r/Tomorrowland • u/dee_palmtree • 13h ago
Belgium My experience as a bigger guy at Tomorrowland
I saw a post here the other day from someone saying they struggled with body dysmorphia at the festival because they were surrounded by so many conventionally attractive people. The skinny influencer types, the gym guys with six-packs, people who seem like they walked straight out of a fitness ad. Reading it reminded me a lot of how I felt.
I'm a 30-year-old guy, and I weigh around 145 ish kg. I cannot change my body in a magic snap even if I wanted to at that moment at the festival. The first time I went to Tomorrowland was ten years ago, and I remember constantly feeling like I didn't belong. Everywhere I looked, I compared myself to everyone else. I felt out of place, convinced people were judging me, even though, looking back, most of that was happening in my own head.
Since then, I've been back several times, and I've learned something that I wish someone had told me back then: almost nobody cares what you look like.
At least, I certainly don't. And from my experience, neither do the overwhelming majority of people there. Tomorrowland is one of the most welcoming and inclusive festivals I've ever been to. Are there rude or shallow people? Sure. You'll find those anywhere. Festivals don't magically erase bad personalities. But they're a tiny minority compared to the thousands of genuinely kind, open-minded people who are just there to enjoy the music and have a good time.
Last year I went by myself. I was wandering around a bit, feeling lost at times, and every now and then I'd catch myself comparing my body to everyone around me again. Then this absolutely shredded guy and his girlfriend noticed I was on my own, started talking to me, and basically took me under their wing for the rest of the day. We danced together, explored stages, laughed, and had an amazing time. Not once did they make me feel like I was different or didn't belong. If anything, they made me feel the exact opposite.
That experience really put things into perspective. Most of the insecurities we carry around are far louder in our own minds than they are in anyone else's.
So if you're worried about your body before going, don't let it stop you. Whether you're skinny, overweight, muscular, short, tall, covered in tattoos, or none of the above, you deserve to be there just as much as everyone else. The people who matter won't judge you, and the people who do judge you aren't worth your time anyway.
Tomorrowland belongs to everyone. If you show up as yourself and let yourself enjoy the experience, you'll fit in far more than you think.