Hi all, I’m meditating on a particular issue I have with hearing critique (or praise?) and wanted to see if anyone relates.
Overall, I love criticism if it comes at a point where I am braced and prepared to receive it. I see it as integral to the writing process in small doses, and I love hearing from those close to me how they perceive my writing, especially when I get a little snow-blind in how I see my own work. Hearing negative criticism and different perspectives is so helpful to me.
So, here and there, I’ll have my partner or a member of my family read a paragraph or two to see how they react to it.
A problem that I’ve always had is when someone says (in a positive way) “oh this is just like _______” or “This feels like _______” in relation to another work. Like for example, I recently wrote out the beginning of a short story that I shared with my sister. It was just a premise that I had had a dream about, and it’s something that I felt like I COULD expand it into a bigger piece but was a little on the fence overall.
The feedback I got from her was very positive! Which should have motivated me, I think. But she immediately said “Oh I really like this! It sounds like something that would be a statement from The Magnus Archives”
(if you aren’t familiar, The Magnus Archives is a horror podcast. I like it quite a bit)
Even though the critique was positive, I instantly lost all interest in continuing the story. I LOVE negative feedback, because I feel like it’s useful, and I’m proud of positive feedback when I get it…. but something about direct comparisons makes me feel like a failure as a writer. Like I think if I were writing fantasy and someone went “oh like Game of Thrones” I would just want to scrap the whole thing.
I recognize that all works take inspiration from others and don’t feel any shame about that! I am okay with myself saying “oh this is like ______”, but someone else saying it as a positive critique makes me feel like a hack.
does anyone else relate to this insecurity or have any advice to overcome it?