This has to be the best feeling ever , when you beat those cravings at night when your feeling so hungry then wake up and your not even hungry! Can anyone explain the science behind this ? How can I be so hungry all night craving stuff but then I eventually fall asleep and wake up and I ain’t even hungry. Doing this I feel 100x better more energetic happier and all the above ontop I lose weight at a rapid rate because of the fasting overnight

When many people are attempting to lose weight, I always go back to it. But weight isn't usually the real issue. The constant urge to eat, the mental chatter, the sense of losing control, and the following guilt are sometimes the real issues. So, focusing on just eating less may be treating the symptom rather than the source of the problem. People can spend years attempting to correct the outward behavior without ever addressing the underlying reason, which is why this is so frustrating.

Has anyone else thought that the common advice was wrongly directed?

Hi everyone, so I’m male ,164cm and weigh 120kg, I have been on 1100 calories a day for a while now and I’m just wondering what people’s thoughts are on this amount of calories. I have been getting 10k steps a day aswell.

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Hi everyone! I been on a calorie deficit and so far it’s going well but I was wondering what low cal snacks that you know of that can help keep me full for a while.

Hey everyone,

I’ve basically been overweight my entire life. I’m a male, 30 years old and 6’1”. I’ve always had some muscle because I’ve been on and off in the gym for years. I’ll stay consistent for a few months, then fall off for a few months, so I’ve always had some muscle underneath, but I’ve also always been fat because I’ve struggled with binge eating.

My highest weight was 334 lbs about a year ago. I dieted last year and got down to around 295 lbs, but then gave up and spent the next six months falling back into old habits.

About three months ago I decided to get serious again. I restarted at 313 lbs, and today I’m 292 lbs.
Right now I’m eating about 2,000 calories a day, getting 180+ grams of protein, lifting heavy 5 days a week, and I went from basically no activity to walking 10,000+ steps every day.

The reason I’m posting is because today I looked at myself in the gym mirror and honestly felt disgusted. I was sitting on an incline bench wearing a fitted shirt, and from the side all I could see was my stomach and love handles. It made me feel like I’m still just… fat.
What’s really messing with my head is that when I compare my progress photos from when I was 334 lbs to now, I honestly don’t see much of a difference. I know the scale says I’ve lost weight, but visually I feel like I look exactly the same.

So I guess my questions are:

Was I really carrying that much more fat at 334 lbs than I can even appreciate now?
Around what point in your journey did you finally look in the mirror and think, “Wow, I actually look different.”

I’m trying not to let this derail me, but today was one of those days where it honestly made me wonder if all this work is worth it. I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve been through something similar.

I’m 19f and am 5’4, 186 pounds. In Jan-April of 2025 I lost nearly 25 pounds of weight from being in a strict strict calorie deficit of at most a meal or two a day, no snacking. It was probably a little unhealthy but at the time it wasn’t because of a disorder, i just wasn’t as hungry, and I felt fine. I felt like i was able to focus on my life and food wasn’t a forefront in my mind, and because of that I just loss weight naturally.

The issue is i think about food ALL THE TIME. after a terrible day of working a double shift I just want to order my favourite take out. After a good day of college classes I just want to go get my favourite coffee and donuts, etc etc. And i just can’t seem to shake this want. People have told me to track calories or to find replacements but it doesn’t change the fact that It keeps food in the forefront of my mind, and whether I’m eating healthier versions of the food I want or eating smaller portions, I’m still thinking about food ALL THE TIME.

I just want to go back to that period of time where it felt like i wasn’t thinking about it nearly at all. Has anyone been able to shake the food noise? I sometimes just wish I could live without needing to eat at all, or finding pleasure in eating. I’m sick of the advice that’s like “just have a brownie if you want one, but spend 45 dollars at your grocery store and wait a week for amazon to deliver you these super niche ingredients in order to make a HEALTHY brownie that tastes like clay!”

I just want to not want the fucking brownie at all.

I don’t know if this makes any sense, but for the love of god please someone offer me advice I hate feeling like this gluttonous monster that just lives to eat, but that’s how I am right now. I don’t want to find a loophole to continue being this way, i just want to stop.

So hey guys I am currently on a 1200-1300 diet for reference I’m 5ft and around 150lbs and my goal weight is 120lbs. I’ve been dating and I get taken to nice restaurants etc but it often forces me out of my deficit. I’ve also noticed my weight has come to a pause and I’m struggling to go below when I really need to, I hate the way I look rn I don’t carry this weight well. I used to be 270lbs so not complaining I know I’ve come from far but still. How do you guys order your food when you’re out in restaurants? Any tips? I often use it as an excuse to cheat and it’s definitely catching up to me. I go to the gym 5 days a week and strength training everyday.

As the title says, I've gained 30+ pounds since December or January. At that time I was actually trying to *lose* weight, and ended up gaining way more. I struggle with binge eating or emotional eating. I typically turn to food to work through many different emotions.

I don't like counting calories, I really don't want to, and it's extra difficult because I don't have a good scale and feel too embarrassed to talk to my husband about getting one. I just, would rather not count calories.

I enjoy eating, I like yummy food. I absolutely hate eating food that I don't enjoy. I don't mind vegetables, but honestly, I don't *crave* them. I love carrots, but I'd obviously rather have French fries.

I am pretty much not physically active at all. I'd say the most I do is cleaning around the house which does make me sweaty and tired, but I know it's not really exercise, and it's something I only do enough of to sweat once a week.

I just want to know the easiest way to lose weight, specifically the 30 pounds I gained this year so far. I know, I know, it's not supposed to be easy, but mentally, I can't take much.

Hi everyone! I have recently (re)started my weight loss journey and decided to try out the Lose It app. Today, I decided to sync my apple watch to the app. After everything loaded in, the app said my workout earned me 417 “bonus calories”. This increased today’s calorie budget from 1724 to 2141 cals. For reference, my maintenance (with moderate exercise) according to the TDEE calculator is 2375.

I have experienced this feature when using My Fitness Pal as well. What is the deal with “exercise calories”? Are you actually supposed to account for those when tracking? I feel like that screws up your deficit? Previously, I have ignored the feature entirely and followed the same deficit, regardless of my workout.

Also- doesn’t 1724 calories seem low for a maintenance of 2375? This is what the app recommended to me, but I feel like everything I see says to do a 500 calorie deficit. Does the app lowball you on purpose with the expectation of low activity levels, then adjust with your workout stats? Is this a method worth following, or is it better to just continue following the same deficit daily?

I’ve been on a diet for 6 months. I lost 24kg and now my weight is 71 something but it doesn’t change anymore.

6 June - 76.00
7 June - 75.65
11 June - 75.20
18 June - 73.90
23 June - 73.35
27 June - cheat meal (dinner)
28 June - cheat day
1 Jul - 73.10
6 Jul - cheat day
8 Jul - 72.95
12 Jul - 71.15
16 Jul - 71.55
18 Jul - 71.10
22 Jul - 71.30

What’s going on? I didn’t change nothing.

Can a cheat meal help it?

Hey, i haven’t posted here before and i am new to this thread so bear with me please. I am 20f, (roughly) 170lbs, and 5’7. I gained a lot of weight in the last few years and I am really trying to lose some of the weight I gained. My goal is 130lbs. I am somewhat active but I can’t do much weight lifting or other exercises due to a medical condition so I try to walk regularly and stretch.
I have been tracking my calories and trying to keep them in the range of 1400-1700. I have been focusing on protein (eggs, cottage cheese, chicken breast) and having veggies like tomatoes and carrots mostly. I cut out soda and i’ve cut down on artificial sugars. My sweet treats are usually over 70% cacao chocolate and strawberries.

My biggest question here is how long will it take to get to 130lbs? Should I be doing anything differently? Does anyone have exercises that are low impact but effective? Any tips or hacks that worked for people?

I just feel really horrible about myself honestly not being able to exercise like I used to has made a huge impact on my mental health. Thank you!

It might be relevant to include that in high school i had an ED so I can’t regularly weigh myself. I don’t have the problem anymore and I am trying to lose weight in a healthy way and keep the weight off. I just weighed myself and I am planning to weigh myself only every once in a while for progress but it can’t be a daily/weekly thing because I will get obsessed.

2023-2024 were a couple of rough years for me and i gained a lot of weight, i was close to being obese, fortunately i lost a lot of that weight but im still 6-7 kg overweight, but for the love of god i cannot lose anything, i always feel like i have the urge to eat something, any time of the day and night and its really hard to resist, i also been going to the gym for the past few months but nothing is helping i tried every single advice, nothing works im desperate, any advice, anything will help.

I have a problem. Even if I eat healthy, small portions of food and exercise I just can’t lose weight. I don’t gain or lose weight. The only thing that helps me lose weight is fasting but it makes me feel very sick. Like I’ll start throwing up, I’ll feel lightheaded and weak and my whole body shakes. I usually eat twice a day and even skipping one meal makes me feel sick.

Any advice?

I’m looking for some advice from people in a similar situation.
I work from home from 5:00 PM to 12:30 AM and spend the rest of the day taking care of my kid. I was recently diagnosed with hypothyroidism, and I’m finding it really hard to eat healthy or fit in workouts.
How do you manage your diet, exercise, and overall routine? Any realistic tips that have worked for you would be greatly appreciated.

Hi! I’m 22 F and currently almost 230 pounds at 5’8 and I can’t seem to lose any weight. I lost a decent amount and was around 213 in March, but for some reason gained 15 pounds. I recently started taking creatine which I know can account for water weight but 15 pounds of water weight is excessive.

I know people are going to be like “you are not in a calorie deficit” but I literally DONT know how I could be eating more calories than I’m burning. I go to orange theory at least 3x a week and I walk 10K steps a day (a four mile walk everyday + walking normally). I don’t even eat that much, I have a yogurt and berries for breakfast, a salad and Trader Joe’s organic nuggets for lunch, a coffee (no added sugar only the smallest bit of creamer which is like 50 calories), and whatever my mom makes for dinner (always something healthy and I eat a small portion). There is no way I am eating over 2000 calories and I have to be burning more than that. What am I doing wrong?

Hello! Hope you are all having a good day. Looking for advice on how to manage my anxiety when exercising, because I would absolutely LOVE to go for runs. Gonna give as much info as I can to help people with their feedback! And thank you so much for reading if you're here :)

I am 5'3", 107kg and in my mid 20's. I have Autism, ADHD, Depression and a good bout of anxiety thanks to things from the past. Admittedly, I only leave my house about once a week due to said anxiety, but I want to be able to take care of myself better in any way that I can.

I've been roughly the same weight since my early teens, and no amount of exercise or starvation (not intentionally, I had a rough past) seems to change that. It COULD be PCOS or hormone related, but I am also too anxious to get checked out.

For what it's worth, I prepare and cook my own meals, and I tiptoe everywhere (due to autism) so my calves are strong as fuck.

I went for a walk today, a new route, took about half an hour there and back and got me about 2500 steps in, which is nice for a change! But I'd love to go out without feeling horribly anxious that someone's looking at me and judging, hell, might even say something! I know, rationally, in my mind that nobody truly gives a damn. But there is always the worry that someone especially hateful (I am visibly transgender, short, fat - easy target to some?) will target me and I won't be able to escape the situation. I stay home so much because I feel safe there.

The goal eventually is to go running - it always feels so freeing and fun, but I don't think I can get away with sprinting down a main road and not have anyone look to see what's going on. I do not have the funds to get myself a gym membership as the vast majority of my pay goes into rent and groceries. I do not have a car or the ability to drive, otherwise I'd probably take myself to a quieter area because there are so many people in a city !! The world is cruel and evil and hates me specifically (joking ofc).

Thank you for getting to the end !! Sorry this was so long :')

Edit: i spent so long writing my bullshit that i didnt even write what i really wanted. anything i can do at home, low budget, to help lose weight and regain strength??? and to run ofc i really wanna do that too

I’m a 23 year old female, and I weight 180 lbs. I got to the point where I just look at myself and feel so gross, my legs are cottage cheese, my back rolls look crazy, and my apron belly is getting worse. I work 2 jobs, I’m up at 6 in the morning and don’t get home until 10:30 most nights. Other days I don’t get home until 12:30. I have 0 time for the gym. When I come home I just wanna crash. I crave sugar like no other, it’s always there. What alternatives can I make to help curb the cravings? How would I even start to loose weight without the gym? I’m fed up.

I’m in a super aggressive cut like anywhere from 1200-1600 deficit a day. Ik it’s not sustainable I’m only doing it for about 8 more days. I just want to know if this can mess metabolism up long term or not since it’s so short. Duration ab 12 days total. I’m still weightlifting and doing cardio and I’ve felt fine so far. Should it be something where I just watch my energy levels and adjust if things aren’t going well energy wise?

I started seriously trying to lose weight on May 15th. As of today I’m down about 25lbs in that time. 45m, 281 starting weight. I’m in calorie deficit every day of about 800-1200 calories. Protein lands around 150-180g most days, carbs under 100 and fat under 100 and lower.

I’m hitting the gym hard lifting as heavy as I can. I didn’t want to lose a bunch of muscle during the loss so I put in the work at the gym to compensate.

Two months in and I don’t look that different. All my weight is in my torso, barrel chest, big belly, back and sides. Legs are pretty solid, not a lot of fat in my lower half. I REALLY want to drop the fat in my upper half and lower feel like my current method is taking forever to make that happen. Lately I’ve considered just quitting the gym and focusing on walking and diet to see what that does.

I think I’m in a recomposition mode right now. I wear my belt under my belly and it’s down two notches, pants are falling off, some shirts fit better. I am progressing in the gym for sure with higher weights. Arms are getting bigger and muscles showing in some spots around neck and shoulders and arms and legs.

The scale is so deceiving right now. It’s not moving that fast considering the deficit I’m in.

I’m wondering if I should pivot for the next three months and see what happens there. I know I would mentally be in a better spot if I could see and feel big results.

Looking for any feedback or tips from those who have been here.

Hi all. After decades being obese, the weight is finally off. I’ve lost 130 lbs and I have loose skin. It makes all the effort a bit less enjoyable but this is something for my therapist, I guess. I was wondering if you all had any recommendations for denim jeans that will help hide the loose skin. Right now every jean I try fits like I’m a jar of sourdough starter and the loose skin is the dough slightly spilling. Thanks for your advice in advance!

I've always had ZERO discipline but I want to lose fat after a bad bad holiday.

I've been trying to do the whole 10k steps, 150g protein, weights, deficit plan but I literally can't last more than one day.

I'm okay with leaving muscle building until after I've lost some fat. Can someone recommend a plan they followed that didn't feel like their whole life was spent in the kitchen or on walks?

Just curious what some people maybe “ odd” ways of fighting cravings or sticking to a schedule/routine.
I’m currently working on intermittent fasting with low carb/sugar and genuinely eating healthy.
I’m in my 50’s and I’ve tried different things over the years and now I’m focusing on just what makes me feel better. But the cravings and weak moments come! Any out of the box techniques? I have a few but curious about others! Thanks

Hello I’ve been doing Barre classes about 3 times a week for about 3 months. I’ve noticed a difference in some muscle strength but I am not seeing a change in my physique. To be honest I haven’t really tackled my diet as I have a 16 month old and I’m just trying to keep my head above water. I started Barre because I wanted a group class (it keeps me accountable) and it’s good on my joints. However I feel like if anything I’m looking and feeling bigger then before 😞