I 17m and my gf 16f had our first true argument last night and she has given me a list of things I need to improve if we want to stay together such as getting my license and getting another job. Along with rekindling with my dad’s side who mentally and emotionally abused me for years and convinced me my anxiety meds were being used to drug me for a span of 5 years.

I told her a white lie on who gave me a ride to my dad’s house as I said I was going to run there but at half way there her mom spotted me and picked me up. I felt embarrassed about not being able to go like I said and when she asked me she sounded angry or upset so I panicked and lied. When I tried telling her some things that bothered me such as not having one on one time for a while she said she understood but it was three weeks ago and she just told it because all we do is watch movies and cuddle. She hangs with her best friend and her best friends boyfriend who is my brother without me more often then us together at times.

We have been together for almost 4 months and she claims she loves that I write her a monthly letter but now idk, I have 5 days to write one but if she doesn’t like them why continue with those, she’s made it clear that she doesn’t like being center of attention as-well so I’m stuck and can’t seem to find a way out.

On the way to my dad her mom told me that she is going through having a counselor again after 2 months and that she thinks it’s something that is causing her to leave me out to dry while those three go to hang out and make me feel alone.

Some backstory on the driving part is I am autistic and overthink a lot so I don’t want to ruin my relationship but don’t know if I should reach out first or let her.

okay so im 17 and hes 19
i didnt want 6 kids and he said I had a bad mindset and he was so upset that he said he wanted to body slam me and then he ignored me for a bit
I did a loyalty test on him (i know its wrong but hes my first rls and he was moving weird so yk) and he said he was down to meet up with her after they got to know each-other. He then told me that he was trolling with his friends
ghosted me for four days and lied that he got shot
says his type is curly haired girls but once shes not overly dark
says the n word a lot
lied about how many girls he talked to
lies about small stuff
is really mean to me
doesnt ask my questions about myself
makes jokes about talking to other girls
follows a lot of girls from his city
I dont have a good rls with my parents and he blamed me
Lied that he got shot when in actuality his ex texted him and said that she misses him
his friends are mean ppl

I hate myself, my mental health ruined every relationship i had with everyone
I wish i could ask my dad for advice but he wont even care, why would you even get a child if you not responsible enough to care about him?

What can i do to make my relationships better with everyone?

Things i tried

• Hosting a hang out - everyone ignored me
• calling the group chat - everyone ignored me
• giving suggestions for a hangout

They js done everything by themselves.
I even suggested washing cars for fun and a little big of money. They js done it by themselves without telling me.

I said what about a all nighter. They done it by themselves. I got no one to talk to. Everyone is getting so distant

One of my mates even blocked me a few days ago. Why tho

Here is my story: M(27) F(27)

I matched with a girl on Hinge early September last year hit things off immediately, texting every day I was like wow this is incredible - My birthday a week later in September took me to a new cinema and got me my favourite aftershave, paid for everything - I laughed and said are you love bombing me to which she said no I was being nice for your bday.

-Months go by, nice getaways to hotels, training together, great sex and everything felt perfect she told me I was the best thing ever so grateful and lucky she ended up with someone like me, she had a young son who was 9 and I did not meet in person - she said her ex bf who was practically the step dad of the kid left her 2 years ago and put her kid in therapy and she done some as well, in which she tells me all the things she wants in an ideal partner and I tick every box, I felt like this girl really understood me and I had met my person.

Now this is where the cracks start, she would mention how evil and hateful her ex (Together 6 years) was and mentioned he was in the same Tesco as her at xmas (live in local area) He was walking in and she was walking out - I said that's trippy never easy bumping into an ex - left it at that. Did not want to appear phased. Had a nice xmas met her Mum and her little sister things felt very good and often stayed with her and her mum when her son was at the kids dads. She also told me things like she was with someone and she was and they got back together after a year and she said things to him like go out and cheat if it makes you feel better because she was with someone else.

At end of February my Granny passed away unexpectedly - She mentioned how her ex BF did not let her into the after event when his granny passed away etc I just let her vent and was always understanding of what her ex put her through Granny passed away on Tuesday and then on Friday I met her Dad for the first time - Naturally stressed over my Grannys passing I did not drink - she did and was drunk off prosecco- On the trip down and home she basically played a FU to her ex song - and her dad mentioned she seen her ex and he looked rough - anyways, we drove home and I said to her this ex really hurt you and your son and hes like a ball and chain on your leg, he is in the past and if he was so bad he left you and your son in therapy be happy he's gone - she said she's 'over him just not the situation she put her and her son through' - when I said I wasn't happy she's mentioning him the week I am grieving the death of my grandparent she stone walled me - I left her house and drove home to regulate as I was with a previous GF who stonewalled me and it done a number on me and she was aware of this and also the heard week I had - she was drunk and proceeded to tell me I was never meeting her child and that was us done over text, I felt this was manipulative- We then sorted this out - half apology from her and from me I thought I needed to be more understanding of her situation and we told each other we love each other. But, I felt maybe selfishly she should have been understanding my Granny passed away that week and I wasn't in a headspace to listen about her ex who was so bad?

- The month after we had a great month done a charity 10K and had a nice getaway - I spoke to her son on the phone and on FaceTime over those few months we were together over xmas and when she was on a family holiday to New York - still no physical interaction I said it would be nice to meet your child as I have gotten him a birthday present and an Xmas one and we both know about each other and I am getting a bit frustrated of having to hide around the corner when we know about each other - Bare in mind I asked this respectfully and said no pressure I just need a plan as she said if I met him I could travel to Spain with her and her kid this summer and her graduation was coming up soon. The kid also told his biological father about me that Saturday as well - I did not mind as obv was in everyone's best interests I treated his son with respect and care

I was met with two days of silence - then seen her on the Saturday went to the gym all was fine, thought that was back on track and we said we would go to the cinema on the Wednesday and on the Tuesday I got a text telling me I was perfect, we have a laugh together but she feels 'something is missing' - and ended things with me over text after 7 months.

I did not reply for 3 weeks my family and friends told me not to and I deserved more than a break up text as I was blindsided and was constantly told I was the best person in the world and she was so lucky to have me, but when I mentioned maybe meeting her kid she turned so nasty and discarded me like I was nothing over text, when I did then text her to speak she then told me 'she loves me as a person but not in love with me' and I deserve better - I did not reply again, I was in such shock I feel so heartbroken how can she be all lovey then discarded over text? I noticed when I put her number into whatsapp she had no profile picture anymore and her messages were set to disappearing which makes me think her ex was back in the picture or hiding something? - Her tiktok reposts after were all things like when a man leaves your life build a comfortable life etc - except I never left her?

I have never been this hurt and blindsided before in my life, I wasnt even worth a conversation just felt so easily disposed when we had concerts etc to look forward to this summer and all I was worth was a text.

What do I do I am still incredibly in love with her - Its been 3 months nc and I have been attending therapy and gym but I still feel stuck

Completely unexpected. His doctors said he was in good health for his age. He keeled over in the garden for reasons unknown and my mom found him.

He, my mom and I have been estranged for two years making things complicated, but I understand why.

I’m hoping my sisters, mom and I can reconcile during this tough time, but I don’t even know if I’m welcome at the wake or funeral.

I would like to think this wasn’t how it was going to go down. We were supposed to reconcile so they would have their grandkids in their life.

Any advice on how to grieve, or talk to my family? I’m having a hard time grieving due to resentments.

My dad and I talk regularly but live 6 hours apart . Every few months he asks me "when do you think you will get a break from work and come down?". Lately he has asked every few weeks. Anyway ,when I go home he always says stuff like "I see you are keeping fat " or "you need to lay off the budweisser " (I don't drink). Also my nephew lives near my dad and I usually see him but he has a very short fuse and when he says how he feels about a situation or thing he is overly blunt and rude and he talks trash to me in inappropriate situations (like he did at my brothers funeral a few years ago) .

I just get sick of dealing with all this but I don't have any other support system. What do i do about this ? I hate going home and dread it every time

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Ive only been able to find temp gigs since march of last year. I want to operate heavy equipment, buy I cant find any interviews or track down any gigs. The last company i jad a digger gig with handed my contract to the directors mate. The last thing I said to my spotter was "Come first light, Im just going to drive home. Because I dont stay where Im not getting paid." Since then Ive just been surviving. Money got so tight that I dumped the last of my savings into car cleaning supplies. With the two people I cleaned cars for I was able to make rent. But even so It was only just. I mean, I like cleaning cars. But im not sure its something I want to invest in just yet. My heart belongs to Iron because I enjoy the challange, but a big parr of me wants to do it full time so I can give the middle finger to thay civil company that sidelined me for years. But im tired, and not sure what to do.

Hello dads, Sorry for long post a few decent responses is all im looking for. Thank you in advance

Not sure if this will get many replies as its very much a 1st world problem but i couldnt think of a better place to ask for advice.

I (22M) grew up in an emotionally draining and severely dysfunctional household. My mother is a stay at home and my father makes all the money. I have 5 siblings besides me (i am the second oldest after my sister (25M) who is married and lives across the earth. I went to university very far away from my family and my father helped with some of the expenses as we are well off compared to most. I have adhd and was denied treatment by my parents as they were misinformed due to mental health being a taboo in my culture and them thinking i would simply “grow out of it. they were repeatedly warned by my middle school and even as early as elementary school days. To their credit they did eventually confront the situation and admit their lack of understanding and action and i completely forgave them for that as it was a nonissue for me (to an extent) None the less i only got treatment at 19 when i finally after hours and hours of phonecalls convinced them that i had been suffering and was having difficulties from a mental standpoint. I had known about my adhd long before this but had just raw dawged life without too many consequences as i had lives a rather sheltered life (insanely overprotective parents ie. not allowed to go out much, must know who friends are, early curfew) and not too many problems with school and grades due to decent intelligence and masking.

I grew to eventually hate my parents as they were overly controlling and just draining to be around. I was physically and mentally abused to an extreme extent aswell which i wont go into detail but it was just all around not a great household environment/experience that nurtures good healthy adults with healthy relationships and habits. Adhd hypersensitivity did not help. Once again culture is a huge driver here as this is normal in my culture but my parents were a bit over the top sometimes. The house was always dirty as hell and stuff scrattered everywhere which i could not bare and i would do my best to clean my certain areas but the house is just too big and my mom is lowkey a hoarder. This is getting a bit long so i will cut to the chase.

For all these reasons and many many more explicit i literally could not wait to move away and live alone and finally gain some autonomy. I could never outright hate my parents as i came to realize and now know they always had my best interest in mind. This happened over the course of my first 2 years or so of university of contemplation/ semi-existential crisis/ over the top substance use to numb and self medicate adhd.

The problem arises with the fact that i had a substance induced psychotic episode during my second to last semester before graduation (7-8 months ago) and i had to move back with my family which led to subsequent missing of last semester and still have not graduated. My dad is adamant on sending me to a rehabilitation center this summer and does not want to allow my return to school as he is not confident that i will not return to my old habits (he basically found out my entire history of substance use and literally my entire life pretty sad stuff ngl). I understand this is out of fear for my wellbeing and my dad being quite the dictator i have no say in this whatsoever. Not saying i dont agree with him its just that he cant wrap his head around why i dont want to stay with them any longer and want to hastily return to my old life. It is significant to note that my sister is very happy to have moved along with life and is not near my parents anymore. I must say that have changed their ways to an extent (with younger siblings) as my dad is very malleable and has even apologized to me for his misdoings on more than one occasion.

The problem is i cant turn back the clock and tell myself “dont hate them and this household u live in they are not that bad” or something along those lines. When i am far away from them with autonomy i have no problem sitting on facetime with them for hours on end (which i used to do frequently as my parents basically become my bestfriends when im away from them). but when i am living under the same roof i genuinely cannot stand them.

THIS IS THE PROBLEM HERE. How do i politely and gently get this message across to my father. I literally cant stand the dirtiness of the house, the tension i get from overanalyzing and scanning for threats of my dad having a sudden crashout and screaming his lungs off, the constant noise in the house. It all takes me back to pre university days and it makes me dread the day i ever touched a substance and put myself back in this situation. I know it doesnt sound like much but living with them turns this sort of fight or flight mode on within me and its just not ideal. This isnt a life or death situation but when my dad speaks of “it could take 2 years for you to get back to optimal mental condition” i genuinely cant imagine having to stay like this for another 2 years. the dilemma is the fact that they arent as bad as they used to be so technically there is no issue, but the psychological aspect of it is just unbearable and it just messes with my existence. Like half my dad time my dad tries to engage with conversation with my i get slightly irritated. He even told me yesterday that i should make an effort to be in his presence for atleast an hour a day. what does that even mean, i owe you my presence because i live under the roof you pay for now? I dont mean to slight him but man that seems nonsensical. i get he may value the intimacy but brother, where was this when i was stull a developing teen and needed someone to confide in rather than fear and shy away from. i dont want this to turn into a rant as its gotten long enough already. theres more details as to why i feel this way but im sure thats more than enough for some simple advice.

once again Thank you for reading if youve made it this far and i hope you enjoyed my ted talk.🙏😭

He used to be a better dad when I was kid but around 6th grade (2012, previously from 2008-2011 his only sins against me where slapping me in the face over homework, grades, me lying about them and comparing my grades against my peers as soon as I give him anything with a grade on it), my mother and him started fighting because my mother was allegedly texting a male doctor at work from a burner flip phone but there is no proof she did anything physic as I remember my dad brought her to my bedroom in the middle of the night as they thought I was sound asleep after the discovery and made her swear on my life she didn't do anything, and there wasn't a lot of peace in the house for a couple of years.

Shortly after, he started becoming paranoid with thinking that someone is coming inside the house, hacking out computer network, and tapering with electronics while we are all there asleep and that someone is doing black magic on us so we each had to bathe ourselves in a herbal mixture when I was kid.

Now in 2026, he's unemployed for 2 years after almost 2 decades in technology. He started a company 2 years ago which is him just telling a small group of poorly-paid even for 3rd world standards developers in South Asia vaguely what to build with and even though he's developed 2 software products his company only brings in less than $1500 a month before expenses of the company and that is from other technical services not from the software he's spent 2 years on. He only has 1 paying client (my mother's friend)

He started this company because he doesn't want to take a tech jobs that pay under 140k even though he has gray hairs because he earned as high as 200k in the past back in the mid 2010s. This leaves my mother (who's high earning over 200k) having to pay the bills as I job search as a new grad which if you didn't know is difficult because of ghost jobs, AI-screening, AI automation/displacement, high-interest rates, tech layoffs, uncertainty due to politics and because the global population is expected to decline. The company is extremely poorly run because its just my dad and a bunch of fresh graduates working for very little and I interned for 2 months myself and saw the lack of PM, lack of code reviews, documentation, and lack of funding and no seniors other than my dad who isn't a software guy or even a coder, which to other people in tech shows the company and its software is brittle. I overheard him talking on the phone with his friend saying that "I'm doing this so I can say I did something fearless". The issue I have with it is because he choosing not to take jobs that pay 90k-110k. He leaves my mother with all the bills, which according his own religion he practices is a sin.

He has in the past hit my mother and my mother has hit him. He's quite lazy and the only thing I've learned from him is "why do something yourself when it's easier to have someone else do it."

I don't agree with either of them hitting each other but I do feel the father should take the high road to at least show his boys what restraint is.

I've realized that he basically just got lucky at a few important things in his 20s (got a visa before 9/11, got into tech pre-Y2K, got married to a doctor, and that what I thought was work ethic was just lucky positioning in an economy and global society that was at its most prosperous and open.

I feel I have learned more about what it means to not be a man from my father than I have learned about what it means to be one.

I am very grateful for my gem of a mother (who has her own problems and damaged me a bit as a kid by giving me benzodiazepines to sleep at 12 which made me interested in drugs, giving me body image issues, comparing me to my closest friends my whole life in looks, and grades, and stopping my social life whenever I had one) but is very smart, responsible, and caring outside of a few mistakes I don't think she meant to do to me.

tl;dr

AIO for being harboring a strongly negative view of him and for hoping I don't become like him for these reasons:

- puts his ego over the family's needs for stability and my mother's need for an early retirement.

- being a paranoid nut-bag.

- used to slap me in the face as a kid over homework and lying which as I'm learning now is not normal thing that all kids have to deal with.

- used to pull my ears and i have bigger ears now.

- does the dishes incorrectly on purpose resulting in them being dirty after being washed in the washing machine which is the 1 of 2 chores he's asked to do.

- has no regard or concern for my mothers health and well-being.

- taught me nothing, no mentorship other than learning how to protect myself against black magic which isn't a real life skill and I could've just asked a member of our religion's clergy.

- was always late whenever he had to pick me up as a kid 30-45 minutes generally maybe 10 if I was lucky.

- judges me unprompted

- fought with my mother my whole youth

-Hit my mother

- Mistreats her (hasn't spent on her on ages, other than cheap chocolates and flowers on certain occasion, won't lift a finger to make her life easier.

- thinks father is the supreme leader who can never be defied or wrong

UPDATE: Called service department, then called roadside assistance that’s included in my extended warranty. I got it towed to the dealership.
Sales Manager still MIA. I had to pay 120 dollars because the coverage only covered 100 dollars worth of towing. Hoping I can guilt the dealership to reimburse me for the tow.

I bought a used truck about two weeks ago. Within 24 hours I had to get it towed because a heat panel fell underneath and was grinding the drive shaft. I towed it to the dealer and they fixed it first thing in the morning.

Now a week later my low oil light came on and i’ve been leaking oil. I noticed a wet spot when i’ve left a few places but thought it was the water from the air conditioning.

I called at 8:30 this morning to talk to the sales manager. I gave them my number and they are supposed to call back. it’s 11:30 currently.

I bought a warranty with it which I haven’t done in the past but my gut told me to this time. I’ve never had issues with a vehicle i’ve bought at a dealership like this before.

What should I do? Should I call the service department because it’s covered under warranty, Call my sales guy who sold it to me, or call back and ask again to speak with the manager? The dealership is 40 minutes away and I really cannot be without a car this week, im a band director and camp is starting on Wednesday. I love 40 miles away from the school I work at.

A few details

1. sold as is.
2. I bought it in Illinois
3. I can’t tell if it’s always leaked oil or if it started after the fallen panel.

My dad is dead so I thought maybe y’all will know what to do.

Thanks from a girl just wants a working vehicle.

Long story short my dad is a little bit of a narcissist and shows sociopathic tendencies sometimes, i’m trying to yk grow up a normal kid while i have a ignorant trump voting child dating pedophile as a dad, he married a 25 yro and had two kids (my brothers) then divorced and then got with a another 24 yro at the ripe ol age of 42…. they had two more kids, me and my sister, they divorced 2 years ago.
just in the last \~3 months he’s started bringing this new girl around who is 23. He’s now 60 this august. His oldest son is 25!😪

My dad is well off and makes plenty money and he knows it, he uses it to his advantage with vacations, cars etc etc, but he’s late on child support payments and he’s lethargic when it comes to responsibilities and when i ask anything above the mental ask of lunch money or something of the sorts, like when I try to ask for help with idk anything about being 18 getting a cc paying taxes shit like that i get just a cold shoulder or a we can do that another time response.

I don’t really know how else to help him with his self destructive tendencies but shit i don’t mind using him for his money 🤷‍♂️ i know a midlife crisis is a normal thing for a white guy in his 50’s 60’s but when this is a repeating pattern it’s an issue and i’m not trying to have siblings with some girl that’s 5 years older than me and that graduated high school in 2021, i don’t really know what to do other than let him rot in his sad pedophilic bubble

I feel like i live in a sitcom sometimes🫠

Men of reddit please do love your daughters for whoever they are.

As a physically challenged daughter,I've never really received love and affection from my dad which caused me to find love in terrible men.

I've even offered intimacy for the men to stay and I would lose my self respect all along.

This has made me feel like shit.I don't love myself.And I would seek male validation even for the slightest thing.And I can't stop being single.

Here is my story: M(27) F(27)

I matched with a girl on Hinge early September last year hit things off immediately, texting every day I was like wow this is incredible - My birthday a week later in September took me to a new cinema and got me my favourite aftershave, paid for everything - I laughed and said are you love bombing me to which she said no I was being nice for your bday.

-Months go by, nice getaways to hotels, training together, great sex and everything felt perfect she told me I was the best thing ever so grateful and lucky she ended up with someone like me, she had a young son who was 9 and I did not meet in person - she said her ex bf who was practically the step dad of the kid left her 2 years ago and put her kid in therapy and she done some as well, in which she tells me all the things she wants in an ideal partner and I tick every box, I felt like this girl really understood me and I had met my person.

Now this is where the cracks start, she would mention how evil and hateful her ex (Together 6 years) was and mentioned he was in the same Tesco as her at xmas (live in local area) He was walking in and she was walking out - I said that's trippy never easy bumping into an ex - left it at that. Did not want to appear phased. Had a nice xmas met her Mum and her little sister things felt very good and often stayed with her and her mum when her son was at the kids dads. She also told me things like she was with someone and she was and they got back together after a year and she said things to him like go out and cheat if it makes you feel better because she was with someone else.

At end of February my Granny passed away unexpectedly - She mentioned how her ex BF did not let her into the after event when his granny passed away etc I just let her vent and was always understanding of what her ex put her through Granny passed away on Tuesday and then on Friday I met her Dad for the first time - Naturally stressed over my Grannys passing I did not drink - she did and was drunk off prosecco- On the trip down and home she basically played a FU to her ex song - and her dad mentioned she seen her ex and he looked rough - anyways, we drove home and I said to her this ex really hurt you and your son and hes like a ball and chain on your leg, he is in the past and if he was so bad he left you and your son in therapy be happy he's gone - she said she's 'over him just not the situation she put her and her son through' - when I said I wasn't happy she's mentioning him the week I am grieving the death of my grandparent she stone walled me - I left her house and drove home to regulate as I was with a previous GF who stonewalled me and it done a number on me and she was aware of this and also the heard week I had - she was drunk and proceeded to tell me I was never meeting her child and that was us done over text, I felt this was manipulative- We then sorted this out - half apology from her and from me I thought I needed to be more understanding of her situation and we told each other we love each other. But, I felt maybe selfishly she should have been understanding my Granny passed away that week and I wasn't in a headspace to listen about her ex who was so bad?

- The month after we had a great month done a charity 10K and had a nice getaway - I spoke to her son on the phone and on FaceTime over those few months we were together over xmas and when she was on a family holiday to New York - still no physical interaction I said it would be nice to meet your child as I have gotten him a birthday present and an Xmas one and we both know about each other and I am getting a bit frustrated of having to hide around the corner when we know about each other - Bare in mind I asked this respectfully and said no pressure I just need a plan as she said if I met him I could travel to Spain with her and her kid this summer and her graduation was coming up soon. The kid also told his biological father about me that Saturday as well - I did not mind as obv was in everyone's best interests I treated his son with respect and care

I was met with two days of silence - then seen her on the Saturday went to the gym all was fine, thought that was back on track and we said we would go to the cinema on the Wednesday and on the Tuesday I got a text telling me I was perfect, we have a laugh together but she feels 'something is missing' - and ended things with me over text after 7 months.

I did not reply for 3 weeks my family and friends told me not to and I deserved more than a break up text as I was blindsided and was constantly told I was the best person in the world and she was so lucky to have me, but when I mentioned maybe meeting her kid she turned so nasty and discarded me like I was nothing over text, when I did then text her to speak she then told me 'she loves me as a person but not in love with me' and I deserve better - I did not reply again, I was in such shock I feel so heartbroken how can she be all lovey then discarded over text? I noticed when I put her number into whatsapp she had no profile picture anymore and her messages were set to disappearing which makes me think her ex was back in the picture or hiding something? - Her tiktok reposts after were all things like when a man leaves your life build a comfortable life etc - except I never left her?

I have never been this hurt and blindsided before in my life, I wasnt even worth a conversation just felt so easily disposed when we had concerts etc to look forward to this summer and all I was worth was a text.

What do I do I am still incredibly in love with her - Its been 3 months nc and I have been attending therapy and gym but I still feel stuck

I’m asking out of abundant caution, because I technically have the funds to buy a bike outright. I have a healthy emergency fund, I’ve cushioned my 401K while I had a cushy job with little other expenses, but I’m currently still paying off student loans and some very minor credit card debt (still in the 0% APR promotion period.)

I’m 35, I’ve been doing everything “right” so far when it comes to my finances. Paying off extra as much as I can per month, prioritizing my debts, and spending frugally in most other aspects of life. Unfortunately, my tech job is somewhat unstable with threats of layoffs every year. I also have two cats with high medical needs, and the expenses just keep coming.

There’s a lot of scary “what if’s” that stop me from pulling the trigger. What if I get laid off and can’t find another job? What if another emergency happens with the cats? The emergency fund will help me coast for a few months, but not a full year. I’m scared of starting an expensive hobby, but I’m also 35 and I would really like to fulfill this dream of mine before my 40s

It’s a want, not a need, so it’s not super important. It just feels like something that would give me free therapy if you know what I mean. I grew up on bikes with my dad, and if he were still around I would ask him for advice.

hi, i am 15 and hairy down there and i want to ask how to shave with 0 experience. i couldnt and wouldnt ask my dad how to so i want to ask reddit dads. yes, i know that there are already multiple discussions about shaving but i want to personally ask so that i could possibly raise follow up questions. i have read that there are multiple ways to shave down there, such as hair removal cream, razor and trimmer. im leaning on using hair removal cream since i think it is the easiest and most convenient way to shave (for me) but i wanna ask why there are still people who prefer using razors and trimmers. i also wanna ask about aftercare. and do you guys also shave ur asses? can soomeone just teach me how to shave pls?? mine has grown alot that whenever i take it out to pee, a hair or two falls.

My dad never liked me even when i was a kid like 4-10.
I honestly dont even know why, my mam told me they both wanted to abort me cause they couldn’t afford to keep me but that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t like me right? I js wish he actually liked me and wanted to spend time with me, seeing my friends and other people bond with their dad really hurts but im happy for them. I dont even need him anyways, even when he was there he was rather sleep, high or at work.
I struggle with showing love to people because he never showed love to me and never told me how to like people. Hate him but love him at the same time

My dad has anger issues. Like almost any small thing he reacts badly. And most of that is acted out on my brother and nephew.

Sure sometimes is completely their fault but even those times he overreacts. Like i live in a black household so beating is like a normal thing. But im not sure if its normal to beat a 17 year old.

My mom got fed up with all this so she asked for a divorce and now she sleeps in my room .

Recently my mom opened a restaurant and she wanted me to learn how to take care of it.

So while i was in the shower my dad was calling me on my cell since he wasnt home at the time and i saw the missed call.

I tried calling back but it wasn't going through.

I texted him instead saying sorry i missed your call i was bathing.

No reply.

So i went to the restaurant.

He latervcalled me saying hes dissapointed in me and how i dont answer his calls.

When i got back home i asked him if he ate dinner since he was alone .

He just insulted me and told me tobleave him alone

And my mom doesnt really care about anything as long as shes not being affected .

Not sure if thats okay either.

Im 16 btw so i donno what to do right now coz im tired of this bullshit.

Please give me advice coz i dont know what to do.

hey guys so yeah yk what I’m gonna say my dad didn’t wanna talk about my Willy so should I just ask you guys ? By the way my dad is 48 so that’s probably why he doesn’t wanna talk to me about it since he might not remember how his puberty was like anyways guys I need help haha 😭🥹

side note my original post was in indonesian and im only directly translated it with google

I’m thinking about asking my dad for help and advice. I’m torn on how to go about reaching out to my family in Solo.

My dad never really gives the impression that asking for help is okay,or even allowed; sometimes it feels like it’s wrong to do.

For some reason, he acts as if I’m naturally supposed to think "normally" or instinctively possess the social know-how regarding how people are expected to behave.

I don't get why he isn't more patient with things I’m unfamiliar with. I say *unfamiliar*—not *incapable*—but he acts as if I’m not allowed to make any mistakes in his eyes.

My dilemma is really about how to communicate that I want to go to Solo. Since it’s not far from Jogja, I could just ride my motorbike there and "surprise" them, but they don't actually know me. Just showing up out of the blue might be a burden, and that feels wrong.

But I have no idea how to approach this. I’m indecisive; I’m afraid my actions won't match my words, or that I’ll be too much of a hassle for them. I also don't know if it’s okay to ask to stay the night or if that would be inappropriate.

So, I’m making this post. If I do end up asking my dad, I can relay his reaction here and tell how i feel.

Or, if I decide not to ask him, writing this might give me some relief, and see what kind of advice you all might have.

24M here asking why are some dads stuck in their own way of thinking and refusing to change certain things about themselves. Me and my dad have a decent father and son dynamic but as I’ve grown a little older there is one thing that I’ve come to despise one of many habits that my father does and one of them is when it comes to ranting or opening up about a problem that I’m having. He has this habit of turning my problem into a lecture sometimes and it pmo. I’ve communicated to him in a respectful manner that I just want to be heard and if I need/want any advice or input I would ask for it. Sometimes he does remember but majority of the time he wants to give his this is what I would’ve done speech, and I’m sick of it. I’ve also told him that I’ve done the same thing that he has done to me in this aspect, in my own relationships and it’s gotten me into a lot of arguments with past significant others. It was then I realized after some hardship that I’ve been doing the same stupid thing I hate the most to people that I’ve loved. I don’t know if I’m being a snowflake but just wanted to get opinions. It’s like what’s the point of you asking me what’s wrong when all you’re gonna do is just turn my frustrations into a lecture.

My first time posting on here so please go easy 😅.

My (21M) dad (47M) let me move back home during lockdown. Initially it started off okay it was nice to spend time with him for once but we quickly developed bad habits. My dad can’t exactly cook (neither can I) so our diet consisted mainly of fast food and snacks. I personally went from 180-380lbs from 2020-2026 while my dad managed to only put on a small gut.

Since letting go I’ve struggled to get back into any sense of normalcy and find it increasingly more difficult to refuse the food my dad’s handing me. The only reason I’m posting on here is because recently I’ve been trying to refuse snacks and junk food in favour of either not eating or eating healthier. But my dad won’t back down with the offers.

At first it just felt nice to receive good food all day but I feel as if he doesn’t share my concerns about my diet in any shape or form.

I know it’s easy to say it’s my own fault for eating it but I’m actively trying to make change now.

(I know it’s not super detailed but I’ll answer any questions, once again a bit nervous as it’s my first real Reddit post 😅)

All forms of advice taken, posting on this Reddit as I don’t have enough karma to post elsewhere yet.