Just sat down at restaurant with my 5month old, at all tables around us were kids from ages ~2 ish to 5 all with iPads and all screaming bloody murder. Dad and I are not planning to do iPads/ screen time at any point in time. Do parents genuinely not think their kids are overstimulated watching screens all the time on top of everything going on in a restaurant? I can’t imagine how the child feels not being able to communicate, screaming and you choose to throw an iPad in their face to solve the problem, what if that IS the problem? Do parents genuinely not care? Curious what gets parents to this breaking point of iPad being the “solution”

Edit: My question is, when a parent resorts to iPad as a means to calm their children and the child continues to scream. Is there no alternative? Like taking the iPad away, trying to talk to the child, maybe trying to soothe in a different way. Seems like when babies are babies you go through a list of things like, are they hungry, do they have a dirty diaper, are they sleepy? I often see iPad kids just having to sit there and freaking out.

Hello all,

Seen a very cool idea online about buying your son the home shirt of the football team you support every year and then when he’s 18 presenting him with all said jerseys as a surprise. Currently doing this for my son but recently have had a little girl and am looking for suggestions on the “equivalent” for a girl.

Note:

I’m well aware girls can like football too and that my son may not support my team or even like football at all. It’s not one of them debates just more looking for ideas if anyone has done similar for their children

Edit:

We are already investing money to give them both a sum when they turn 18.

This is more of a sentimental sort of thing.

No jerseys are held hostage!(lol) We get him the kit to fit every year. These are adult size for him to have when he’s older and be able to have all the “retro” kits from when he grew up.

I've seen a lot of different opinions on this, and I'm curious what people think.

Some people say children don't owe their parents anything because parents choose to have children. Since children didn't ask to be born, raising and providing for them is simply part of the responsibility of becoming a parent.

Others believe children should repay their parents for everything they've sacrificed and done for them.

What do you think? Do children actually owe their parents anything? If so, what exactly do they owe? Is it financial support, respect, gratitude, care in old age, or something else? Or do you think parents shouldn't expect anything in return?

What do you think about kids over 22 out of college continuing to live with their parents?

okay so im 17 and hes 19
i didnt want 6 kids and he said I had a bad mindset and he was so upset that he said he wanted to body slam me and then he ignored me for a bit
I did a loyalty test on him (i know its wrong but hes my first rls and he was moving weird so yk) and he said he was down to meet up with her after they got to know each-other. He then told me that he was trolling with his friends
ghosted me for four days and lied that he got shot
says his type is curly haired girls but once shes not overly dark
says the n word a lot
lied about how many girls he talked to
lies about small stuff
is really mean to me
doesnt ask my questions about myself
makes jokes about talking to other girls
follows a lot of girls from his city
I dont have a good rls with my parents and he blamed me
Lied that he got shot when in actuality his ex texted him and said that she misses him
his friends are mean ppl

My son needs about 4 mini vials of blood drawn for a time sensitive endocrine panel which he was supposed to get 11 months ago and has been procrastinating, he is almost 14 and his height hasn't grown much so it's crucial he gets the test but he physically can't, he’s tried lidocaine cream, butterfly needles, listening to music, clenching someone's hand, looking away, but he just can't bring myself to do it, what should and can I do for him? Can he be put under general anesthesia?

I have a 15 year old son. I'm divorced from his mother and he lives with me full time.

Not really relevant directly but he's also in therapy due to emotional abuse from his mother.

He asked his mother to buy him an electric scooter. She bought him something for £80 from Facebook market place.

It was complete garbage. The front tyre was completely worn through so you could see the vertical column holes completely exposed.

Also, the bolt on the back was just jury-rigged. It wasn't the correct bolt for the scooter, it didn't thread properly into the bolt from the other side, it sat loose in the hole because it wasn't the correct diameter and the head was so small that I could just be pulled through the hole anyway.

Plus the bottom of the scooter dragged along the ground as it went, probably because of the bolt issue.

The scooter could go 22mph, she let him ride it around without a helmet for two days.

He brought it home today intent on going out with his friends but I immediately spotted it was unsafe and told her to collect it or I'd take it to the tip because I didn't want her garbage in my house.

I told him I'd be willing to buy him an electric bike instead of a scooter, one that was legal for him to ride on the road (unlike that scooter) and he'd have to wear a helmet and take a course to ride it safely on the road.

He's pretty upset because he told all his friends about his scooter. Am I being unreasonable here ?

I'm personally stopping at seven because by then you should be able to go inside by yourself do your business and get out without talking to strangers but that's what I think the age of being able to use the restroom by yourself is

Some context: my parents are visiting from France. Last time she saw them she was a little over 2 years old. We talk weekly with them so it wasn’t hard for her to connect right away.
However it looks like this time around she is having trouble connecting with my dad. He is not the kind of person that will say sorry, or if he doesn’t agree to something he will not change his mind.
I have learned that years ago and now only talk about things we have in common (to avoid any conflict since I see them only every other years)
Now to what brings me here: tonight we are playing go fish and I am teaching through game that it is ok to be happy for someone else winning, we usually don’t brag when we win, nor we make a comment when we loose. (It is just a game after all)
Well my dad is doing the exact opposite. And she picks up on that. She starts getting upset that when clapped and was happy when he had 4 fish but he made a sad comment when she had 4.
And at the end she didn’t want to play anymore. So I told her that it is ok to feel sad and that it is great for her grandpa to have a chance to win.
She moves on, and later that night before bed time, she asks me why doesn’t grandpa listen to her words?
And I told her did you tell grandpa that he hurt your feeling when you played the game. And she said she had but he told her: well that’s the game.
I didn’t really know how to answer that. I don’t want to throw my dad under the bus. If the interaction was with some else I will tell her I am sorry they didn’t listen to you, if they make you feel sad you can find joy somewhere else or with someone else. But I don’t want their relationship to get worse.

Have you ever had a similar situation? How would you navigate it?
Sorry it is a really long one thank you for reading

I just want to start this off by no rude comments. I am a FTM and am very protective about my son, it took multiple years and multiple miscarriages to finally be blessed with him and I refuse to let something happen to him

With that being said,

My MIL used to watch him every now and again for a few hours. The last time she watched him was so i could get some cleaning done without having to be interrupted. That night she wrapped him in a very hot blanket while holding him in the summertime (after she watched me turn a small fan on towards him) and she has been told before not to do that. On top of that, she keeps him up way past his nap times. Then when he finally fell asleep and she put him down on the floor, she didnt move any of the toys around him (she knows he can roll and crawl so its common sense to move any hard toys out of the way) and he supposedly hit his head hard on one of his toys and woke up screaming. I was out of the room when this happened and came in after i heard him screaming and thats the story i was given.

Also she has been given burp cloths to use but instead she insists on using dirty kitchen towels to wipe his face. She has been told MULTIPLE times not to use those because they have been near chemicals, used to wipe hands, etc etc and i had it hiding in the kitchen out of sight and then after she left it was on the couch again.

Its been a few weeks since I have let her watch him because all that happened in one day

But I am now pregnant and my energy is next to nothing. My parents live hours away and I dont have anyone else. I have been managing but its getting difficult and I have been debating on if I should give her another chance so that I can rest for a few hours here and there or just continue to suck it up like I have been and just do my best🤷‍♀️

What would you guys do?

My baby cousin face planted on cement under my watch and I can’t shake this immense feeling of guilt. I was watching my baby cousin in the front yard while my family was all talking in the drive way. She had her hands full of stuffed animals I gave her and she was running towards the neighbors driveway and I started running faster to catch her before she got onto the cement, but right as I went to swoop my arm under her she already face planted right onto the cement and her tooth went into her lip a little bit :( I picked her up right away but didn’t notice her lip was bleeding until her grandma grabbed her from me and my heart just sank when I saw it was that bad. She stopped crying after 5 minutes and took it pretty well after we iced it but i just feel horrible and I’m scared her parents will be mad at me. I wish I could have been 5 seconds faster and it would have happened. I am in my early twenties and my heart yearns to be a mom so bad but this shook me and it makes me question if I’m fit to be a parent… Idk I’ve always been good with kids and making sure they are being safe so I’m having a hard time forgiving myself. Should I feel guilty? How can I overcome this?

hi guys, I’m 19 years old and female. I currently live at home with my parents and my younger brother 18. I need to move out by 2027. My parents are controlling my financial situations through access to my bank account and they also are preventing me access to my car full-time so I need a lot of advice on how to make sure I can keep my car and move out within a few months. I also need to make sure I can keep my phone and just survive without their help. This is very mandatory because they’re actively threatening to kick me out. I work two jobs and I make around $550 biweekly at one of them and $22 an hour for 20 hours a week biweekly at the other have yet to get a paycheck from that location. I need help finding low income housing that doesn’t require a cosigner. I can’t go to my parents for help to figure any of this out so if anyone is willing to text, DM, call, anything like that it would be very helpful. It’s a stressful situation and I’ve already lost contact with some of the main people that can help me. I don’t have access to my car to go to a bank or a realtors office things along those lines. I also don’t have my own phone plan. I’m not in control of my car title. Just a lot of things along those lines and I just need a lot of help. Please can someone step up and be the guidance I need?

Background: Since age 4 I’ve gotten feedback from teachers that my daughter (10) bullies girls she doesn’t not like in a mean girl way. At first I didn’t want to believe it because I did not see it and no one else BUT teachers or bus drivers have seen it. To me, our neighbors, our friends & the moms of HER friends she is described as so incredibly well behaved, overly kind & polite. I laughed off the first teacher who suggested it at age 4 (even though she gets in a lot of trouble for bullying her twin brother, I thought that was a twin thing).

But now there’s no denying it and it’s a problem. To girls she does not like she can be a very vicious mean girl. She still does what the first teacher claimed at age 4: steals from girls she doesn’t like & lies to get them in trouble. But now she uses names, teasing, false allegations, bossiness, rumors, atrocious sportsmanship, ostracism, humiliation & threats to humiliate. A girl has left our school for bullying & named my daughter as the main mean girl. Again: the only witnesses are teachers, bus drivers and obviously the girls she targets. I have regularly received comments from parents of her friends or my friends that they are JEALOUS at what a well behaved daughter I have. So polite & so kind. It’s surreal. But this is the feedback across different schools/buses/years so I must accept that my daughter is actually a mean girl.

Question: Is this…on purpose? Is she really this manipulative? Like is this an act she can put on in our social bubble but at school she drops the act? Or is more likely that outside our safe space of family & friends she finds it hard to manage her negativity & lashes out? Could this be related to ADHD even?

My boyfriend's best friend and his wife are having a baby in September. Their baby shower is this weekend and we unfortunately cannot attend, which buys us time to get more things for our gift. We got something on their registry of course, but we want to be able to get things for them as well. What kind of things do you wish you had after having a baby for the first time?

edit: for them as in, not just something to help them with the baby

1. What would be expected out of a 22 year old who, was doing poorly at college, Was warned if he failed another class we were done paying for school, and nows hes back home because he wasnt able to turn things around. Up until then we funded his apartment, all bills, food, cell phone, gas and car insurance. He has a $10,000 school loan to pay off plus the agreement with us was, we'd pay for school and bills if he graduated, but he didnt so now he owes us too. He's been home now for 2 months. Doesnt pay anything. Keeps extreme late hours and doesnt get out of bed until 2 oclcock in the afternoon. He has been asked MANY times to clean up his space and his shared bathroom with his sibling. And does not do that either. He promises time and time again he will and then doesnt. Instead he has plenty of time to go out with friends. He's been told to find a FULL time job and has not gotten that either.

Best friend is a mom and she doesn’t work. She confessed to me today that she hates being a stay at home mom. (Her son is 3) but she’s too scared to admit it because of the social judgment.

Are there any mothers that did not enjoy staying home with their young kids?

I'm a child care teacher. Currently, I teach in the infant classroom, but I also spend time with the other kids in the center (it's a VERY small center, and if I don't have any babies for the day, I'm a float). I love every single kid as if they were my own. Every day, I give them all hugs (NEVER kisses anywhere) and periodically tell them I love them. Is that too weird? I don't want to traumatize them, and if they say they don't want a hug I respect it and don't give them one (but they're usually the ones coming to me for the hugs lol).

Has anyone’s little ones had slow weight gain literally since birth? We have been under dietician before who discharged us when he got upto the 6th centile however he is 4 next month and weighs 29lbs …I am starting to worry that there could be something medically wrong that is impacting his weight