r/CRPS • u/No-Manufacturer-9575 • 2h ago
Friendships The handshake dilemma
First off let me be the first by saying this ia a long read. I understand if you dont want to read the ramblings of a 38 year old veteran with weight issues and crippling pain š
So I've had CRPS for 15 years. It went undiagnosed for many many years, cause doctors thought I was either pill chasing or I was making shit up.
I was injured while serving in the Army as a Infantryman, in Afghanistan [non combat injury] I feel 9 feet while wearing my full body armor. When I hit the ground I dislocated my left shoulder, and my kidney plate (piece of body armor) broke 5 ribs, and that's where my story begins.
2 weeks later I went back out on patrol thinking I was feeling better. My main job other than Infantryman was to be a mine sweeper. I looked for IED'S (improvised explosive devices) AKA; bombs. So I went to go clear a path for my guys and when I did the ground have way below my feet as I stepped down into a small creek. I put my left arm down to catch myself and I was successful but as my rear end and left arm contacted the ground I felt a sharp pain in my left shoulder. More like a burning. I thought to myself that well I just had a dislocation I can still move it I'll be fine. So we finish the mission we get back to the COP (Combat Out Post) I go to change my shirt and well one of my guys goes "hey what's that on your shoulder" I turn my head to look at my left shoulder that he's pointing to and my chin hits my collar bone. Panic sets in. I run to Doc he freakes out. My collar bone isint broken he says it's just not in place. So I get x-rays again to tell me I have a grade 3 AC separation. I need surgery now. I tell them no cause we're already short handed we've lost people I don't want them to lose me next. So they seems me back. I finish the rest of my deployment with my collar bone sticking out of the AC joint.
I get back to my duty station and the local doctor only gives me a 50% of the reconstruction surgery of actually working, but I elect to do it anyways. But before the surgery I was already having the most intense pain I though I had ever had before. But not was i wrong. Dead wrong. So far I've had my left AC joint reconstructed twice and orthopedic doctors have now told me the shoulder needs to be replaced(but I'm to young) due to large amounts of arthritis and lack of cartridge with the left shoulder joint. Yaaayy!!!!
I've been through many many many MANY doctors and now I've found my match. This doctor is amazing he's diagnosed me with CRPS 1 and we've actually been through a metric shot ton of treatment options for my specific condition. Now we're doing the stellate ganglion block to help control the flair ups and two doesn't medications, topamax, and abilify. Yaaayy seems to be doing the trick so far. But last year I did the spinal cord stimulator trial and it took my pain level to a point it's never been before. So that's the eventual end goal.
So the title of this post. My left arm. From my left pectoral to my bicep my skin is hyper sensitive. And when I say hyper sensitive I mean a t-shirt touching it hurts a lot. But I usually just grit my teeth like usual and bear it. But when I shake someone's hand. What's something must men do when they shake another man's hand? They slap, pat, or hit the opposite arm. What in the world can I do to stop people from doing this? It just about brings me too my knees everytime and then people are left speechless or left apologizing for hours afterwards.
If you've made it this far thank you so much I truly do thank you. I don't mind telling my story NOW. I used to be really jaded and didn't want anyone knowing what I was going through but now I'll help who ever I can when I can. If you have any questions feel free to ask or DM anytime