r/AmerExit • u/waspinastoria • 5h ago
Slice of My Life 7 Months After Leaving America, I Haven't Missed It Once.
WARNING: Long post. Well...as I said in a post here back in January, I packed up, sold my house in the US (broke even since I had bought it a year earlier only), got on a plane, and moved back to Spain. The other post is here if you want context: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmerExit/comments/1q0fp4l/january_2026_goodbye_usa/
Some people on my original post agreed with me, some thought I was completely crazy, and quite a few said I was looking at Europe, and specifically Spain, through rose-colored glasses because I had forgotten what living here was actually like.
Fair enough. Now I've actually been here for seven months, so I think enough time has passed to give an honest update. The short version? I regret absolutely nothing.
Actually...if anything, I underestimated just how much happier I'd be with my day-to-day life.
Notice I said day-to-day life because that's really what this comes down to.
When people compare countries online, they usually talk about GDP, salaries, taxes, healthcare systems, politics, productivity, unemployment, whatever. Yes, those things definitely matter, but when you're actually living a daily life, that matters far more.
What does a random Tuesday look like? Because that's your actual life. Seven months later, my days are infinitely better. I walk almost everywhere now. No car insurance to worry about, no car maintenance to have to deal with, and I hated driving anyway back in the US. If I don't feel like walking, I hop on public transportation that is cleaner than anything you'll ever see in the US (assuming you even have public transportation options in your area, which is unlikely), and costs me less than fifty cents a ride. For real, less than 50 cents if you buy 10 bus rides, for example.
The beach is within walking distance from where I live. If I need to get somewhere farther away? BlaBlaCar exists with quite cheap prices. To give you an idea: Madrid to Salamanca? About 15 dollars. Another thing I had forgotten how useful it is and just how unlike anything in America exists in that sense. In America, if you are poor, you really are screwed far more than most of Europe.
None of this feels extraordinary to people here because it's normal. You don't carry nearly as bad of a safety risk as you would in America's absolutely broken and sick/violent society.
After living in the US and being able to compare, I appreciate every single one of these little things. And that's actually the biggest surprise...Well...not surprise, because I had lived in Spain before, but maybe the biggest confirmation.
Life isn't better because of one giant thing. It's better because of five hundred tiny things. Now as far as social life, that's also been very interesting. I've only been here 7 months, so I have not yet made "lasting friends" (because that's unrealistic anywhere and I'm not the type of guy who puts myself out there as I can be very reserved in public), but here's the thing...I think Americans often confuse "having friends" with "having a social environment."
What I do have is something I completely lacked in the US. The young guys who know me from one of the bars wave at me when they see me walking by, the ladies from the supermarkets recognize you immediately. Neighbors say hello and actually talk to you (no, NOT in ALL of Spain, but definitely in my area which is a smaller city). The lady at the frutería chats with me. People recognize you. Cashiers joke with you, people just in general don't look as miserable/serious as in the US. Cafes are filled to the brim to the point where it's hard even to get a table sometimes, and there is a joy to life you just don't see in the US. You end up talking to people without scheduling it three weeks in advance. The scale of human interactions here, the frequency of them, makes things far smoother.
And after almost a decade back in the US, I had forgotten how much those little interactions affect your quality of life and mental health. In America I often felt like everyone was moving from one private bubble to another: House, Garage, Car, HUGE soulless parking lots, car, car, car, Drive-thru. Home. Repeat.
Yes, I know there are exceptions but most Americans I meet who have moved abroad ALL mention these aspects. Here, I simply feel like I exist in a place where people acknowledge each other. Also, I'm not living some luxury lifestyle like unfortunately, some Americans are starting to do abroad (and the local population is starting to really get upset at this, with very good reasons). I'm basically living like a fairly ordinary working-class Spaniard. I watch what I spend. I don't go around buying expensive crap because I didn't even do that in the US. And despite that...I'm saving substantially more money than I ever did living in the US because life here isn't built to constantly extract money out of you like it is designed in the US.
People always say, "Well of course Spain is nice if you make an American salary."
Absolutely, but it depends on the type of person you are talking about.
But here's something I also said in my original post, and I still mean it. If I somehow lost this job tomorrow...I still wouldn't move back to the US. Seriously. And on top of that, I also got a job offer here and even getting paid a fraction of a US salary, I'd still have a far higher quality of life here WITH a Spanish salary than I could ever have in the US even with a typical median US income. I'd rather make a normal Spanish salary and stay here than return to the US. In my region, you get housing assistance payments if you meet a certain low income threshold, healthcare is free since you pay it through taxes, and if you are too poor to pay even taxes, you still get healthcare and even free medication in the pharmacy. Almost no Spaniard would be as selfish to say "MY TAXES SHOULDNT SUBSIDIZE YOU!" when it comes to something as basic as health.
Actually, going back and reading my January post is kind of funny because I kept waiting to find something I'd written that I'd now disagree with.
Food? Amazing. Yes, there are processed foods here, but no where near as many as in the US. The ingredients for most supermarket stuff is far superior than anything in the US. Tipping culture? Don't miss it for one second. The only places that would ever ask for a tip here are considered tourist traps for Americans, so I avoid those like the plague!
Housing? Still don't miss worrying about mowing a lawn so the neighbors don't think civilization is collapsing because the grass grew another inch. The endless obsession with race and identity in the US? Still exhausting to me. No one asks "where are you from" here, unless there is going to be a friendship interaction and even then, very few people would ask the following "Whats your ethnicity"? Most people here find that very off putting.
The feeling that American society has become increasingly dysfunctional? If anything, the distance has only reinforced that opinion.
And before somebody inevitably comments..."Well, Spain has problems too."
Of course it does. Spain has bureaucracy (so does the US by the way). Spain has lower salaries, Spain has EXTREMELY high youth unemployment, Spain has politics that drive people insane just like everywhere else. I've lived here before, my parents are Spaniards. None of this is new information to me. I didn't accidentally move here thinking I'd discovered paradise. I made a conscious trade.
I accepted lower career opportunities in exchange for a lifestyle I value more. I feel like I got life back. It's deciding to go to the beach because it's fifteen minutes away and sunny basically all summer with no rain. It's seeing people outside at night instead of empty streets. It's hearing conversations instead of engines roaring everywhere.
It's 9:47pm local time as I am writing this. Now I'm off to a freiduria, for a great serving of calamares prepared right in front of me at the local market, and a glass of red wine within a walking distance of 10 minutes. After that? Long stroll by the beach, maybe a cocktail at midnight, then off to bed. Life is good here.
TL/DR: I left USA forever back in January 2026. One of the smartest decisions I have ever made.