r/toastme Nov 21 '24

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r/toastme 5h ago

Update to earlier post: got a job at a diner, waitressing! Toast me! Thanks for the encouragement!

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463 Upvotes

I hope it's ok to post twice...


r/toastme 2h ago

Feeling weird about how my face is shaped

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109 Upvotes

r/toastme 1h ago

M22 almost 23 and never had a girlfriend and probably never will due to being autistic and even if I do manage to meet someone it'll probably be a "red flag" that I've never been with someone

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r/toastme 4h ago

Just feeling down lately.

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108 Upvotes

Been on here for a while ,for my own reasons just to get myself busy due nothing really exciting out there nowadays . Be nice


r/toastme 3h ago

feeling insecure

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50 Upvotes

r/toastme 1h ago

M21 Been working on my self esteem

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(Sorry if pic is a little blurry I have an essential tremor) I didn't know it wasn't normal to hate yourself until I was 17 so I have some catching up to do. I've been trying to be kinder to myself but it's very hard to learn to love yourself and the way you look. Sorry if my hair is messy.


r/toastme 17h ago

Considering quitting my job due to burnout

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r/toastme 21h ago

Feeling sad from being unemployed

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316 Upvotes

Im not feeling too great because I made the mistake of quitting a good job a year ago because people were making fun of me. I also been feeling really ugly lately and I put on makeup so I could feel a little less hideous.


r/toastme 1d ago

Can you help me get over a guy that chose someone else

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292 Upvotes

Also not feeling good about weight recently. Yeah it sucks feeling unchosen


r/toastme 20h ago

Been feeling stressed, tired, alone, and hopeless lately, could use some cheering up

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r/toastme 1d ago

Feeling down

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203 Upvotes

That’s the “happy face” of a tired mother of 3, who discovered her husband is on Only Fans. The feeling of not being enough is overwhelming. Trying to take my mind off it


r/toastme 1d ago

For two weeks now ive been dealing with bad neighbors and no kitchen sink to wash anything. Today it was all handled and now i feel like i need a drink to celebrate

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New neighbors never threw away their trash so maggots developed everywhere over 2 weeks. I had them flying in my unit. Upstairs neighbor had a kid thst would run and stomp. My dishwasher and garbage disposal broke at the same time 2 weeks ago. Sink backs up so no kitchen sink two weeks. I get so tired of all of it i call my local county code department. They tell me there is already another complaint in about my complex and o basically confirmed everything thats wrong with here to her. She said she said shed be here this afternoon. Maintenance guy comes to replace dishwasher and garbage disposal finally and notices all the maggots coming from trash. Knocks on neighbors door and tells them about. During this i finally introduce myself to them and as a result they cleaned the area. It has been an insane 2 weeks between the maggots and noise. Living in an apartment complex comes with its own struggles and lesrning to live with eachother is a process.i finally met my new neighbors and a health issue has been handled. I have a new dlshwasher and gargabe disposal too.


r/toastme 1d ago

Finding it hard

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30M here. I tend to be the funny guy in the group. But little does anyone realize is that I genuinely don’t find any enjoyment or interest in living. I just live for the sake of not upsetting the people around me.
As for personal interests, hopes, dreams, or hobbies, I don’t really care about those anymore.
I think in order to stop this painful existence from continuing is to stop it.

I’m sure people would try to convince me otherwise, but I’ve been told that various times throughout my entire lifetime. I’ve been living with anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.


r/toastme 1d ago

23M finally confessed to my crush… could use a toast 🥲

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122 Upvotes

I confessed to my crush and she said she doesn’t have romantic feelings for me. It stings because she said that when we first met she actually saw me as a potential boyfriend, but the timing was wrong. I’m a little sad LOL ngl


r/toastme 1d ago

19m, i’ve been bullied all my life and it’s caused severe depression

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343 Upvotes

i don’t really have friends or leave the house and i’m harassed by actual hoards of people for my appearance on the daily- so then with that being said i don’t know why id post my face here lol seems a bit backwards?


r/toastme 1d ago

Never feel like enough, always think I don't look good, always find myself spiraling about the smallest things. Looking for any kind words!

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r/toastme 2d ago

F29 Losing weight, but still struggling

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543 Upvotes

Life has been really hard lately.

Work has been exhausting, and I recently had to start taking antidepressants again after struggling a lot with my mental health.

I've also lost over 30 kg (66 lbs), which I'm really proud of.. but somehow I still look at myself and feel like I'm so far away from my goal. It's hard to see the progress sometimes, even though I know it's there.

I guess I'm just feeling tired, overwhelmed, and a little lost right now. :(


r/toastme 2d ago

44F, need any sort of kindness

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r/toastme 1d ago

Always hated myself

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Im 25 year old guy from northern Europe I have no partner , no job, didnt finish university and Ive hated my body most of my life. Its started in my early teens and at that time I also was quite alone and bullied at school (although it was mostly not about appearance but they called me anorexic). At the same time I was also experiencing severe issues with depression, anxiety and troubles relating to my sexual orientation. I began working out at the gym a bit but I always felt anxiety going there, and the only reason I went at all was to hopefully get a more attractive body. Then I stopped completely.

While I manged to somewhat "cure" my depression and reduced some of my anxiety, the issues with my body have only grown and became even more pronounced when i lost someone very close to me about 6 months ago.

In my daily life I always feel uncomfortable going outside because I feel so ugly and If I happen to meet some guy who I find attractive I feel awful and have to look away. The same goes for social media, if I see attractive guys on there I immediately get strong anxiety. I therefore also completely avoid social media. Im never happy with any image of myself. Whenever I look in the mirror to I cant help and hate what I see.

Any kind of dating or casual encounters have been very difficult for me too. I feel like I get very few matches. On other apps I get blocked or ghosted when I send an image of me. On the few rare occasions I get talking or meet someone that I find attractive I have a hard time relaxing around them and feel like I am not enough which makes any intimacy very difficult too. I feel worthless in regards to my appearance. I cant even look in a mirror without feeling instant disgust.

Today I got my second biggest anxiety attack ive had it was triggered by such a stupid thing as seeing a guy I knew and liked very much for a long time on Tinders top page. First we got to know each other when he was "straight", then later he came out to me when he had a significantly older secret boyfriend. But anyways he is in every way the most perfect man I ever met. Everyone loves him and wants to be with him, he can have whoever he wants.

I on the other hand have never had a partner and never gotten past just the first few dates, it was always the other guy who broke it off or ghosted me. I have very little family and friends and feel like life is just passing me by. My whole life ive told myself time after time it will get better, you will like yourself, someone will love you and you will find people who like you. I just dont even feel that way anymore. Ive been wandering around for hours, finally sat down, I dont know what to do anymore.

I know that there are people who are in much worse situations than me and most regular people would never be bothered by these things in such a way, but this is truly complete and utter hell for me.


r/toastme 2d ago

I have been struggling my whole life with how I feel about my looks, and I only made it worse by gaining as much weight as I have.

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r/toastme 2d ago

I’m losing ground

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154 Upvotes

I (21M) have been struggling with depression. I’ve been getting better and next month I’ll be getting professional help but today was really hard and I’m feeling like I’m slipping back. Could use some encouragement.

Thank you all.


r/toastme 2d ago

been feeling really insecure and lost recently

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283 Upvotes

graduated college in april and haven’t been able to get employment, i don’t have many friends and just sit around all day at home. my anxiety is crazy and i feel very down most days. i’ve never been someone who received lots of compliments, i see other girls get so many and i just feel like i’m not good enough. even from friends who are supposed to hype you up and all that, i never was really told much that was positive about me. i’m probably not at the point in my life i should be looking back and thinking my life was kind of a waste already but i just don’t really what to do with myself anymore. just looking for some encouragement is all. thanks for reading :)


r/toastme 2d ago

Not happy with myself and my life.

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There are many problems in my life on a personal level:

  1. I’m a recovering addict, to drinking, smoking, porn, and sex.

  2. I’m into dicks too and it’s not like I don’t like men, I really do, but I would much rather get female attention of the romantic and sexual kind, which I’ve never gotten. At 24, I feel like that’s pathetic.

  3. I’m unfit. At a whopping 123kg I’m over 50kg overweight.

  4. I wish to have a social life and many hobbies but I’m boring asf and lazy, so I just rot in bed when I’m not at work.

  5. My new job sucks, I write manuals for robots and it’s super frustrating stuff cause no one wants to help me and I’m gonna be blamed if there are delays.

  6. I wish I was cooler and more popular. I feel left out by society.

  7. I feel like a disappointment to people around me. I am supposed to be an adult and become the support system for my family. Instead, they’re having to support me emotionally and even financially sometimes.

  8. I crave love. And I don’t think I’ll ever be worthy of it.


r/toastme 3d ago

sorry for posting again :( but I got my hair system removed (I have alopecia) and I have no idea if I can pull off headscarves or not (29f)

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I swore I’d stop but I just have no idea what I look like with them, how I’m perceived by others, if it’s even possible for me to look pretty and feminine without hair, etc :(

I’ve arranged an order for a new hair system but I’d like to have the option of embracing my hair loss at least

I feel so depressed abt my hair loss and due to my BDD my looks in general . Idk I feel almost addicted/compelled to post atp even though I’ll delete an alt and vow to stop, it’s hard to control myself, and I just genuinely have no idea what my face looks like to other ppl atp. I’m sorry everybody again idk i promise im not trolling