r/Steam • u/Franci93 • May 23 '26
Fluff didn’t knew it would be our last interaction… he sent me a game from the ER
Begged him for months to go see a doctor but he only did it when it became unbearable..
It's bittersweet and I'm still processing it.. (il probably cry my soul out anyway)
But it's so heartwarming to know he thought about me even when he was at the ER
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u/S_Griffin May 23 '26
The fact that he opened Steam from the hospital just to make sure you got something on your wishlist... that says everything about him.
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u/Franci93 May 23 '26
It's even weirder, i have a lot of games on my wishlist but he chose one I really wanted to try for a while. And I never told him about it (?
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u/S_Griffin May 23 '26
Some people just know. He was one of them.
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u/HingedxHooligan May 23 '26
my dad was also a man who just knew. i wanted a red SG guitar for the longest time and one christmas he made me do a scavenger hunt for my christmas present. eventually going to his closet where the guitar was. now, i never told anyone at all i wanted this guitar, we were never very financially stable and i didnt wanna beg my dad for something i knew we couldnt afford. to say my jaw dropped when he showed it to me would be an understatement. he passed away in 2022 and while i dont play that guitar anymore ive had ones ive bought since that i just enjoy playing more, i hang that red SG on my wall like a fuckin trophy.
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u/Andravisia May 23 '26
Some friends are very good at intuiting. They don't need you to tell them what you like, they know you well enough to be able to make an educated guess about what sort of gifts you'd like.
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u/this_is_my_new_acct May 23 '26
My ex-wife used to get really annoyed at me because I'd always buy her the perfect Christmas/Birthday presents... they were always EXACTLY what she wanted, but she had no idea how I knew.
Turns out, I just listened to her when she'd offhandedly mention stuff, and I'd make a note. She was telling me what she wanted, she just didn't realize it (or remember having done it).
Possibly something like that?
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u/lavendergryphon May 23 '26
this is real and how i'm legendary at giving gifts. people who love you pay attention
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u/Nopalite May 23 '26
Maybe he wanted to pick something you could spend a lot of time on and get invested in. Something that really sets a mood.
When the grief is a little less fresh you could try to have some fun in his honor, with party size bag of snacks and a good drink.
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u/zombie_overlord May 23 '26
The new one just came out too. Still playing through it for the first time, but the first one is like top 5 of all time for me. Sorry about your friend. They were obviously a good person.
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u/i_have_cheese May 23 '26
when someone gets to know you, they can guess certain things right. i hope you play the game and think of your friend.
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u/Extra_Cherry3540 _No-Life_ May 23 '26
I would absolutely recommend you play it and its sequel in his honor. He has amazing taste and I hope you know that.
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u/Odd_Professional_584 May 23 '26
I did this with Valheim. Friend got it for me and we played it often. Every time I launch it, it reminds me of all the good times.
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u/xSTSxZerglingOne May 23 '26
I first started playing Factorio with a friend who is no longer friends with me. I think about him every time I play it, which is most days.
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u/AdyTheComrade May 23 '26
Damn, same, i just told my Brother to try out factorio with me, he would loved it, but he got a heart failure not long after.
I do play a ton w it, but i think of him all the time.
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u/DanglingDinkleberry May 23 '26
Absolutely right. Subnautica is a real gem, I've been playing since 2016 and knew when I first found it that it was going to get popular, it was too good not to. I've got 15 hours into Subnautica 2, and it lives up to the original so far. Go play 'em, people!
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u/m2astn May 23 '26
Oh man, I hope OP doesn't find one of those tear-jerker time capsules while playing. They are entitled to leave one though. Looking forward to reading it.
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u/Rattiepalooza May 23 '26
Every single one of them I find, I cry with the writer. I thank the stars they had a friend that impacted them, and I wish peace upon it's author.
I hope OP posts his when he gets there!
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u/SocraticSeaUrchin May 23 '26
Wait I don't get it, what do you mean?
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u/EoTN May 23 '26
Endgame but overall minor Mechanical spoilers:
When you beat the game, you get the option to leave a final message and some items in a time capsule. These capsules can randomly be found in a playthrough, if your game is connected to the internet when you start, you can (VERY rarely) find them on the ocean's floor. Some people leave very sentimental time capsules, some are just goofy.
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u/Slight-Marzipan-3017 May 23 '26
Literally played throught the game 4 times and never knew this.
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u/AverageMako3Enjoyer May 23 '26
Incredible mechanic honestly. I only ever found one, was basically a message in a bottle from like 7 years prior from a guy just talking about what the game and its journey meant for him and hoped it would be the same for me, too. Included a picture of his base he built on the island and some items that ended up being massive boons for my progress
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u/rW0HgFyxoJhYka May 23 '26
Yeah ever since Dark Souls allowed people to leave messages for others across time and space, I wish more games did this.
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u/tzitzitzitzi May 23 '26
It's tough because you have to semi moderate it so I get why a lot just don't bother dealing with it.
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u/The_Killer_Squirrel May 23 '26
Oh, I didn't know they were left by actual players, or are there both existing ones and player made ones? I was watching someone on YouTube playing it recently and got about 5 time capsules during his run, and thought nothing of it.
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u/AverageMako3Enjoyer May 23 '26 edited May 23 '26
When you build the Neptune rocket in the games finale the cockpit has the option to generate a capsule with a message, photo from the PDA, and a 6 slot container to put just about any item except select items deemed to valuable (vehicle upgrades, ion items, some other various rare endgame materials) When you launch, the capsule is “deployed”, ie it is sent to the devs to be screened and when it passes is seeded for possible generation.
When the game launched and for some time after these were instead sent to a section of the Subnautica website where players would vote for capsules and they would be seeded after reaching so many votes, so some of the earliest ones were generally heartfelt or silly that garnered praise from fellow divers, but as the game aged and the playerbase waned the devs did away with the voting aspect and simply screen and seed capsules themselves
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u/EoTN May 23 '26
I've done 3 playthroughs myself and still never seen one lol. Apparently 1-4 time capsules can spawn, but they're less than a meter long, and can spawn anywhere above ~600m depth, so it's impossibly hard to tell if they didn't spawn at all or if you just missed them.
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u/wafflepig6 May 23 '26
I stupidly paid little attention when i found one, i just opened it and took the items not knowing some actually created it
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u/pepperland24 May 23 '26
For every "depths of my love" time capsule, there are 100 real tear jerkers mixed in
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u/Rattiepalooza May 23 '26
When the time comes, will you let us know you dropped a capsule for him? You'll understand what I mean by the end of the game.
I wrote one for my friend, Michael. I've found so many from others who have dedicated their capsules to fallen friends -- and I weep for all of them, as well as feel joy that we had them in our lives in the first place.
I love you, fellow human. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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u/DeliverySoggy2700 May 23 '26
I wish I could do this myself. My dog is in bad shape from kidney and heart disease. She’s still kicking at 14 but we got bad news at the vet today.
I’ve spent more than I paid for my house extending her life,recently, and there just aren’t options left
I’m not trying to steal spotlight. I’m just devastated and can relate
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u/Kthonic May 23 '26
My heart is with you. She's so lucky to have lived such a long life with you, and you know she enjoyed every minute.
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u/Loud_Surround5112 May 23 '26
"What is a wave without the ocean?
A beginning without an end?
They are different, but they go together.
Now you go among the stars, and I fall among the sand.
We are different.
But we go... together."
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u/wafflepig6 May 23 '26
This is already such a sad part in game without the OP's outside world context. I cant imagine OP going through this part
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u/Lydiaa0 May 23 '26
I didnt even think of that. OP is gonna flood their house with tears once they beat the game
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u/Knive33 May 23 '26
You are now obligated to finish this game and name your cyclops after your friend.
my condolences to you and his family.
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u/boybob227 May 23 '26
Building on this: no spoilers but there is an opportunity for you to leave a time capsule at the very end of the first game.
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u/Bananafoofoofwee May 23 '26
Just encountered the Crabsquid for the first time. Enjoy!
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u/Q0T3 May 23 '26
Take care. Do all the crying you need to sometimes that's the only salve that will do.
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u/OldDirtyBarrios May 23 '26
Sorry homie. Enjoy the game for him.
This also makes me think how funny it would be to gift someone a really long really terrible game on my death bed as a final laugh. Since they would feel obligated to play it.
“Dude, this was my favorite game. 100% it for me”
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u/zoey_will May 23 '26
Me going into massive credit card debt to buy all the homies everything on their wish lists then dying so I don't have to pay. Lmao hax
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u/lordmycal May 23 '26
"I'm going to miss OldDirtyBarrios. We grew closer after he died as I got to spend a lot of quality time playing his favorite game, Sex With Hitler 2...." /s
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u/Tjgoodwiniv May 23 '26
So many people here mentioning games that are triggers for them, it seemed a good place to mention something my dad taught me.
He said, "never mark a bad day." So I don't.
He died a couple years ago. 2, I think? I don't remember which year, but 2 adds up. I only thought about it on the day this year because Mom called me to remind me, which I asked her never to do again (I explained that she's welcome to call me if it hurts, but to not point out the anniversary of his death). In a few years, I expect to forget the date and the year, though the month is probably impossible to forget (January is one that sticks with you). A few years from now, I also hope to forget the month of my cat's death, which was as painful as any human loss I've ever experienced. The date is already lost, though the range remains.
As Dad said, that day has no special meaning. The last day of a relationship, or the worst day of it, shouldn't be the thing that sticks with us. It can, but only if we let it. So, when something bad happens, I pay no more mind to that date than any other, and I let it slip away as best I can. That makes it easier for the memories to be about the person than about my painful loss of them.
To an extent, I would apply this to every marker of a painful event. We have to feel and carry the pain of loss, but we have some ability to control parts of it.
Anyway, OP, if you see this, I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope you're okay. Play the game with joy, knowing your friend did, as well, and wanted the same joy for you.
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u/willargue4karma May 23 '26
what a great idea. I dont know the dates of any of the traumatic things that've happened in my life, just the general time that it happened + the rough year
mostly cause im bad organizationally lol
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u/Either-Call3198 May 23 '26
My uncle died 17 years ago. We took the road trip to his funeral. About 3 minutes after making it home. My mom had a heart attack and died. Didn't even make it to 50 years old.
I know the month and the year. I'll never know the dates. Your dad gave pretty solid advice. The pain dulls over time but never seems to go away. Best of wishes to you and sorry for your loss.
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u/EmotionalGamer7 May 23 '26
I have the anniversary date of my boyfriends death marked in my calendar. His birthday just passed and I tried so hard to make it a happy day and to remember the happy things. The one year mark of his passing is coming up and I’ve been dreading it more the closer it gets. There are no happy thoughts for that day. I think this is my sign to delete the note from my calendar. Thank you for this.
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u/lemonplumcookies May 23 '26
I did this for my dad too, remember his birthday not his death day. Also January, but I don't recall the day, doesn't matter. Made him a chocolate cake for what would have been his 60th birthday.
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u/PrimevilKneivel May 23 '26
You are talking my language. I’m coming up on three years since my dad died and I can only vaguely indicate when it was. I could figure it out exactly, but why bother. I want to use my memory for the time I had with him, not the day I lost him.
Celebrate good anniversaries, don’t dwell on the difficult ones. There are better ways to remember the people we miss.
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u/SpiritGryphon May 23 '26
Thank you for sharing you dad's advice! I think I've been subconsciously doing this, though I am very bad at remembering dates anyway, and I've felt incredibly guilty for forgetting death dates or to regularly interact with memorials and gravesites whenever I am reminded - precisely because they remind me of how I should be focused on their death more than I am. I felt like I was doing my loved ones a disservice and I was grieving wrong. But it's so incredibly painful and distressing to constantly be reminded of their passing.
I think I needed the permission to grieve the way I need to grieve, and it's not by dwelling on the traumatic events, but by remembering the good days. Thank you.
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u/Tijenater May 23 '26
Wonderful idea, your dad had a good head on his shoulders. I’m gonna make good use of his wisdom, thanks for sharing my man
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u/IsadorCZ May 23 '26
Sorry for your loss. Play it with him in mind and explore the game with him in your heart
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u/carrera594 May 23 '26
Is it bad that I want to know what he had or had happened to him?
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u/moisthairyguts May 23 '26
Morbid curiosity. We all have it, but out of respect it’s best we not unless OP reveals
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u/Adorable-Response-75 May 23 '26
It’s understandable.
It’s how we make sense of the unthinkable.
My girlfriend died in a car crash 6 months ago on her way home late from work. It was a hit and run by a stolen car and the culprit was never found.
I don’t know if I would have been able to be so forward to share those details right after it happened. Even typing them here was hard, but also I sympathize with wanting to know what happened.
Not that you asked about my situation. I just wanted to shed some light on what it’s like to be on both sides and why I’m sympathetic to those who want to know and those who say not to ask.
I will say when I made a similar Reddit post, the condolences of strangers meant a lot to me. So my condolences OP. What you’re going through is the hardest thing.
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u/PPFirstSpeaker May 23 '26
My lifemate of 28 years and wife for about a week passed suddenly from stage 4 cancer only 2 weeks after it was diagnosed.
Now I'm alone in our big house. I have to deal with her virtual land holdings in Second Life. She also had huge bases in No Man's Sky.
That was only a couple of weeks ago. I'm not as wrecked as I was, but the simplest things can set off a tearful meltdown... Like mentioning No Man's Sky. We both started it on launch, but she enjoyed it far more than I did.
I'm slowly learning to deal with it, but the hole in my soul where her song was is still raw.
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u/LeahcarJ May 23 '26
I'm so sorry, it's such a terrible pain than too many people have to live through. I used to play Pokemon Go with my brother and we'd send gifts back and forth all the time. since he passed two and a half years ago, I've opened the game maybe a half dozen times. the last gift he sent me stays unopened. I can't handle the idea of the last thing he ever gave me to be gone. he also gave me a 3d printed Bulbasaur for my birthday (the last time I saw him) and I didn't have the heart to remind him it was one of my sister's favorite pokemon, not mine, but man do I have a love for them now.
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u/LemonMonster21 May 23 '26
That was very thoughtful of them. You should play and enjoy in their honor. Do you mind telling us his name? Id like to name my submarine after them.
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u/Aximil985 May 23 '26
I don't know if you've started your world yet or not, but when you do decide to dive in, I hope you let yourself feel everything that comes with it. The wonder, the loneliness, the fear, and the beauty of the ocean.
And if you do cry while you play, don't be ashamed of it. Let the tears fall freely. The sea has always known how to carry sorrow gently, and your tears will become part of those warm alien waters.
Keep diving. Not away from the pain, but through it. Because somewhere in the depths of this deep ocean, the memory of the person who gave you this journey is still swimming beside you.
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u/MethodFun7044 May 23 '26
Sorry to hear about your friend. It's not easy losing someone your close to for a long time. I'll go ahead and offer my story here: I had a friend named Nicole. She was one of my best friends from elementary school. But on December 11th, 2017, she collapsed from a heart attack into a coma. Two days after that, I was playing Ghost Recon Wildlands when my dad called me into the living room. He told me that she had died earlier that day, and as soon as I heard that, I immediately started crying. I have not played the game in a a year, and the death of my friend was almost ten years ago, but I can remember the game I played as clear as daylight.
I don't even want to think about playing that game anymore...
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u/Rinku_No_Mae May 23 '26
I was always looking for someone to play Phasmophobia with. Looking around discord, I joined a random person, we played together that night. Next day, same situation, looking for players to play, I saw her message and I joined her again. I added her and we were always chatting and messaging around Discord and Steam a lot. I played like 400 hours with her in group and alone. We were always doing theories and speaking about the next patch. She was a very kind person who out of the blue started to believe in me and being super nice.
She went to a trip with her husband and all, we were chatting a bit less but always in contact. As soon as she came from her vacation, we played again, the next day she had a birthday to attend to. She told me to be around so we'll be playing some Phasmo after the party. That was our last conversation...
I still play and love Phasmo, but I was never able to be strong enough to look for someone again, she was special, she was kind, and she was a very friendly soul.
I hope you're doing great, Nina.
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u/PD_Ace20 May 23 '26
Go to the goddamn doctor guys and listen to family and friends! I know too many who could have been saved ...
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u/Machinencio May 23 '26
Enjoy it and don't feel bad for playing it, he gifted the game for you to enjoy not feel bad.
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u/kesnerjp May 23 '26
My mom passed away on Christmas morning, and the day before I was playing a Plague Tale. Haven’t finished that game since that day😢
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u/not_NEK0 May 23 '26
Reddit is awesome sometimes. To see this many people being supportive for a stranger is giving me hope for humanity
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u/AccurateJerboa May 23 '26
He wanted you to see beautiful, amazing things, friend (and get the pants scared off you). Enjoy it.
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u/TwoTonHammer May 23 '26
Payday 2
Four of us, heisting away. One of 'em fell ill with Covid. Last message he ever sent was about how he was feeling better and will try to eat soup.
We don't touch that game anymore, or most other games we played together.
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u/Forgotmyaccount1979 May 23 '26
A world to explore in your friend's honor, good way to commemorate them.
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u/OkCommunication4891 May 23 '26
It's so much worse. He knew it was the last time, so he gave him the single-player version. You'll meet him again one day to continue the series. I wish you a good life
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u/MsRenegade75 May 23 '26
I still have the Xbox messages from my brother asking if I wanted to play Sea of Thevies with him. I haven't played that game since
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u/GeneralNothing2886 May 23 '26
I hope you get to play that game and have nothing but good memories, truly sorry for your loss.
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u/AirportSafe1230 May 23 '26
I remember playing fallout New Vegas it was modded she had already been in the hospital and I knew she wasn't going to make it the rest of the year we knew I just got told a couple hours I had got off my headset I was playing VR ran a group so I would go do that from time to time and I just gotten off went and got food turned on New Vegas started playing a little bit it was dead money and I hate the fact that it was dead money because it was ironic and its own weird way she had had a epileptic seizure in her sleep and she ended up passing away her brother ended up telling me she was the best person I knew the sweetest person ever I miss her everyday
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u/Leah_Ayame May 23 '26
Fuck, this is not how I wanted to start my morning :/ hits too close to home, I'm sorry for your loss but at least the game is amazing.
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u/LimitedDistribution May 23 '26
that's a really beautiful last thing to have from him, even if it hurts right now
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u/coco_shibe May 23 '26
My friend let me borrow his FFX game and told me to return it when I was done playing (PS2 days). I would play it here and there but didnt grind it as i was doing other things. A few months later a car hit him while he was skating and died of internal bleeding. Couldnt play that game until college on my PS4 on a remastered version. Renamed tidus the main character in his name so we could finish and beat the game together. When we did finish I cried my eyes out in my dorm.
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u/AFleetingIllness May 24 '26
My dad died in the middle of trying to Platinum The Last Of Us Part 2. We had a bad relationship. And I only had one trophy left.
After I got home from the hospital, I took a deep breath, sat down and got the final trophy.
Now when I look at my trophy list, I know that the date I unlocked the Platinum is the day he died.
That game means a lot to me. I spent a lot of my life hating and resenting him for the things he did.
I don't think I could ever forgive him for that.
...but I would like to try.
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u/SorryConfusion9186 May 23 '26
Man that message is gonna hit you every time you see that game in your library