I’m just so elated and want any other moms here to know that it does get easier!!
My baby has been more or less attached to me for basically his whole life thus far when it comes to sleep. He’s very much a contact napper, frequently latches to connect sleep cycles, nurses to sleep almost always, etc.

All that to say, cosleep has not been exactly wonderful for my husband’s and my romantic relationship 😅 I love cosleeping and wouldn’t change it for the world, but also I do miss the quality one on one time with my husband.

Well this week for the first time ever I rolled away from my baby and was actually able to go downstairs and do some chores. He woke up about 45 minutes after I put him down, so I comforted him back to sleep and was able to go back downstairs and help my husband do the dishes and kind of reset the house. And tonight I tried it again and after an initial wake up at about the 45 minute mark again, my husband and I had two hours of uninterrupted time together. This is the first time since he was born that we’ve gotten that much quality time together and it just feels so refreshing and also makes me feel a little more myself again. Now I’m back cuddling next to my baby and he didn’t wake up at all even when husband and I came into bed!

Just a bit of a celebratory post because I’m sure we’re not the only cosleeping couple out there who have gone through a bit of a postpartum dip in their relationship

Saw this in r/MedievalCreatures and just couldn't resist! 😉

For mamas with extra clingy mamas toddlers, who still need assistance to sleep, how did you survive baby 2 coming?
Esp once you were alone with them?

Im due with baby 2 the day after my first turns 3, and have a feeling baby 2 will be just fine sleeping through me playing with toddler for his naps. Esp because i plan to baby wear.
But im more worried about the toddler.
He still nurses for 5 minutes before nap and bedtime, and pretty much needs to have a hand on the boob to fall asleep and gets very stressed when he wakes up frequently at night and im not RIGHT there. If im there he feels and goes right back to sleep.
He down right refuses to allow dad to do sleep times ever since 11 months, and currently sleeps in a bedside crib on my side. He usually stays mostly in the crib and occasionally rolls halfway onto the big bed.
Plan is to TRY and get new baby sleeping in a raised solo bed on dads side.
But im worried about how to handle my toddler naps and bedtime when im home alone and dad cant take baby for a bit. I imagine baby wont be ok with just laying on the bed next to us while i try to get toddler down 🥲

Also my toddler had a fixation with holding something in each hand. He does it a lot when hes awake and also really likes to hold stuff (somehing plus boob) when falling asleep.
And im looking for something he can hold thats washable, interesting but not like too fascinating anf travel friendly to be his “night time holders” to maybe try and get him away from holding onto my boob instead.
Any ideas?

We currently co-sleep in my bedroom with my 3-month old, but I’m looking at future sleeping setups and considering skipping the crib entirely in favor of a full-size floor bed frame/setup.

I was originally looking at Montessori style frames with rails, but after reading up on safety for infants under a year, I learned that rails can create entrapment hazards, so I’m leaning toward an open floor setup (just a frame/slats low to the ground or a firm mattress directly on breathable slats).

What firm full-size mattress did you choose that meets firm infant sleep safety standards while still being comfortable enough for an adult during co-sleeping? I’m thinking on buying this
floor slats and this mattress 8 Inch Full Size Mattress, Firm Gel Memory Foam Full Mattress in a Box, Firm Back Support for Pressure Relief & Spinal Alignment, CertiPUR-US Certified, Fiberglass-Free or this one Ablyea Kids Tencel Memory Foam Mattress

Thanks in Advance!

My wife & I have struggled with our baby’s sleep since she has been born. She is extremely attached to my wife, and my wife is really the only one who can comfort her at night because she just screams when I attempt. We tried sleep training, it’s not for us. Baby doesn’t respond well at all to it either.

Our baby is 9 months now, and we put her to sleep in her crib every night and she wakes up a few times each night. Normally, we try to facilitate her sleeping in her crib for as long as possible but end up pulling her into our bed when she wakes up around 4:00-5:30am just so we all can sleep a little longer. We have been insistent on trying to keep her in the crib as much as possible because my wife and I really cherish our time together in the evenings. We love to watch a show, have a snack, and unwind. It’s really the only time we have to be together, just the two of us.

The past 3 nights, on baby’s first wake she has been inconsolable unless being held or in our bed. We have spent 2 hours each night trying to soothe her in her own crib in every way possible. Each night ends in us giving up and bringing her into our bed. I am growing concerned that this is going to spiral into her not being able to be put to sleep in her crib at all… does anyone have any experience with this? Anyone have a similar system that they have been able to maintain for a while? I’m really just wanting some opinions/ experience on if a hybrid version of cosleeping has worked, or if it has resulted in just moving into typical cosleeping? I honestly love having her in bed, and if I knew for a fact that I could get her to sleep independently for the beginning of the night and then pull her into our bed later on with out eventually messing up her being able to sleep independently in the beginning, it would be my preferred way.

I think we are going to give cosleeping a real chance. Its the best sleep my 2mo gets- when putting him in the bassinet thats at my bedside, he grunts and whines all night. But 1 foot over in the bed, hes quiet and gets long deep sleeps. So I think we will give it a go.

I see most people sleep naked and I love the ease of breastfeeding as my shirt gets in the way a lot, but how do we handle let downs?

Sometimes i put down a towel before we sleep, but i forget. I also am a big breasted woman so collection cups dont work for laying down. Is it really going to be laundry every day?? 😫 same question for baby spit up!

Transitioning my cosleeping bubs to his own floor bed this week! He’s 11 months old and we’ve been cosleeping since 2 months, however since he’s full blown on the move and our bed is elevated I’ve purchased a full size floor bed.

Would love to hear anyone else’s experience with transitioning to floor bed/own space!

I am planning on settling him in his own room and then eventually joining him if there are ++ wake ups.

Every parent seems to say something different.

Some swear everything changed around 4 months.
Others say it wasn't until after the first birthday.

Looking back, did your baby have a point where sleep suddenly became easier?

Or was it more of a gradual improvement?

What do you think actually helped the most—or do you think they simply grew out of it?

I'd love to hear everyone's experience because every baby seems to have their own timeline.

Hi,

My baby is 6 weeks old, and I’ve been cosleeping since day 1 because it felt natural, and my midwife showed me how to do it safely.

I’ve tried to follow the Safe Sleep 7, but one thing that keeps worrying me is that most of the time she doesn’t stay on her back because she rolls onto her side, even though I switched my mattress to the firmer side.

So she’s usually sleeping on her side facing me. I keep her close so she can’t roll onto her belly.
Recently, I learned that the risk for SIDS is higher between 2 and 4 months, and now I’m feeling anxious again.
Her nose is always against my breast and I’m worried she’s rebreathing too much CO2.
That’s why I was thinking about buying either an Owlet sock or an abdominal monitor.

I’d appreciate any advice!

My baby is currently a little over 3 months and we want to try to get her to sleep in the crib which feels impossible. We only started to try because she will sleep in her crib at day care (yes we have asked what they do and it doesn’t work for us. She has a bad startle reflex and reflex which makes her move around a lot, which then wakes her up. She also doesn’t like sleep sacks or her bassinet so that is why we co sleep. It’s hard to get good sleep and I’m dying at work. Any advice?

My 10 month old usually start on one side and I have alot of space, then after a few hours I'm at the edge of the bed with her trying to move even closer to me 😅 she almost never sleep on her back but idk how to paint that. Before you say anything, where I'm from they say that when they choose to sleep on their stomach it's fine, even when bed-shareing so don't come for me, I'm listening to our ped. I tried to draw the baby sleep nest pose I sleep in, and the nursing/pregnancy pillow I have behind my back but idk what happened 🤣 I have a blanket tucked in but it's only to my knees so it looks nothing like a blanket on my drawing. The thing under my feet is a pillow to help manage my RLS. She's in a sleep sack and rolls away for awhile but when she feels like I'm to comfortable aka not almost on the floor she rolls back and remind me who's the boss. 🫡

My child is 10.5 months old and I don't know how much longer I can cosleep. My baby is extremely mobile, as in walking already, has 8 teeth eats lots of solids, has a great pincer grip, the works. Sleeping with him is no longer peaceful because I believe has started sleepwalking and talking, It runs in our family. I feel like I am no longer sleeping because I am mitigating his sleep. I feel like the safest place would be for him in a traditional crib now but he screams every time I try to lay him down for overnight sleep. He does fine during naps though.

Behavior that I'm struggling with, waking up and just shooting off in whatever direction he's facing. Head butting, latching very aggressively, kicking very aggressively when I'm touched out and won't let him latch. Just sitting up in bed and wailing because my husband turned over too loud or I moved my arm, or I didn't move my arm and it's now in the way of him laying face down. Turning over endlessly unless I latch him then kicking me because he's really too tall for a c curl anymore. All of this he does without opening his eyes. Sometimes if I stop unwanted behavior and try to comfort him he screams like I just woke him up. It's just a lot and I don't feel like he's very baby anymore he's very tall and people are constantly surprised he's under 1 year old. He typically gets 2 naps about 2-3 hours total a day and then sleeps 8-10 hours at night.

Does anyone have and helpful advice?? I don't want to quit cosleeping but it doesn't feel like it's giving us the best sleep anymore.

Hi. I am currently 18 weeks pregnant with my 4th and still nursing my 3rd, who recently turned two. My older two children weaned themselves and I cannot get my two year old off of me. I was okay with him self weaning, but my nipples are so sensitive. How to I get him to stop, or are there any safe while breastfeeding and pregnant supplements or ointments to help with the tenderness? I feel like I should know this, but alas, I do not! We have gotten his bed set up and he does fall asleep from time to time with a movie and can be moved to his bed. However, nights like tonight I'm up until 7am because he crawled in my bed around 2am and I'm all around hurting. Thanks for any and all advice in advance!

Hello everyone,

​I’m looking for some advice, encouragement, or real success stories because my heart is breaking and my head is spinning with guilt.

​My son is 19 months old. He is breastfed (always nursed to sleep and during the night) and we have co-slept since birth. We live abroad in Germany with zero family around, so he’s deeply attached to me and his dad.

​He started Kita (daycare) 3 months ago. He actually enjoys playtime in the garden, eating with the kids, and he loves his teachers. But when it comes to naptime, it’s been a struggle. They tried putting him to sleep a few weeks ago without success, so I kept picking him up at 12:30 PM.

​Today, we are trying again for the 2:00 PM pickup. My heart feels so small right now.

​Because I am currently not working (though I’m actively looking for a new job, doing house stuff, thinking about a second baby, and honestly haven't even had time for basic self-care like blood work or a massage in two years), the guilt is consuming me:

​Is it really necessary or good for him to sleep there right now if I’m at home?

​Am I "ruining" his ability to sleep by still nursing him to sleep at home? Will he EVER sleep without the breast?

​Am I traumatizing him by letting the teachers try to settle him?

​How do I settle my own mind and make peace with this decision?

​If I had a strict 9-to-5 job right now, I wouldn't have the space to overthink this—it would be an absolute necessity. But since I'm at home, I keep questioning if I'm doing the right thing for his age.

​Has anyone been through this with a high-needs, breastfed toddler? Did they eventually figure out how to nap at daycare while still nursing/co-sleeping at home?

​Thank you so much for reading. 🤍

I fell asleep like this this morning after my 4 month-old (sleep regressing) baby refused to sleep on her own or next to me and I had to work in 4 hours. Baby slept amazingly but I'm a little anxious about her chin being tilted down since her head is kinda in my armpit. This drawing makes it look like she's fully on my torso but she's actually got her back on the bed side to side with me with the back of her head on the side of my chest/armpit). She is wearing a baby Merlin magic sleepsuit if that matters.

We have our cot set up as a sidecar. We’re transitioning away from contact naps. How can we protect baby from moving out of cot section? She’s 6.5 months. We’re in a studio while we build a house so limited space to set up a separate nap cot.

Did you have a floor mattress? Your own mattress on your own bed? Was it a firm mattress? Was their rails? At what age did you start? Was your partner sharing a bed? Did you have any pillow or blankets? How were you not cold? I’m a FTM trying to learn safe cosleeping and the logistics to try with newborn

Okay so I’m considering making my little guys crib into a sidecar so he can start having a bit more of his own space while still having me close. I’ve read how to do it but my biggest concern is raising in on furniture raisers because of how the legs are slanted. Does anyone have any experience with this? What’d you do? Picture is his crib.

Disclaimer: I know ‘me’ time the way it was before baby is a think of the past. I am leaning into cosleeping because baby gets sleep, we get sleep and he’s only 4.5 months so I’m very happy to keep him happy and keep night time crying to a minimum.

But I’m starting to wonder when I’ll ever be able to read a book again? A physical book? I go on my phone in bed when he’s asleep but it’s not the same. My husband and I whisper so quietly do not to wake him up. We only talk at dinner and even then sometimes it’s through his fussy crying.

When will I be able to watch tv again?? The TV is never on in the house because I don’t want him to watch it until he’s older. I read baby books to him etc during the day which is great but before he was born for some crazy reason I envisioned evenings watching TV or reading a book 🤣… I’m not actually fussed about the TV but it’s just about having a little bit of autonomy?

I’m scared to turn the bedside light when he’s asleep in case it wakes him if I wanted to read. I literally ordered all of these books like Sapiens thinking I was going to have so much time on my hands… lol!

He’s also forced fo a late bed time at around 9-9:30 because my husband isn’t home until 7:15, we eat dinner together and then before you know it it’s 9pm! I read online babies need an earlier bedtime then this so I’m not sure what the solution is

If you coslept, what month could you ‘leave’ them in your bed with the correct safety measures? Or did you have to try and get them used to a cot? Or did you just go to bed early and if so for how long?

I haven’t even thought about the cot in a while as we went through the regression… think we are coming out of it now but I don’t even know if buying a cot will be a waste of money because he didn’t even sleep in his Snuzpod side crib which he’s nearly grown out of

I read everything before having my LO and swore I’d never co sleep. I’ve seen all the threads here about what a monster you are if you do etc etc.

But… after the 4 month regression my LO will not sleep in the side sleeper bassinet. Maybe 2 hours initially, but then nothing. She’ll either play in there or cry. Last night I tried from 12am - 3am and she’d wake up as soon as she was put down. So I popped her in the big bed (myself and her only and following safe sleep seven) and she went to sleep immediately and slept almost 5 hours.

Was anyone else against it and now co sleeps and is it better? Do I try just doing the whole night in bed from the get go? How do I make it as safe as possible? I searched Reddit and now I’m full of guilt all over again :’(

Hoping this sub makes me feel a bit more confident. It’s the only way we’re getting sleep here. Thankyou!

Editing to add: I think waking up next to her is also the most beautiful thing!