My husband recently told me that he's been struggling with porn addiction. I know it must have taken a lot of courage for him to tell me, and instead of judging him, I want to be there for him. I'm really proud that he wants to change and is willing to put in the effort. We're both learning as we go, and I'm trying my best to support him in the right way, but honestly, I don't always know what the best thing to do is.

If anyone here has gone through this, I would really appreciate your advice. What helped? What made recovery easier? And what are some things I should avoid doing? We want to give this our best shot. Any guidance or encouragement would mean a lot to us.

Thank you.

I want to quit reddit but i have various posts related to study, finance, health etc.. any way to save them all?

Like save them in pdf or html format without manual doing it??

Assalamu alaykum. I can’t help but feeling like a failure in the eyes of Allah. With this addiction after each relapse I do have repentance and remorse. But I keep falling back into it. I am worried my heart will die eventually. Im worried Allah will resent me for not being strong enough to stay away. I would greatly appreciate any advice on the topic thank you

title. Yes, i am aware that every sin removes rizq and barakah from your life. but is it really worth it? i'm calling out people who have experience.i don’t want proof from quran and sunnah, i just want people to honestly tell their experience about it. btw if yall need to know, i'm 15M and 3 days clean as of now. i keep getting urges rn. i need answers ;)

I have had porn addiction for nearly 5 years at first it was controllable maybe 2 months before relapse, then it got worse hours of watching then it slowed down, a video and masturbation, I could not stop, no supportive community, ashamed (as I was trying to be a better muslim) and still in the habit, I slipped today but not watching porn, I've been porn free for over 100 hours as I learned a breakthrough in my routine for that but masturbating is something I was not able to control and it mostly feels like I can leave porn, but not masturbation even if it is done without porn, I'm nearly 21 years and 6 months old and Might get married in 2028 or by end of it and I'm scared that this addiction might ruin my life but I can't stop it. Please help me. I feel guilt but I can't stop, I repent but I fall back maybe not in a day, maybe after two or three days or a week, but It has affected me mentally. Help me.

This is my fifth day. I feel like I’ve wasted so much time, and I feel that the suffering of those around me stems from me; my addiction led me to actions that likely hurt them. I found myself waiting for their appreciation for anything I do now, but it’s okay. Today, I tried to escape by indulging in "soft" porn—watching some Facebook videos and looking at photos of models—but I didn't cross the line beyond that. Could being in a relationship alleviate this urge, or is that a bad idea?

Bismillah. Assalamu alaikum everyone,

Many of us have struggled with this addiction for a long time. One of the ways we can fall short is through the things we come across on social media.

At the same time, we tell ourselves that we can’t completely leave Instagram, YouTube, TikTok and the rest because we also use them for Islamic content. We may open YouTube intending to watch one lecture, but then see inappropriate ads or recommendations, fall into endless scrolling, or get pulled towards music and other time-wasting content.

I’m a web developer, and for many years I’ve been thinking about whether there could be a better alternative. I finally decided to start building one.

The idea is simple: a place to watch Islamic lectures without ads, comments, Shorts, unrelated recommendations or an algorithm trying to keep you scrolling. Just the lectures, organised into topics and series.

It is still in its very early stages, but I’ve started adding lecture series from speakers many of us already listen to.

I want to be upfront that this is my own project. It is completely free, and I’m not posting this just to advertise it. One of the main reasons I built it was because I’ve seen how easily YouTube and social media can lead us away from what we originally opened them for.

If this is a problem you also face, I would really appreciate it if you tried the site and gave me honest feedback. Does it actually help? Is anything confusing? What would make it more useful for someone trying to stay away from harmful content?

improvingmuslim.com

If anyone would like to help test it or contribute ideas, feel free to comment. JazakAllahu khayran.

Just some random tips that came to mind, maybe they will be of benefit:

1. Install ad blockers in your browsers
2. Use Firefox browser or anything else other than chrome when viewing Youtube videos. For some reason, Youtube ads aren't being blocked properly on chrome, but for me they're being blocked successfully on Firefox
3. Install the Haram Blur plugin (available in chrome and Firefox). This free tool automatically blurs out any female in any images/videos while surfing

Also please feel free to share any other tools/tips for safer surfing

Hey there, I am starting my own journey and I don't know what I have to face in the near future. I just wanted to ask for advice from people who have succcessfully quit porn. How did you do that? What are the things I have to be careful about.

I'm struggling with this. I've been brainwashed all my life when it comes to 🌽. You know, that it's healthy and it's good to have an 'outlet' so to speak.

I know I have a problem, I know it's bad but I still struggle with it.

My previous programming keeps telling me 'what else can I do?' because I'm single and that magically if I find a wife then everything will be solved. But I know it's not like that.

But, what else can I do? How can I prevent relapsing?

So yeah guys.. If you find yourself relapsing on daily/weekly then you are right to stay with me.. Even if you are a person going months then relapsing this might help.

Relapsing to your mind means you spend a lot of time living inside your mind. Maladaptive day dreaming or normal day dreams are very bad for you. I will go in details:

When you go relapse then after relapsing you go dream about being a king, or start listening to music and dream about achieving things.. You are basically telling yourself that i relapsed but i'm ok with it. Same thing happens when you relapse then you go play video games or eat junk food... But day dreaming is the worst of it...

When you day dream you live in this fake reality. Like even relapsing to porn.. When you watch porn, you day dream the scenes in your mind and fantasize that you are doing "x" and "y" with a woman etc... You are basically living a fake lie..

Day dreaming acts as a numbing machine. It numbs you.. Just imagine you are fasting and after 24 hours of no food you are starving.. then now you day dream about food. Day dreaming about foods will make you hungrier.. But eating real food it is the only that can satisfy you. No day dreaming of any food can give you satisfaction..

So what you need to do is to focus on reality. Most people day dream about being doers etc but in reality they are sitting on their couch eating chips and watching tv.. You need to not accept those fake lies.

Now you need to avoid day dreaming and focus on reality. Do more things and dont numb yourself. Do more of each day alright. Stop numbing yourself for god sake. Do more in reality. This will make relapse 10x harder. You watch porn 3 times but now you go read books, workout, study, take course, drive to new places, create something, travel but dont day dream..

Second thing is that most relapses happens in the mind before you know it. The less you live in ur mind the less those relapses happens.

For me personally most my relapses happens if i see a very attractive woman. I go home and start fantaszing about her. This is where thing go south fast. Train yourself that those day dreams are fake.. They are basically lie. You are on your bed day dreaming about having sex with a celebrity which is so fake.. So you tell yourself this is a lie. You distract yourself with anything else and get out of this state.

The more you accept those lies. The harder it will be to stop relapsing. Libido could be a 1000% but still if your mind is controled a relapse is not possible.

Every time you see a very beautiful woman that make you eventually relapse it goes like this.. You day dream about her, you fantasize, you choose the right scene in your mind the right clothes etc. You do all in your mind.. and you relapse.

Keep telling yourself this is not happening..

There is a muslim schoolar once said "Ibn alqayyim": "Accepting the lies of day dreaming shows that a person has very low self esteem"

So keep that in your mind.. Accept reality

After controlling your mind now accept only reality. Only real sex and not those fake lies. At that stage you have to choices... 1- to get married and have family.. 2- to still be on hard mode...

Im doing hard mode for a long time hopefully.. Now getting married any soon. But dont accept any fake lies.. Only real sex or no sex. It is not possible to relapse if you apply this.

One last thing.. Just imagine day dreaming that you are elon musk.. Doing those crazy things and achieving and creating stuff. In reality if you read 1 page.. Just 1 page of a book it will give you more knowledge to your life than day dreaming you are elon musk.. Only 1 page is more real than that fake thing

I have been addicted for over 2 decades (started when I was around 6), I am now 28. Decided to stop at 16, but failed to do so. It's gone to the point where I cannot even feel guilt anymore and I have become hard hearted. I cannot be happy, sad, angry, etc. I have been diagnosed with schizophrenia in addition as well, so u can guess how bad it is for me. And I believe this illness is due to my sins as I believe it's spiritual.

How do I stop? I have a therapist but it's all for nought

I have been trying to quit for the last month or so it's like I just woke up from a coma, society normalized masterbation so much that I didn't care, but recently I just had the urge to quit but I always ended up failing after a week I can't control myself, for some context I was exposed to porn at the age of 9-10 by a family member and Ive been doing it since then I'm trying to quit help me I'm tired of failing

This is day 0/100

I've been falling and getting up numerous times these days and I consider ts a one step near to stopping completely now I relapse n get up immediately in the same day instead of relapsing for straight months.

I relapsed yesterday and today after a 4 day streak.

May allah help me in this, I feel this time I will succeed in stopping it forever.

This sin is haunting me for years and it's time I stopped it, now I know every mistake I made over the years and I can stand against them inshallah.

I'll share my progress here daily Give me tips so I can continue and pray for me brothers.

How do u guys deal with loneliness ive been crying all day . Please be respectful

what are things I could do to feel better

My emotions are all over the place

I have been doing good for the whole week, but then suddenly I start fantasising some images in my head especially after I wake up, because thats when it's worse.

This might be the main reason why I don't stop with this.

Is there any way how to stop. Thanks

Alhamdullah, this is day three without pornography or masturbation. I was surprised this morning by a mysterious private message—as often happens—but this time it was from a pornographic page. It was God’s strength that kept me from sinking back in; I blocked the page. It was a good day; for the first time, I felt as though everyone wanted to talk to me, and I was much more open in return. I can’t even recall how many people I spoke and joked with—something that isn't usually in my nature. I still feel some fatigue and a headache, but things have calmed down. I likely wouldn't have made it this far without the support of everyone who reached out to me—thank you. We are brothers; feel free to message me privately anytime, and I will reply. Hopefully, together, we can break free from this addiction🤍

I'm 23 soon to be 24 and have struggled with FAP since I was 9 years old and have gone the last 3 days without the urge to Fap, despite waking up in the morning with wood (which is scientifically normal based on testosterone), I seem to be doing well. Does anyone have any tips to continue pleasing Allah (SWT)? i apologize if this post seems all over the place, I just woke up jaja

It is my second day without porn or masturbation, and I feel extremely exhausted and lethargic; I had to stop my workout halfway through due to severe fatigue, and I have been feeling dizzy and experiencing head discomfort throughout the day…

Alhamdulilah I came across a sheikh that said that whenever someone imagines and recalls his punishment for doing something haram. He will refrain from doing it, not because he chose to refrain , but because he physically won’t be able to carry it out anymore.

If you were about to slip into maladaptive daydreaming and someone told you once ur done with the day dreams u will be thrown into a pit of fire, instantly u won’t feel the urge to do it anymore.

May allah guide us all