During the early phase of our relationship I did tell my gf (now wife) that I would go bald soon since I had a receding hairline. She said “ a tank of water taken away from a river doesn’t change anything. With or without hair, I am only attracted to you.” Well we did get married, years passed, and now that my receding hairline has reached its peak, I decided to shave it. I told my wife that I would surprise her with a dome any day now. She didn’t approve so I said that comb overs look bad. She replied that shaving would look worse, make me look like a admitted patient. I laughed it off. But in a moment it really hit me. I don’t know why I got so sensitive and upset to the point of teary eyes. My wife noticed and kept on asking me what had happened. I honestly shared that her words were confusing and it’s questionable what she truly thinks of me. She went off with explanations that she was only being playful and had the right to suggest. She was guilt ridden and surprised that I misunderstood her even after all these years. I said it’s alright and smiled but she has been checking up on me for the past hour or so trying to lift my spirits up. Am I overthinking it or is it actually concerning whatever she said ?

My mom wants to spend time with me but we actually do spend time together. We go to the stores together, walks, malls, etc., but she kept saying we never spend time together and i dont know what she wants.

I dont know what the real definition or reference of spending time together means or maybe shes being too much, but when I hang out with/talk with friends she always get pissed off or seem jealous of me, but 85% of my 25 year lifespan is always spend time/be around her more often.

I wanted to get my own space but she invades it and I dont know what to do i dont know what to say to her, I dont want to cause a argument or a fuss I try to keep my business in peace but she invades it

Am I in the wrong here?

I’m 16F and my cousin is 17F. She’s basically my best friend.
She started going out with her boyfriend in September 2024 when they were both 15. Towards the end of 2025 she was constantly telling me she didn’t like him anymore because he was a bad boyfriend. He was always getting high, she’d complain about him all the time, and she kept saying she wanted to break up with him.
When she finally did, he completely lost it. He got drunk/high, kept ringing her over and over, showed up at her house, and even told her he was going to kill himself. She was really upset by everything that happened.
After that she told me she’d blocked him and they were done. Then I found out he was still going to her house. When I asked her why, she told me to mind my own business and stay out of it. Later I found out they were still seeing each other and sleeping together, even though she kept telling me they were “just friends.”
Last week she finally admitted they’ve actually been back together since January. She also admitted she’d told everyone except me because she knew I’d disagree with it, and she’d even told people not to tell me. That honestly really hurt because I’m supposed to be one of the people she’s closest to.
The thing is, she still talks badly about him all the time. She says she doesn’t really like him, complains about him constantly, and she’s even talking to another guy that she says she likes. Sometimes her boyfriend gets really drunk, repeatedly rings her, calls her names, calls her fat, and says horrible things to her. She gets upset by it and seems embarrassed by the way he acts.
I even asked her why she’s still with him, and all she said was, “I don’t know, sometimes I just get bored.” I genuinely don’t understand it. Part of me wonders if she’s scared to break up with him again because of how he reacted the first time. Is she just going to stay with him forever because she’s scared of what he’ll do if she leaves?
They’re also having unprotected sex, which really worries me because I feel like they’re taking a huge risk.
What frustrates me is she’ll tell me to “mind my own business” whenever I question the relationship, but then she’ll come straight back to me whenever she’s having problems with him or wants to complain about him.
I’m also really upset that she spent months telling people not to tell me they were back together. It makes me wonder if it’s because she knew I’d be the one person to tell her I thought it was a bad idea. Part of me feels like I’m the only one who’s willing to actually say something because I care about her, but maybe I’m wrong.
At this point I’m wondering if I should just stay out of it and let her make her own mistakes. I care about her and I don’t want to see her get hurt, but I also feel like she only wants my opinion when she’s upset with him.
Am I wrong for thinking this relationship is unhealthy? Should I just stay out of it from now on?

My boyfriend deliberately calls our 40 kg bouvier dog over to lick his feet, and I find it incredibly off-putting.

I completely understand that dogs sometimes lick people. A dog is a dog, and if it happens spontaneously, I really don’t care that much.

What bothers me is that my boyfriend actually initiates it.

We’ll be watching TV, the dog will be wandering around, and my boyfriend will call him over, take off his socks, lean back, and quite literally let the dog “do his thing” while he seems to thoroughly enjoy it.

When I tell him I find this gross and honestly a bit crude, he comes up with irrelevant arguments like, “Dog saliva is better for your skin than soap” or “He likes it because feet taste salty.” (Uh-huh...)

Afterwards, he doesn’t even wash his feet. He just puts his socks back on, slides into his slippers, and later gets into bed.

The hygiene aspect isn’t even what bothers me most. Him putting dirty feet into clean socks, expensive sneakers, or sometimes even wearing sneakers barefoot with dirty feet could probably be a whole separate Reddit post.

It’s more the attitude around it that gets to me. There’s something about deliberately summoning a dog, taking your socks off, and basically thinking, “Go on then, lick away,” while relaxing on the sofa that I find unbelievably boorish.

Does anyone understand why I find this behavior so disgusting?

Hi. I am just wondering if I am being overly sensitive here.

My husband and I have known each other for roughly 12 years before we decided to actually commit. I always say he's a one night stand gone wrong 🤣.

Moving on, last year we got engaged, and got married pretty quickly for a few reasons.

I had met his family a few times in the time before we got engaged, and we all got along great. I was really hoping to be a part of a close family as I have a close family.

I am not quite positive, however I'm thinking I have been snubbed from our nephews (I am married to his uncle now) wedding and I'm really not sure why.

When we got the "save the date " it was addressed to Mr. and Mrs. M.

The invitation just came and it was ONLY addressed to my husband. There's no RSVP, just the invitation and where and when to meet.

I feel like this was intentional. When we got married, although we had to keep it small, I made sure to invite all of his important people and his nephews and their SO's were important to him.

ALSO, I should mention, my father passed in November, which was one of the reasons we got married so quickly, he unfortunately was in the hospital for my wedding, he did see it on FaceTime. The reason this is important is because when I first opened the invite and saw the date, I really didn't think anything of it because I was too focused on the invite ONLY being addressed to him.

A few minutes later I realized I wasn't going to be in town anyway because I'll be in Florida as we are burying his ashes at sea per his request.

I'm feeling really confused right now. Am I being too sensitive even though I realized I can't go to the wedding?

I would like some outside opinions about a friendship that ended because I still don't know whether I misread the situation.

About a year ago, I became friends with a woman who was struggling a lot with dating. Very quickly, most of our conversations revolved around men, dating apps, and her frustration about not finding a relationship or not getting enough attention from the men she matched with.

At the time, I had recently left an abusive relationship and wasn't looking for another relationship. I explained this to her and told her I needed time to heal.

Eventually, I met a man who seemed genuinely interested in me and communicated consistently. I hesitated to tell my friend because I knew she had been struggling with dating for a long time and I worried she might feel bad about it. When I finally told her, she seemed surprisingly uninterested. She didn't ask questions or even ask to see a picture of him, despite usually showing me pictures of men she matched with.

Later, she matched with a man from a country I have a strong personal interest in. She encouraged me repeatedly to talk to him as well, even though she knew I was already seeing someone and wasn't actively looking to date. She was unusually persistent about it, so I eventually agreed, mostly because I thought we might become friends due to shared interests.

Then she suddenly messaged me saying that this man seems to really like her and that she didn't want him to tell her that he prefers her over me. That felt strange to me because I had never asked to speak with him in the first place.

When I spoke to him, I directly asked whether he was genuinely interested in my friend or whether I was being treated as a backup option. He told me that my frien told him that I was younger, better than her, and that he deserved someone like me instead.

He then responded in order to reassure her that he actually found her more beautiful than me.

What upset me wasn't that someone found my friend more attractive. Everyone has different preferences. What upset me was that I felt I had somehow become part of a comparison or competition that I had never wanted to participate in.

Afterward, once he seemingly got interested in talking to me, she lost interest in the situation entirely and even removed him from her matches after he thanked her for introducing us. She never asked me again how it was going with him and the only thing she said was that he was weird to still talk about her and that she was not interested in him because she was talking to so many guys.

The friendship ended later for several reasons, not only because of this incident, but I still wonder about it.

Was she genuinely trying to help me meet someone and I misinterpreted her actions? Or does it sound like she was looking for reassurance and validation by comparing herself to me through men's reactions?

I live on the 6th floor of an apartment building. My neighbor across the hall frequently shouts "Hold the door!" as I’m walking into the elevator, and I always happily hold the button for him, even if it takes a minute for him to jog over with his groceries or dog.

Yesterday, the exact reverse happened. I was carrying two heavy bags of groceries, saw him step into the elevator, made eye contact, and called out, "Hey, could you hold it real quick?" He looked right at me, let the doors slide shut anyway, and went up.

I had to stand there waiting for it to come back down while my arms were aching. I feel like it's a huge double standard, but my partner says it was probably just an accident and I should let it go. AIBTS?

I want to hear some perspectives on this because I’m struggling to understand if I’m overreacting.

I had been standing all day, my legs were hurting, and I had also recently started working out because I already know I need to lose weight.

Later, my boyfriend and I got intimate. Right after we finished, while we were lying in bed, he started saying things like:

“Your hands are small.”

“Your arms are big.”

“Your feet are small.”

“Your thighs are big.”

“You need to reduce your weight.”

Then he just went to sleep.

I was lying next to him trying not to cry.

Later, I explained that what he said really hurt me. It felt like body shaming, and hearing those comments immediately after being intimate made me feel vulnerable and unattractive. I told him that if he was genuinely concerned about my health, that wasn’t the right time or the right way to bring it up.

His response was that he wasn’t sorry because he said it “for my own good” and that it was about my health. He still doesn’t think he did anything wrong. “This is why your leg hurts that’s why I said that”

The thing is, I already know what I look like. I’m already working on it. I work out regularly, I’ve cut down sugar, I rarely eat junk food or sweets, and I’m actively trying to be healthier. His comments don’t motivate me, they just make me feel worse.

This also isn’t an isolated incident.

When we were traveling with his mom, she told me, “You need to reduce your weight.” Instead of saying something like, “Yeah, she’s already working on it,” he just agreed with her. Later, when I told him that hurt me, he said, “You keep saying you work out, but it isn’t visible,” and shut the conversation down.

Whenever I wear certain dresses, he’ll say things like, “Your backside looks boring,” or point out that my body folds are visible. Those comments stay with me.

Another time, we were at a friend’s place watching a movie. Someone passed around a packet of chips. I almost never buy junk food, but I had some because everyone else was eating. In front of everyone, he told me, “Stop eating that. Enough, You’re already becoming fat.” When I got upset, he said it was because I’d get health issues and insulin resistance.

Why say that in front of other people? Why embarrass me instead of talking to me privately?

Whenever I tell him these comments hurt me, he says he isn’t body shaming me, he’s just concerned about my health. But if someone repeatedly comments on your body, points out your flaws, and criticizes what you eat, even when you’re already trying your best… it doesn’t feel like concern. It feels like body shaming.

So I genuinely want to ask

If your partner was already working out and trying to lose weight, would you keep making comments like these?

Would you say these things right after intimacy or in front of other people?

If your partner told you your words hurt them, would you apologize even if your intention was concern?

Does this sound like genuine concern for someone’s health, or does it cross into body shaming?

I’m honestly trying to understand whether I’m seeing this the wrong way

It’s so unbearable I hang out with people so much and can hardly ever have a good time because the small change in tone or someone interrupting me or making me feel left out I take it so personally and I hate taking everything to heart when it’s not the serious what can I do I need help it feels like it’s actually affecting my life at this point

For context, I 18F tried online dating and I started talking to this guy for almost two weeks. After talking to my best friend, also 18F, about it, she joined the dating app too because there is a friendship section on it. She told me flat out that she wasn't there to find a boyfriend. She had already had a bad breakup and was healing from that.

I told her about the guy I was talking to and during the second week of me talking to him, he matched with her too. He immediately got dry, stopped texting me, and went dry on responses. So I asked my best friend how it was going. She reassured me that she wasn't flirting with him and was only being friendly. I quickly realized that didn't matter and it was obvious that the guy preferred her more. I let it go and didn't talk about it until the weekend.

I mentioned what happened to my other two best friends and they started a group call. Through this, my friend that had been talking to the guy said that he told her he never saw anything ever happening between me and him despite him flirting with me. He went on to tell her that he considered me too weird. I didn't cry on call because the three of them were looking at me for my reaction. I ultimately decided to let it go and just forgive my friend because it's honestly not her fault she's prettier, and that he liked her more. So I dropped it.

Even though my friend and I made up, I found out a week later that they started dating. They started dating the day after he blocked me and that conversation with my other friends. But I remembered that I promised to drop the situation so I just accepted it. It's not my fault he didn't like me and it's not her fault that she's what every guy would want. However I was still hurt. And the guy in question knows me and my best friend are best friends and still dated her after finding out. They're still together.

And it still bothers me because the only reason he called me too weird was because I told him about a nightmare I had. Most people would've just comforted someone after that or just said they didn't want to know. That would've been fine. I could've let that go. But instead he told my best friend that I weirded him out. And now I can't stop thinking about it. I stopped looking at the online dating apps because it left me discouraged. Because if a nightmare is enough to label me as some freak, and I'm not allowed to confide in anyone, then why bother with trying to date? I've stopped talking to that friend group as much now because I no longer feel comfortable talking about anything that bothers me because now I'm too afraid of being "too much or too weird". I've already been the annoying girl that talks too much and that already made me deeply insecure about talking to anyone at all. I just want to stop being bothered by some random guy's words that truly shouldn't matter.

I (F) have been with my fiancé for 14 years. Last year, I moved abroad for my studies for about 18 months. During that time, a lot of things happened that have left me questioning whether I’m being insecure or whether I’m ignoring obvious red flags.
The first incident was that he matched with a random girl on Hinge. They talked and even went on a date. According to him, when she showed genuine interest, he told her he already had a girlfriend and didn’t continue anything romantic. I chose to believe him and moved on.
Then there’s his “girl best friend.” I’ve known her for around 10 years. She also has a boyfriend, who’s been our mutual friend for over a decade. She has been in an abusive relationship, and during that period she started leaning heavily on my fiancé. She would call him for beers, spend time with him, and often wouldn’t invite me. After my fiancé and I had a fight, she even told him that he should marry someone else (herself? another girl?—either way, she suggested I wasn’t the right person for him). That crossed a line for me.
I told my fiancé I wasn’t comfortable with that friendship anymore. They stopped talking for a while, but later resumed. Since then, I’ve somehow become the villain who “destroyed a friendship” because I was uncomfortable with her behavior.
Then I found out he’s also been talking regularly to an older divorced woman with two children. He insists he’s not interested in her romantically, but continues talking because his girl best friend supposedly told him that the woman is lonely and shouldn’t be hurt. This woman texts him things like, “I miss you,” “I need you,” and “I want to be your friend. I won’t create problems.” He says he doesn’t encourage it, but he also doesn’t seem to set clear boundaries.
More recently, after losing around 40 kg and getting into fitness, he became close to a woman from his gym. They go out to eat, take early morning drives, and go on walks together. He says they’re “just friends” and that there’s nothing romantic.
For context, throughout our relationship I’ve financially supported him a lot. I’ve paid for vacations, phones, headphones, gym memberships and equipment, shoes, perfumes, and many other things because I wanted to support him. I’m not listing these because I think anyone owes me love for money, but because it hurts to feel like I’ve invested so much emotionally and financially while he’s forming close connections with multiple women.
The confusing part is that our families are actively planning our wedding. Dates are being discussed, and everyone assumes we’re moving forward. Meanwhile, all these situations are happening, and whenever I express discomfort, I’m told I’m insecure, controlling, or the reason people can’t be friends with him.
So I genuinely want outside perspectives:
Are these normal friendships that I’m misreading?
Is it reasonable to expect stronger boundaries from someone who’s engaged?
Would you be comfortable if your partner regularly spent one-on-one time with multiple women under these circumstances?
Am I focusing too much on individual incidents instead of the overall pattern?
If you were in my position, would you still go ahead with the marriage, or would you postpone it until these issues were resolved?
I’m looking for honest opinions, even if they disagree with me. I just want to know if I’m seeing this clearly or letting my emotions cloud my judgment.

I just need someone tell me how they would feel if this happened to them or if I’m just being dramatic lol. For context, I (23 f) am a new grad nurse working in the ED, and my longtime friend (23 f) is in PA school (about to graduate). The other night, while at work, I was on my phone during a mere moment of downtime and saw she had sent me a tiktok. I opened it and it was basically a (supposed to be) funny tiktok about nurses just clean up poop and that’s the hardest part of our job. When I saw she sent me this, as a joke, i honestly got offended. I know we as nurses often make similar jokes like that to each other and ourselves, but when someone outside the profession does it it often feels more derogatory than anything (to me anyway). And I also can’t believe that she, as my good friend, would send me something like that thinking I’d think it was funny. Her sense of humor has always been a little questionable, but cmon. I think i also took it more personally than i normally would bc that night I was particularly having a bad shift and managing a young girl who was around my age who came in as a trauma, and an assault victim. It was just a bad night for me. And then to open a tiktok that basically says I only clean up shit…like gee thanks. Nurses deal with enough disrespect as is, I don’t need my FRIEND sending me crap like that. Especially a friend I know is also going into the medical field. It bothers me thinking that when she’s finally a PA, that’s how she’ll view nurses. Anyway, am I being dramatic?

My partner is going to a party without me, and there will be female friends there. I trust my partner, but I still feel a bit uncomfortable and left out. I don’t want to be controlling or toxic, but I also don’t want to ignore how I feel.
Do you think it’s okay for your partner to go to parties without you? How do you handle situations like this in a healthy relationship? Is feeling uncomfortable normal, or is it something I should work on?
I’m genuinely looking for different perspectives.

I (f20) am about to get my time of the month and I’m so angry and crying, my boyfriend made a joke that hurt my feelings so I ignored him and acted mad but passive aggressively for the rest of the night, and I am now upset he didn’t ask me if I’m okay or mad. Am I overreacting? I am so angry.

**ONLY FOR SG/MALAYSIAN GIRLS,

since the culture are more.. alike.

or maybe just Malaysians. idk.

imagine ur partner (may it be husbands or boyfriends),

received a water bottle / flask / material similar to stanley or smtg,

but are cute, in a way that suits MEN, and this is a birthday gift from a WOMAN (colleague ard same age),

1. Would u be okay with him receiving?

2. Would u be okay with him using daily?

3. if it was u, how would u react instead?

this is just for survey purpose.

mind u i was only not okay with 2,

but he laughed and thought i was being too over.

so i really want to know,

is it really an invalid feeling?

am i being too over jealous or smtg?

i didnt even react that much,

only mentioning it briefly while laughing Ha ha ha ha.

but now that he made me think im over or smtg,

thats why im a bit upset, and want to know am i really wrong for feeling like this? should i not have mention it? should i just keep it to myself? surpress it or smtg?

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Today my cousin said something that really hurt me. He told me that I don't play football, ML, or any indoor/outdoor games, don't drink and stay late night..it is because i feel happy when i listen to music, play with my cats, edit something and watch movies but he asked how I can enjoy life. He even said that when I die, I won't feel satisfied and that I should at least have one talent.

He said it in front of everyone, and I felt really embarrassed and hurt. I got angry and replied that not everyone enjoys the same things and that everyone has their own way of living.

I didn't yell or insult him, but my voice was shaking because I was upset. This was also not the first time he has commented on my choices. He often gives opinions about me, like saying I changed because I started using makeup.

What hurt me the most was him saying I have no talent. I don't play sports or games, but I have my own interests and things I enjoy.

Was I overreacting, or is it normal to feel hurt when someone judges your whole life based on hobbies?

I apologise if this comes off as immature or childish, I'm pretty young and I need advice from other people who have dealt with such people as my ex boyfriend.

A few days ago, I decided to break up with my boyfriend because he would say mean things about me and we had a heated argument and he told me to leave if I don't like his perspective(his perspective being on disowning his own kids if they come out as gay or not treating them like his own kids and just ignoring them. He brought up his religion a million times,saying it's a sin, he's muslim and I want to understand him but I just can't.

Even though we broke up, I've decided to try to be friends with him, considering that we have been together for 3 years I don't think I can let go of him even though I know he's a horrible person.

Well, today we talked again, every time we bring up the whole break up situation,he asks me if we can be together again if he changes,that I should block him and let him go because he doesn't wanna wanna see me with another boy in a few weeks or months(he always says this,but I really just wanna focus on my studies because I'm currently studying for a scholarship in America which is my dream),so it really bothers me,he brought up a few minutes ago that he has heart problems,that he visited the hospital a few days ago and that he just didn't tell me and I think he tries to make me feel bad about him,he said and I quote "Now you don't have to worry about me disappearing, because I don't think I'll make it till older,even the doctor told me that I won't make it past 20 and if I did it's rare'. I feel like it's just a whole lot of bullshit. He didn't tell me that he went to the hospital WHILE we were still together,but he told me now? I also feel horrible for saying that he's probably playing in my face. I don't think that he will change his opinion on the whole gay kids situation because he made it clear that he won't in the argument we had,but 1hour after the argument he comes at me and says "I regret it,I take everything I say back,I was just mad and I say everything when im mad".

I do wanna believe that he will change,but he always says he does then does some bs a few days later.

being sensitive and being easily offended is a good thing. why some of you guys dont like to hang around sensitive people? walking on egg shells? no that "walking on egg shells" is an ideology coming from heartless bullies and lazy people.

I’m kind of embarrassed to admit it, but I really like being gently tickled by someone I trust. It’s partly because it’s playful and makes me laugh, but it’s also comforting to me. Because of things I’ve been through, feeling physically vulnerable can be hard, so knowing the other person would listen, respect my boundaries, and stop immediately if I asked makes me feel safe enough to let my guard down.
I also like the affection that comes with it—the teasing, cuddling, reassurance, and being held afterward. I know it might sound a little unusual, so I’m curious: would you think this was weird if someone you liked told you this, or would you understand why it could feel comforting to them?

(For context if it matters in your opinion, I am a female and like men)

TLDR: How many hurtful things said are forgivable?

My relationship M40 with my partner F38, which has lasted 18 months, is largely amazing. When things are good between us it is the happiest I have ever been in a relationship. However, there are arguments, frequently, and in those arguments my partner says some things that tear my apart. We are obviously both not pleasant, but she crosses lines that I feel are so beyond what I would ever say to her, or anyone. Afterwards, she never apologises until I approach her, and always feels like it was me who started the argument, by not understanding her and then failing to react in the exact way that she needed. Even in cases where I can see I perhaps could have done better, she completely reacts in ways that I don’t recognise, and then never takes responsibility for the way she acts, because she feels I am the instigator. I do not know what I do sometimes, and genuinely try to understand how I could do better, but she just sees red and I end up feeling like the worst person in the world, and not only that, I feel like I am an awful partner where objectively some of the things I feel are completely blown out of proportion. She justifies the things she says by way of saying she was just upset at me, and I always forgive her. But I’m starting to feel like this will never change. How much can being upset justify horrible things said?

Asking because I’ve never been in this position before and I need some guidance. Over the course of our relationship we’ve had one physical fight when we were engaged that just consisted of pushing/ shoving but there’s been a lot of repeat other aggressions. He’s thrown his phone and broken it, thrown other objects (our son’s toy at the wall three years ago, a book at the wall a year ago), slammed the door open so hard that it put a hole in the wall in the foyer. He’s punched walls or doors three years ago and broke his hand doing that. For a while a lot of it stopped but over the last few months we’ve had issues with him drinking a 4-8 pack of beer a night and two instances of him pushing me in disagreements, one unprovoked. Verbally there’s a lot of disagreements because I’m home with the kids while I wait to start school back up again for my final two semesters. I’d point something out about progress with the kids and it’s met with “you’ve done great but what else do you have to do right now”. Two weeks ago was the last time he had pushed me in a fight and it was the same night he had been saying if I didn’t unlock the bathroom door he would kick it down. I wasn’t scared for my safety in that situation or anything it was more of just annoyed I couldn’t have five minutes alone to regulate myself mid fight. When I told him about the kicking down the door part and showed him a video later while we’ve been separated ( I recorded it from the bathroom of him threatening to kick it down if I didn’t open up) and he said he was embarrassed and understands why I don’t want to stay but then will turn around and say I broke apart our family and it’s all my fault. But all these things point as red flags and I know if our marriage stayed the same I wouldn’t want to be in it which is why I left with the kids and we’ve just been sharing the kids back and forth but he wants to make things work and says he’s quit drinking at home just special occasions is his plan now and that being sober makes a big difference and it hurts because I don’t want to be the villain in the situation to him and it is a whole marriage to throw away but things haven’t changed for so long that it makes me feel anxious to go back yet I don’t know if I’m just overreacting and so I’m scared to really make it final and file for divorce after all.. does anyone have any experience to share of advice??

I love my bf so much but we play Dota and he gets so mad usually, he keeps ranting about how the teammates are bad and screams sometimes. He has never redirected that anger towards me and calms down fairly quickly. He also knows that he does this thing in games.

My issue is that I genuinely do not understand how he can get so mad. It totally kills the mood. Maybe because I’m a very calm person in general and I don’t react to anger the same way. However I have some issues with people yelling because of childhood trauma (I told him that and he said not to worry, he is only angry in games).

Is there anyone who has this issue or gets angry at games that can explain to me how can I manage this situation? I’m not sure if I am too sensitive or if it’s normal behaviour for some people and I shouldn’t look into it that much.

Long story short.
I’m currently going through my final stages of divorce and I’m currently dating a new guy. Well we went out for dinner and in the middle of our face to face conversation he stopped twice to check out a waitress. I didn’t say anything on the spot because I didn’t want to ruin the meal but it definitely raised a huge red flag. After dinner I told him how disrespectful that was and he apologized. However I still broke things off out of fear that I’m just a place holder and that I will have the same issues I experienced with my soon to be ex husband. Should I give the boyfriend a second opportunity to show me other wise or is it best to cut it off and start new? Can a man genuinely wholeheartedly love someone while lusting over another women ?