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There’s a girl who quit and left for 3 months. I took her spot in her room (I asked as I’ve always wanted to be in that room). She decided to come back, now I’m no longer in the room. I’m sure this is probably common in the daycare world. Just wanted to vent for a second, it’s very frustrating as I had built a bond with the kids.

My one year old class has recently started the dreaded “everybody scream for no reason!” hobby. As soon as one starts yelling, two more start, and a minute later it’s the entire class. My coteacher and I have successfully stopped it a few times with suddenly singing a song really loud to match the energy, turning off the lights, and gently holding their hands and saying shhhh. Sometimes we literally can’t hear eachother over it and have to just wait til they get bored. We do not like raising our voices or yelling at the class to stop. Does anyone have any fool proof methods to curb this behavior?

I’ve been working at this nursery for a year , and like an idiot decided to recently start an apprenticeship for a higher qualification. My thinking was incase i’m here another year or so then at least i’ve got a qualification out of it. But i didn’t realise how burnt out i’d become so quickly. I’m completely over it, and i think knowing childcare wasn’t my first choice and my degree is in something unrelated makes me feel worse. i’m earning minimum wage and i feel like an absolute failure, whilst caring for the children of literal millionaires and have them pick at everything. For some reason today feels like a breaking point even though the work day wasn’t even that bad,

i’m just done. I came home and snapped at my

mother and she later said to me this is all because you hate your job and feel stuck. i feel awful and i feel like it’s turning me into a person i don’t recognise. i’d just like some words of encouragement or understanding. i feel like if i quit now ill never find anything else since non childcare roles never show interest in me. I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety btw

My son is now the oldest in his class, 31 months. I was told last month that he and 2 other classmates (his friends) were all a bit too old for the class, but that they would be moved together once the older class had space. Now, they moved those other two students without him, and he is the oldest in his class by, I think 2 whole months. Many of them being much younger.

First I was told this was due to capacity. He is younger than one of those 2 classmates for sure, but I don’t know about the other one. Still, I understand that nothing can be done if he is in fact the youngest. But capacity wasn’t an issue when they mentioned all 3 moving together. When I inquired further about this, I was told that actually it was due to a behavioral issue in the older class. So they don’t think adding my son to a class with behavioral issues is a good idea? Then I was told that he would move up next month when all the pre-k left to go to kindergarten there would be a huge shift. Who knows what they’ll say next.

Well now my sweet boy is struggling. He talks all evening about how he’s a big kid and asks me if he can go to the big kid class, and it breaks my heart. He asks if he can see his (older) friends by name every morning at drop off. And I’m so sad for him.

Is there any reason this could be happening that I’m not seeing? I asked if he was developmentally ready and they said he is. So why would they separate him when they said they wouldn’t?

I am requesting a meeting with the director sometime this week, so I want to go in with an understanding of all the possibilities, because now it sounds like there is room but that they don’t want to move him up for some reason.

And really, how do I make him feel better? Because he is too young to understand why he can’t see all of his friends. (I don’t even know why he can’t see all his friends). He’s been much more emotional and volatile than before. He has always been a really unproblematic kid so this behavior is unusual for him. Any advice would be appreciated.

What callbacks or audio cues do you like to grab your class’s attention for transitions, etc.? I know some people like a doorbell or a chime. I used to use a rhythmic clap for kinder. Just looking for ideas.

I need help. My 2yo was expelled from playschool last month because of she's just biting her friends too much. (She's still at the school until end of month)

She's an only child, has gone to daycare since 3 months and has been in this playschool since January. Class size is 5 studsnts to 1 teacher although they'll usually combine two classes but with the same. 1:5 ratio.

School has been incredibly patient, but it's just happened way too often (over 20 biting incidents + a few scratching incidents)

Daughter is pretty verbal with us, can use up to 4 words pretty regularly and talks to teachers pretty well too

But teachers have indicated her classmates (all 2yo) may not be as verbal as her and she doesn't appear to talk to her peers. But she supposedly plays fine with them though prefers to play on her own.

The principal tells us that most incidents are unprompted, that my daughter will just randomly attack a friend. Sometimes its because a friend bumped into her or they were fighting over a toy.

We have tried to teach her to ask for help from a teacher (she can say the words), we've read the Biting Solution, put on the puppet show, tried to teach her that it hurts when she bites and that it makes people sad, played We Don't Put Our Teeth On People, gotten her those silicone biting toys meant as therapy tools for kids with autism, tried to get the teachers to help teach her to ask for help, but nothing seems to stick,

She knows she's not supposed to bite her peers ("Bite friend no no/no bite friend") that she's supposed to bite the toy, but the lesson doesn't seem to stick.

She has also recently started hitting at home, mostly during bed time. Again she knows its a no no, and we try to teach her to stomp (she refuses to do so) or to ask for attention another way (shaking me if i fall asleep before she does instead of smacking me).

Worse she has started to refuse to say that biting/hitting is a no no, and becoming quite willful. Like she will actively ignore me if i try to talk to her about this.

I'm really at a loss. She has had four sessions with an occupational therapist who suggested we try to give oral stimulation, (she also suggested the biting toy)

The therapist even visited her class once and maybe because my daughter managed to recognise the therapist, she behaved quite well but was quiet. She then scratched a friend not long after the therapist left.

Therapist said that she might have selective mutism but couldn't make a conclusive diagnosis.

We find that she's just shy with people she hasn't interacted with in a while (like grandparents or cousins) but once she warms up she'll talk.

We're sending her to a different school next month that's meant for 3 yo (we were planning to send her in January but the school is willing to take her in) and we're hoping having older morr well behaved peers will be a good example.

But i want to try and fix this before she goes there. I don't want her to be kicked out again because she loves going to school (absolutely no tears on the first day, didn't even look back to say goodbye).

The current school while patient, i don't think is equipped to help. Teachers are caring but inexperienced. When i suggested an action plan (as per The Biting Solution) i didn't get a committed answer. I had to remind them during a parent teaching meeting to at least try to teach her to say "teacher help" if she encounters frustrating situations.

They've only just recently managed to consistently stop biting attempts (once today and two last week).

Sorry for word dump and if its all over the place. Help.

Additional info if relevant, i have adhd

Do any other ECEs feel like, even when parents bring our concerns and observations up to their pediatrician, the doctor often brushes them aside? Or is this just a "me" thing?

I recently gave parents a page of observations on behaviors I was seeing from their little one that strike me as so much MORE than I typically see for their age (no so-called misbehaviors, but lots of EXTRA energy -- can't move without running, constantly shouting in class, struggles to follow any directions, constantly distracted, lots of wild movement around the classroom, needs WAY more redirection and constant guidance than I tend to see at this age). I had a couple of conversations with the parents, and outlined what strategies we're using at school, asked what they see at home, and they seemed to also wonder if there was something *more* going on. They brought observations to the dr. at his recent appointment and the dr said that it was all normal for his age.

I'm trying not to be irritated at it, but I'm having a hard time, especially because this has happened before -- I see issues, the doctor says everything is fine and then I feel like the crazy one. Meanwhile, the behaviors persist but the parents are satisfied because their dr has said it's normal, so myself and my co-teacher are left trying our best with a student who seems like they could benefit from additional help, but aren't getting any.

(I'm open to parents' perspective on this, also.)

I work on the admin team of a EHS/HS childcare center and this is my first post grad job after getting my bachelor's of social work. i have been here for about a year, and nothing I do seems to help build strong relationships with the women I work with. We're a small team of 4 (previously 5) and I am the only one on my team that is not only a difference race, and does not speak Spanish like the rest of the team. I am constantly left out of conversations (whether it's intentional or not) and they have no interest in me or making me feel included. Unfortunately, the center I work for, all of my team members have 10 year long relationships with each other whether that be from working together for 10 years, or their child/chidlren previously attended. I have started asking "what what happened" when they are having a conversation that seems playful and results in laughing but I always get a brief 1-2 sentence summary of what they were discussing. They go out to lunch together (which is fine I get we don't have that kind of relationship) but it still stings. They have less tolerance for any mistake I need compared to each other, and I just feel like an outsider. I have expressed this to my director many times as she is also primarly spanish speaking and is on our direct team. I have told her I felt that the culture here is very closed off to new people, and not much effort is made to include others. She understood where I was coming from and pretty much agreed without providing any solutions on what I can do better to feel more included. I've tried to give updates on my life, bring food for the office, nothing. The relationshios are so surface level. If I am having a bay day, no one checks on me or ask what they can do to help me, but i've witnessed them do it for each other. I am having headaches, i cant eat while i work, and im having constant crying spells. I am planning my exit and have been applying to jobs religously, and I also have a meeting with one of our senior dircetors this week in the hopes that she can provide any support or solutions. I don't feel like myself here. I am a social person who loves connecting with others, but thoughout the day I probably speak 10 sentences just because most of the conversatons are in Spanish. I am not saying I don't expect them to speak in the language they are most confortabble with, but it's just so so hard.

I gotta get up at 6am and it’s almost midnight lol lord help me give me energy for these kids tomorrow

Hi everyone,
I recently graduated with a Master’s degree in Early Childhood Education, and I’m currently looking for my first permanent nursery role.
English is my second language, so I’m also hoping to find a supportive environment where I can continue developing my communication skills and grow as an Early Years Practitioner.
I’m choosing between a few nursery job offers, and I’ve realised that salary isn’t the most important thing for me. I want to work somewhere with a healthy culture where I can learn, grow, and genuinely enjoy coming to work. I prefer working at a preschool room.
If you were choosing a nursery today, what questions would you ask during the interview or trial shift to find out what it’s really like?

Yeah the update is just that she still will not lesson plan. I’ve been planning every week for the last 6 weeks. I hang up everything on the walls. I do 85% of the classroom management. I was out for a few days due to an illness, she text me asking for the plans. Now I could have responded “they are in the lesson plan written out” or “Everything you need is in the bin labeled for each day” but instead I text her a detailed list of each activity and what materials will be needed (all materials already in bins ready to go) annnnd she didn’t put out a single activity. Instead she did two days of free play and then complained when they were bored and thus behaviors started. I go back to my original classroom in another month where I thankfully will have my amazing lesson planning co teacher who 100% splits the workload without me asking. But boy. Am I tired of this.

I mentioned previously the curriculum is quite hard. I plan 5-7 different activities and last week I had to teach them how to make boat knots?? (Never did that before) and next week I have to teach them Chinese (in which i don’t speak). Every minute of my day is planned with a task. If I’m not lesson planning, I’m changing out the stuff on the walls because *yes* I did get in trouble for not having them changed out. If I’m not doing that I’m resupplying the room with materials and cleaning supplies. And if I’m not doing that I’m shutting down the room with 17 kids still in it because I’m given exactly 8 minutes to shut down the room without children. I got in trouble for not staying late to wash their bottles. I stayed 45 minutes late the last couple of days to get the room cleaned.

I’m extremely frustrated. I have spoken to my directors about multiple times. I’m now afraid that because her original co teacher doesn’t really lesson plan either my admin will think it’s better to split up the two lesson planners (my original co teacher) and keep us with two non lesson planners to make the rooms run better. Which I understand to a degree. But I will be quitting if they do that.

10 mo was crawling in the outdoor play space of daycare on a playground flooring. Area was shaded but it was hot out. Baby came home with slight blisters on tops of feet that looked mildly pink (like a mosquito bite) that turned into a burn (red scabby) overnight. Director did not offer apology. It was an unfortunate careless mistake on the caregiver for not thinking it through. Other babies were not hurt. Burn is healing well with home care. And an incident report was not made the following day. It has been one week. I feel it is too late to take any action given baby is healing fine and did not have any infection.
Baby will be going to a new daycare.

What should I do if this happens again?

Edit to add: it was more like a rug burn the friction from the flooring material combined with the weather I believe caused the burn

Every mini fridge we’ve had ends up not working after a while, it feels so wasteful. We’ve tried maintenance. We don’t have room for a full sized fridge. What brand do you guys use in your rooms? Preferably slightly bigger than smallest mini

I just want to preface this by saying we have not been difficult about this and have suggested several times that we're happy to find a new childcare arrangement if this is no longer a good fit. We have taken every single suggestion from our son's (very expensive Montessori) daycare seriously, followed through on all of it, and are now 8 months into this process with nothing resolved.

Some context:

• Our son is 2 and a half. His daycare is concerned about his ability to emotionally regulate. Specifically, they have mentioned that he melts down during transitions (lining up, walking outside, moving between activities) and is frustrated when he can't complete a task independently on the first try.
• We have seen three different therapists/evaluators - a clinical psychologist, speech therapist, and occupational therapist - all recommended by the school. Every single one (and his pediatrician) has said he does not need Early Intervention and would likely not qualify based on current information. The general consensus is that this is fairly typical for his age and he should grow out of it by 3-4.
• We are not reflexively dismissive of their concerns. They did catch his speech delay and suggested a therapist. We immediately enrolled him in twice weekly therapy and he is at age level (perhaps slightly above) now. So, we're not just ignoring them because we don't like what they have to say.
• Despite all of this, the school keeps circling back to Early Intervention and have recently told us that they had to hire a 1-1 para just for him. We've also been told that he will likely need "continued support" in school. When we ask which specific category they think applies (there's a checklist - adaptive, cognitive, communication, physical, social/emotional, diagnosed condition, etc.), nobody will actually put an answer in writing.

So at this point we're stuck in a loop. He's been tested specifically for autism and ADHD and the psychologist said he does not show signs of either at this age. No one else - babysitters, family, friends with kids of the same age we vacation with, etc. - has had any problem dealing with him for long stretches of time. He's a sweet kid who is very gentle, has what everyone keeps telling me are normal meltdowns, and has a fondness for trains, numbers, and the sprinklers at the playground.

For those of you who work in ECE - is this normal? We have another meeting later this week to discuss his "issues" but truly we do not see his behavior as being anything more than the terrible 2s with a kid who is slightly ahead academically and has big feelings.

I am genuinely looking for the teacher/admin perspective here and not just parent sympathy.

Thanks.

They are daycare staff in a non-teaching position so probably does not have childcare training to my knowledge. But they still stop by to say hi to the kids every day. On monday, they were giving the kids hugs and a 2 year said “can you give me a kiss on the lips?” and they said “on the lips?” and i saw them bend down and possibly do just that? except the room was a bit dark since naptime was starting soon so i didnt want to assume the worst. the child walked away without asking again, so maybe they did fulfill the request. after the staff member left, i asked the child, “did __ kiss you on the lips” to which they responded “yeah.” but i probably shouldn’t have asked a leading question like that.

i feel like i should report it but i just reported another teacher a while ago (and as far as i know there were no consequences to that teacher) and im worried the center will think i am trying to stir things up… both staff have been working here years longer than i and… i dont know, am i overreacting? or is it going to seem suspicious that i waited to report it?

I had left this amazing center that was clean, spacious (especially the playground), and had the same leadership since before they were aquisitioned.. Directors assisted in every way possible. However,

I simply was not strong enough for school age.

(Which is a shame because I was doing a great job)

But they didnt have enough staff to open up a 4 year old room (pre-k). My preferred age group.

I switch jobs. Have basically a breakdown from the stress. (ER visit twice for anxiety attack) (the center was in shambles).

Im now a master teacher though! My college courses had to be entered manually who knew /s

They are opening the 4 year old room and are happy to have me up there!! They need to have master teachers to enroll more children!!

I am so happy to be able to have this group of children!

They already let me know when I left I would be welcome back with open arms and they were serious :)

All I hope for all of you is to be where you are happy and can be the best caregiver/teacher you can be.

Hello everyone,

I need your opinions on something. I’m trying to get a job in a children centre and I passed the pre screen calling. Now I have a group interview. It’s gonna be 1.5-2 hours approximately. They want me to lead a 5 minute activity but I have never done that. What kind if activity they want. Are there gonna be children for this activity? If anyone experienced similar things like this, can you help me please?

Thank you.

Interviewing for an early start position for children 0-2. Admin or teachers what do you look for? What are red flags? What assessments do you use, preferably in CA to assess? I need the best advice to get my dream job and learn more about everything there is to know about the profession.

It seems lately, I have very few days when I don't find myself having to stand up for the children when teachers don't follow safety regulations. It is so disturbing as:

1. It is just wrong!

2. Teachers don't usually appreciate being told they can't do what they are doing and get angry.

3. Administrators like that even less and then I feel like I am going to be fired for speaking up.

4. I feel sad for the children.

5. Have to speak up anyway but it is anxiety producing.

My 10 month old started daycare almost a month ago and his transition hasn’t gotten any easier. His teachers often say he’s struggling when we ask for feedback at pick-up.

I’ll be the first one to admit he is a very social baby. He loves when people sign and talk to him, play peekaboo, show him things, etc. But he’s not the best at independent play, maybe 5-10 mins at a time max. He can get bored easily.

My neighbor’s daughter is doing her internship at the center and told me yesterday she was in his classroom in the afternoon and saw him crying a lot. She said the teachers often told him “No, I’m not picking you up”, “no, you’re fine, stop”. Sometimes they were holding other babies but other times they were just chatting with her.

She held him for a bit and she thinks his lead teacher didn’t like it. She said they referred to him as a crybaby. She was visibly upset and didn’t even want to keep going there after that.

I asked her about the other babies and she said they seem to just be playing independently the whole time, except for little little ones, who just ate and napped.

Does this seem like they’re intentionally withholding affection or responsiveness? I don’t want to overreact but I’m having trouble seeing how he’s getting a fair chance at adjusting if that’s the expectation from the start.