r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

Ghosting Grumble Ghosting Grumble

10 Upvotes

Welcome to the weekly megathread. Due to over-posting of the "Ghosting" topic, we've moved it to a separate weekly thread. This thread will repost every Sunday at 6AM Central. Please keep all stories about ghosting to this thread. All other subreddit rules apply.


r/BadRPerStories Apr 02 '26

MOD POST - PLEASE READ New (Un)Banned Words and more!

72 Upvotes

I hope everyone had a *fun* April Fools. I sure enjoyed it. We hope you all enjoyed us trying to pass off r/Roleplay's banned words list as our own. As far as we can tell, only one of you knew what it was. Congratulations, u/HealthyHunt5051.

We also found out that Americans get really upset if you celebrate an international holiday based on the International Dateline. And the British get really upset if you celebrate an international holiday not based on GMT.

Now, on to business. A few of the comments on the April Fools post made us take a look at what we currently had on our banned words list. We realize a lot of things have changed since we started banning those words. A lot of them, while still used as slurs, have been reclaimed by their specific communities. So, we've made the decision to allow these words. Instead, if you use those words, AutoMod will notify us if you put them in a post or comment, and allow us to determine further course of action based on the context.

As of now, our only banned words are as follows:

Leftists

Retard/Retarded

Shemale

We hope this change is for the better, and we look forward to playing many more April Fools jokes on you all for years to come.


r/BadRPerStories 15h ago

Venting/Rant The perfect RP partner is basically a unicorn and I hate that I still want one

51 Upvotes

What do I want in an RP partner? Apparently, a lot! Ideally, my partner should:

A) Be invested in the story we're constructing. If there is a romance between my character and my partner's character, then my partner should find my character attractive.

  • If my character isn't attractive to someone, then it's not their fault OBVIOUSLY. But it IS someone's fault if they agree to a romantic RP, realize down the line they don't actually want to do this, and jump ship. And then it's a waste of time for the both of us.

B) Actually reply. This is a no-brainer but it feels like nobody wants to write these days.

C) Put love and care into their writing. Invest at least a little time and energy. I'm really not asking people to write The Brothers Karamazov, but I can't force myself to be impressed by apathetic, low-effort material either.

D) Don't be a bigot. About trans people. About black people. About women. It's 2026.

E) Don't use generative AI.

F) Be nice! Generally speaking. I've had RPs end abruptly because my partner turned out to be, well, kind of a rude/difficult person. Partners who would turn ANYTHING into an excuse to make things more combative and frustrating. Steer DRAMATICALLY off-course from ordinary, reasonable expectations without notice, and refuse to accommodate or compromise one bit.

Most RP partners can't fulfill B, first and foremost. And even the ones that do struggle to fulfill any permutation of any of those requirements at once. And my search for a unicorn continues, I guess.


r/BadRPerStories 1d ago

OOC Bad Genuinely, what is the point of a message like this in this hobby?

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188 Upvotes

I posted an ad for an adv. literate fantasy RP, and this guy and I spent three days crafting a world without an issue. We were discussing the magic system and left him with my ideas when I went to sleep; woke up and he had left this message on our server, blocked me on Discord, and then on Reddit. You kind of sign up for that when you roleplay with strangers, so it's whatever, but what is the point of saying stuff like this when you signed up for a detailed roleplay?

You can just say that it isn't doing it for you. You can do what everyone else does and leave without a word. Or maybe I did express myself poorly, and you can request clarification, but going the extra mile just to be mean?

Normally I would simply jump right back into searching partners, but this single message has given me so much whiplash it's making me reconsider if I even want to.


r/BadRPerStories 1d ago

Advice Wanted The One Who Reappeared

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Weird harassment thing happened. I'm not sure if this belongs here, but curious if anyone's dealt with something similar.

A few days ago I accidentally blocked someone I was RPing with. It was truly a genuine mistake, nothing behind it. Within minutes, someone added me and tore into me for blocking them, saying they'd taken a chance on me by RPing outside their comfort zone in the first place.

Before I could respond, they deleted the message and blocked me.

This morning, same person (from the second account) messages again, completely unprompted. I apologized for the misunderstanding. Only for them to reply: "We've never RP'd before."

So either:

  1. They had a friend send that first message for them, or
  2. They're just playing dumb now.

Since messages can be deleted after sending, I have no proof of any of it — except that they're sitting in my recent chats with zero message history, which is telling on its own.

Feels like a lot of effort just to gaslight a stranger. Anyone else run into this? I've been RPing a lonnngggg time and I've run into weird stuff before, but his one feels new.


r/BadRPerStories 1d ago

OOC Bad No, I posted an ad with my rp account because i wanted karma 🤦

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46 Upvotes

r/BadRPerStories 15h ago

My Bad How many straws before the camel's back breaks?

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I'm trying not to be anxious, overwhelmed, or upset after recently coming back to Reddit following a hiatus after being doxxed. I submitted an advertisement to a subreddit, and then, I log on and I'm permanently banned. I'm a former gifted-kid. Rule-follower type chick. By following the rules of other subreddits for roleplaying, where potential NSFW must be marked, even though no NSFW content was present in my advertisement. Super frustrating, because it just seems like there are more and more hurdles to finding a partner. Moderators that aren't choosing kindness today. Demanding applications. Everything just seems tough. That would have been enough for today.

But no. A redditor contacted me about writing and roleplay after reading the post I wrote here about how I feel the community has changed, and they agreed. They asked me to share character concepts, plot points far out into the future that depended on the second player, and more. I did, thoroughly. I have disabilities and write characters wth disabilites. Some very ableist comments were made. Then, when I suggested we start the conversation afresh, with no ableist ideas, my ideas were steamrolled in the name of branding and a romance-novel-formula. This hurt. So a break was suggested to come back and realign, and it was gladly taken. But when the break ended, there was no realignment, just that we seemed to be at an impasse.

In both of these cases, I don't feel respected as a writer in the roleplay community anymore. A writer. A person who can put together words and tell a story. In roleplay's case, with a partner of the same value. None of that happened today, and every time, I threaten to leave the Internet, but I'm chronically ill, and have no other way to practice my hobby (Writing) or socialize. Feeling sad and stuck.


r/BadRPerStories 1d ago

My Bad [UPDATE] I set a boundary with favorite partner and god it hurts so bad..

28 Upvotes

UPDATE:

I sent them another message like one of you suggested and well... they responded back to me! We had a healthy conversation on our boundaries and expectations of each other as rp partners. They apologized for not being as responsive and they let me know they felt hurt when I left initially. They were feeling unsure about time investment because OOC relations matters just as much as IC. The fact that I leave for such a long time with zero check ins was weighing heavy on them because they really liked me as partner/friend and that sense of uncertainty that I value them or not didn't feel good. Basically, now we're moving OOC things to Discord. Mainly so we can check in with one another when either of us are inactive on the platform we write on. We started writing again on our favorite pairings and worldbuilding for a new one we have in the works. So!! Thank you very much for to those who encouraged me to reach out again because now we are much closer! The RP market is looking pretty dire so I'll be holding onto favorite partner reeeal tight because they're somethin' special!

OG post:

I met an amazing partner a little over a year ago and I'm mourning the decay of our partnership. Let me tell you why.

Our characters had insane chemistry, story flowed well, our writing complimented one another, we riffed on the what-ifs scenarios, shared theme music of our OCs, laughed about memes of our characters. We have a myriad of pairings, each with their own universes. We did MxF, MxM, FxF stories. We were able to switch up character dynamics flawlessly. In NSFW scenes, one day I'd be playing dominant character to their submissive, and the next I'd be playing submissive to their dominant. Not only were we good at switching, but sometimes we didn't have to. If the mood called for it, their character dom/bottomed and my character sub/topped, then next day we played the reverse. Truly, the scenes and plot for each of our pairings were so well done that it kept me on the edge of my seat to continue. They were each extraordinarily intimate in their own way and I found myself daydreaming about what would happen next or how my character would respond to the last scene.

They challenged me. Pushed me to invent new ways of weaving pretty words. This was a partnership I cherished so much and this was hands down one of the best writing partners I have ever had the honor of crossing paths with. They have truly made me a better writer, rp partner and I'll most likely remember them for the rest of my life. That is how much this partnership has impacted me.

An important work project was assigned to me with a tight deadline. This made it impossible for me to dedicate free time to writing because I had to lock in to get it done on time. I think where I fucked up is that I was so stressed that I forgot to tell my partner that I won't be logging in as much, so to them it looked like I left for 3 weeks with no sign of returning. I probably hurt their feelings by doing this.

When I finished the project and came back, I immediately took accountability and apologized for leaving so abruptly. They seemed chill about it I guess, but it was then that I noticed they stopped reaching out first and the ooc riffing lessened. We picked back up writing like nothing but I could sense that they were somewhat stiff-arming me ooc. I was fine being the main one reaching out, initiating ooc chatting, starting every post because maybe I felt I had to regain their trust again and show them I'm reliable.

Another project came up, but this time I told them ahead of time that I would be gone for a while. I thought I did the right thing.

When I came back 3 weeks later, they were so dry with me and left me on read sometimes. Whenever I asked if they wanted to RP, they said they were too tired, the weather is not good, or they need to do errands. All fine. I didn't want them to do anything they did not feel like doing or had the time to do. But.. here's the thing, I became the sole person doing the labor of approaching, initiating, and starting posts. It's like I became their personal butler for RP. I always checked in with them, but they stopped checking in with me. For a while I accepted this dynamic because I still felt bad for leaving so suddenly that one time, but I thought I fixed it by being consistent and letting them know I would be away ahead of time, but this effort seemed to go unnoticed. They never directly messaged me again.

I started to feel like: if I do not message them, we would never write again. It scared me.

I was sad of what our writing partnership turned into. I felt unsure. I felt mortified at the thought that I was being too needy by approaching them and they were just tolerating me.

I was becoming anxious and I knew in the back of my head that I needed to set some sort of boundary but I was not sure how to go about it. So.. after being left on read one day, I just told them to please let me know if they would like to talk or rp again. It has been a few days and they still haven't responded.

I set the boundary, but it hurts really bad because I am terrified that they will never talk to me again and our characters will never interact again, but I have to do this so I am not the only one doing the work to keep this partnership afloat. I can't self-abandon to make someone else comfortable.

My heart beats so fast at the thought of never receiving a notification from them again. I hope they respect me enough to tell me what's wrong soon.

I am reaching out to other partners and writing with them, but it's not the same.. 😞


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

OOC Bad “I don’t really feel like there’s a connection between our characters.”

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198 Upvotes

… Well if you would reply more than two paragraphs a week, buddy!


r/BadRPerStories 20h ago

Genre Bad I remembered this crazy rp story

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Hi my name is Lux and I’m 18! I AM AN ADULT NOW THIS IS IN THE PAST. I recently remembered a rping story that had lowkey destroyed my own self confidence when I was younger. so sorry for the long message but if you’re reading thannnnkkkk you and grab some popcorn: also sorry for spelling mistakes I type fast and when I passionate about something I write fast. That rymed 🫪

Anyways, just for a little background information:

I started rping back in 2016 on my favorite child hood video game star stable Online. [sso] And yes star stable is a horse rider game. It’s changed a lot since I started playing and is just not the same anymore. I started off with simple Mutli person romance rps. Where there would be two guys and two girls and one girl would get with one guy and the other girl would Get with the other guy. There was literally no plot and there would be a llloootttt of drama. But it was fun and plus it was 2016. Sometimes it would just be Human roles and other times we’d roleplay as wild horses as well. In 2017-2018 I got into 1x1 human roleplays and would strictly only do mlm/BL romance roleplays. Thats when I really started to get into it and it became a really fun thing for me. Over the past couple of years say 2024-present I started doing more wlw/GL romance rps. I still role play on star stable sometimes but they’ve updated the game so much to appeal to the younger generation which made the game look and act totally different, and the role players just aren’t as good as the used to be. buuuuuuttttt because of roleplaying I even started writing my own book!

So with the background information out of the way lets get to the story. I believe this was back in 2022-2023 I was in my 8th grade year and it was during the summer.

I was playing on SSO and like usual typed into the chat an advertisement for a mlm role play like usual. its a very short add so basically just saying a ‘mlm rider role play, one dom male needed, has plots to choose from, please be mature and experienced, friend me to join.’ but much more “pretty” looking and said in a different way -side note rider roleplay just means human role play but because the video game player rides horses we call the people just riders…I don’t know it makes sense in the game.-

I did my waiting and someone friended me! we talked for awhile and we got along very well. I sent over the plot lines and they picked the one they wanted. We sent the char descriptions etc etc like every normal roleplay.

we started the role play and it was a lot of fun, they were really descriptive and the creative energy was constantly flowing.

the Role play went over for days, and days turned into weeks. little 14-15 year old me always got so excited to log onto the game and role play with them and if we didn’t role play we had ended up having a really good friendship and talked about literally everything. we talked about what shows we were watching, drama happening in our life, literally everything friends talked about. And I asked many times if we were friends and they’d be like “no we’re not! We’re best friends silly!”

so one day I Logged on and they were online, like usual I asked if they wanted to continue the roleplay and they said, ”No not today, sorry” which is totally fine we didn’t have to roleplay everyday so I thought we could just talk like we usually did if we weren’t roleplaying and they said “no I‘m training.“

-another side note: ’training’ in sso is Basically what it is training your horse via races around the maps. It makes your horse faster and have better stats so you could win championship races which you also get exp for your horse at those championships as well. Training just overall makes your horse faster etc.-

most people when they’re training they can still talk because thats what they do. So it was odd that they didn’t want to talk when we were usually always talking -when we were online ofc- but I let it be even if I was a little disappointed.

the same thing happened the next day, and then the next, and the next. And when they said yes to role playing they’d send one messege and say they’d have to get off. And yes people are busy but I would stay on the game and like 20 minutes later they got back on and I said hi and then got no response.

Little me was kinda stupid and didn’t get the vibe that they didn’t want to talk anymore because I genuinely thought we were friends. Like I didn’t care if we completely ditched the rp and would just talk like we did.

one day I asked AGAIN and we actually role played like we used to and for a couple days things went back to normal. But 3 days later we were online I asked to rp and they said “I don’t want to role play with you anymore.”

I was REALLY disappointed but I could get by with it because I’d still have them as a friend correct?

wrong.

I asked if we could still be friends and they said “we were never friends in the first place.” And I said “we called each other best friends all the time.“ and they said ”I never said anything like that you’re delusional.“

and then they proceeded to absolutely trash on me. nit picking every thing I said. calling me slurs -the used certain letters to get past the chat system so it wasn’t the full slur but to any reading the chat you’d be able to know what they were trying to say.- I started crying really hard and this was in the middle of night too because it was summer.

I really tried defending myself but 1. I was never good at doing that, and 2. any time I did it just made the situation worse. eventually I hit the block button -ever since I was younger I‘ve hated blocking people, so this was really hard for me.- I was crying so hard and my heart was beating so fast.

me being a 14-15 year old with all the drama in me did the only thing I knew how to do. Which reluctantly was bad on my part. I went into the global chat in sso and started telling everyone what that person just did to me and they all helped me report them and somehow we created a hate group for the person??? Nothing ever happened with the hate group it was just a bunch of teenagers saying ”oh I hate that person too now that they’ve been mean to you lets all be friend because we all hate this one person.” Stupid really.

after that day I was hesitant to roleplay of fear of the same thing happening. I got over it over the years but since then in the back of my head I still have that fear. especially if I have a long term role play friend it really shows. it’s crazy how influential one situation that happens to you as a kid can change your way completely on how you think.

but anyways! Thats my little crazy story from when I was younger. if you’ve gotten this far thanks so much for reading heres a cookie and a gold star

🍪🍪🍪⭐️⭐️⭐️

again thanks for reading, I hope everyone had a great morning/afternoon/night from when you’re reading this. And remember to stay kind!

much love, Lux <3


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

Venting/Rant "Literate" RP Partners

54 Upvotes

Does anyone have that experience where they find an RP partner who says they are literate, advanced literate, the most literate. And you're thrilled because you'd been looking for exactly that! And they ask to see a writing sampling and so you send them one, and they say it's great; and then you start playing. And suddenly they are writing 1 sentence responses that are vague and the grammar is atrocious and the words aren't spelled correctly and the sentence is 3 paragraphs long and you have no idea what they were trying to say??

Or is that just me?

And also it's like, How was their prompt written so well? And suddenly they can't write a basic sentence!

Anyway, that's happened to me three times in a row and I had to blow off steam.

Have a good day everybody!


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

My Bad Was this my mistake?

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8 Upvotes

EDIT

Thanks for the opinions and to everyone who actually tried to make me see my mistake with patience and understanding, quick moment to remind everyone that you will change more minds this way than any other! I seem to come off rude, which wasn't my intention, i did not mean the ghosting thing as an attack, since i personally had that question asked some times and i just said that i am not and then respond when i could. In the future i will try to keep my communication in a more friendly way, thanks for the help reddit!
And addressing the "ehem", i honestly didn't know it was such a rude expression, me, my family and friends use it as a direct substitute of any other way of calling for someones attention in a short way, but that i know that this is probably just the people i know and not a extended thing then I probably won't use it as such with everyone, thanks for making me see that.

Original post

We planned a roleplay for a few hours the first day, they even said that i seemed to grasp quite well what they wanted for the roleplay. I don't mind waiting, but i do reminding people about the chat since im the first person to sometimes forget about some. Now, what was my mistake here, asking for another social because i assumed that they didn't look at reddit too much? Or my reminders? Honestly it was confusing to me that in more than 48 hours i only got a "busy day" and not at least "hey im going to be busy lately, i will tell you when i am available" I was blocked some time before the last message, would like to know opinions because maybe i f'd up, i was a bit hyped for what seemed to be a pretty decent roleplay and we were vibing together, or at least that's what i thought...


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

Venting/Rant Why can I never get my partners to give a second reply?

18 Upvotes

To preface, I'm a gay male roleplayer seeking male partners (more specifically partners playing male characters). If that adds any context but it probably doesn't. Anyway, my partner for over a year (and my only partner) hasn't been replying for over a month, so I've been trying to start a new one. ALL of the roleplays I've tried to initiate went like this:

I find a roleplay advertisement on reddit and DM the person.

They agree, and we connect on discord.

They ask me to write the starter, which I do.

They reply.

I reply.

No more replies, the end.

I'm not sure if this some universal experience or a "this has already been widely discussed, you're just 21" moment, but let me tell you it is NOT fun. Every time I start a roleplay, I go into it with hopes of making it a regular, consistent thing—am I just setting myself up for failure?

I write multiple paragraphs, communicate OOC, even sketch out the OC I made for the roleplay because I CAN draw and existing reference pictures rarely cut it. But it appears that no living and breathing soul wants to roleplay with me.


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

Shitpost/Satire/Meme The curse has been lifted.

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70 Upvotes

ive finally been freed from my 2-year dry spell. I'm finally getting actual RPs again after so long of getting screwed at every turn. I'm finally free. i wish everyone in the possition i was in to know this joy.


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

Venting/Rant Is this AI???

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13 Upvotes

I don't mean to be that person but... It's AI isn't it? It reads so much like a prompt spit out from AI. Am I crazy? 🫪 Why even write if you do this?

I'll never understand. Writing is a creative hobby meant to be enjoyed and challenging. What's fun or challenging about prompts from a computer?

I feel like this might be bait. Hook someone in with the idea and then write 1-2 abhorrent sentences in a post. What are your thoughts??


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

Venting/Rant Every single time

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20 Upvotes

I’ve learned my lesson with trying to rp with these kinda guys. I rather them just be honest about their intentions than try and trick me into a smut filled rp 😵‍💫


r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

OOC Bad So why the heck has RP etiquette gone down the drain? Is it really this difficult to just...make your own post?? These are separate people!!

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25 Upvotes

r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

OOC Bad This guy was complaining about being g hosted in the Status Bar before this.

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10 Upvotes

r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

Venting/Rant It’s hard being the leader…

17 Upvotes

No, literally!

I’ve been lurking about here for a while, and I must be honest, I don’t have much to complain about! I simply liked to watch y‘all chat…

There is only ONE thing that makes me sigh a little, and it’s that I’ve been sort of perpetually trapped as the person in control, the driving force.

I don’t mean that I have to plan everything in the roleplay, I mean that if someone‘s character is getting tortured, I must be the one to bear the blade and do it. If someone’s character is sick, I play the one who swoops in and wipes their nose. I have trapped myself into playing the role that is “in charge”, the independent variable, so to say. I lead the roleplay. This happens especially in “Whump roleplays”, which I dabble a lot in.

I’ve been roleplaying for an incredibly long time, so I guess I’m just used to it, because it’s not like I HATE it. I seek out roles such as these, because I could never really understand the appeal of being the weaker/punished/hurt character. If I’m roleplaying I want to be the character calling the shots! Usually.

The thing is, I recently have dabbled in some roleplays where I am the “dependent variable”, the weak one, the damsel in distress, etc, and they really are fun! Alas, when I went to search for more people searching to be the more aggressive leading role, I could find a grand total of zero. I was incredibly lucky with the one I got!

NOBODY wants to play the boss, the one in charge, the X variable!

I don’t just mean in ERP, I mean in general, though I do see it a lot on that side. People truly do want to be used from what I’ve seen. I get it, I do, it kind gets just a little tiring to always be the one who has to lead other people’s characters.

I take on the task, though, because I understand that some people just want to sit back and watch their character get torn to shreds by mine, and that brings me joy no matter what. Just wondering if anyone else is trapped like me? Or, if you only play the ”Y-variable“ characters.


r/BadRPerStories 4d ago

Venting/Rant ‘Clingy’ RP partners

77 Upvotes

I ended an RP today because my RP partner was ‘clingy’ (I really don’t know if that’s an entirely accurate word for this type of person, but I’m using it nonetheless)

Not OOC, or anything, I have never once minded RP partners that are chatty OOC, I’ll entertain it 100% of the time because I like being friends with the people I’m writing with, specifically, I’m talking about people who expect you to respond right away, and always be available. (I’m very communicative OOC about my availability anyways.) This person specifically didn’t want to continue unless I was fully able to put my attention into just responding, sorry, that’s not happening. I have a life outside of roleplaying. I’m engaged, I work a lot (for a while I was working about 50-60 hours a week there) and I’m not sitting on my phone and pausing everything just to respond to one person to their satisfaction.

The thing is, this isn’t the first time this has happened to me. Several years ago I actually RP’ed on another app and I had a partner that would just call me if I didn’t respond within a few minutes. Not cool, at all. I have several similar stories of people refusing to continue unless I put all of my attention and time onto them and the RP. It doesn’t make much sense to me, I have a life, I get that your schedule might be more open and it can be frustrating when nobody is responding super fast. But I always respond when I can, I usually always give at least one response a day and when I have the spare time I’m way more responsive!! There have been times I probably came off to people as a loser with no life because I was able to respond so quickly. But I’ve never expected someone to respond right away, I’m more than okay with my response sitting there and waiting for you to have the time and energy. Even if it’s a whole day or two. Even several days or a week! (With notice on that length preferred but shit happens and I try to be reasonable.) It has never once bothered me.

This partner specifically also acted funny any time I said OOC that I was busy, for example I’d say “hey, btw I got called into work early! I’ll respond later.” And they’d respond acting all confused or something. I’m not sure what’s confusing about that.

I’m not on my phone 24/7 and I wish people would quit expecting me to be. My life comes before the hobby, and I’m not playing the game of refusing to continue the RP until I give you my full attention, I will end it right there every single time regardless of how much fun it was. It feels like a hostage situation to me and I’m not engaging. Not that I don’t understand this preference, but it should be specified before RP even begins and I have yet for any of these people to actually be upfront about their expectation before we begin. It’s always after we start.

Rant over, hopefully I’m not alone in this experience or blissfully unaware that I’m a terrible person or something.


r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

Advice Wanted How do you know when it's time to stop?

6 Upvotes

I've been RPing on and off for over half of my life. The last 2 years or so, it's been very heavily on. Despite all of the struggles, disappointments, and ghosts, I have had plenty of great experiences, too; amazing stories, incredible characters, fantastic friendships. I wouldn't be half the writer I am today without this hobby.

All that being said, I am thinking more and more about how I'm spending my free time and how much of my free time this hobby takes. I work full time. The evenings and the weekends are all the time I have for myself. Do I really want to spend most of it sitting in front of a screen? What real life experiences am I passing up on because I'm writing my evenings away?

Obviously this is an issue of time management and maintaining a healthy relationship with one's passions. I know plenty of people RP as a hobby and have full lives outside of that. I have always struggled finding that balance, maybe because I feel lonely in my real life so it's easy to pour a lot of my time and energy into RP where I can be anyone and do anything. But focusing on fictional worlds only pushes me further away from the real one, I fear, and perpetuates the loneliness cycle. I also always feel obligated to respond back to a post as soon as possible, and having a story waiting on me stresses me out. Even the stories I love can sometimes feel like a chore because I feel guilty taking a break.

This is a very black and white way to think about it, but to me it feels as if I can either keep living this life or leave RP behind altogether. It doesn't seem possible for me to have both worlds. I just feel so checked out of my real life and all of my entertainment is coming from a screen. I worry about my life passing me by. Ten years from now, twenty years from now, will I regret all the time I spent doing this when I could have gotten out more, met people, made friends, explored other hobbies, experienced the world?

I have three RPs at the moment (with two others that have been in limbo for a long time) and I consider these people to be my friends. Two of them have been going on for nearly a year, these same two being my favorite RPs of all time. It saddens me deeply to think about not writing these characters anymore. It hurts me to think about telling any of these people that I need to step back or end things. At the same time, imagining my life without any of this feels kind of freeing, at least when it comes to not feeling so burdened by the expectations I hold myself to as a RP partner.

I'm really torn up about it and I don't know what to do, honestly. All I know for certain is that I'm unhappy with the shape of my life right now and I'm the only one who can change it. I just don't know how to move forward with doing that. Is it possible for me to have a balanced relationship with this hobby? Can I have my cake and eat it too? Or is this a sign that it's time for me to move on?

Has anyone else felt this way? How did you/are you navigating it? Sorry for the long ramble. This was the only community I could think of that might understand.


r/BadRPerStories 4d ago

Venting/Rant rp partner not caring about my comfort

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before i start with the vent, i’ll give context + background information. i have been roleplaying wi the this girl for over a year now. we mostly do cc x oc double up rps with several characters in it as the cast. i talk to her ooc as well and she’s nice. we talk ooc everyday. we have several roleplays that we do.

in the beginning, our roles plays were enjoyable for me. that was until her “oc” started acting similar to a person that traumatized me in the past. i tried ignoring it and continued roleplaying as my partner’s love interest as properly as i could. however, everyone has their breaking points. there are times where her “oc” acts way too similar to the person that i started feeling nauseous. the roleplays started to not feel fun anymore. even my oc’s side didnt feel fun because i still had to write her love interes’s side.

due to how similar my rp partner’s “oc” acts like that person, there are a few times where i communicated with my partner that i don’t feel comfortable playing as a certain cc. the first reason was because i didn’t like the oc‘s dynamic with the cc and didnt feel comfortabl playing the cc for that reason. the second reason is in another rp, she wanted the cc to be a little ooc which i don’t like. i like playing the characters close to canon as i possibly can. both these types, she still forced me to play the cc, completely ignoring my comfort. the second time she even said she wasnt that interested in the roleplay simply because i didn’t want to play the character ooc.

notice how i put oc in quotations? yeah, her main “oc” wasnt really an oc. it’s basically a self insert character. this bothers me because i can’t play the love interests as accurately as i want to because she gets mad when they aren’t too affectionate with her “oc” (keep in mind most of the cc she picks aren’t the affectionate type.)

yesterday, i finally had enough. i told her that her “oc” makes me uncomfortable and explained why. her response? “i’m sorry to hear that.” she also said that she didn’t want to play as other ocs (which makes it even more obvious that the main one is a self insert)

her lack of sympathy made me feel sick because i opened up to her and she didn’t try to make a compromise with me. anyway, rant over. i don’t feel comfortable with roleplaying with her anymore. after some advice from the comments, i decided to just end the roleplays with her. it really isn’t worth my mental health


r/BadRPerStories 4d ago

Character Bad God forbid you attempt to set up the rp.

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Guys keep in mind their ad said “I’m an experienced roleplayer looking for others who are the same”

Throughout our conversation he was very clear he had been roleplaying for a while now. I HAD GOOD FAITH IN HIM. so be aware if you see this “character” pop up anywhere, they are NOT an experienced rp, nor do they have any intentions of setting up their plots.