becoming a good bowler.

  • Loyal as hell. once I’m in, I’m in. Expect consistency, effort, and actual follow-through.

  • equal parts dad joke and quick wit; you’ll laugh, groan, or both.

  • you’ll feel heard, even when you’re just venting about your coworker named Dana.

  • Cuddling MVP award-winning performance in “staying up too late and pretending we’re watching the show.”

  • Culinary adventurer I’ll try any recipe once; even if my base instinct is to eat like an 8 year old.

  • Conversation stamina can talk from “hey” to sunrise without running out of things to say.

  • Nerd-friendly Simpsons references, bad B-movies, board games, and chaotic trivia nights welcome.

Cons:

  • Will absolutely eat the last handful of popcorn and pretend I didn’t.

  • Has a deep, possibly unhealthy attachment to reality TV marathons.

  • Occasionally answers rhetorical questions with detailed PowerPoint-level explanations.

  • Could wake up one morning absolutely convinced I should adopt a Komodo Dragon.

  • Will quote 90s cartoons out loud in public without warning.

  • Might go through an intense spurt of obsession with obscure, not useful hobbies, and forget all about them 3 months later.

  • Will criticize your breakfast food choices.

  • Tends to turn “just one episode” into six.

  • My cat is in charge of the household, and we both know it.

If you’re still reading this, you're definitely the kind of person i want to talk to! My list of standards are low. don't be in a relationship, (especially not secretly with someone, that keeps happening) including recently separated or divorced. Be willing to spend some time together, either with text voice or video chats. Live on my side of the planet!

Still interested? Message me now and subscribe to my newsletter, and you can hear all the exclusive info on any of the following anecdotes:

  1. my visit to the north pole

  2. the 2 times i almost died.

  3. why i dropped out of high school to try to become a pro wrestler

  4. the redneck brawl i saw at a wedding.

  5. the time i saw a sea monster

  6. Who and where i think i met the devil.

  7. Why i can never return to the state of Rhode Island.

and many more!


r/asexualdating 21h ago

Relationship? (29F4R) NYC/Anywhere

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  • Single/Taken/Complicated: Single
  • Seeking Relationship/Friends/Squish/Other: Monogamous Relationship
  • Romantic Orientation: Panromantic Asexual
  • Gender: F
  • Pronouns: She/her
  • Age: 29

Hello friends, I am looking for a committed, long-term romantic partner. I live in NYC but I'm open to anywhere/online. I am a sex-repulsed asexual, but I do like cuddling and kissing. I decided to make this post because I've come to the realization that I'm ready for my forever relationship. I do want to be married one day. It's also important to me to find someone who is open to fostering and/or adopting because that is something I have always wanted to do. If you are someone who is also looking for similar things, please let me know!


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? 24F michigan USA. Looking for the one.

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Hello. Am a 24 year old woman. I am in search of a companion who eventually hopefully can become a life long partner. .

I'm looking for someone who's as weird as me and Someone who is Introverted like me and enjoys everything horror related and anything creepy and Is obsessed with vulture culture. A person who dresses alternative and eccentric. (I try to as much as I can). Not just for holidays. a person who enjoys long hikes at random times and like to hunt for mushrooms and forage wild edibles. A person who is Introverted but not a complete homebody. A person who enjoys nature and the supernatural and occult.

I'm looking for a person who likes to live an eccentric and unconventional life with no children ever. Bonus points if you collect or make taxidermy, wet specimens or any creepy morbid art. I also enjoy painting and sewing.

About me: I live alone and have a job and hope to maybe one day buy my own house by the woods. I'm naturally not a very big people person and tend to get absorbed in my hobbies. I collect vintage jesters, animal bones and skulls, vintage and colored glass, vintage furniture and lots of creepy oddities. I like to cook and am naturally Laid back but I like being outside. I do not want children ever. That's non negotiatable. I collect Stephen king books love dark and morbid humor. I practice necromancy and witchcraft (I'm eclectic). I'm also not very big into crowds and am happy with money free dating and would prefer close distance over long distance relationships. I also enjoy renessiance festivals and haunted houses and museums. I love true crime, dark humor and dirty humor. I also love enjoying long hikes out in the woods. I love to forage for wild mushrooms and wild flowers and edibles.

Also I should mention other hobbies even though I listed my biggest ones. (I feel like it's scaring people away) I also collect feathers, I also I love watching funny movies and tv. watching YouTube (mostly creepy cast, cinnamon toast Ken. Funny shorts and mostly listening to music)

I listen to a lot of music. Slipknot, type o negative, Fleetwood Mac, Korn, danzig, Rob zombie, eagles, heart and others.

I am also obsessed with gardening as much as I am obsessed with vulture culture and horror. I can talk about different flowers, mushrooms and plants, forever. I want to get into holistic healing and teas.

I also want to get more into sewing and learning embroidery.

I would also love to get into drawing again. It was actually my greatest talent.

Deal breakers: IMPORTANT.

No hobbies similar to mine.

No gamers. (I've already dated a few and felt more alone than I was single)

Children (anyone who was forced to be a "third parent" growing up, should know why)

LONG DISTANCE. ( please stay around michigan)

P.s. I also don't mind men or women. I usually prefer men but I'm ok with either or. I am attracted to women but don't have much experience with them.

Also no one under 24 please. And under 45 please.

IM HOPING this is my last post here. If I could I'd be on the goth or alt subs buts it's all creepy guys and OF girls. Or I'd bug the vulture culture sub but there's no dating there or even renfair sub.

Also I'm picky. I want weird like me. I want a partner not need one big difference.


r/asexualdating 23h ago

Relationship? NB4A 26, USA, Looking for Life Partner!

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Hi! I'm Soul, I'm 26 (Non-binary, They/Him), and I'm looking for a potential life partner, if it comes to pass. =3

Gender doesn't matter to me, though I do lean toward women and fem folks. While cis folks are accepted, please know that I do lean toward trans and nonbinary folks comfortably, usually. It would be nice to meet more trans fem folks too, friends or more!

[I struggle with Major Depressive Disorder, though I'm medicated and go to therapy. Please be patient with me if I am not very quick to respond!]

For interest as solely friends, any gender from anywhere is okay. I personally have a PC, a switch (No online subscription though) and mobile (Android) platforms I use, and I use Discord most!

For interest as possibly more, any gender, Panromantic or Bi (As long as you don't care about gender, doesn't matter to me!) and preferably US only! Must be Left-Wing politically, please.

If sex is important to, or very much wanted, I'm not interested.

While I'd like to explore sexually some time in my life, it is absolutely not a necessity. I would say I also fall under Gray Ace/Demi Gray.

I am Ambiamorous, happy with Polyfidelity or Monogamy, but after being recently burned, I'm leaning toward Monogamy unless a couple of very special people come along in life. I am happy either way.

While being Panromantic, I admit recently I've realized I do lean slightly towards women (Obviously that includes trans women!!) but in the end, gender doesn't matter to me.

I am also neurodivergent (AuDHD?) and as of yet still undiagnosed but working on such actively. I understand things more directly and literally, so please have patience with me! ☺️

All that stiff stuff outta the way, I love horror game playthroughs and cozy games! I'm not crazy about FPS games at all but it's okay if you do ofc! I do love games like Resident Evil though =3 and lastly I'm in the center of the U.S.

I want to move to possibly Ohio someday, maybe Minnesota or Michigan, and co-parent cats with my forever person/s, sobs. I don't hate marriage, though it's not a necessity to me. It would have to take a really special person/s. =)

I also love romance stories and manga, regardless of orientation, and I love arts and crafty hobbies! I LOVE Halloween and spooky stuff!!

I've been on HRT for nearly three years, as well.

I'm very much a romantic, and I'm not very touch averse when it comes to affection. Id love to someday have a spooky little decorated manufactured home some day with a bunch of plants and thrifted items and hummingbird feeders and chdjncjdd I'd be so happy if that's something you'd be into, too! ❤️

Lastly, I'm not interested in having kids but if you hate kids, we probably wouldn't get along. That's it, thank you!!

I'm less stiff in DMs, I promise!!!! 😭


r/asexualdating 18h ago

Relationship? I’m nonbinary looking for a girlfriend or boyfriend. Anyone?

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Would you date me! Please dm me


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? Hii! 👋🏾😊

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Hii! 👋🏾😊… I am Ericka and I am 38. I have newly found out there is a community of like minded people who share the same ideas around sex which led me to a late induction to the Asedual community. I, myself have been leaning more Greysexual and navigating my romantic attraction but if a “heteroromantic leaning biromantic” is a title, that would describe me lol I am a pediatric occupational therapist and I travel for work on contracts, so Virginia is my home state but I’m currently in New Mexico on a year contract before I head to a different state.

I have an unhealthy obsession with the Golden Girls 😅 (ask me about my collection lol) but I enjoy listening to music, binging shows, girls night with friends. I love to watch football (Go Bills!) and I participate infrequently in attending church but comfortable will stream something online, but important nonetheless. I am allergic to cats and love dogs and don’t have any here in NM since im not home much. I love kids and which to have some still in some capacity (adoption, surrogacy, etc). I love to laugh and also have serious conversations. While I am not fully out as of yet as this is a newly discovered area of my life I’m leaning about in the last few days, my close friends do know and support fully and once I have the opportunity to speak with close family, I’m sure there will be support there also. I’m happy to meet someone to chat with but ultimately would love someone to bond with for a relationship if that’s where it leads in the future. I’m cool with friends too! 😊💜🤍🖤


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Friends? Just looking for someone to talk to 😊

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Iam a 24year-old guy currently living in Germany. I moved here recently for my studies, so I'm still getting used to life here and would love to meet new people.

I'm looking for someone to chat with, share daily life, and hopefully build a genuine friendship. If we click, I'm open to seeing where things go naturally.


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? 38 [M4] Seeking an intense relationship

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Looking for a woman is a bit more intense than others; I want a relationship that goes beyond just chatting to fill boredom. I want to hear about your day, have you share what cool things you found; if you feel down I want to listen and support you. I want someone to deeply care for. If you're neurodivergent it's a plus as I have bpd. I want someone intense and caring. Clinginess isn't something that bothers me either.

I am a nerd who's into tabletop, gaming and working out. I also like anime/manga and horror! I'm a huge music listener so I'd love to share tracks as well. I've also gotten back to reading more often these days too. I've always loved films too so hoping for a cinephile friend as well; but anyone nerdy is cool, just be over 18 years old.


r/asexualdating 15h ago

Relationship? Relationship

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I'm 28 male asec from delhi INDIA , Any asec girl wants to connect?


r/asexualdating 1d ago

Relationship? 37 NB 4 F/NB/TM - Looking for another weird little soul to romance

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Hello all! 37 NB (afab) from just below the Lehigh Valley in PA, looking for F/NB but if any trans guys are interested you are welcome to message as well!

I am looking for a committed romantic partnership but not particularly interested in marriage, and am also staunchly childfree. I'm Ace and gray-romantic and fall into the sex-neutral part of the scale. To be upfront, I do have a QPR partner but neither of us consider it exclusive and both want to find romantic partners of our own. However we're both firm that we won't be changing or diminishing our relationship with each other when partnering up, and any potential partners will have to be ok with that.

After all of that nitty gritty, the fun topics! I am a big fan of being outside in nature and am known for kayaking with my giant telephoto lens for prime wildlife photography time. I am a creative who simply will not and cannot stop making art no matter how hard they try. I have innumerable hobbies to the point where if I get remotely interested in a new one, my friends immediately shut me down pointing out I have neither the time nor the energy for more, and tbh they're right. Some highlights include: making wire & gemstone bonsai trees, watercolor painting, tropical fish keeping, my collection of house plants and orchids, reading, D&D/other RPGs/board games, and thrifting. I am also very handy and known to fix things around the house or on my car myself. Thankfully my landlord thinks this is funny and my Dad enjoys the chance to teach me even more car repair knowledge.

I am definitely more of a homebody and will take a day on the couch with snacks and Dropout over being in a crowd or at a bar any day of the week. My vacations are typically tent camping and exploring new natural areas around that campsite! My home is inhabited by a large fluffy beast of a cat named Marlin who will be indifferent to you regardless of how well he knows you. He loves me and only me and I apologize in advance. Romancing me is very easy: find a body of water or stand of pine trees, pack a picnic, toss me in a car, and I'll melt!

Topic trap cards you can activate: why we should abolish the American lawn, bird knowledge, the history of the Sailfish and Sunfish sailboats, how to grow hard-necked garlic, and why the BMI is a scam.

If this at all sounds interesting and you think we may get along, please drop me a line!