Today my period decided to randomly start. I usually get it at the end or the beginning of the month, but strangely enough it decided to give me cramps at 1 PM and show up at 2 PM while I was on my way to work.

I had no pads, so I had to use paper and somehow survive for four hours. That's exactly what I did. The cramps were killing me and I honestly just wanted to throw up.

Fast forward, I got home, checked the bathroom to see if there were any pads left, and sadly there weren't. So I decided to go buy some.

I visited over FOUR stores, and none of them had pads. But STRANGELY ENOUGH, every single one of those stores had female "beautifying" products: creams, lashes, lip glosses, lipsticks, etc...
I seriously just wanted to cry. But I finally found pads in a tiny, run down store, almost as if they were being hidden. And the smallest pack cost me €2.95.
I'm actually so tired.

why? Is It normal to sexualize Little girls this way and showing their butts? why should a Little girl have a swimsuit that shows her body instead of giving her the comfort tò play? and why do parents buy It?

Sure online in some small places like this it’s acceptable. But most places no. I mean I don’t mind being around a male. I have uncles, and coworkers I interact with just fine. But all together I just don’t want a man in my life.

I’m bi and I don’t date men , ppl don’t believe me. I don’t want friends with boyfriends tbh cuz they ALWAYS have weird relationship problems I just can’t stand watching them be so dumb( or the other side just being straight up abused) . I’m tired of discourse like the voice note guy and us woman always have to consider men’s feelings and think about the maybe 1% of men that are decent . No other group is expected to do this with their oppressor. It baffles me woman don’t see certain things it’s like I have to coddle grown woman. Even when they are “ liberal woke” wtv word you’d like to call it for me it’s just common sense. They get wrapped up in this idea that they can really move through this world as equally then wonder why they keep getting dogged out. Or they are just transphobic and bioessentialist when doing that does fucking nothing.

And these are just 1st world problems, I cry for woman in other country’s . I’m only 22 and I feel like … I hate men so much, I cannot interact with a lot of woman as well on a deeper level. Even other queer woman don’t like what I have to say. I just feel lonely and so angry. And I’m Tired of being told I’m paranoid or dramatic. I don’t like men. I don’t want them in my life. I don’t want the terrible men in your life to seep into mine. I hate when men hit on me without a thought but I’m scared to hit on woman everyday. “ if you hate men you’re male centered” they try so so hard to do anything but acknowledge how oppressed they truly are. I’m tired of everyone looking at me like I’m the crazy one. And I’m honestly just so sad. I didn’t grow up as a little girl to live in a world like this.

What do y'all think of psychoanalysis and its application to rad fem thought? Note that I am not very well schooled in psychoanalysis and am in part hoping to find people who know more about this to develop my own opinion.

The general view of Gen Z and young millenial feminists who I talk with about feminism have a very negative view of psychoanalysis. And there has been a great deal of excellent criticism of Feud, Jung, Lacan, etc. by feminist writers.

But you have writers like Scott, de Beauvoir, and Rubin who think one needs some kind of psychoanalysis of gender development to understand patriarchy. I'm a huge fan of Rubin's The Traffic in Women, which proposes a theory of how patriarchy (or as Rubin would put it, our sex gender system) is propagated. Among other things, she rearranges Freud's penis envy theory to engage with the very real cultural fixation on the phallus and on maleness as equivalent to agency - similar to de Beauvoir's stuff about alienation.

To do this kind of analysis, you have to engage somewhat with psychoanalysis, and for many that feels like a mistake, dealing with a patriarchal devil. Not an unreasonable view. But I am also drawn by writers and academics who engage with psychoanalysis and feminism (for a fictuon example I am mostly thinking of Bechdel's Are You My Mother?).

I'm interested in people's thoughts on this in general and in particular would love if anybody can recommend some feminist work on Jung or Lacan, both of whom I would like to read more of but through an established radfem critical lens.

Has anyone else noticed how often women seem to be the ones giving up their seats on public transport?
I’ve genuinely lost count of the number of times I’ve seen an elderly person, a visibly pregnant woman, or someone with mobility issues standing while perfectly able-bodied men stay seated even when they’re in the easiest seats to get out of?? Is this an international thing or just my city ?

It’s become so noticeable that I almost expect it now. Women around me often seem to scan the carriage, make eye contact with the person who needs a seat, and stand without hesitation. I do it naturally too because I would feel so awkward if I didn’t? Many men don’t even seem to look up. I’m interested in whether other women have noticed this pattern or whether it’s just my experience. If it is a real pattern, what do you think explains it? Is it socialisation, empathy, entitlement, or something else? It’s really irritating me now

One thing that saddens me and enrage me the most as a woman, is how far beauty standards can push us to modify our bodies to the point of putting us in danger.
It seems like all around the world, in many different time spaces, women were subjugated to male preferences, because the goal was to made them compete for their ressources and their companionship.
And to do so it could have looked like putting on a corset that made it hard to breath, that would cause health issues later in life, or like footbinding in China, that could be compared to torture honestly.
Today, we still have all kind of techniques that follows the same rule.
I came across a TikTok video of a woman showing her breast implants with mold when she got them removed, and I got chills when she said how close they were to her heart this whole time. What’s the “reward” for this kind of risk I’m wondering ? Is it “confidence” ? But how was that idea of confidence born and why does it always revolve around men desire ?
The comments were chilling. Just trying to recommend another way to still got implants, and also not blaming it but the doctors… Hmm I’m sorry but what the fuck ? Can we take a second, step aside, and wonder why the fuck would we need to put plastic inside our bodies at ALL ? And how it’s a dangerous act by itself !

I feel like in some feminist spaces we don’t have honest conversation about the whole thing with “men are supposed to chase” “women are the prize” etc. It feels like it’s a lot more nuanced than that, when you observe the length women go to be “chosen”. It feels like chasing in a way, and almost despair.
But honestly, I don’t blame us at all. In a historical kind of view, it was and still is necessary. Because in the system that we are born in men have the ressources, in order to survive, it’s detrimental to be able to find the best and wealthiest partner, and to do so I guess we have to meet the most “elite” criterias.
All of this is so normalized, they are probably many things that we do in that nature and that we don’t even realize.
For those of you that saw a tweet saying that women would be capable to cut off a finger if it was men preference, she was right, we absolutely would ! (it would have probably started with pressure to do it with no freedom to refuse, leading to normalization of the act with time, we are the victims).

The term "pick me" can describe a woman who exhibits male-centered, validation-seeking behavior, often at the expense of other women.

This is a real behavior that hurts and traumatizes the women and even the children around her. Unfortunately, many times this term is overused and used incorrectly, out of context, sometimes in a toxic way toward women who just naturally happen to have less conventionally feminine interests, or women they just don't like, which is just another form of internalized misogyny and policing.

What is even weirder is hearing this term used by men.

Lately, I have heard the term "pick me" used toward women in such a manipulative and wrong way. For example, I overheard a conversation between a male coworker and three other female coworkers, and he called most of the women in the workplace "pick mes," especially two women who happen to be, ironically, the most feminist and least male-centered women there, using it as an insult.

He then continued to praise the three women he was sitting with as not being "pick mes," while, ironically, they are the most male-centered women there. One of them is proudly anti-feminist because "hatred of men is not the solution" (while feminism is not even about hatred of men).

They, of course, took the praise with great delight from a man, giving them the approval stamp of not being "pick mes" like all those other girls.

Funny, or sadly enough, this "compliment" for their supposedly non-"pick me" behavior, while they clearly exhibit that behavior, reinforces their male-centered behavior to receive even more validation and keeps them distant and separated from other women who are not "male-approved" mostly for a very good reason.

Those women might be thinking that this man is nice, likes them and is on their side, while in reality, he is dangerous because he can tolerate women only as long as they are submissive, insecure, and validation-seeking, which he will gladly give them to gain access to them.

This made me sad. At first, I wanted to say something, but I was too tired and didn't want to waste my energy on a conversation with people who might reduce my IQ, so I stayed silent. But inside, I was disappointed by the ignorance of those women about feminism and the way some men exploit it for their own benefit.

So, I see a lot of women who post about their hinge/tinder/bumble etc dates and majority of the time, it goes wrong. I made a comment one time not expecting it to blow up under the lines of “Stop dating men, stop seeking for love from men” and all the comments were really made saying stuff like “god forbid a woman wants to find love”, “we can’t live without love” “We just a want a relationship” . Love is not something you can find through a man. Maybe it’s because I’m ace as fuck but people who act as if the only place you can find love is through a man are laughable. If anything , majority of those men are giving the opposite of love and the women put up with it in hopes he would change or just to keep a man around . I just really don’t understand spending so much time finding a man and going through the weirdest type of men online, misogynistic men, negging men, just for “love”. What is this “love” they keep going on about? I just don’t see the appeal of having a boyfriend/husband/situationship but I guess everyone is different . And maybe I love my friendships,family, job more than I care to finding a man

American women aren't overreacting — they're reading the documents. In this video, I go through what's actually on paper: the state-level push to repeal no-fault divorce, the post-Dobbs abortion landscape, the SAVE Act's documented impact on married women whose legal names don't match their birth certificates, and the growing number of women researching visas and exit plans. I also look at the women defending this project from inside it — including Erika Kirk and the broader "traditional womanhood" media ecosystem — and what their role tells us about how this gets sold.

This isn't a left-vs.-right story. It's a top vs. bottom story: who writes the rules, who absorbs the consequences, and who profits from women having fewer exits — from a marriage, from a state, or from the country. This video is commentary and analysis based on publicly available documents and reporting. Opinions are labeled as such.

Sources cited in this video are linked below. When I'm giving my opinion, I say so explicitly. Everything else is drawn from primary documents: bill text, court filings, and official records.

Feminism focuses on abolishing the patriarchy and achieving total liberation for women.
Men have no need for liberation. They hold disproportionate social and legal power and authority.
Their safety, status and rights cannot change in a patriarchal society, meaning they cannot be systemically oppressed.
Hatred of men is a defensive reaction towards the oppression women have suffered under throughout history.
Excluding men and saying you hate men is valid and often necessary for female liberation. Humans naturally have an aversion to their oppressors, the people who hate them even more and cause them immense suffering. "Misandry" is based on anger at injustice.
You can't include men in feminism. Feminism is the only movement that is expected to include its oppressors.
Most gender-based "problems" targeted at men does not come from hatred towards them but from the patriarchy and misogyny.
Prejudice from recognizing patterns of bad behaviour does not equate to misandry and cannot compare to the large scale inequities of misogyny
Misandry doesn't exist as a movement. Hating men is not a real systemic force.

This is why so called “misandry” doesn’t affect the feminist movement.

What are your thoughts on this? If I’m missing anything please let me know so I can educate myself.

I've been thinking a lot about makeup and plastic surgery and how they function to police the physical appearances of women and control women's bodies. It seems like plastic surgery is really having a comeback right now, especially in Hollywood with the continued Botox craze and it's very troubling to me that so many young girls are going to be inundated with the idea that they need to be "perfect" and that "flaws" need to be surgically or chemically removed in order for them to be considered worthy.

In general, I just think that the way that American society views the concept of beauty is such a damaging and restricting ideology. I've been seeing girls wearing makeup younger and younger these days and its so shocking to me that beauty standards are being fed so excessively to girls. I know when I was a kid, there were girls who did wear makeup, but usually they would only wear foundation or powder as an "introduction" to more mature types of makeup, but I have been seeing girls wearing full faces of makeup with eyeshadow and false eyelashes and lip tint and I can't help but feel that the confluence of older women trying to look younger through plastic surgery and young girls trying to look older by wearing makeup is a demonstration of our societies hyper-sexualization of young girls.

I've had friends criticize me for being "too judgmental" when I share my opinions about girls wearing makeup so young, or in fact women wearing makeup at all, but to me it doesn't seem as harmless as they think it is. Any thoughts on this?

so, a couple of days ago i was texting my two friends about experiences with men and i said “all men are liars”, and my friend (who is a girl) started agreeing with me.

my other friend though, who is a transgender man, got mad at us and said we are supporting bioessentialism. he then god even more upset and told us that he doesn’t want to be friends with people that think he’s a bad person because he is a man.

all i gotta say is, where do men get the f**king audacity?? how do you not understand that women go through so much trauma because of men? based on all our experiences, me and my friend agreed most men are liars and cheat in relationships. so why the f*** do you have the need to involve yourself and pose as the victim? get a life.

it’s also insanely ironic because he says he hates white people (he is literally white) and i never got mad as a white person.

Lately I've been interested in learning electronics and so have been watching Youtube videos on this topic.

It's been going well until I stumbled upon a video about resistors and the meaning of their markings. They are color coded and supposedly it's important to know the values represented by colors by heart.

It's pretty much the order of the rainbow with some extra colors included so it;s not that hard to remember. Yet, the guy explaining all this stuff figured it would be useful to provide us with a "controversial" (as he described it) acronym which goes like this:

Black = Bill

Brown = Brown

Red = Raped

Orange = Our

Yellow = Young

Green = Gladys

Blue = Behind

Violet = Violet's

Gray = Garden

White = Wall

Why is bringing up rape so casually okay? If it's supposed to make you remember better with the shock factor, why not use an example of a woman raping a man? Someone being able to lightheartedly write something like that and then happily recall it every time they need is beyond me.

Of course no one in the comments seems to mind. It's disgusting how unnecessary of an inclusion it was. It pissed me off so bad and now I cannot continue with his videos anymore, which is a shame because they were informational.

So yeah, nothing new but I needed to vent.

For anyone curious to see this part, here's the link to the video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xLDwy0mTg4&t=1295s

When I started to read about feminism and learned all the horrifying statistics of men, I see the patterns everywhere, in every men. Some men are worse than others but still, patterns everywhere.

Now I struggle to believe my friends who happen to be men could be good people, queer or not. I know this is fucked up. I think reading too much feminism, learning about the statistics and getting my heart broken by a man over and over again as a lover girl, has really messed my mental health. I don’t understand how women can trust that men truly like them and are not using them.

I struggle to hear about my friend’s boyfriends because I fear that the men don’t love them, I fear that they do something that my friends don’t tell about, like coercing or emotional manipulation etc. I feel like a devil when I think about this of my friends. I disagree with many of their feminist opinions that include men. I’m sad that I have no good men rolemodels, my brothers and dad are quite bad people too.

How to deal with this heartbreak that I have to live in patriarchy like this? I know my sadness is deeper now because I just ended things with a man and I was really thinking that he’d love me. Those love hormons make me dumb but I can’t help it. I’d really love to experience love from men, that someone proved me they can be good. But men don’t love women as women love men.

I need to hear the most revelatory, mind-blowing, eye-opening books you’ve ever read. I’ve looked through this subreddit for recommendations before, and have read a good amount of them, but I’m in search of something that leaves my jaw on the floor.

I’m interested in all topics on the radfem spectrum, but I’ve been wanting to read about socialization/conditioning, the effects of the porn industry, patriarchy within the “traditional” household, but I’m open to any and all works!

Thank you in advance! 🫶

Edit: I’m also extremely interested in manosphere, “male loneliness epidemic”, and incel culture reads!

I’m 31 now, but as a teenager I started dating a man and had our first child at 16, pregnant again by 17.

This man was a monster. Most men will tell you if they ever saw a woman being abused they’d beat the shit out of the man doing it, they’re liars.

Once he’d just gotten done with a violent rampage, he turned and made a comment about the abuse I suffered as a child. So I stood up and made the same comment about his. He ran out the door barefoot, crying to his brother. Despite the marks on my neck his brother came over trying to scold me for making such a comment, knowing his brother was abusing me. He and his brother called the police and unsuccessfully tried to get me thrown out of the shared home.

The next week he was violent again, his family showed up. His dad watched as he attacked me on the porch. With his hands behind his back he just spoke in a soothing tone to his son.

His friends watched him strangle me, slam me to the ground, scream in my face, throw things at me in front of our daughters, push me, etc. The most anyone ever said was “dude chill out.” However I was called a homewrecker (he had a girlfriend I didn’t know about when we started dating), a liar, an instigator. When he went to jail for DV his mother called me threatening to sue me because he lost his job. My own father would make jokes like “if you show up with a black eye I know you weren’t listening. If you show up with two, I know you’re ready to listen”. That only fueled more abuse.

Men might play the hero when a stranger beats a woman, but his friends never will. His friends will stand by him and make every excuse, they’ll begin to abuse you too. So yes, all men.

i saw this yt video a few months ago.

it was a white lady with brunette hair and she was talking about how we “are learning to 🍇 each other “ because we are learning about intimacy through violent adult content. i remember her talking about meeting up with an adult that was a few states away when she was a minor and how she was groomed by adult content she saw. she performed acts on this man because she wanted to be the “cool girl that was ok with bjs and anal and stuff” . and how being the “cool girl” isn’t it.

i dont remember what the video was titled 😭

I have noticed a pattern in the behavior of both men and women that I cannot ignore. Women tend to put in tremendous amounts of effort and sacrifices (quitting their careers, moving countries and leaving their friends and family behind, keeping up their looks, etc) to be with men who they are not even sexually and emotionally attracted to very much.
This is due to the patriarchy teaching women that their self worth and value is attached to being with a man, who is ‘inherently superior’ to them. Women are taught across many cultures and religions to disregard their own desires and satisfaction.

Men on the other hand do not put nearly as much effort. Men also typically only date women who they are sexually attracted to, but even then they don’t put in much effort. You would never see a man putting in effort for a woman he isn’t attracted to.

As a woman myself, I am advising other women to listen to their desires and don’t feel pressured to put in effort which will not be reciprocated. Date people who you are attracted to, and don’t put in effort which will not be returned. I’m bisexual and prefer to date women so I haven’t faced any issues with effort as of late ;) but stay safe out there y’all

Calling all Brits!

Under new government legislation, lots of study visas for international student have been placed on hold or are being revoked.

This petition calls for an exemption for women and girls from Afghanistan.

While I don’t think the visa stoppages are the way forward for any potential or current international students, regardless of where they hail from, but I think we can all agree it is especially vital for Afghan women and girls who are prohibited from receiving an education under Taliban rule.

If you can find a few minutes to sign the petition, I urge you to do so.

Thank you x

https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/763127?utm_id=97760_v0_s00_e0_tv4&fbclid=PAVERFWAS0yIBwZG9mAmV4dG4DYWVtAjEwAHNydGMGYXBwX2lkDzEyNDAyNDU3NDI4NzQxNAABp-buQRcmB1PEhIr9SysLFfLj5ME68TaMNeg2k2tUqL3LZ4LnWsOwY0JG6mEG_aem_fIQqQyN8IDEgNNorhlD3mw