Without getting into too much detail if rising senior sister was to miss recruitment because their absence was not approved. What is the typical fines? SEC school.

This is your weekly opportunity to share links and ask for advice on potential recruitment or event outfits! In your comments, please include links and/or photos of the outfit that you're considering plus information on the school and/or type of recruitment/event you're participating in (ex: Alabama, SEC, small liberal arts; formal, away weekend, preference round).

A reminder that this advice may come from users unfamiliar with your campus - the best place you can receive advice is always your school's Panhellenic Council for recruitment, and your chapter for events.

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How much do recs make a difference. I’m feeling nervous abt my video and gpa but I’m getting multiple recs for a couple sorority’s. I’m wondering how much those will impact the first round?

Hi everyone! I will be a Junior in the Fall and I’m a transfer from a school that didn’t have any Greek life, so I don’t know how any of this works. I just realized Values Night is the same night as a wedding that I am in and can’t miss. I’ll be able to go to all of the other open houses, orientation, preference night, and bid day. I am wondering if this is just an automatic out for me, or if I should try to find a way to make it up? I would say it’s a relatively small school, not SEC or anything.

Hi! I’m a rising high school senior and have no idea if I want to rush, but want to keep my options open. I’m clueless about how to rush because none of my family has done Greek life.

I’m wondering what sororities actually care about—for reference, I’m Greek-American (does this actually mean anything??), more academic leaning, but still very social.

Like do I need to start preparing soon? My Instagram is pretty PG and I have around 450 followers.

Hi! Im a junior transfer student at SMU and I have a question abt bidding regarding my circumstances:

-My family and I are planning on going to my home country for 2 weeks (around the same time rush week starts. One for open house and another day for Philanthropy)

-I emailed the panhellenic council and they gave me the option to continue with the bidding process, however the day I come back to the states is on the 19th (Philanthropy)

Should I muster up the courage to continue rushing, with only two days in, OR should I drop rushing all together and set my focus on Multicultural Greek Orgs? (Kappa Delta Chi, Sigma Lambda Gamma, etc)

NOTE: this is my first time rushing, i have no family members who rushed ever so im completely new to this, any feedback is helpful! <3

Just wondering - I'm rushing at University of Arizona, and it's going to be pretty hot by like midday. does it usually happen in the morning to avoid the heat?

This is currently keeping me up at night, and my brain is firing on all cylinders rn, so here goes. Also for context, I'm an alumnae, and I'm neurodivergent (with massive anxiety issues).

I was checking Instagram, as one does, when I noticed that there were changes recently made on my account that happened in the past day or so. Changes that I myself didn't initiate.

The first was that a story highlights cover was changed, as the cover before showed a post from our chapter's Instagram that I shared about a year ago. This felt odd to me, so I looked at posts that I was tagged in from our account, all of those posts were gone. I searched for the account handle, Instagram didn't really know what I was talking about. I switched over to my secondary insta account, and I was able to pull up the Instagram page with no issues. I did notice that all of the posts that I was tagged in previously now no longer showed my tag in the pictures (including a graduation picture from 2 months ago).

Going back to my main account, the messages (mainly for post tagging during my collegiate membership) still show the account name, but looking at the comments where ik the comments came from the account name now show as (null).

All of this info indicates that my org blocked me, but I don't understand why they would do that. Does anyone have any insight as to why this would happen? My interaction with the account didn't change much after graduation, and I haven't done anything too crazy.

In lieu of rush season, I wanted to bring up something I noticed that I think is worth sharing, and honestly, could double as advice.

I recently saw a post on another forum from someone talking about their experience with D9 and their interest in transitioning into Panhellenic Greek life. It got me thinking about a pattern I see a lot: when young Black women post about pursuing Panhellenic Greek life, the comments are often full of people asking why they didn't choose D9 instead, and a common answer is that Panhellenic "feels easier."

As someone who attended a PWI in high school and has many friends, classmates, and colleagues in Panhellenic Greek life, while being a member of D9 myself, I can say there are a lot more similarities between the two than people realize. The membership experience is almost identical. The real differences come down to discretion and the ability to rush multiple sororities at once.

1. Discretion
Panhellenic: PNMs are allowed to openly announce they're participating in rush. Active members can even text potential recruits to generate interest. Chapters even have a required week dedicated to making social media content promoting rush.

D9: Announcing your intent to pursue Greek life is very informal, and doing so publicly can actually hurt your chances with your sorority of choice. Members reaching out directly to interested candidates can get a chapter in serious trouble; there's no promotion of participation in Rush at all.

This difference in discretion is, I think, the main reason why Rush feels easier for Panhellenic. D9 is simply more secretive, and that secrecy is what makes it seem harder. There aren't YouTube videos or TikToks breaking down what to expect step by step, so the membership experience feels like a mystery you have to figure out on your own. Panhellenic, on the other hand, is much more visible and talked about online, which makes it feel more approachable and less intimidating going in.

2. Rushing Multiple Sororities
D9: Attending rush events for multiple sororities is considered very controversial and can actually hurt your chances. This can be compared to doing a "suicide bid” in Panhellenic; you pick one sorority and commit fully. Pursuing multiple organizations can be seen as chasing letters, strolling, or aesthetics rather than genuinely connecting with one organization's mission. There's no "rounds" system where you meet all your options like there is in Panhellenic recruitment.

Panhellenic: PNMs go through structured rounds and can rush all sororities simultaneously before narrowing down their choice.

Beyond those two differences, the membership experiences have a lot in common:
•Both require an application asking for very similar information. D9 applications may ask for less simply because you're not submitting to 17 different chapters at once.
• Both have a probationary period before fully becoming an active; called "New Member Period" in Panhellenic, and what the media often refers to as being "on line" for D9.
•Both lead to a lifetime bond and community.

Panhellenic and D9 have a lot more in common during the new member experience than people give them credit for. I wouldn't say one is easier than the other, they're much more alike than different. That similarity holds even after the new member period ends; either way, you're building a lifelong sisterhood.

If you're debating between the two, my advice: keep an open mind. You might have more in common with both experiences than you think.

hihi, do any marketing chairs or literally anyone in general have ideas for keeping the instagram active over summer? my chapter is tiny (less than 15) and no ones really travelled so travel photos are out of the question, i’ve already done some like trendy posts and a welcome guide for new students since school starts back in a. month but i have no clue what else to do

Hello! I’m transferring to uncw and I’m looking to rush, my fear is I won’t be able to afford it. I tried to look online to see prices but nothing will come up, I see that unc has there pricing per semester posted but I’m having trouble, can anyone help?

Hi everyone! For context, I recently transferred to a four-year university from a community college, but I transferred as an incoming senior. I really want to rush this fall, but will I still be recognized with other seniors/able to obtain a graduation stole if this is my first year?
Thanks!

Welcome to r/Sororities Free Talk Friday! Let us know what you have going on in your life, Greek related or not. What are you celebrating or working through this week? What are you looking forward to? What do you need to vent about?

Whatever is going on in your life, thanks for being part of this community!

I’m in a really difficult situation. I’m going into my fresh semester of college next year and got this transfer option to transfer to Cornell my sophomore year. However, as stupid as this might sound i really want to rush. I have a potential big that I feel a strong connection with and I really do want to join this sorority. I know i’ll regret if i don’t do it. The terms to my transfer is that I must maintain a 3.5 or higher, i’m scared rushing/ pledging will make it too hard for me to reach that goal/ i won’t be able to do it. I’m a bio major so i’ll be taking bio and chem my fall semester. Do you guys think I can manage it or if it’s possible? Need any advice and support please!!! I also can’t do spring semester because by the time i get initiated (IF i do) I’d be leaving.

So I’m now a sophomore, I joined in my freshman year first semester. I go to a small school so I can look at people and name everyone in my sorority. For the last two semesters I have been applying for positions. Last semester I applied to be a new member educator then they proceeded to say that they didn’t have enough people and needed more to sign up for it and I didn’t get chosen even though they needed multiple. I applied to a bigger position over the summer and another girl was voted over me, I understood why, she was definitely more qualified. I also applied to a more lowkey position over the summer, I was the only one who ran for this position and I didn’t get it. I’m seriously considering dropping, how can I get leadership opportunities if no one will let me. I need advice on what to do.

Hello! I'm planning on rushing at Florida State, but I wasn't able to secure a spot for early move-in (Friday) and have to move in a day later (Saturday). I'm worried that I'll miss events and be behind everyone else. I texted my Rho Gam but haven't gotten a response. Starting Saturday is orientation and scholarship round, so I'm pretty nervous.

Has anyone been in the same situation before, or know what to do here?

edit: solved! i called and they said i could move in at the end of the day :))

Just some background: I am an ASU online student that is considering rushing as a sophomore. I live in state, online is just more financially feasible and I’m a poli sci major.

I‘ve been thinking about rush for a couple years now because I think it would be a great experience to make connections. Even if I don’t necessarily end up deciding to join a sorority or get a bid, I’m very open to the whole experience. The thing is, as a poli sci major I’m already pretty involved in local partisan politics through internships, volunteer opportunities, etc. I know politics is one of the things you’re not supposed to talk about during rush, which I’m totally fine with. But since my involvement is all over my social media, I’m wondering if some sororities won’t even consider me after looking through my accounts?

I'm a junior rushing at a big 12 school and the VPM for a sorority followed me on Instagram today. I know it's her because she has it in the bio. I don't know her personally and have never spoken to her. I checked her following and she's following other people who are incoming freshman to my school, but I don't think she's following every single person registered for rush.

My question is: does this mean anything?

Am I on her radar and that sororities'?

I guess part of me wants to be excited about a small win and that people in the sororities are noticing me. I'm involved in a lot of leadership positions at my college, so I guess I was hoping that they liked that and were trying to show me that.

TLDR: Vice President of Membership of a sorority followed me on Instagram. Wanting feedback if it means anything

If you get a bid to a house that you did not choose, do you have to accept their bid?

Hi everyone! I’m interested in pursuing membership in Delta Sigma Theta Inc. as a rising senior this fall. I’m a full-time online Criminal Justice student with a pre-law focus, and I also work full-time.
During my freshman year, I was active in SGA, but I eventually stepped away. Overall, I do feel like I’m known on campus. I’ve always tried to communicate with people, attend events when I could, and show genuine interest in the organization.
I wanted to pursue membership during my junior year, but I missed rush and also didn’t have enough community service hours. Because of that, I’ve made service my priority this summer. My goal is to complete at least 38 hours with the same nonprofit. I noticed the chapter also volunteers there, and I just hope it doesn’t come across the wrong way since I genuinely enjoy serving and it works well with my schedule.
I’m also a member of NAACP and know a few members of the sorority, but we’re more like mutuals than close friends.
Since I’m an online student who works full-time, I sometimes worry that I’m at a disadvantage when it comes to involvement. Also, some of my previous volunteer work doesn’t exactly fit the types of service I’ve heard chapters prefer.
Based on what I’ve shared, do I seem like a competitive candidate? Is it still realistic to pursue membership as a rising senior, and what should I focus on to strengthen my candidacy? I’d really appreciate any honest advice.

Also my Aunt also crossed at the same school as me and told me to keep getting my community service and that she would have one of her LS to write my recommendation letter

Hi, I wanted to know everyone's thoughts and experiences on joining a sorority. Was is beneficial or a mistake? Is hazing still a thing? Was it expensive? Should i join one? Any experiences are welcomed and appreciated. Thank you!

This is your weekly opportunity to share links and ask for advice on potential recruitment or event outfits! In your comments, please include links and/or photos of the outfit that you're considering plus information on the school and/or type of recruitment/event you're participating in (ex: Alabama, SEC, small liberal arts; formal, away weekend, preference round).

A reminder that this advice may come from users unfamiliar with your campus - the best place you can receive advice is always your school's Panhellenic Council for recruitment, and your chapter for events.

Standalone posts on recruitment or event outfits are not allowed outside of this megathread and will be removed.

this is probably such a stupid ask, but this subreddit hasn’t ever let me down before so I figure it’s worth a shot. I’m having a small surgery during recruitment and will miss most of recruiting (all but one day), work week is the week before. Im trying to get excused for the days prior as it just doesn’t make sense to come for a few days, buy the outfits, find a place to stay, and drive several hours there and then back, when i’m only recruiting one day. What can I say to my vpr about this? Or is this something I just have to suck up and do? It just feels a little silly.