Introduction
It is commonly held here by many posters here that at least some degree of misandry by women is justified on the grounds of male mistreatment of women. When pressed on this, typically the said women are referring to male-on-female violence (this is steel-manning by selecting the best case they have; of course, other less merited reasons are given also). No matter what mental gymnastics are done, this is a collective judgment on men for the actions of a few. Although we cannot begrudge women for basic inductive Bayesian reasoning in their day-to-day lives*, a little honesty from them on this front would go a long way.
The problem and inconsistency lies in shrieking moral condemnations of men doing the same with women's misbehaviors. Similarly some Women here use a strawman that any male criticism of women is driven by them being an incel.
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Female on Male Discrimination in Education
In school, for identical academic work, boys and girls are given different marks. In math, one of the more objective fields, male and female students turning in the same test result in men receiving a 6.3% lower score. The proportion of STEM occupations would be 12.5% more male if this bias were corrected for. Teachers are a supermajority female, obviously. This behavior gives boys an early and stark tender years exposure to female in-group preference.
(Terrier 2015, Boys Lag Behind; British Journal of Sociology, 2020)
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Single Motherhood by Mother's Elective Choice and Wifely Tendency to Leave Marriage Commitments
In the home, single motherhood has skyrocketed. Women initiate 70% of divorces in the Western world, and 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Single motherhood results in negative life outcomes for children, including boys. Reasons given for divorce are not typically abuse or neglect (which would potential justify the divorce and possibly make the child's outcomes better), but dubious claims of husbands not doing an equitable amount of housework, and neblous claims of lack of emotional support by husbands.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5226056/
https://www.bgmrlaw.com/blog/2025/10/why-women-file-for-divorce-more-often-than-men/
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/10/27/working-husbands-in-the-us-have-more-leisure-time-than-working-wives-do-especially-among-those-with-children/
From the Husband's Perspective
A lot of attention was made over the retracted study claiming one-third of men leave their wives when their wives are diagnosed with life-threatening illnesses. However, there is evidence that workplace disability leads to husbands being divorced by their wives. Again, this would seem to confirm "men as a utility" and the wifely attitude of "What have you done for me lately?" Men work a grueling job; women get utility out of that and leave at his most vulnerable. I am not passing judgment on the wives personally- that can be a very challenging situation. But feminists latched onto the "men abandon their wives over life threatening illness" as another shrieking moral condemnation. What is good for the goose is good for the gander.
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/46435226_Insult_to_Injury_Disability_Earnings_and_Divorce
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Female on Male "White Lies"
People in their childhood and teenage years assume one man matches with one woman in long-term relationships, and that most people, barring some extreme defect in them, get married. This view does not come from pornography or anything of the sort as suggested by blue pillers (how does that even make sense, lol). Polygynous tendencies in online dating seem to make this increasingly difficult (see mass aggregated data from any dating thread or blog; run the experiment yourself; see the "chopped man epidemic" trend or trends of women saying "I never see attractive men"). Indeed, we now see nearly double the amount of 18-30-year-old men single as opposed to women. (In response to common comebacks about this, there is no evidence that age gaps would reduce this significantly. The median woman in such a study is going to be 24; it is likely only a fraction of fraction, (26-29 usually) dating older men. Similarly, I would argue men have more stigma around being single with the advent of "boyfriends are embarrassing" slay queenism, so if anything, the incentive is that the gap is wider.)
This common misconception, if not outright lie, told to men by society, particularly women, is something bad done onto the men. It gives men rational reasons to distrust women. The rising bluepill comeback of 'lol you are a dumbass for believing us' only concedes the point and provides the ammunition for men to distrust women.
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/08/for-valentines-day-5-facts-about-single-americans/
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*Standard of Evidence for Male and Female Violent Victimization
Typically, PPD women will rely not on crime reporting statistics but on self-reporting (anecdotes and surveys) to inflate the rates of female victimization by violence. If this is done, you need to be consistent and accept men's self-reporting too. There is a constant Motte and Bailey where male on female violence is held to the "mere accusation in a survey" standard while female on male allegations must appear in FBI crime stats. I am not saying females violently victimize males at higher rates than vice versa, but many men *as an absolute number* are violently victimized by women and hence, by your own standard, their misogyny is justified.
https://www.vice.com/en/article/the-hidden-epidemic-of-men-who-are-raped-by-women-2/
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Conclusion
Women sometimes do bad, immoral, and unethical things to men. Due to the modern Western worldview, most westerners cannot comprehend moral values other than care and preventing physical harm (and derivative emotional harms). While obviously this is an important value, there are other bad and immoral things in the world. Because we only assess physical violence as morally bad and men commit that more often, we only condemn men as even having the possibility of being very bad people.
This is how you get these unironic takes from prolific women on here that "misandry is justified; misogyny is not, because it is exceedingly rare that women do bad things towards men." They dismiss any men's claims of ills done to them by women as not real because they are presupposing the only thing bad that can be done to a person is pretty much just physical harm and emotional harms derivative from it. This, clearly, is a completely unfounded presupposition.
As gender polarization becomes of more interest to the mainstream, I suspect the talking points of:
'Misandry is justified, but Misogyny is not, because I presuppose women can't meaningfully wrong or hurt men and boys' and
'women do not engage in anti-social behavior because I define pro social behavior as feminine and anti social behavior as masculine' will both begin to rise in popularity.
This baseless presup and calling anyone who criticizes female anti-social behavior as incels is not going to do anything to dissuade young men from the manosphere. To be in the manosphere to begin with you had to have at least somewhat deconstructed from feminist moral redefinitions and moral shaming to begin with.